# Susanann lays it out for you. Single? 30+? You've got "problems" **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [August 29, 2003, 4:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/susanann-lays-it-out-for-you-single-30-youve-got-problems/198373 "2003-08-29T04:40:28Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![bernse](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/a9a28c/32.png) [@bernse](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bernse)\ **Post date:** [August 29, 2003, 4:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/susanann-lays-it-out-for-you-single-30-youve-got-problems/198373/1 "2003-08-29T04:40:28Z")
I remember some of your earlier posts that were slightly, um, “colorful” with regards to firearms and law enforcement. But this one is a real beauty- From: [http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?threadid=207038&pagenumber=2](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?threadid=207038&pagenumber=2) > [@](#): > > Anybody over 30 who has never been married, probably has problems, or else must have a very good reason why(e.g fiance died, was in prison, etc). So, if you haven’t yet found Mr/Mrs Right, after what for most people is less than 10 years on the market, you’ve probably got _problems_? Or, their fiance kicked the bucket? I know a few people that fit the above criteria, and they have no “problems” other than they have yet to find someone that they want to settle down for the rest of their lives with. Or, is settling for someone that you don’t think you’d be happy with the norm where you live? ---
**Author:** ![johnnyk](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/a698b9/32.png) [@johnnyk](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/johnnyk)\ **Post date:** [August 29, 2003, 4:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/susanann-lays-it-out-for-you-single-30-youve-got-problems/198373/2 "2003-08-29T04:50:29Z")
There are some people with Standards and then there are others who think they simply HAVE TO MARRY the first person that gives them an orgasm. It’s possible that this person fits the latter category. Or at least that’s how it appears.:rolleyes: ---
**Author:** ![lucwarm](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/e19adc/32.png) [@lucwarm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lucwarm)\ **Post date:** [August 29, 2003, 5:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/susanann-lays-it-out-for-you-single-30-youve-got-problems/198373/3 "2003-08-29T05:01:39Z")
For what it’s worth, I think there’s a grain of truth to it in that many single people I know have observed that “all the best ones are taken.” And if you meet an attractive, interesting person in their 30s who claims to be single, you should be a little skeptical. ---
**Author:** ![andros](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/e480ec/32.png) [@andros](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/andros)\ **Post date:** [August 29, 2003, 5:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/susanann-lays-it-out-for-you-single-30-youve-got-problems/198373/4 "2003-08-29T05:07:35Z")
Hey, **Blessedwolf**! I _knew_ you had problems! ---
**Author:** ![Monty](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/monty/32/47_2.png) [@Monty](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Monty)\ **Post date:** [August 29, 2003, 5:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/susanann-lays-it-out-for-you-single-30-youve-got-problems/198373/5 "2003-08-29T05:11:24Z")
[url=http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?s=&threadid=165359&perpage=50&highlight=monty&pagenumber=2]Right here, at 10:26 PM California time, I said to Susanann: > [@](#): > > I’m astounded at the level of ignorance displayed. By that, I mean I’m surprised that you are so vehemently stating stuff about which you obviously have nothing more than an ill-formed opinion, said opinion based on exactly zero facts. bernse: It seems that she’s a tad fond of her ill-formed opinion, no matter how freaking stupid it is. ---
**Author:** ![Monty](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/monty/32/47_2.png) [@Monty](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Monty)\ **Post date:** [August 29, 2003, 5:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/susanann-lays-it-out-for-you-single-30-youve-got-problems/198373/6 "2003-08-29T05:13:27Z")
Crud! Fixed coding. [Right here](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?s=&threadid=165359&perpage=50&highlight=monty&pagenumber=2), at 10:26 PM California time, I said to Susanann: > [@](#): > > I’m astounded at the level of ignorance displayed. By that, I mean I’m surprised that you are so vehemently stating stuff about which you obviously have nothing more than an ill-formed opinion, said opinion based on exactly zero facts. Sorry to see that she’s gone back to that stunt, bernse. ---
**Author:** ![SPOOFE](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/c5a1d2/32.png) [@SPOOFE](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SPOOFE)\ **Post date:** [August 29, 2003, 6:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/susanann-lays-it-out-for-you-single-30-youve-got-problems/198373/7 "2003-08-29T06:14:04Z")
One of my goals in life is to be 30 and unmarried. But then, some might say that I have “problems” ('course, one of my problems is people telling me that I got problems, so go fuck some C4, all righty?). ---
**Author:** ![Miller](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/miller/32/481_2.png) [@Miller](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Miller)\ **Post date:** [August 29, 2003, 6:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/susanann-lays-it-out-for-you-single-30-youve-got-problems/198373/8 "2003-08-29T06:19:52Z")
I will be _so_ offended by this in little more than two years from today. ---
**Author:** ![SisterCoyote](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/958977/32.png) [@SisterCoyote](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SisterCoyote)\ **Post date:** [August 29, 2003, 7:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/susanann-lays-it-out-for-you-single-30-youve-got-problems/198373/9 "2003-08-29T07:16:24Z")
Heck, I’m offended by it now. ---
**Author:** ![thatDDperson](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/9de0a6/32.png) [@thatDDperson](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/thatDDperson)\ **Post date:** [August 29, 2003, 7:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/susanann-lays-it-out-for-you-single-30-youve-got-problems/198373/10 "2003-08-29T07:39:27Z")
Ya know, I bet ol’ whatzerface…Susanann…wuz been the most popular cousin at the fambly reunion. Last time I heard social commentary like that was from the Redneck Cousin’s Dating Service and Family Reunion Planning Bidness. Marriage is NOT the ultimate life goal of a mentally healthy individual. ---
**Author:** ![Zoe](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/a4c791/32.png) [@Zoe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Zoe)\ **Post date:** [August 29, 2003, 8:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/susanann-lays-it-out-for-you-single-30-youve-got-problems/198373/11 "2003-08-29T08:01:58Z")
What I would like to know from **Susanann** is, do the problems start on the 30th birthday or the day after? I want to know because I was 30 when I married and I wonder how long I had been having problems. All I remember was dancing on the beach and watching the sunrise on my 30th birthday and then everything went black… ---
**Author:** ![sirtonyh](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ad7895/32.png) [@sirtonyh](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/sirtonyh)\ **Post date:** [August 29, 2003, 10:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/susanann-lays-it-out-for-you-single-30-youve-got-problems/198373/12 "2003-08-29T10:16:37Z")
Uh Oh - I’m 33 and single and have every intention of staying that way until I’m pushing up the daisies. Don’t want to get married because I’m an athiest and don’t believe in it (amongst other things). Still, nice to be informed that I have problems I guess. ---
**Author:** ![Tusculan](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/ecd19e/32.png) [@Tusculan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tusculan)\ **Post date:** [August 29, 2003, 10:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/susanann-lays-it-out-for-you-single-30-youve-got-problems/198373/13 "2003-08-29T10:38:27Z")
Staying 33 or staying single, **sirtonyh**? 😉 And I’ve heard even atheists can get married these days too, whether they believe in it or not… ---
**Author:** ![sirtonyh](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ad7895/32.png) [@sirtonyh](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/sirtonyh)\ **Post date:** [August 29, 2003, 10:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/susanann-lays-it-out-for-you-single-30-youve-got-problems/198373/14 "2003-08-29T10:44:03Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Tusculan \* > \*\*Staying 33 or staying single, **sirtonyh**? 😉 > > And I’ve heard even atheists can get married these days too, whether they believe in it or not… \*\* Well, ideally both. But given advances in modern science are unlikely to make that a possibility in the next 2 months I guess I’ll have to settle for staying single. I am aware that I could get married, I just believe too strongly that it would be hypocritical so I will continue to choose not too. ---
**Author:** ![curly\_chick](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/7ba0ec/32.png) [@curly\_chick](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/curly_chick)\ **Post date:** [August 29, 2003, 10:44am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/susanann-lays-it-out-for-you-single-30-youve-got-problems/198373/15 "2003-08-29T10:44:44Z")
Gosh, so **Susanann** thinks we have problems, does she? WHAT a coincidence. I was enjoying that thread, too, until she drove by ---
**Author:** ![London\_Calling](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/49beb7/32.png) [@London\_Calling](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/London_Calling)\ **Post date:** [August 29, 2003, 10:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/susanann-lays-it-out-for-you-single-30-youve-got-problems/198373/16 "2003-08-29T10:52:17Z")
Perhaps I’ve been to long in the metropolis but I find it pretty hard to think of reasons to get married, and I’m now over 40. Sure, it’s one of those conditioned/propagandist deals that’s difficult to shake off - and some of my women friends seem to find comfort in the security aspect - but marriage seems curiously ‘last century’ to me. Especially when I see how it pans out for so many, spoken or unspoken; “Lives of quiet desperation” and all that malarkey. Absolutely 100% indifferent. I suppose I just don’t get what the attraction is . . … ---
**Author:** ![county](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/ce7236/32.png) [@county](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/county)\ **Post date:** [August 29, 2003, 11:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/susanann-lays-it-out-for-you-single-30-youve-got-problems/198373/17 "2003-08-29T11:02:42Z")
The attraction, for me, was the idea of a “connection” (define to mean physical, spiritual and intellectual) with another human being. I believe it is the natural state of man (And woman). ---
**Author:** ![Lsura](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/7993a0/32.png) [@Lsura](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lsura)\ **Post date:** [August 29, 2003, 11:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/susanann-lays-it-out-for-you-single-30-youve-got-problems/198373/18 "2003-08-29T11:05:29Z")
Well, I’m certainly glad that I don’t fit in with that “must have ‘problems’” group. I have 10 days to find and marry _someone_, just so I can have been married before I’m 30. Now, I can get it annulled after that, right? I mean, 10 days isn’t a long time to get to know someone. And I don’t have to actually sleep with him after only knowing him for a day or two, right? Or does that make it not a “real” marriage? And I thought I was relatively normal. Ah well, just call me Abby Normal. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Coldfire](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/a587f6/32.png) [@Coldfire](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Coldfire)\ **Post date:** [August 29, 2003, 11:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/susanann-lays-it-out-for-you-single-30-youve-got-problems/198373/19 "2003-08-29T11:11:52Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by London\_Calling \* > **I’m now over 40.** Incidently, how do you like that walker you got for your birthday? 😉 ---
**Author:** ![London\_Calling](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/49beb7/32.png) [@London\_Calling](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/London_Calling)\ **Post date:** [August 29, 2003, 11:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/susanann-lays-it-out-for-you-single-30-youve-got-problems/198373/20 "2003-08-29T11:28:47Z")
Don’t mind him, folks, he’s got delusions of slimness. You must be knocking on number 30 any day now. And still unmarried . . . tut tut, the relatives will be gossiping . . . . [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/susanann-lays-it-out-for-you-single-30-youve-got-problems/198373.md?page=2)