# Susanann lays it out for you. Single? 30+? You've got "problems" **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [August 29, 2003, 4:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/susanann-lays-it-out-for-you-single-30-youve-got-problems/198373 "2003-08-29T04:40:28Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 11\ **Page:** 7
**Author:** ![Muffin](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/muffin/32/4341_2.png) [@Muffin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Muffin)\ **Post date:** [September 1, 2003, 9:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/susanann-lays-it-out-for-you-single-30-youve-got-problems/198373/121 "2003-09-01T21:11:37Z")
But would you let her pick up your puppy? ---
**Author:** ![percypercy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/8baadc/32.png) [@percypercy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/percypercy)\ **Post date:** [September 1, 2003, 9:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/susanann-lays-it-out-for-you-single-30-youve-got-problems/198373/122 "2003-09-01T21:32:30Z")
Would that be me or the fiance that would have to be in prison before I’d be allowed to wait until after 30 to marry? Hmm, seven and a half years before freakdom… Well, that’s reassuring… -Lil ---
**Author:** ![zwaldd](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/z/a9adbd/32.png) [@zwaldd](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/zwaldd)\ **Post date:** [September 1, 2003, 9:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/susanann-lays-it-out-for-you-single-30-youve-got-problems/198373/123 "2003-09-01T21:36:39Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by lezlers \* > \*\*Are the people you’re speaking of (every last one of them married before 30) mostly professionals or mostly laborers? \*\* The people I’m speaking of are professionals, managers, and hourly workers. And they didn’t all marry before 30. Some have problems or have very good reasons for not having married. ---
**Author:** ![alice\_in\_wonderland](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/alice_in_wonderland/32/176_2.png) [@alice\_in\_wonderland](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/alice_in_wonderland)\ **Post date:** [September 1, 2003, 9:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/susanann-lays-it-out-for-you-single-30-youve-got-problems/198373/124 "2003-09-01T21:41:50Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Muffin \* > \*\*But would you let her pick up your puppy? \*\* **HA!** She’d get a boot in the mouth is she tried it! 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Duke](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e8c25b/32.png) [@Duke](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Duke)\ **Post date:** [September 1, 2003, 10:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/susanann-lays-it-out-for-you-single-30-youve-got-problems/198373/125 "2003-09-01T22:16:44Z")
You know, reading this thread makes me remember why I rarely post here anymore. 1. Poster makes stupid, ignorant comment. 2. Dopers spend almost three pages beating the poster and her stupid, ignorant comment until it’s not just a dead horse, it’s gelatin. 3. In the course of doing so, several posters (including some of you who I’ve known for years) end up substituting one indefensible argument (older than 30 and not married? you got problems) with another (you’re married? what a suck-ass.) I have just turned thirty. I am divorced, and my divorce was hell–I lost my right to stay in the country I was living in, I lost my job as a result and it took me months to get back financially. You’d think I could spend the rest of my life railing about the evils of marriage. But I won’t. If you’re married and happy, that’s good. If you’re not married and happy, that’s good too. If you want to get married, that’s good. If you don’t want to get married, that’s good. In short, I have no complaint over what others want to do with their lives. I am not going to attack the idea of marriage as many posters have done in this thread. It’s what some people want to do with their lives, and it’s their decision. I know that some posters will come back and say “But we didn’t attack marriage!” Piffle…all the talk here of “piece of paper” and “meaningless religious ceremony” speak otherwise. It may be a piece of paper to some, but to others, it’s not. And only the people who put their names on that “piece of paper” can make that decision. ---
**Author:** ![robertliguori](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/46a35a/32.png) [@robertliguori](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/robertliguori)\ **Post date:** [September 1, 2003, 10:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/susanann-lays-it-out-for-you-single-30-youve-got-problems/198373/126 "2003-09-01T22:40:59Z")
> [@](#): > > Requirement: two-hundred thousand dollars and a full suit of body armour. Are we talking full plate mail body armor or Starship-Troopers-esque powered armor here? Because frankly, I’d prefer a Y-rack of nuclear weapons if I was going on a date with her. ---
**Author:** ![Mighty\_Girl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/7bcc69/32.png) [@Mighty\_Girl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mighty_Girl)\ **Post date:** [September 2, 2003, 2:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/susanann-lays-it-out-for-you-single-30-youve-got-problems/198373/127 "2003-09-02T02:37:34Z")
**Duke** dude, you just saved me a lot of typing. Sour grapes anyone? ---
**Author:** ![Mighty\_Girl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/7bcc69/32.png) [@Mighty\_Girl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mighty_Girl)\ **Post date:** [September 2, 2003, 3:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/susanann-lays-it-out-for-you-single-30-youve-got-problems/198373/128 "2003-09-02T03:51:31Z")
Hmm… before my sweeping generalization attracts some criticism… what I meant was that people that had bad marriages and bash marriage in general should consider that not everybody that is married is unhappy just as not everybody that is single is happy. Did that make sense? ---
**Author:** ![anya\_marie](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ebca7d/32.png) [@anya\_marie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/anya_marie)\ **Post date:** [September 2, 2003, 10:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/susanann-lays-it-out-for-you-single-30-youve-got-problems/198373/129 "2003-09-02T10:34:01Z")
Susanann reminds me of my dizzy coworkers, who have such good advice to give out. How i should have children right away, because I have a uterus. How i should not live on my own but find a boyfriend and have him support me. :wally:eek: :rolleyes: I’d sooner take advice from the bag of crayons on my desk than listen to YOU, my dear Susanann. Have a nice day, you demented cow. ---
**Author:** ![Spectre\_of\_Pithecanthropus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/spectre_of_pithecanthropus/32/12343_2.png) [@Spectre\_of\_Pithecanthropus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Spectre_of_Pithecanthropus)\ **Post date:** [September 2, 2003, 10:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/susanann-lays-it-out-for-you-single-30-youve-got-problems/198373/130 "2003-09-02T10:56:45Z")
Yeesh, at least **Susanann** didn’t say any guy not married by 30 was automatically gay. You go, **Bernse**. ---
**Author:** ![Scuba\_Ben](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/278dde/32.png) [@Scuba\_Ben](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Scuba_Ben)\ **Post date:** [September 2, 2003, 2:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/susanann-lays-it-out-for-you-single-30-youve-got-problems/198373/131 "2003-09-02T14:20:47Z")
Sometimes the “very good reason” is simple scheduling. Case in point: This past weekend I served as best man at the wedding of a long-time friend. He turned 31 earlier this year. He and his lovely bride were engaged for over 1 1/2 years, in large part because they had so many other weddings to attend last year, and they couldn’t start planning their own wedding until after that. And the wedding was just beautiful. The newlyweds are such a wonderful couple. If I find someone half as good a match for me as my friend did for him, I would be truly blessed. What’s my reason for being single? I just wasn’t ready. I spent a lot of effort this past year growing up. BTW, **Jodi** , if you’re in the Philly area and a TKD red belt, are we at the same school? Please let me know if you find any of the newly promoted green belts particularly hot. 🙂 [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/susanann-lays-it-out-for-you-single-30-youve-got-problems/198373.md?page=6)