Well, for me, it will be the ability to easily remain in the United States, and/or for my girlfriend to easily move to Australia, should we decide to go there to live.
It will not be a marriage of convenience or a deception. We fully intend to spend the rest of our lives together, marriage or no marriage.
It’s just that governments, especially immigration officials, are so obsessed with the marriage thing when it comes to allowing partners into the country that we figured it would cut through a whole bunch of red tape, and leave us both considerably less stressed out.
If former Susanann pit threads are any litmust test, she’ll completely ignore this oen even when it is pointed out to her several tinmes. She won’t even mention them.
I think her plan may be to wait such a long time that by the 3rd time a thread is brought back up after periods of being dormant, se’ll say something like “Oh, are you still on that? Well, if some people can’t learn how to get over soem things, that’s their own problem.”
Ten months ago, I got married to a woman whos is mentally ill.
Today we’re beginning the process of what promises to be a really messy divorce. I was out looking at apartments today.
I will never be married again. It’s too much trouble and risk.
Frankly, I think that if you believe that marriage is natural/inevitable/necessary and that people who don’t want to get married have “issues”, then you yourself have some severe emotional issues.
We haven’t actually looked into the whole situation too closely yet but, knowing the way the INS (now Dept. of Homeland Security) works, i imagine it’s going to be some sort of bureaucratic nightmare.
Honestly, the its the idea of getting married before thirty that seems weird to me. That’s just way too young. Most of my friends are thirty or very close to thirty: only two of them have gotten married, and one of those marriages has already broken up. Marriage when you’re in your twenties? Hell no: you should take at least a decade to get used to being an adult before you make a big step like that.
I-130 is the form you file after you’ve married someone from another country while you’re in America. It’s not that expensive or time-consuming compared to the K-1 (Fiance) Visa, which we did.
And do it now, time’s a-wastin’. You’re not getting any younger!
Well congratulations! Sorry I’m so hopelessly out-of-touch.
Can’t speak for Susanann but from my own pov, the only problem you’ve got is that you’re an optimist about marriage. Crazy Dutch . . . what can you do . . . .
Take a little walk to the nearest hospital and mosey on down to ob/gyn. I’m sure if you explain to the nurse there the reason for your visit, she’d be more than happy to escort you into a room where you can witness the miracle of a bloody, naked, screaming birth with your very own eyes!
As much as I fully support your right to be atheist, never marry, and bonk until your knees turn into jelly, your reasoning here is just making me cringe.
Marriage in this day and age, while often performed in churches, need not be religious. You can get married in front of a Justice of the Peace, and you don’t have to say “God” even once. You could even have a choir during the ceremony that continually chants “God does not exist” for all that the law cares.
If you want to be a life long bachelor, knock yourself out. Just don’t do it for the wrong reasons (that is, to “rebel” against religion)
I think that sirtonyh is simply suggesting that he doesn’t require any ceremony, ritual, document, or celebrant to confirm that a relationship is a loving, caring and committed one. I see nothing wrong with that position at all.
I don’t think you should get married until you’ve either been in the workforce at least five years or graduated from college and been employed for a year.
You should have some idea of who you are and what you want to do before you decide that you want to spend the rest of your life with another person. For many people that understand doesn’t come until at least their mid twenties.
And as long as sirtonyh’s significant other is of the same opinion - he is set. But some women (even those that date atheists) like the wedding. (Not me, hubby is the atheist and he’s the one that insisted we get married - I was rather of sirtonyh’s opinion - except with regards to children. The little legal bits help when children are involved. As we have two, I think I would have caved anyway.)
I’ve seen more than one “I see no reason to marry” believer fall to the unmovable object that is the person they love thinking it IS important.
Oh, and Susanann, what color IS the sky in your world? See, I know married people above 30 with problems, and single people older than 30 with problems. I also know a few single people older than 30 who haven’t met Mr or Ms Right, or don’t feel they really want marriage, or too busy working on their doctorates to get married yet.
In fact, a good friend of my husband’s and mine got married at the problematic age of 32. Quite the catch. Good looking, really nice, well employed, stable, smart, great family. He had “problems” at 23 when he liked to sleep around and occationally treated his girlfriends a little more like Kleenex than I usually admire in men, but by 32 had outgrown that.
I’m 40 and unmarried. Being unmarried at the time, did I get one metric crapload of freakiness on my 30th birthday, or am I getting a little more each year? If I marry now, do I retain the freakiness I already have, or does it vanish? If I retain my existing freakiness upon marriage, and I marry someone younger than 30, does my freakiness level go down for every year my spouse is under thirty? And what if I’m gay? Do the same rules apply for gay marriages?