# Swallowing **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [September 30, 2000, 4:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/swallowing/35146 "2000-09-30T16:40:03Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![BornDodgy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/e19b73/32.png) [@BornDodgy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BornDodgy)\ **Post date:** [October 3, 2000, 7:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/swallowing/35146/41 "2000-10-03T19:17:43Z")
When I was in Amsterdam and my sis and me went to spend the night at her best friend’s flat and were very mashed, we talked about this with the guy. He saied it was a mature turn off if a girl spit it on you. Well… I should guess so LOL loons ---
**Author:** ![Esprix](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/esprix/32/7899_2.png) [@Esprix](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Esprix)\ **Post date:** [October 3, 2000, 7:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/swallowing/35146/42 "2000-10-03T19:21:33Z")
Hear, hear - let’s all practice _safer_ sex, for both HIV and other, equally nasty STD’s. Esprix ---
**Author:** ![pldennison](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/9fc29f/32.png) [@pldennison](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pldennison)\ **Post date:** [October 3, 2000, 8:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/swallowing/35146/43 "2000-10-03T20:10:17Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by goboy \* > **"Nearly certain" isn’t certain enough. For monagamous couples who are 100% sure of their mutual fidelity and have had two negative HIV tests six months apart, carry on.** Well, “nearly certain” in this particular case means I have had a total of three sexual partners in my life, and in all three cases I was their first (and only, at the time) partner. I have never had an HIV test for the obvious reason that I don’t need one. There are people who are sure enough concerning their sexual histories and the lives of their partners that their HIV status is not in question. Sure, if there’s any doubt, you’re absolutely right–get the test!! But there are cases where one’s certainty can approach 100%. ---
**Author:** ![tracer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tracer/32/20578_2.png) [@tracer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tracer)\ **Post date:** [October 3, 2000, 8:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/swallowing/35146/44 "2000-10-03T20:29:55Z")
Does the swallowing action add any extra kind of “massaging” or “suction” to the penis during ejaculation? ---
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [October 3, 2000, 9:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/swallowing/35146/45 "2000-10-03T21:24:29Z")
My partner and I (both men) love the fact that I usually have multiple orgasms. If he started gagging or spitting after the first one, I would lose my erection immediately. He loves the taste of it, which is confirmed by the look on his face when he swallows. And seeing that look, keeps me turned on. ---
**Author:** ![Malarky](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/b487fb/32.png) [@Malarky](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Malarky)\ **Post date:** [October 3, 2000, 11:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/swallowing/35146/46 "2000-10-03T23:38:46Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by PlantMan \* > What is snowballing?? \*\* Snowballing is when the person getting the blowjob blows a load into the giver’s mouth, then the giver spits the cum into the getter’s mouth…no better way to say “I love you!” 😛 ---
**Author:** ![Gozu\_Tashoya](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/7993a0/32.png) [@Gozu\_Tashoya](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gozu_Tashoya)\ **Post date:** [October 3, 2000, 11:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/swallowing/35146/47 "2000-10-03T23:56:11Z")
No better way to say it with your mouth full, anyway. ::ducks and runs:: ---
**Author:** ![Malarky](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/b487fb/32.png) [@Malarky](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Malarky)\ **Post date:** [October 4, 2000, 12:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/swallowing/35146/48 "2000-10-04T00:06:15Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by KKBattousai \* > \*\*No better way to say it with your mouth full, anyway. ::ducks and runs:: \*\* Ummmmm…ew 🙂 I wouldn’t know…I’m a dodger myself 😛 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Kupek](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/90db22/32.png) [@Kupek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kupek)\ **Post date:** [October 4, 2000, 1:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/swallowing/35146/49 "2000-10-04T01:13:37Z")
**handy** : _I did get told by a lesbian once that swallowing a man’s stuff would show that men have a kind of power over a woman & you know how they feel about that._ Lesbians: Experts on heterosexual sex. Do you see my point? I don’t talk to hetersexual males about the finer points of homosexual male sex. And also to the person who agreed with him, stop the pop-psychology bullshit. For full disclosure, I have never received a blowjob, but yeah, it would be more pleasureable for her to not dodge (apologies to the girl who coined that up there). But that’s what it is, pleasure, not dominance. **BigGiantHead** , maybe you get a kick out of getting a women to do something she doesn’t, but I don’t. I don’t find the concept sexually appealing. What I do find appealing is pleasuring others, and of course, receiving pleasure. ---
**Author:** ![Azargoth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/aeb1de/32.png) [@Azargoth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Azargoth)\ **Post date:** [October 4, 2000, 2:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/swallowing/35146/50 "2000-10-04T02:57:41Z")
Spit, Swallow, Dodge…your getting some…don’t complain. She’s/He’s actually down there so what ever she/he wants to do…go with it! ---
**Author:** ![Gozu\_Tashoya](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/7993a0/32.png) [@Gozu\_Tashoya](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gozu_Tashoya)\ **Post date:** [October 4, 2000, 5:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/swallowing/35146/51 "2000-10-04T05:39:33Z")
\ Girl goes down on you, then delivers the snowball. Disgusted by your own semen, you spit it out. At this point, your semen has been forcefully ejected from two bodies, a total of three times, in the space of a couple minutes. Could you imagine how dejected those poor spermies feel? \ Sorry, I should stop snorting cold syrup… ---
**Author:** ![They\_Call\_Me\_Sneeze](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/6a8cbe/32.png) [@They\_Call\_Me\_Sneeze](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/They_Call_Me_Sneeze)\ **Post date:** [October 4, 2000, 6:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/swallowing/35146/52 "2000-10-04T06:07:34Z")
i am a hard and fast dodger (well, maybe not so hard, but you better believe i am fast when stuff starts to leak out of that hole) but anyway - the two times i have sucked it up and swallowed (ha.ha. pun heartily intended) i was violently, horrible hungover the next day. of course, that might have had something to do with the copious amounts of alcohol that had been required to dull my tastebuds (and other senses), but i don’t think it was alcohol alone…is it possible to be allergic to spermies? ---
**Author:** ![Moonshine](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/5e9695/32.png) [@Moonshine](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Moonshine)\ **Post date:** [October 4, 2000, 6:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/swallowing/35146/53 "2000-10-04T06:43:52Z")
Ukh, I’ve just figured out what a snowball is, euwgh. ---
**Author:** ![Lazarus7](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/67e7ee/32.png) [@Lazarus7](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lazarus7)\ **Post date:** [October 4, 2000, 8:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/swallowing/35146/54 "2000-10-04T08:19:21Z")
It is mostly about the desire. When someone goes down on me, it is sooooo much better when they want to be down there slurping away then when they feel obligated to do so. The look on her face, the actions when it is just finishing, tell a lot … and to know that she is in the moment, that she is loving it and full on into it, that is a huge part of the orgasm. Also, to lose the best part of the sensation, right at the end, is silly … when I backed off once just a second or two before my partner came while I was going down on her, I got a smack. ---
**Author:** ![Eggs\_a\_la\_Ted](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/c68b51/32.png) [@Eggs\_a\_la\_Ted](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Eggs_a_la_Ted)\ **Post date:** [October 4, 2000, 11:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/swallowing/35146/55 "2000-10-04T11:02:41Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Lazarus7 \* > **Also, to lose the best part of the sensation, right at the end, is silly** This might conjure up some nasty mental images but… You hit the nail on the head. So when I’m dating a dodger I use a condom. Problem solved. > [@](#): > > \*\*… when I backed off once just a second or two before my partner came while I was going down on her, I got a smack. \*\* It will be interesting to read the female posters’ responses to this. Just to clarify, you didn’t do it on purpose did you? “See how YOU like it!” 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![SkeptiJess](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ea666f/32.png) [@SkeptiJess](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SkeptiJess)\ **Post date:** [October 4, 2000, 11:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/swallowing/35146/56 "2000-10-04T11:52:15Z")
I just don’t get the “swallow vs. spit” thing. Now, I can understand someone not wanting it in their mouth and dodging. However, if you’re gonna stick around 'til the bitter end anyway, then I don’t understand spitting it out. Unless you’re administering the BJ in the bathroom or over the kitchen sink, where the hell are you gonna spit it anyway? If (as is more likely) you are in the bedroom or the the living room or leaning over the center console of the mini-van? I guess you could spit it into a glass on the nightstand, or into the ash tray of the van… But that’s gonna be a bit of a clean up nightmare. You could roll the window down and spit it onto the freeway, or into the bushes, but that seems like littering… Or you could just dash into the bathroom and spit it into the toilet – workable if you’re in the living room or the bedroom, a little less so if you’re in the van, unless you’re right near a wayside. Frankly, I’ve always figured that, if it was in my mouth already, swallowing it was the quickest, neatest and most efficient way of getting rid of it. Then I take a sip of something (water, wine, kool-aid, whatever) to get the taste out of my mouth. Ta-da! ---
**Author:** ![Esprix](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/esprix/32/7899_2.png) [@Esprix](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Esprix)\ **Post date:** [October 4, 2000, 2:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/swallowing/35146/57 "2000-10-04T14:05:17Z")
This whole conversation just makes me very, very uncomfortable. Know why? My formative sexual years were during the explosion of the AIDS crisis - unsafe sex simply wasn’t an option, and remains so to this day. Swallowing is considered on the list of “risky” behaviors, so I don’t, and the very, very, _very_ few times someone has done that to me (like twice - once my first boyfriend when I was a virgin, and the second last year), I’ve been very, very, _very_ uncomfortable letting them do so. Now, of course I go every year for my HIV test and it always comes back negative (and I never have any worries that it will come back positive as I’m always, always, _always_ safe), it really does come down to the receiver’s choice, so yes, I let the guy last year do so. Still makes me uncomfortable, but we discussed it, and it’s his choice, plus I know I’m HIV-. Just a very odd discussion for me to overhear. Maybe it’s different among the gay community, but there’s a part of me that wants to scream at all of you, “STOP IT!” Esprix ---
**Author:** ![Wrath](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/ee7513/32.png) [@Wrath](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Wrath)\ **Post date:** [October 4, 2000, 2:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/swallowing/35146/58 "2000-10-04T14:33:07Z")
Take it all bitch. Seriously, I’ve met a number of women who want and expect to be forcefully taken as part of the excitement and fun of sex. People into SMBD (not to be confused with SDMB) are lovers and users of force in the sexual experience. This can get nasty and humiliating, but that’s part of it too. You don’t like it? Don’t participate, vanilla swine. Besides, exploding into a woman’s (mouth, vagina, anus) while buried to the hilt is SO satisfying… Who’s your daddy? ---
**Author:** ![handy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/b5a626/32.png) [@handy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/handy)\ **Post date:** [October 4, 2000, 3:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/swallowing/35146/59 "2000-10-04T15:26:35Z")
Esprix isn’t the risk of HIV quite small from this activity? ---
**Author:** ![Esprix](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/esprix/32/7899_2.png) [@Esprix](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Esprix)\ **Post date:** [October 4, 2000, 3:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/swallowing/35146/60 "2000-10-04T15:59:08Z")
> [@](#): > > _Originally posted by **handy** _ > > Esprix isn’t the risk of HIV quite small from this activity? Things to keep in mind: [ul][li]HIV is transmitted via bodily fluids - you get it when an infected person’s bodily fluid enters your bloodstream. HIV is quite prevalent in semen (less so in saliva). So if an HIV+ person’s semen enters your bloodstream, you get it, too.[/li] [li]Transmission could be through any minute opening into the bloodstream in the mouth, throat, esophagus or stomach, openings which could be caused from ulcers, cold sores, kanker sores, infections - hell, even _brushing your teeth_ causes exposures.[/li] [li]There is absolutely no way to know if you have bloodstream exposure points between your lips and your stomach, unless you can see inside your own throat all the way down to the bottom.[/li] [li]IIRC, there has never been a confirmed case of transmission from swallowing semen.[/li] [li]Do you want to be the first?[/li] [li]Do you want to risk your life, and the living well of it, to taste some jit?[/ul][/li] Safer sex is all about risk analysis and comfort levels. Many people will perform oral sex, but withdraw at the point of ejaculation - but there is even HIV present in pre-cum, which is exposed to the mouth during oral stimulation. So if you’re comfortable with the possibility of exposure vs. the fact that there has never been a confirmed case of transmission in this way, then by all means do it. But know that there is always risk and you have to decide for yourself what you’re comfortable with. The only \*true “safe sex” is no sex at all. A wise, wise lesbian once said to me, “I’m not afraid of AIDS - fear paralyzes. I have a very, very healthy _respect_ for AIDS.” Esprix [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/swallowing/35146.md?page=2) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/swallowing/35146.md?page=4)