# Taking someone out \[on a date\] **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [May 9, 2010, 6:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/taking-someone-out-on-a-date/538800 "2010-05-09T06:52:36Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 9\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![lorene](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/65b543/32.png) [@lorene](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lorene)\ **Post date:** [May 11, 2010, 8:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/taking-someone-out-on-a-date/538800/41 "2010-05-11T20:28:06Z")
> [@Brynda](#): > > This. **jjim** is a genuis. 🙂 A jjenius! I went on a second date once to a museum. With the guy I’m now married to. ---
**Author:** ![Siam\_Sam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/d78d45/32.png) [@Siam\_Sam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Siam_Sam)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2010, 2:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/taking-someone-out-on-a-date/538800/42 "2010-05-12T02:19:15Z")
> [@jjimm](#): > > I went on a **very** successful museum date last year (we got it on the moment we got back to her apartment from the museum). > [@needscoffee](#): > > What museum did YOU two go to? Possibly it was this museum (which really exists; I’ve visited it). Even though it’s just a museum review, it could qualify as Not Safe for Work, so I’ll break the link: [www.smartshanghai.com/blog/708/Lets\_Talk\_About\_Sex\_shanghai](http://www.smartshanghai.com/blog/708/Lets_Talk_About_Sex_shanghai) ---
**Author:** ![jjimm](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/ba8739/32.png) [@jjimm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jjimm)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2010, 3:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/taking-someone-out-on-a-date/538800/43 "2010-05-12T15:15:20Z")
Hey hey hey, today’s the day. How you feeling? A bit of empathy here: despite all the things people have said about “relax” and “be yourself”, if you’re anything like me, you ARE going to be awkward and nervous. But, see if you can find an inner strength, and focus on that; maybe adjust your posture if you’re feeling nervy - straighten your back, drop your shoulders, tighten up your core musculature. And if you can’t think of anything to say every now and again, just smile don’t say anything for a while. Silence will be ok occasionally, as long as you look comfortable with it. Remember, Always Be Bold (in a subtle way). Faint heart never won fair lady. 🙂 Please report back and let us know how it went. ---
**Author:** ![Autolycus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/22d042/32.png) [@Autolycus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Autolycus)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2010, 9:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/taking-someone-out-on-a-date/538800/44 "2010-05-12T21:41:37Z")
I have this little black book full of smooth lines that you can use on dates. Here’s a few samples. Say these and you’ll be rolling in sweet thigh action: “If I said you had a beautiful body, would you take your pants off and dance around a little?” And my personal favorite: “I find the most erotic part of a woman is the boobies.” Oooh yeah. ---
**Author:** ![MichaelEmouse](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/michaelemouse/32/101_2.png) [@MichaelEmouse](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MichaelEmouse)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2010, 10:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/taking-someone-out-on-a-date/538800/45 "2010-05-12T22:24:08Z")
> [@jjimm](#): > > Hey hey hey, today’s the day. How you feeling? > Remember, Always Be Bold (in a subtle way). Faint heart never won fair lady. 🙂 > > Please report back and let us know how it went. She punched me. No, it’s not what you think. I asked her to. Still not what you think, nothing kinky. She does karate and I wondered how hard they hit each other so I asked her to hit my hand. She thought I meant how hard they hit the bags they punch and kick. She was a bit embarassed about that. Good fun though. I attempted to pay for the passes, she said she could pay her own way, I insisted a little, she relented. She later paid for my coffee. She initiated physical contact, patting my on the arm and saying I had done my homework when I showed some knowledge of Judaism. I didn’t initiate physical contact. We talked about a variety of topics including family, school, religion, history, the exhibits. She cracked more jokes than I did and they were better. We talked a bit about drugs and I found weird that she didn’t mind talking about the drugs she’d done but didn’t ask me a reciprocating question about that. It lasted for 3.5 hours. At the end she had to catch a bus. We started shaking hands the normal way which transformed into something similar to this ( [http://i.telegraph.co.uk/telegraph/multimedia/archive/00679/handshakeweb404\_679609c.jpg](http://i.telegraph.co.uk/telegraph/multimedia/archive/00679/handshakeweb404_679609c.jpg) ) then kissed on both cheeks. ---
**Author:** ![jjimm](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/ba8739/32.png) [@jjimm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jjimm)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2010, 10:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/taking-someone-out-on-a-date/538800/46 "2010-05-12T22:40:48Z")
Sounds relatively good then. And fun too - the karate sounds surprising and a bit amusing. No mention of Hindenburgs anyway… 🙂 Her physical initiation would, to me, indicate that it’s OK for you to reciprocate. Did you fix up another date? If so, definitely follow her lead on that. And always go for a hug - shaking hands… dunno. Unless she looked like Gordon Brown, in which case, yeah. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![MichaelEmouse](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/michaelemouse/32/101_2.png) [@MichaelEmouse](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MichaelEmouse)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2010, 10:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/taking-someone-out-on-a-date/538800/47 "2010-05-12T22:56:26Z")
Jjimm, I’ll send her an e-mail tomorrow, telling her I had a good time. I’ll mention I’ve been invited to a game of Tagball Tuesday and would she like to come along. I’m nore sure she’ll be able to come along as it’s during a class of mine and hers (I don’t mind missing it, perhaps she will). Otherwise, next time might be a movie. I’ve been tempted to set up a drinking date, not to loosen her up, but rather loosen me up. ---
**Author:** ![Tom\_Tildrum](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/e95f7d/32.png) [@Tom\_Tildrum](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tom_Tildrum)\ **Post date:** [May 13, 2010, 3:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/taking-someone-out-on-a-date/538800/48 "2010-05-13T15:25:48Z")
Congratulations! It sounds like it went really well, and that she’s interested in you. ---
**Author:** ![Cat\_Whisperer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cat_whisperer/32/4839_2.png) [@Cat\_Whisperer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Whisperer)\ **Post date:** [May 13, 2010, 6:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/taking-someone-out-on-a-date/538800/49 "2010-05-13T18:10:47Z")
Yay! All signs point to “Interested.” Definitely send the email - don’t do that stupid game-playing bullshit of waiting forever to tell her you had fun and want to see her again. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/taking-someone-out-on-a-date/538800.md?page=2)