# Talk me down, I'm probably too happy

**URL:** <https://boards.straightdope.com/t/talk-me-down-im-probably-too-happy/811690>\
**Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\
**Created:** [April 3, 2018, 4:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/talk-me-down-im-probably-too-happy/811690 "2018-04-03T04:03:24Z")\
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**Author:** ![Not\_a\_Platypus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/d26b3c/32.png) [@Not\_a\_Platypus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Not_a_Platypus)\
**Post date:** [April 10, 2018, 4:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/talk-me-down-im-probably-too-happy/811690/21 "2018-04-10T16:22:57Z")

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I have run into this, back when my relationship was getting into a really bad place, and when I realized I was unintentionally setting myself up to cheat I completely broke off contact with my new/old flame and made an effort to focus on fixing the problems I had with my actual relationship. It was hard and required a ton of uncomfortable communication between me and my husband, but it was worth the effort.

It’s a really good idea to remind yourself that part of why you’re feeling so giddy and happy about new/old flame is it’s not a real relationship, so you’ve got that “shiny new relationship high” infatuation thing going on, and that never lasts. You do not want to throw a marriage away just to chase that.

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