# Talking dirty during sex: yes or no? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [December 15, 2000, 1:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/talking-dirty-during-sex-yes-or-no/45733 "2000-12-15T13:11:06Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Noodlegirl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/fbc32d/32.png) [@Noodlegirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Noodlegirl)\ **Post date:** [December 15, 2000, 1:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/talking-dirty-during-sex-yes-or-no/45733/1 "2000-12-15T13:11:06Z")
I thought this might be a fun, light topic, something that seems to be needed after all the heavy (and often obnoxious) stuff that has been going on on some of the other boards (no names!). 🙂 Do you like “talking dirty” during sex? Do you like it sometimes, but think it ruins the romance other times? Do you hate it? Can you be aroused with out it? When you think about it, does it seem “weird” or “yucky”, but when you are in the throes of passion it inevitably escapes your lips? How dirty is too dirty? Some opinions please! 🙂 –ng ---
**Author:** ![broccoli](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/a183cd/32.png) [@broccoli](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/broccoli)\ **Post date:** [December 15, 2000, 1:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/talking-dirty-during-sex-yes-or-no/45733/2 "2000-12-15T13:18:22Z")
It all depends on the girl I’m with 😉 punk snot dead, broccoli! ---
**Author:** ![spunky\_monkey](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/9f8e36/32.png) [@spunky\_monkey](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/spunky_monkey)\ **Post date:** [December 15, 2000, 1:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/talking-dirty-during-sex-yes-or-no/45733/3 "2000-12-15T13:32:39Z")
Sometimes you can feel like you’ve been put on the spot, and your mind goes blank. You think to yoursef “Sh\*t, I can’t think of anything!” I don’t like it at those times. I do like it when women talk really dirty because it definitely gets me going. When they tell you what they want and where they want it you feel obliged to deliver. ---
**Author:** ![False\_God](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/ee7513/32.png) [@False\_God](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/False_God)\ **Post date:** [December 15, 2000, 1:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/talking-dirty-during-sex-yes-or-no/45733/4 "2000-12-15T13:51:46Z")
Depends, but make sure what each person’s definitions of “talking dirty” are. I was with a girl one time-later became a “dancer” and then an “escort”-not because of anything I did. Sex was pretty mundane, so seeking for some spice, I said “Talk dirty now!”. She responded with five minutes of profanity and filth. “Cocksucker, shit, piss, motherf_cker, hell, damn, boobs!" That was the first, and last, time, I’ve not been able to come because I was laughing too hard. Mr. Happy popped out of her on one particulary sustained guffaw. During this, she’s riding me furiously, humping away, asking "What’s so f_cking funny, huh? You like this? You like my tight pussy?” Ah, college… ---
**Author:** ![Alessan](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/alessan/32/465_2.png) [@Alessan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Alessan)\ **Post date:** [December 15, 2000, 1:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/talking-dirty-during-sex-yes-or-no/45733/5 "2000-12-15T13:52:38Z")
Nah. I can’t do it without giggling. ---
**Author:** ![Jackknifed\_Juggernaut](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/9de053/32.png) [@Jackknifed\_Juggernaut](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jackknifed_Juggernaut)\ **Post date:** [December 15, 2000, 2:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/talking-dirty-during-sex-yes-or-no/45733/6 "2000-12-15T14:42:25Z")
Talking dirty during sex is the best kind of sex as long as it is understood that nothing is out of bounds, except possibly bringing in names of other people. You need to be sure that nothing you will say will offend the other person (vice-versa) or else its difficult to concentrate on the matter at hand. ---
**Author:** ![Danimal](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/bb73d2/32.png) [@Danimal](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Danimal)\ **Post date:** [December 15, 2000, 3:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/talking-dirty-during-sex-yes-or-no/45733/7 "2000-12-15T15:01:13Z")
I find profane language a major turn-off. It takes the tenderness out of it. One man’s opinion. ---
**Author:** ![LateComer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/b5ac83/32.png) [@LateComer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LateComer)\ **Post date:** [December 15, 2000, 3:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/talking-dirty-during-sex-yes-or-no/45733/8 "2000-12-15T15:26:39Z")
Remember when dirty talk got Jerry Seinfeld in trouble? “The panties your mother laid out for you.” ---
**Author:** ![Egad](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/e0b2c6/32.png) [@Egad](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Egad)\ **Post date:** [December 15, 2000, 3:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/talking-dirty-during-sex-yes-or-no/45733/9 "2000-12-15T15:31:51Z")
Yes, definitely good when the woman talks dirty to me, but for myself I tend to draw a blank a lot. But of course I can be aroused without it. I can be aroused by fridge magnets. The women on this forum start the best topics I’d say…😉 ---
**Author:** ![DocDaneeka](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/c68b51/32.png) [@DocDaneeka](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DocDaneeka)\ **Post date:** [December 15, 2000, 4:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/talking-dirty-during-sex-yes-or-no/45733/10 "2000-12-15T16:10:27Z")
Like several others here, I sometimes draw a blank, but it can definitely be fun. I haven’t done much dirty talk during actual intercourse. I did briefly “date” a girl who lived a couple of hours away, so most of our relationship was over the phone. In RL we only met a couple of times and all we did was kiss. (She was WAY too young for me… I’m smarter now, thank you). Anyway, over the phone this girl was NASTY. She made ME blush and I can be a real sicko. Even though it was all imaginary, she gave me some of the best “sex” I’ve ever had, and definitely the kinkiest. > [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Egad \* > \*\*…I can be aroused by fridge magnets. > \*\* I just had to add HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!! That’s one of the funniest things I’ve ever read. ---
**Author:** ![AHunter3](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ahunter3/32/368_2.png) [@AHunter3](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AHunter3)\ **Post date:** [December 15, 2000, 4:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/talking-dirty-during-sex-yes-or-no/45733/11 "2000-12-15T16:41:06Z")
For me, that language and the emotional content I associate with it is completely antithetical to what I’m feeling when I’m teasing nerve endings with girlfriend. Language acquires connotations (especially emotional ones) from the context in which you most hear it used, and I usually hear “fuck”, “pussy”, “dick”, “cock”, “ass”, and so forth tossed around verbally in • contempt • disgust • anger It is a major turn-off for me. Sort of like being interrupted by a horde of 4th grade boys who have a bad case of potty mouth. ---
**Author:** ![hypergirl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/49beb7/32.png) [@hypergirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/hypergirl)\ **Post date:** [December 15, 2000, 4:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/talking-dirty-during-sex-yes-or-no/45733/12 "2000-12-15T16:43:32Z")
Yes I like it. I also like talking dirty not during sex. The more inoportune the time, the better. ---
**Author:** ![Fairy\_Princess\_Kitty](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/df705f/32.png) [@Fairy\_Princess\_Kitty](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Fairy_Princess_Kitty)\ **Post date:** [December 15, 2000, 4:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/talking-dirty-during-sex-yes-or-no/45733/13 "2000-12-15T16:53:07Z")
I wouldn’t be able to talk dirty at all. Not while with my partner, not ever. I don’t know why but I just can’t. It just seems oh so very wrong. Kitty ---
**Author:** ![Tommy\_the\_Cat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/74df32/32.png) [@Tommy\_the\_Cat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tommy_the_Cat)\ **Post date:** [December 15, 2000, 4:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/talking-dirty-during-sex-yes-or-no/45733/14 "2000-12-15T16:59:53Z")
I think it is too much pressure to come up with something on the spot. I just keep thinking of Ross (on Friends) trying to come up with some “dirty talk” and all he came out with was “Vulva.” It also just makes me more than a little uncomfortable. ---
**Author:** ![conway](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/ec9cab/32.png) [@conway](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/conway)\ **Post date:** [December 15, 2000, 5:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/talking-dirty-during-sex-yes-or-no/45733/15 "2000-12-15T17:05:07Z")
We kinda did this before. To see some other answers check [here](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?threadid=42460) ---
**Author:** ![Danimal](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/bb73d2/32.png) [@Danimal](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Danimal)\ **Post date:** [December 15, 2000, 5:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/talking-dirty-during-sex-yes-or-no/45733/16 "2000-12-15T17:15:45Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by AHunter3 \* > \*\*For me, that language and the emotional content I associate with it is completely antithetical to what I’m feeling when I’m teasing nerve endings with girlfriend. > > Language acquires connotations (especially emotional ones) from the context in which you most hear it used, and I usually hear “fuck”, “pussy”, “dick”, “cock”, “ass”, and so forth tossed around verbally in > > • contempt > • disgust > • anger > > It is a major turn-off for me. Sort of like being interrupted by a horde of 4th grade boys who have a bad case of potty mouth. > > \*\* Thank you, Hunter! That describes my feelings on the matter better than I could have done. ---
**Author:** ![broccoli](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/a183cd/32.png) [@broccoli](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/broccoli)\ **Post date:** [December 15, 2000, 5:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/talking-dirty-during-sex-yes-or-no/45733/17 "2000-12-15T17:23:20Z")
Tenderness… hrmmm… The difference between making love and having sex? When you make love you put it in slow. Love or sex, talking dirty still depends on the partner. broccoli! ---
**Author:** ![lolagranola](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/ea5d25/32.png) [@lolagranola](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lolagranola)\ **Post date:** [December 15, 2000, 7:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/talking-dirty-during-sex-yes-or-no/45733/18 "2000-12-15T19:13:11Z")
Yes. I like it. However, “The panties your mother laid out for you” and “Vulva” don’t do it for me. ---
**Author:** ![Tymp](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/c5a1d2/32.png) [@Tymp](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tymp)\ **Post date:** [December 15, 2000, 7:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/talking-dirty-during-sex-yes-or-no/45733/19 "2000-12-15T19:43:23Z")
I like to talk dirty while other people are having sex without me. ---
**Author:** ![porcupine](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/ac91a4/32.png) [@porcupine](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/porcupine)\ **Post date:** [December 15, 2000, 7:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/talking-dirty-during-sex-yes-or-no/45733/20 "2000-12-15T19:50:17Z")
During - yeah, sometimes. But what I like even better - during dinner, I sometimes like hearing what he’d like to do to me later that evening. Not usually good converstion for a _first_ date, though. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/talking-dirty-during-sex-yes-or-no/45733.md?page=2)