# Talking dirty during sex: yes or no? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [December 15, 2000, 1:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/talking-dirty-during-sex-yes-or-no/45733 "2000-12-15T13:11:06Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Sophie](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/35a633/32.png) [@Sophie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sophie)\ **Post date:** [December 15, 2000, 8:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/talking-dirty-during-sex-yes-or-no/45733/21 "2000-12-15T20:11:01Z")
Love me some sex threads… I can’t help it. Sometimes, I get so into a situation that it just happens. Don’t mean to say that I talk too much; as a matter of fact, I feel like I’ve really mastered the art of dirty talk. I have always been a vocalizer, in one way or another. I should probably feel some shame but I don’t. ---
**Author:** ![BunnyGirl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/22d042/32.png) [@BunnyGirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BunnyGirl)\ **Post date:** [December 15, 2000, 8:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/talking-dirty-during-sex-yes-or-no/45733/22 "2000-12-15T20:17:26Z")
Not out loud. Hubby’s pretty conservative so if I started talking like a sailor (hey…wait a minute…I was a sailor), he’d probably be a little disgusted. I just have a little fantasy going on in my head. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![tracer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tracer/32/20578_2.png) [@tracer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tracer)\ **Post date:** [December 15, 2000, 8:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/talking-dirty-during-sex-yes-or-no/45733/23 "2000-12-15T20:17:51Z")
spunky\_monkey wrote: > [@](#): > > I do like it when women talk really dirty because it definitely gets me going. When they tell you what they want and where they want it you feel obliged to deliver. Of course, telling you what they want and where they want it does not necessarily involve dirty talk. For example: “Lick me! No, higher! Higher!! YES!! RIGHT THERE!! DON’T STOP!! DON’T STOP!!!” Not one lick (if you’ll pardon the expression) of dirty talk in that sentence. Even if she said, “Lick _my clitoris_”, that’s not “dirty”, merely anatomical. ---
**Author:** ![bup](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/6bbea6/32.png) [@bup](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bup)\ **Post date:** [December 15, 2000, 8:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/talking-dirty-during-sex-yes-or-no/45733/24 "2000-12-15T20:49:52Z")
\>\>“Lick my clitoris” “OK. I’m manually stimulating your labia while licking your clitoris. Are you aroused?” “Yes. I am sufficiently lubricated for penetration!” “Do you want me to thrust my erect penis into your engorged vagina?” “Please!” You know, I still think there’s something talking dirty provides that this just doesn’t. ---
**Author:** ![Dinsdale](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/97f17d/32.png) [@Dinsdale](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dinsdale)\ **Post date:** [December 15, 2000, 9:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/talking-dirty-during-sex-yes-or-no/45733/25 "2000-12-15T21:42:29Z")
Aerate my volcanic ash hole, baby. You make me feel so alluvial. No one satisfies my leaching requirement like you. Stick your lithorelict deep in my rootbed. Loess. Loess! LOESS! Now chisel tillage my backfurrow. That’s right. That’s just the top dressing I needed to complete my nitrogen cycle. I can’t believe our apparent cohesion. I’m so glad I’m no longer a loam. That what you had in mind? ---
**Author:** ![AHunter3](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ahunter3/32/368_2.png) [@AHunter3](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AHunter3)\ **Post date:** [December 15, 2000, 9:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/talking-dirty-during-sex-yes-or-no/45733/26 "2000-12-15T21:53:43Z")
Well, you are invited to consider me kinky, but… Sexuality takes me into (or perhaps back to) a state of undefended openness that for me is diametrically opposite to the “I’m-a-worldly-grownup-now-I-use-cuss-words” toughened up self that first learned to say “fuck”. My language and mood and mode is more childlike. Not gooey babytalk, but giggly-playful. Me and she probably sound like a couple of 7-year-olds in conversation more than we resemble a pair of porn stars: “Hmm, pretty skins!” “Yeah, you like? Good! I like you watching like that with such big eyes” “How about touchings? And nibblings?” “Oooh…better than ice cream. You’re giving me gasps and yummies.” “Oozings?” “Mmm…maybe. You’d better check.” ---
**Author:** ![tracer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tracer/32/20578_2.png) [@tracer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tracer)\ **Post date:** [December 15, 2000, 9:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/talking-dirty-during-sex-yes-or-no/45733/27 "2000-12-15T21:54:31Z")
Dinsdale, that’s the most IGNEOUS reply I’ve read in a long time! I’m glad you’re not just lurking SEDEMENTARY on the sidelines, and are posting messages of truly METAMORPHIC proportions. ---
**Author:** ![tracer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tracer/32/20578_2.png) [@tracer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tracer)\ **Post date:** [December 15, 2000, 9:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/talking-dirty-during-sex-yes-or-no/45733/28 "2000-12-15T21:54:48Z")
Dinsdale, that’s the most IGNEOUS reply I’ve read in a long time! I’m glad you’re not just lurking SEDEMENTARY on the sidelines, and are posting messages of truly METAMORPHIC proportions. Rock on! ---
**Author:** ![Revedge](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/ecae2f/32.png) [@Revedge](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Revedge)\ **Post date:** [December 15, 2000, 9:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/talking-dirty-during-sex-yes-or-no/45733/29 "2000-12-15T21:54:59Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by bup \* > [B > You know, I still think there’s something talking dirty > provides that this just doesn’t. \*\* “I’m arriving!” “Are you arriving also?” “Shall we arrive together?”… ---
**Author:** ![Podkayne](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/edb3f5/32.png) [@Podkayne](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Podkayne)\ **Post date:** [December 15, 2000, 10:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/talking-dirty-during-sex-yes-or-no/45733/30 "2000-12-15T22:08:54Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Egad \* > **I can be aroused by fridge magnets.** I was invited to dinner at the home of friends of friends (i.e. people I didn’t really know.) While helping out in the kitchen I found myself suddenly staring at the sentence, “Fuck my pussy with your huge love pump.” They had the erotic version of the magnetic poetry set, and apparently it was a source of much amusement. A little much for a “first date” though! ---
**Author:** ![Nymysys](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/f6c823/32.png) [@Nymysys](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nymysys)\ **Post date:** [December 15, 2000, 11:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/talking-dirty-during-sex-yes-or-no/45733/31 "2000-12-15T23:23:33Z")
Dirty talk during sex? Yes, yes, and HELL yes! Not a necessity, but DAMN it’s good. On the other hand, I’ve tried to coerce a couple of people into it a few times. The results were…unseemly. 😃 BTW, I also have erotic magnetic poetry on my fridge. Should I take it down before I invite over my prospectives? ---
**Author:** ![handy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/b5a626/32.png) [@handy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/handy)\ **Post date:** [December 16, 2000, 1:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/talking-dirty-during-sex-yes-or-no/45733/32 "2000-12-16T01:37:21Z")
Noodlegirl, try not to lurk & post your through analysis of this question with your own answer!!! Dunno if deaf women like dirty signs during sex, I may have to ask one. ---
**Author:** ![Nen](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/c5a1d2/32.png) [@Nen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nen)\ **Post date:** [December 16, 2000, 1:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/talking-dirty-during-sex-yes-or-no/45733/33 "2000-12-16T01:54:58Z")
I _ **love** _ talking dirty and being talked to dirty during sex. “Mud! Grease! Grime! Filth! Putrescence!” Damn! What a turn on. Seriously?.. …😉 ---
**Author:** ![Rasa](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/rasa/32/3578_2.png) [@Rasa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rasa)\ **Post date:** [December 16, 2000, 3:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/talking-dirty-during-sex-yes-or-no/45733/34 "2000-12-16T03:47:11Z")
Mmm… putrescence. Nen, you naughty lil’ snow angel. As for me… _nod_ mm hmm, when appropriate. Or entirely inappropriate. 😃 [sub]Though if it’s only like half a time you don’t really have a chance… heehee![/sub] ---
**Author:** ![TheNerd](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/858c86/32.png) [@TheNerd](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TheNerd)\ **Post date:** [December 16, 2000, 8:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/talking-dirty-during-sex-yes-or-no/45733/35 "2000-12-16T08:19:45Z")
Listening to it is fine, and even exciting sometimes. But I cannot talk dirty myself. I don’t think the speech production area of my brain works quite right. Especially when I’ve got much better things to think about. ---
**Author:** ![TroubleAgain](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/e480ec/32.png) [@TroubleAgain](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TroubleAgain)\ **Post date:** [December 16, 2000, 8:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/talking-dirty-during-sex-yes-or-no/45733/36 "2000-12-16T08:42:54Z")
Dinsdale: Bwaaahaaahaaaahaaaa! As for the OP, well, my hubby likes it, so I do it for him occasionally. It can actually be satisfying/stimulating at times for me, too, but not as much as for him. I also DON’T want to hear some phrases, etc. come out of his mouth when we’re “engaged.” But, see, we both agree that there are times when we are “making love”, or “just having sex” or sometimes that other word. So it depends on the context. ---
**Author:** ![handy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/b5a626/32.png) [@handy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/handy)\ **Post date:** [December 16, 2000, 5:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/talking-dirty-during-sex-yes-or-no/45733/37 "2000-12-16T17:27:30Z")
It would depend if you want your partner to talk to you that way or your partner wants it… So, could you imagine if I liked my partner talking that way? A hearing woman would have to grab the paper & pen & write: ‘oh, handy, do it more, do it more’, then I would have to read it: ‘oh, handy, do it more, do it more’…then we would probably laugh & that would be it for the day. ---
**Author:** ![oldscratch](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/ed655f/32.png) [@oldscratch](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/oldscratch)\ **Post date:** [December 18, 2000, 10:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/talking-dirty-during-sex-yes-or-no/45733/38 "2000-12-18T10:39:12Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Rasa \* > \*\* > As for me… _nod_ mm hmm, when appropriate. Or entirely inappropriate. 😃 \*\* So tell me, are national monuments apropos, or not? ---
**Author:** ![Badtz\_Maru](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/e36b37/32.png) [@Badtz\_Maru](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Badtz_Maru)\ **Post date:** [December 18, 2000, 12:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/talking-dirty-during-sex-yes-or-no/45733/39 "2000-12-18T12:50:20Z")
I only talk during sex when I am drunk, and then it’s not particularly profane, just stuff like ‘You like that?’ etc. I don’t mind hearing similar talk, but it’s hard for it to not be funny or a turn-off for me. There was this one girl I knew who talked dirty during sex, and I really wished she wouldn’t - stuff like ‘I want to come all over your cock’ really did nothing for me, sounded fake and rehearsed - and when she said something about my ‘tube-steak’ with it’s ‘creamy filling’ I had to bite my lip to keep from laughing, and I was a bit grossed out. A word of explanation - I do not like involving food with sex. Flavored oils are OK, but no whipped cream, sticky sauces, etc. The whole tube-steak/creamy-filling thing was just gross to me. ---
**Author:** ![Rasa](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/rasa/32/3578_2.png) [@Rasa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rasa)\ **Post date:** [December 18, 2000, 2:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/talking-dirty-during-sex-yes-or-no/45733/40 "2000-12-18T14:03:43Z")
> [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by oldscratch \* > \*\* > > > [@](#): > > > > \*Originally posted by Rasa \* > > \*\* > > As for me… _nod_ mm hmm, when appropriate. Or entirely inappropriate. 😃 \*\* > > So tell me, are national monuments apropos, or not? \*\* National monuments are, I believe, hella apropos. 😉 [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/talking-dirty-during-sex-yes-or-no/45733.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/talking-dirty-during-sex-yes-or-no/45733.md?page=3)