I live in Florida too, and have a little anecdote to sort of support Acid Lamp’s position. Not that I agree with storming in and demanding meetings (and I don’t really think AL is suggesting that), but sometimes there’s a way to handle these things.
Years ago, my company moved into a brand new building in a swanky part of town. When our office was in the ghetto, the dress code policies were pretty relaxed. But when we moved to the swank, TPTB decided we should polish our image as a company, so they developed a much stricter dress code policy, which included no capri pants or anything resembling capri pants. We were instructed – and even asked to make a public commitment in a management meeting – to enforce the policy strictly, and when in doubt, err on the side of conservatism.
Shortly thereafter, one of my long-time, awesomest employees wore some “flood” pants to work. It was a really nice, professional outfit with which I had no problem. However, the way she was sitting caused these pants to ride up to almost her knees and her cubicle was in a high-traffic area. Another manager walked through my department, noticed her pants, and detoured into my office to report “inappropriate dress.” The manager even said, “I don’t have a problem personally with what she’s wearing, but I’m concerned a VP might walk through here and you’ll both be in trouble.” I agreed on both points, so I called the employee into my office and asked her to go home and change. I assured her I would pay her for the time out of the office (I viewed this as a work assignment). She refused, stating that her pants were not capri pants and they were perfectly appropriate. I told her I agreed with her position, but I’d made a commitment to my superiors that I would enforce the policy on the strict side, I’d had a complaint, and I had the concern about the VPs getting bent up about it. She got mad and stalked out of my office.
I had to call HR and explain what was going on. HR lady calls my boss – a VP – and the two of them came down to my office to tag-team this poor woman (who really hadn’t done anything wrong). She walked in, saw who all was in there, and knew she’d lost the battle. After realizing that HR would force my hand and require me to fire her for insubordination if she didn’t go home and change, she agreed to do so.
When she returned, I thanked her and said this, “I can’t change the policy. And I think this policy is stupid, unclear, and leaves too much room for interpretation. I only made you do this because people above my pay grade are taking strict enforcement very seriously. You, however, can do something about this. Call the employee hotline (a toll-free number employees can use to anonymously report wrongdoing) and complain about the policy. This will trigger an investigation and we might be able to get the policy re-worked so it’ll be more reasonable. I’m sorry to have been a hard-ass about this, but I think this is our only way.”
I really hated being that dick manager about it, but I’d looked the President of the company right in the eye and committed to her that I’d be a dick about it if necessary. My employee called the hotline and a few days later, another VP called me into her office to launch the investigation. She sent me to another manager on the investigation team, with whom I met and proposed several tweaks to the policy for clarification. In the end, those tweaks were accepted by the management team and my employee was allowed to wear her flood pants to work again. (They were really cool and she had these awesome matching magenta patent-leather shoes that went with. I loved that outfit. Looked great with her coloring.)
So, in the end, in an at-will right-to-work state, the employee won the stupid policy war, despite losing the first battle. Sometimes marching in and making demands works, but sometimes you have to go through the back door and work the system that’s available to you.
May the OP do with that what she will.