# Tell me about your unplanned pregnancy. **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [January 25, 2011, 6:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/tell-me-about-your-unplanned-pregnancy/568944 "2011-01-25T18:40:02Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 5
**Author:** ![Quartz](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/quartz/32/267_2.png) [@Quartz](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Quartz)\ **Post date:** [January 29, 2011, 7:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/tell-me-about-your-unplanned-pregnancy/568944/81 "2011-01-29T19:25:10Z")
> [@overlyverbose](#): > > In the hospital post surgery. The pregnancy was ectopic and starting to rupture. {{ **overly** }} ---
**Author:** ![Khadaji](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/9e8a1a/32.png) [@Khadaji](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Khadaji)\ **Post date:** [January 29, 2011, 7:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/tell-me-about-your-unplanned-pregnancy/568944/82 "2011-01-29T19:29:18Z")
> [@overlyverbose](#): > > In the hospital post surgery. The pregnancy was ectopic and starting to rupture. I lost a rube and part of my ovary. Sent husband home with the kids post recovery but I can’t sleep. Sending out a wish for a quick and complete recovery! ---
**Author:** ![Neeps](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/a183cd/32.png) [@Neeps](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Neeps)\ **Post date:** [January 30, 2011, 5:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/tell-me-about-your-unplanned-pregnancy/568944/83 "2011-01-30T17:02:06Z")
Only just caught this thread - phew, what a rollercoaster you’ve been through! I’m glad it was caught in time and that you are okay, but sorry you’ve had to endure it at all. Hope you can rest up and get the support you need (emotional and practical). Take care of yourself. We’re here to moan to if you need it. ---
**Author:** ![rhubarbarin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/eb9ed0/32.png) [@rhubarbarin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/rhubarbarin)\ **Post date:** [January 30, 2011, 7:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/tell-me-about-your-unplanned-pregnancy/568944/84 "2011-01-30T19:02:03Z")
> [@overlyverbose](#): > > In the hospital post surgery. The pregnancy was ectopic and starting to rupture. I lost a rube and part of my ovary. Sent husband home with the kids post recovery but I can’t sleep. Oh my god. I’m so glad they caught it before it got even more serious! Best wishes for a quick recovery. ---
**Author:** ![maggenpye](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/ecc23a/32.png) [@maggenpye](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/maggenpye)\ **Post date:** [January 30, 2011, 8:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/tell-me-about-your-unplanned-pregnancy/568944/85 "2011-01-30T20:11:43Z")
> [@rhubarbarin](#): > > Oh my god. I’m so glad they caught it before it got even more serious! Best wishes for a quick recovery. me too. ---
**Author:** ![overlyverbose](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/9dc877/32.png) [@overlyverbose](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/overlyverbose)\ **Post date:** [January 31, 2011, 12:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/tell-me-about-your-unplanned-pregnancy/568944/86 "2011-01-31T00:43:03Z")
Thank you so much for all your well-wishes. I’m ok. Well, not really ok, but I’m healing. At least I haven’t had percocet today. Mentally I’m just numb. ---
**Author:** ![Nava](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/da6949/32.png) [@Nava](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nava)\ **Post date:** [January 31, 2011, 8:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/tell-me-about-your-unplanned-pregnancy/568944/87 "2011-01-31T08:25:25Z")
Best wishes for a quick recovery, **overly**. I think a measure of how much of a rollercoaster this is is that all your posts have been… scarily brief. May your verbosity come back soon. ---
**Author:** ![Girl\_From\_Mars](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/3da27b/32.png) [@Girl\_From\_Mars](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Girl_From_Mars)\ **Post date:** [January 31, 2011, 9:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/tell-me-about-your-unplanned-pregnancy/568944/88 "2011-01-31T09:20:02Z")
So glad to hear that you are OK, even if you are not feeling it right now. Thinking of you. ---
**Author:** ![purplehorseshoe](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/purplehorseshoe/32/2996_2.png) [@purplehorseshoe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/purplehorseshoe)\ **Post date:** [January 31, 2011, 4:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/tell-me-about-your-unplanned-pregnancy/568944/89 "2011-01-31T16:22:29Z")
> [@overlyverbose](#): > > In the hospital post surgery. The pregnancy was ectopic and starting to rupture. I lost a rube and part of my ovary. Sent husband home with the kids post recovery but I can’t sleep. Best wishes, sweetheart. Be well soon. (“… rube” ??) ---
**Author:** ![overlyverbose](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/9dc877/32.png) [@overlyverbose](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/overlyverbose)\ **Post date:** [January 31, 2011, 4:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/tell-me-about-your-unplanned-pregnancy/568944/90 "2011-01-31T16:37:39Z")
> [@purplehorseshoe](#): > > Best wishes, sweetheart. Be well soon. > > (“… rube” ??) I meant tube - the surgery & related drugs gave me trouble focusing. I don’t know why I was posting at the time. ---
**Author:** ![Ann\_Onimous](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ea5d25/32.png) [@Ann\_Onimous](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ann_Onimous)\ **Post date:** [January 31, 2011, 5:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/tell-me-about-your-unplanned-pregnancy/568944/91 "2011-01-31T17:03:49Z")
> [@Lissla\_Lissar](#): > > Prayers and lots and lots of hugs. Ditto. Glad they caught it before it got worse! ---
**Author:** ![purplehorseshoe](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/purplehorseshoe/32/2996_2.png) [@purplehorseshoe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/purplehorseshoe)\ **Post date:** [January 31, 2011, 7:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/tell-me-about-your-unplanned-pregnancy/568944/92 "2011-01-31T19:54:12Z")
> [@overlyverbose](#): > > I meant tube - the surgery & related drugs gave me trouble focusing. I don’t know why I was posting at the time. Uh, cuz you wanted a sympathetic collective ear, and knew we were all (digitally) here for you? 😉 May your recovery be swift and your healing complete. ---
**Author:** ![Super\_Kapowzler](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/a698b9/32.png) [@Super\_Kapowzler](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Super_Kapowzler)\ **Post date:** [February 2, 2011, 12:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/tell-me-about-your-unplanned-pregnancy/568944/93 "2011-02-02T00:28:03Z")
Dear OV: My best on your recovery. In case you are still interested in the original direction of your thread, or need to be lulled to sleep, I’ll submit: Wow. Here is one thread I’d have never guessed I’d respond to. And I don’t usually start sentences with “and” and end them with a preposition. It was winter '88, during foreplay on a friend’s livingroom floor, when my GF informed me she was late, I can’t remember if it was Christmas- or New Year’s-Sex that had done it, but we made plans not to say much to anyone and “have it taken care of”. About 2 days before said “procedure”, a girl spiltthefuckingbeans to her mother, whom called my GF’s mother, and so on and so on. I was actually awaken by my screaming mother. ( I was living at home commuting to college,)The shit was like an f-in’ drill sergeant outta nowhere. I fessed up to the plans, (She was 18, I was 19, totally legal, totally our decision.) but none of that mattered. I was Satan at that point. Soon her parents arrived with her in tow, and we sat down in the living room. At this point, her mother(Bible “enthusiast”) starts to tear me apart, “Mortal Sinner” were the words she used. And this was BEFORE said procedure had taken place. She went on and on… There was a total lack of support, any support, by any of our parents. Except for my old man who did say, “get things verified” and the decision was up to us. A couple days later we drove to the place, through the protesters, and the procedure went through. Then we went to Pizza Hut. I think about that shit, more often than I care to admit. If we would have made another decision, maybe this, maybe that…I know full-term-adoption would have been such a daily Biblical-Hell-Scorn, on my GF, from her mother that she’d have probably miscarried at home. Who knows. So now it’s my early 40’s and I am alone. All the cool shit, knowledge, tricks, traits, stories and memories that are mine, will vanish. If a child is a “Gift from God” why do the Bible-Thumpers hate unwed mothers? Anyway that’s my unexpected pregnancy story. Word. Hope you feel better. K-Z ---
**Author:** ![StGermain](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/stgermain/32/2868_2.png) [@StGermain](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/StGermain)\ **Post date:** [February 2, 2011, 1:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/tell-me-about-your-unplanned-pregnancy/568944/94 "2011-02-02T01:22:34Z")
Good Lord! The SK is in his early 40’s??? StG ---
**Author:** ![Hedda\_Rosa](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/hedda_rosa/32/1204_2.png) [@Hedda\_Rosa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hedda_Rosa)\ **Post date:** [February 2, 2011, 1:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/tell-me-about-your-unplanned-pregnancy/568944/95 "2011-02-02T01:39:22Z")
Overlyverbose I didn’t post before but feel compelled to now, after reading your update. My unexpected third ended in an emergency hospitalization and loss of my left tube and ovary from a ectopic. I know exactly where you are at. I went to the hospital thinking it was a miscarriage, based on the bleeding but I knew it wasn’t usual, becuase the pain was different from my other losses. They parked me in the hall for a couple of hours because they didn’t think it was urgent but I was in surgery 25 min after the ultrasound they finally gave me. Afterward I was scared at being so close to losing my life, and for having been through my first surgery. I was relieved to not be pregnant without having to make a very hard decision, and also mad at my body for not performing as expected. But mostly relieved. The recovery was hard, both the physical side and emotionally. So allow yourself the time. And even while relieved you may need to mourn. It also seriously freaked out my husband who had thoughts of raising our two kids alone, without me. He was frightened all over again when I got pregnant again (and lost that one too). But when you can, hug your kids a lot and smell their warm little necks. It helps. ---
**Author:** ![Ritter](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/779978/32.png) [@Ritter](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ritter)\ **Post date:** [February 2, 2011, 2:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/tell-me-about-your-unplanned-pregnancy/568944/96 "2011-02-02T02:23:59Z")
Ohhhh, sweetheart, what a rough time you’ve had. Best wishes for a swift recovery. {{{{{overlyverbose}}}}} ---
**Author:** ![PandaBear77](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/edb3f5/32.png) [@PandaBear77](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PandaBear77)\ **Post date:** [February 2, 2011, 10:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/tell-me-about-your-unplanned-pregnancy/568944/97 "2011-02-02T10:55:37Z")
Damn OV ☹ I’m sorry you went through this ☹ Glad it was caught before things got REALLY really bad, though! _hugs_ ---
**Author:** ![Ladymarmalade](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/f05b48/32.png) [@Ladymarmalade](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ladymarmalade)\ **Post date:** [February 2, 2011, 3:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/tell-me-about-your-unplanned-pregnancy/568944/98 "2011-02-02T15:19:51Z")
> [@overlyverbose](#): > > Please. I’m freaking out. I just found out I’m pregnant even though I’m still breastfeeding and on the mini-pill (I guess the mini-pill is part of the problem). I don’t know what to do - this was completely unplanned (obviously). We were done with having kids. Our youngest just turned 14 months. We might not even have the finances to have a 3rd. I don’t know what to do! > > Please tell me that, whatever we decide, this will be ok. Please. I’m terrified. Bah, I’ve had three unplanned pregnancies. Whatever you decide, it will be okay. It just will. Don’t worry. ---
**Author:** ![Ladymarmalade](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/f05b48/32.png) [@Ladymarmalade](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ladymarmalade)\ **Post date:** [February 2, 2011, 4:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/tell-me-about-your-unplanned-pregnancy/568944/99 "2011-02-02T16:01:51Z")
Oh, sorry, OP. I didn’t read the whole thread. I hope things go well for you and that you feel better soon. ---
**Author:** ![Ellen\_Cherry](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ellen_cherry/32/3600_2.png) [@Ellen\_Cherry](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ellen_Cherry)\ **Post date:** [February 2, 2011, 4:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/tell-me-about-your-unplanned-pregnancy/568944/100 "2011-02-02T16:33:31Z")
Thinking of you, **OverlyV**. I’ve been where you are too. And a hug for the **Kapowz** , too. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/tell-me-about-your-unplanned-pregnancy/568944.md?page=4)