# Tell Me Something You’re Not Supposed To Say **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [December 25, 2022, 3:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/tell-me-something-you-re-not-supposed-to-say/977064 "2022-12-25T03:34:53Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 6
**Author:** ![Little\_Nemo](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/little_nemo/32/3120_2.png) [@Little\_Nemo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Little_Nemo)\ **Post date:** [December 26, 2022, 11:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/tell-me-something-you-re-not-supposed-to-say/977064/101 "2022-12-26T23:57:46Z")
> [@Moriarty](#): > > Good culture comes from bad treatment; the worse people are treated, the better their music, cuisine, and art I’d say good culture comes from a combination of bad treatment and talent. The few people with talent may be able to use their suffering as the inspiration for art. Everyone else just suffers. ---
**Author:** ![Lumpy](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lumpy/32/446_2.png) [@Lumpy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lumpy)\ **Post date:** [December 27, 2022, 12:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/tell-me-something-you-re-not-supposed-to-say/977064/102 "2022-12-27T00:01:01Z")
> [@tripthicket](#): > > Out of curiosity, I signed up for this NextDoor thing. My address is apparently surrounded by a sea of green (depicting the neighborhood zone all around me), but I am in an awkwardly-hacked slice in the middle of it. Thus, I am not in a recognized neighborhood. My options now are to start a NextDoor zone myself Long Live Grand Fenwick! ---
**Author:** ![Little\_Nemo](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/little_nemo/32/3120_2.png) [@Little\_Nemo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Little_Nemo)\ **Post date:** [December 27, 2022, 12:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/tell-me-something-you-re-not-supposed-to-say/977064/103 "2022-12-27T00:02:16Z")
> [@Apodder](#): > > I find NextDoor to be populated by mainly idiotic and/or mean-spirited people. Sad to know they’re in my neighborhood… I made the mistake of signing up for NextDoor. I didn’t enjoy reading posts which were the equivalent of cranky people complaining about kids on their lawn. And it was very difficult to get my name off the mailing list. ---
**Author:** ![JaneDoe42](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/janedoe42/32/14104_2.png) [@JaneDoe42](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JaneDoe42)\ **Post date:** [December 27, 2022, 12:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/tell-me-something-you-re-not-supposed-to-say/977064/104 "2022-12-27T00:09:15Z")
> [@tripthicket](#): > > My options now are to start a NextDoor zone myself (no) or…wait for someone else to do so. If you poke around in your settings, you can change your borders to include all of the areas you are interested in. Not defending their crappy platform, just saying. > [@Spice\_Weasel](#): > > You could be like my husband and refer to your partner as a “moderately good cook” during a social gathering. I would never do such a thing. I don’t discuss my feelings about his cooking with anyone. ---
**Author:** ![Spice\_Weasel](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/spice_weasel/32/5435_2.png) [@Spice\_Weasel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Spice_Weasel)\ **Post date:** [December 27, 2022, 12:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/tell-me-something-you-re-not-supposed-to-say/977064/105 "2022-12-27T00:10:49Z")
I believe he thought he was paying me a compliment. It’s that qualifier though… his need to be accurate and precise will be the death of him. ---
**Author:** ![carnut](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/carnut/32/3531_2.png) [@carnut](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/carnut)\ **Post date:** [December 27, 2022, 12:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/tell-me-something-you-re-not-supposed-to-say/977064/106 "2022-12-27T00:12:14Z")
I told a couple of MBA-bearing managers that they needed to quit trying to quantify all the qualities of their employees interactions with customers because there are things they simply won’t capture with numbers and then let them try to argue with me. I was a contract-to-hire. I was not hired and I was relieved about it. They still could not figure out why customers were unhappy with their poor customer service when their dashboards said otherwise. Maybe they could… ask the customers? ---
**Author:** ![carrps](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/carrps/32/2957_2.png) [@carrps](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/carrps)\ **Post date:** [December 27, 2022, 12:22am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/tell-me-something-you-re-not-supposed-to-say/977064/107 "2022-12-27T00:22:30Z")
> [@needscoffee](#): > > It’s very useful for this, and I’ve had no flakes, unlike on Craigslist. I’ve also found it useful for recommendations of local plumbers, mechanics, etc. I just ignore the BS. This. The political stuff is mostly crazies, and there’s soooooo much whining about crime. Other than the above, I ignore it. ---
**Author:** ![JaneDoe42](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/janedoe42/32/14104_2.png) [@JaneDoe42](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JaneDoe42)\ **Post date:** [December 27, 2022, 12:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/tell-me-something-you-re-not-supposed-to-say/977064/108 "2022-12-27T00:55:29Z")
> [@Spice\_Weasel](#): > > It’s that qualifier though… his need to be accurate and precise will be the death of him. That will get better with time. > [@aurora\_maire](#): > > “OMG you’re an idiot.” This is what I’m not supposed to say on Nextdoor even though sometimes I really, really want to. But if I did, I would get banned and I would miss reading jewels like this one: That is how I ended up being a Nextdoor lead. It forces me to keep my mouth shut. One of the things I have learned since then is that it is almost impossible to ban anyone. We can’t even remove a member who we know has left the state without a bunch of bother. The best we can do is take down all of the offensive posts as soon as we can, but there aren’t a bunch of us dummies so moderation can take days. > [@Spice\_Weasel](#): > > Is it a thing where you can give away items? There is. There is a For Sale or Free section, you can post there and ask folks to message you if interested so they can make arrangements to pick up. Hubs brews beer and I give his spent grain to folks who have chickens so I use that section a bunch. Ours is very active, a lot of very nice stuff being given away or sold for pennies. ---
**Author:** ![Apodder](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/apodder/32/17727_2.png) [@Apodder](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Apodder)\ **Post date:** [December 27, 2022, 1:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/tell-me-something-you-re-not-supposed-to-say/977064/109 "2022-12-27T01:25:34Z")
Yes. My husband actually started our local group and can’t seem to extricate himself now that he’s seen how it really is. ---
**Author:** ![mundylion](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mundylion/32/3604_2.png) [@mundylion](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/mundylion)\ **Post date:** [December 27, 2022, 1:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/tell-me-something-you-re-not-supposed-to-say/977064/110 "2022-12-27T01:35:12Z")
I am oldest of a family of 8 kids and waited until I was in my 40’s to have a child, an only child. I was also, and am quite satisfied with only one child but I have come to find out that I think he misses that experience, of being one of a ‘mob’. He knows he had things that others didn’t and while I know he liked it, I also know he now knows that he missed something. No going back but… ---
**Author:** ![JaneDoe42](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/janedoe42/32/14104_2.png) [@JaneDoe42](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JaneDoe42)\ **Post date:** [December 27, 2022, 1:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/tell-me-something-you-re-not-supposed-to-say/977064/111 "2022-12-27T01:50:04Z")
Hubs was an only child. I have 2 normal sisters and one batshit crazy sister. Hubs has lived through so much second hand drama and chaos due to the crazy one that he is very happy he was an only child. ---
**Author:** ![Spice\_Weasel](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/spice_weasel/32/5435_2.png) [@Spice\_Weasel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Spice_Weasel)\ **Post date:** [December 27, 2022, 2:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/tell-me-something-you-re-not-supposed-to-say/977064/112 "2022-12-27T02:09:53Z")
Did he miss something? It’s pretty much a roll of the dice. Some people hate their siblings, who were crazy, or beat them up, or worse. I was an only child, with a regularly rotating cast of step-siblings. I preferred being alone. I get the sense that my son does too, though as he gets older, who knows? Right now he is a lot like me, not at all interested in kids his own age and wanting to be around adults all the time. ---
**Author:** ![teelabrown](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/teelabrown/32/8412_2.png) [@teelabrown](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/teelabrown)\ **Post date:** [December 27, 2022, 2:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/tell-me-something-you-re-not-supposed-to-say/977064/113 "2022-12-27T02:12:40Z")
> [@Lumpy](#): > > Were his relatives [Volga Germans] . . . ? No way of knowing, since I can’t ask him without his finding out about my snooping. But I do know that in the 1950s (when he was visiting them in the midwest), it was not a good time to be a Russian in the U.S. ---
**Author:** ![DesertDog](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/desertdog/32/11503_2.png) [@DesertDog](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DesertDog)\ **Post date:** [December 27, 2022, 6:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/tell-me-something-you-re-not-supposed-to-say/977064/114 "2022-12-27T06:40:30Z")
> [@Spice\_Weasel](#): > > “He’s doing it to himself, I’m just documenting.” Future generations, having their date stop by, will be treated to an embarrassing highlights reel shown instead stories told. ---
**Author:** ![Beckdawrek](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/beckdawrek/32/3647_2.png) [@Beckdawrek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Beckdawrek)\ **Post date:** [December 27, 2022, 6:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/tell-me-something-you-re-not-supposed-to-say/977064/115 "2022-12-27T06:45:43Z")
I love telling my daughter what’s wrong with her kids. Of course she doesn’t believe me or care. They’re great boys really. But like most kids they get on the nerves. I think they practice how to. ---
**Author:** ![Robot\_Arm](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/robot_arm/32/18280_2.png) [@Robot\_Arm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Robot_Arm)\ **Post date:** [December 27, 2022, 7:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/tell-me-something-you-re-not-supposed-to-say/977064/116 "2022-12-27T07:11:07Z")
> [@Spice\_Weasel](#): > > The one exception I’ve made to sharing photos/videos is I have a hilarious video of my then-18 month old son trying and failing to mount a scooter. He gets his foot caught in it and falls over, in slow motion, with his feet tangled in the scooter, wheels-up, and he makes these helpless “eehhh” noises while he lies on the floor, softly flailing. His father is filming and laughing. And from off-camera you can hear me say, “What are you doing to our son?” When I see videos like that, my response is not to laugh; I say “put the camera down and help.” ---
**Author:** ![Moonrise](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/moonrise/32/14764_2.png) [@Moonrise](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Moonrise)\ **Post date:** [December 27, 2022, 10:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/tell-me-something-you-re-not-supposed-to-say/977064/117 "2022-12-27T10:14:45Z")
> [@DoctorJ](#): > > I know we have to perpetuate the species and all…but do we really ? … I don’t know. However, I think that “perpetuating the species” is the only objective purpose of life. Career, arts, sports, knowledge, and first and foremost, feelings are delusions which have no real, intrinsic value. They’re only useful in that they maximize the number of people who get to reproduce. Whether that is ultimately a good thing is another question. ---
**Author:** ![MrDibble](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mrdibble/32/114_2.png) [@MrDibble](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MrDibble)\ **Post date:** [December 27, 2022, 10:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/tell-me-something-you-re-not-supposed-to-say/977064/118 "2022-12-27T10:46:42Z")
You’re not “an introvert”, you’re just shit at normal human interaction. Jung himself, who invented the terms, thought people like you should be in an asylum. He also said the same of pure extroverts. ---
**Author:** ![cincinnatus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cincinnatus/32/7990_2.png) [@cincinnatus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cincinnatus)\ **Post date:** [December 27, 2022, 11:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/tell-me-something-you-re-not-supposed-to-say/977064/119 "2022-12-27T11:23:36Z")
I told an obnoxious neighbor that he is insane. He is. Others heard about the incident and privately agreed with me, but nobody else would say it. The crazy neighbor still waves snd smiles, which is puzzling. If I were him, I wouldn’t. I think he knows I don’t mean him harm, but just know he’s out of touch with anything real. ---
**Author:** ![JohnT](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/johnt/32/15048_2.png) [@JohnT](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JohnT)\ **Post date:** [December 27, 2022, 11:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/tell-me-something-you-re-not-supposed-to-say/977064/120 "2022-12-27T11:32:18Z")
… a random walk re: some thoughts about the US Military… 1. Military veterans, especially those with pensions, especially those with _double_ pensions, are the most privileged beneficiaries of socialism on the planet, especially when compared to the general population. 2. If you want to reduce the odds of the US government becoming ‘tyrannical’, don’t fight for expanded 2nd amendment rights, fight to reduce the size of the military by, oh, $700 billion annually. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/tell-me-something-you-re-not-supposed-to-say/977064.md?page=5) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/tell-me-something-you-re-not-supposed-to-say/977064.md?page=7)