# Term for a male "mistress"?
**URL:** https://boards.straightdope.com/t/term-for-a-male-mistress/1950
**Category:** Factual Questions
**Created:** [July 12, 1999, 4:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/term-for-a-male-mistress/1950 "1999-07-12T16:45:00Z")
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### Author:  [@system](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/system)
#### Post date: [July 13, 1999, 4:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/term-for-a-male-mistress/1950/21 "1999-07-13T16:09:00Z")
Having been in this unfortunate situation in the past (ie, seeing a man who happened to be married) I can tell you we referred to each other as “lover.” I would occasionally joke about being his mistress, which he took great exception to.
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### Author:  [@system](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/system)
#### Post date: [July 14, 1999, 4:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/term-for-a-male-mistress/1950/22 "1999-07-14T04:17:00Z")
It’s pronounced chee-chuz-BAY-oh. Where the u is actually a schwa.
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