# Term for "Unhappy person who wants everyone else to be unhappy"? **URL:** \ **Category:** Factual Questions\ **Created:** [May 10, 2004, 4:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/term-for-unhappy-person-who-wants-everyone-else-to-be-unhappy/244415 "2004-05-10T04:51:04Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Ranchoth](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ranchoth/32/1066_2.png) [@Ranchoth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ranchoth)\ **Post date:** [May 10, 2004, 4:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/term-for-unhappy-person-who-wants-everyone-else-to-be-unhappy/244415/1 "2004-05-10T04:51:04Z")
To expand on the title a bit more…Is there a term for “A person who wants everyone else to be miserable because they themselves are unhappy”? That’s a bit more descriptive, at least. Even if I’m probably mangling the grammar. :smack: If my copy of [Depraved and Insulting English](http://www.amazon.com/exec/obidos/tg/detail/-/0156011492/qid=1084163798/sr=8-1/ref=sr_8_xs_ap_i1_xgl14/102-5212716-6260142?v=glance&s=books&n=507846) has taught me nothing else, it’s that there’s bound to be a precise term already dreamt up for any weird or bizarre thing a person can possibly imagine. And the…personality type, as it were, that I’m asking about doesn’t even seem that bizarre. (Compared to something like “Copremesis,” anyway.) However, in this case, I’m drawing a complete blank. Can anyone help me out? Ranchoth ---
**Author:** ![Reepicheep](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/ed655f/32.png) [@Reepicheep](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Reepicheep)\ **Post date:** [May 10, 2004, 5:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/term-for-unhappy-person-who-wants-everyone-else-to-be-unhappy/244415/2 "2004-05-10T05:19:59Z")
Miserable, perhaps, leading to: misery loves company. ---
**Author:** ![ccwaterback](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/df705f/32.png) [@ccwaterback](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ccwaterback)\ **Post date:** [May 10, 2004, 5:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/term-for-unhappy-person-who-wants-everyone-else-to-be-unhappy/244415/3 "2004-05-10T05:28:07Z")
I have always called these people “anchors”. They want to pull you down to their level of misery. Don’t let them tie an anchor to your leg. No matter how unpleasant they try to make your separation from them, it’s worth the effort. ---
**Author:** ![Rex\_Fenestrarum](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/rex_fenestrarum/32/7265_2.png) [@Rex\_Fenestrarum](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rex_Fenestrarum)\ **Post date:** [May 10, 2004, 5:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/term-for-unhappy-person-who-wants-everyone-else-to-be-unhappy/244415/4 "2004-05-10T05:29:55Z")
Democrats? ---
**Author:** ![elfbabe](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/b782af/32.png) [@elfbabe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/elfbabe)\ **Post date:** [May 10, 2004, 5:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/term-for-unhappy-person-who-wants-everyone-else-to-be-unhappy/244415/5 "2004-05-10T05:49:06Z")
Scrooge? ---
**Author:** ![lynxie](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/e99b99/32.png) [@lynxie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lynxie)\ **Post date:** [May 10, 2004, 6:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/term-for-unhappy-person-who-wants-everyone-else-to-be-unhappy/244415/6 "2004-05-10T06:16:06Z")
killjoy? ---
**Author:** ![Squink](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/b5e925/32.png) [@Squink](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Squink)\ **Post date:** [May 10, 2004, 6:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/term-for-unhappy-person-who-wants-everyone-else-to-be-unhappy/244415/7 "2004-05-10T06:43:00Z")
A [drag](http://dictionary.reference.com/search?q=drag). > [@](#): > > 1. _Slang_. One that is obnoxiously tiresome ---
**Author:** ![Askia](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/96bed5/32.png) [@Askia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Askia)\ **Post date:** [May 10, 2004, 7:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/term-for-unhappy-person-who-wants-everyone-else-to-be-unhappy/244415/8 "2004-05-10T07:00:37Z")
I think the term and profession you’re groping for is “Blues Musician.” ---
**Author:** ![cckerberos](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/f0a364/32.png) [@cckerberos](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/cckerberos)\ **Post date:** [May 10, 2004, 7:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/term-for-unhappy-person-who-wants-everyone-else-to-be-unhappy/244415/9 "2004-05-10T07:05:37Z")
Livia? ---
**Author:** ![Otto](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/bbe5ce/32.png) [@Otto](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Otto)\ **Post date:** [May 10, 2004, 7:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/term-for-unhappy-person-who-wants-everyone-else-to-be-unhappy/244415/10 "2004-05-10T07:08:41Z")
Party-pooper ---
**Author:** ![Dr.Rieux](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/aeb1de/32.png) [@Dr.Rieux](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dr.Rieux)\ **Post date:** [May 10, 2004, 7:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/term-for-unhappy-person-who-wants-everyone-else-to-be-unhappy/244415/11 "2004-05-10T07:09:46Z")
Puritan? ---
**Author:** ![Blake](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/a9a28c/32.png) [@Blake](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Blake)\ **Post date:** [May 10, 2004, 7:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/term-for-unhappy-person-who-wants-everyone-else-to-be-unhappy/244415/12 "2004-05-10T07:14:40Z")
Wet blanket. ---
**Author:** ![Dr.Rieux](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/aeb1de/32.png) [@Dr.Rieux](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dr.Rieux)\ **Post date:** [May 10, 2004, 7:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/term-for-unhappy-person-who-wants-everyone-else-to-be-unhappy/244415/13 "2004-05-10T07:18:52Z")
I’ve got it: _LIMBAUGH!_ ---
**Author:** ![Askia](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/96bed5/32.png) [@Askia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Askia)\ **Post date:** [May 10, 2004, 7:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/term-for-unhappy-person-who-wants-everyone-else-to-be-unhappy/244415/14 "2004-05-10T07:24:46Z")
Lucille Van Pelt ---
**Author:** ![GuanoLad](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guanolad/32/42_2.png) [@GuanoLad](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GuanoLad)\ **Post date:** [May 10, 2004, 7:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/term-for-unhappy-person-who-wants-everyone-else-to-be-unhappy/244415/15 "2004-05-10T07:39:01Z")
Miseryguts. ---
**Author:** ![bibliophage](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bibliophage/32/7615_2.png) [@bibliophage](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bibliophage)\ **Post date:** [May 10, 2004, 7:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/term-for-unhappy-person-who-wants-everyone-else-to-be-unhappy/244415/16 "2004-05-10T07:50:41Z")
> [@Rex Fenestrarum](#): > > Democrats? > [@Dr. Rieux](#): > > I’ve got it: > > LIMBAUGH! Political potshots are not permitted in this forum. Consider yourselves warned. bibliophage moderator GQ ---
**Author:** ![Ross](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e274bd/32.png) [@Ross](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ross)\ **Post date:** [May 10, 2004, 8:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/term-for-unhappy-person-who-wants-everyone-else-to-be-unhappy/244415/17 "2004-05-10T08:28:30Z")
My wife is not usually the first to offer word definitions, but on this one she’s absolutely certain. It’s a “Ross”, apparently. A “Ross”. She is most insistent. I wonder where she’s suddenly found such a strong sense for words! That’s “Ross”. She must mean the guy off Friends, I suppose. ---
**Author:** ![Billdo](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/billdo/32/315_2.png) [@Billdo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Billdo)\ **Post date:** [May 10, 2004, 10:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/term-for-unhappy-person-who-wants-everyone-else-to-be-unhappy/244415/18 "2004-05-10T10:43:21Z")
Are you talking about a “fun vacuum”? Someone that comes into a social situation and sucks all of the fun out of it? ---
**Author:** ![GreyWanderer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/7cd45c/32.png) [@GreyWanderer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GreyWanderer)\ **Post date:** [May 10, 2004, 11:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/term-for-unhappy-person-who-wants-everyone-else-to-be-unhappy/244415/19 "2004-05-10T11:20:55Z")
Goth? ---
**Author:** ![bizzwire](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/958977/32.png) [@bizzwire](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bizzwire)\ **Post date:** [May 10, 2004, 11:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/term-for-unhappy-person-who-wants-everyone-else-to-be-unhappy/244415/20 "2004-05-10T11:26:24Z")
that would be “my wife” [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/term-for-unhappy-person-who-wants-everyone-else-to-be-unhappy/244415.md?page=2)