# Thanksgiving post election - how's yours going to go? **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [November 13, 2016, 12:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/thanksgiving-post-election-hows-yours-going-to-go/771741 "2016-11-13T00:33:36Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![peedin](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/peedin/32/14095_2.png) [@peedin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/peedin)\ **Post date:** [November 13, 2016, 4:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/thanksgiving-post-election-hows-yours-going-to-go/771741/21 "2016-11-13T16:41:56Z")
My niece, nephew, his wife, and 4 year old will be in for T-Day. I haven’t seen any of them in 2 years. We will be going to a relative’s house (who probably thinks Trump is God-like) but there will be enough hub-bub to drown him out. My sister and I have decided that between us, politics is an off-limits discussion. ---
**Author:** ![alphaboi867](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/alphaboi867/32/3898_2.png) [@alphaboi867](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/alphaboi867)\ **Post date:** [November 13, 2016, 11:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/thanksgiving-post-election-hows-yours-going-to-go/771741/22 "2016-11-13T23:04:38Z")
Well I skipped the “early Thanksgiving” dinner the with the extended family that my brother had yesterday who’s going into the Marines. Also nobody bothered to tell me about it or invite me until Friday evening. :mad: ---
**Author:** ![Briny\_Deep](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/briny_deep/32/17188_2.png) [@Briny\_Deep](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Briny_Deep)\ **Post date:** [November 13, 2016, 11:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/thanksgiving-post-election-hows-yours-going-to-go/771741/23 "2016-11-13T23:12:16Z")
I am same-sex-married. My husband works for a section of the federal government which Trump has pledged to slash. I work for local government and my job is dependent on federal funding of the sort he has also pledged to slash. My parents are very supportive of my marriage, or so they have said, but they are Republican above all else. Over the last several months I begged them both to at least abstain, if they couldn’t vote Democratic. I explained how personal this election was for me, and the very direct and specific ways Trump and his crew have promised to damage my family. But in the end, while they acknowledged my concerns, other issues turned out to be more important to them. My father voted for Trump because of fetuses. My mother voted for Trump because Hillary said she was “deplorable.” Yeah, so, no Thanksgiving this year. ---
**Author:** ![kopek](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kopek/32/337_2.png) [@kopek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kopek)\ **Post date:** [November 13, 2016, 11:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/thanksgiving-post-election-hows-yours-going-to-go/771741/24 "2016-11-13T23:16:37Z")
Mines going to be fine just like I planned it; the wife will be out of town and I’m working a double so I won’t need to see or speak to anyone except in passing. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Baker](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/bb73d2/32.png) [@Baker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Baker)\ **Post date:** [November 14, 2016, 12:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/thanksgiving-post-election-hows-yours-going-to-go/771741/25 "2016-11-14T00:37:18Z")
I have an aunt, in Arkansas, who has been active in Republican politics at state and federal levels, for decades. She was even on Huckabee’s political team for a while. But while she’s a dedicated GOP member she hasn’t spoken of this election at all on recent visits. In our family we don’t really talk about politics when we’re together on the holidays, so I think everything will be fine ---
**Author:** ![Buttercup\_Smith](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/buttercup_smith/32/473_2.png) [@Buttercup\_Smith](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Buttercup_Smith)\ **Post date:** [November 14, 2016, 12:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/thanksgiving-post-election-hows-yours-going-to-go/771741/26 "2016-11-14T00:58:13Z")
It will be same as usual here. It’s just the two of us and even though I think hubby is a closet Trump voter we just don’t discuss it. We usually cook a big feast and may again or we may go out. ---
**Author:** ![seal\_cleaner](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/e274bd/32.png) [@seal\_cleaner](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/seal_cleaner)\ **Post date:** [November 14, 2016, 1:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/thanksgiving-post-election-hows-yours-going-to-go/771741/27 "2016-11-14T01:01:57Z")
We usually gather with my wife’s sisters and their families - southern baptist trump/tea party people. We’re both liberals, and this is the first year in a long time she doesn’t want to go. It’s her call to make. I have just disengaged and wandered off when things got political in the past. ---
**Author:** ![samclem](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/a9a28c/32.png) [@samclem](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/samclem)\ **Post date:** [November 14, 2016, 1:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/thanksgiving-post-election-hows-yours-going-to-go/771741/28 "2016-11-14T01:28:02Z")
Lucky here. All in the family and extended family are liberal Dems. And we all seem to not be depressed. Disappointed, but life goes on, things will get better. ---
**Author:** ![ekedolphin](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ekedolphin/32/10003_2.png) [@ekedolphin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ekedolphin)\ **Post date:** [November 14, 2016, 2:41am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/thanksgiving-post-election-hows-yours-going-to-go/771741/29 "2016-11-14T02:41:51Z")
Mom and I (who voted for Clinton) have Thanksgiving dinner with my landlady and her family. Our landlady and landlord both voted for Trump. I think their son voted for Clinton, but I don’t know. The landlord’s a bit of a batshit conspiracy theorist, but I’m used to tuning him out. I’m expecting a lovely dinner, no sarcasm intended. We have different political opinions, but we all believe in the same God, and we all love each other. ---
**Author:** ![Fair\_Rarity](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/fair_rarity/32/153_2.png) [@Fair\_Rarity](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Fair_Rarity)\ **Post date:** [November 14, 2016, 2:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/thanksgiving-post-election-hows-yours-going-to-go/771741/30 "2016-11-14T02:45:40Z")
Thanksgiving on the surface shouldn’t be bad. There are crazy, illogical conservatives going, but they generally don’t bring it up. _I_ plan on not bringing it up if I go, but sometimes my mouth moves faster than my brain. The “regulars” won’t bring it up. It’s the wild card family that might show up that like to “discuss” things that might make the shit show. They’re liberal, but I think it should just not be brought up at all cause then the illogical ones go batshit. Christmas will be worse because the nastier people (in beliefs and temperament) tend to be there. I did do a headcount and they are outnumbered by what I am calling The Table of Sanity, but they’re LOUDER. But… I might bail on both and NYE. Shit, I might be taking myself out of 2017 holidays. I’ve disagreed with these people my entire life, but this is the first time I can’t even look them in the face. I might get better as time goes on, but I don’t know. For me this is more than a disagreement. It’s a character flaw. And because they won’t understand or take the time to have empathy for me, just call me a liberal cry baby or something, it’s not going to end pretty. I have to be the bigger person. That’s my designated role in the family. So I might have to avoid it all to fulfill my destiny. My family putting the fun in dysfunction since I can remember. ---
**Author:** ![Magiver](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/4491bb/32.png) [@Magiver](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Magiver)\ **Post date:** [November 14, 2016, 3:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/thanksgiving-post-election-hows-yours-going-to-go/771741/31 "2016-11-14T03:40:45Z")
I’m looking forward to Thanksgiving as usual with family and friends. We disagree on all manner of stuff and yet somehow we get along. Go figure. ---
**Author:** ![pulykamell](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/pulykamell/32/3166_2.png) [@pulykamell](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pulykamell)\ **Post date:** [November 14, 2016, 4:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/thanksgiving-post-election-hows-yours-going-to-go/771741/32 "2016-11-14T04:15:32Z")
No problems here. Thanksgiving is my favorite holiday, bar none. I don’t even know what my inlaws (where we go for Thanksgiving every year) think about the election. I’m pretty sure they’re Republican, but I have no idea if they support Trump or not and I don’t particularly care. My folks, I believe, are both Trump supporters, but they barely even mentioned the election today at dinner. I think they were as surprised as anyone. Even though I grew up in a nominally “blue” city like Chicago, I don’t remember meeting my first true liberal until college. There were plenty of Democrats here, sure, but I’d hardly call them liberal. More like working class union democrats (which have slowly bled into the Republican party, it seems.) So I’m sort of used to it. ---
**Author:** ![pullin](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/c57346/32.png) [@pullin](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pullin)\ **Post date:** [November 14, 2016, 11:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/thanksgiving-post-election-hows-yours-going-to-go/771741/33 "2016-11-14T11:36:08Z")
No change this year, same as always. We’re grownups who understand people can disagree politically for rational reasons. There are a few who view the world only through a political or religious lens, and we do not subject ourselves to them. We only tolerate the extremists for weddings and funerals. ---
**Author:** ![The\_Other\_Waldo\_Pepper](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/the_other_waldo_pepper/32/12370_2.png) [@The\_Other\_Waldo\_Pepper](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Other_Waldo_Pepper)\ **Post date:** [November 14, 2016, 12:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/thanksgiving-post-election-hows-yours-going-to-go/771741/34 "2016-11-14T12:16:50Z")
I would bet cash money that my mother-in-law will give thanks that babies are no longer going to get murdered in this country. (I mean, she’s _already_ doing that; it’s just that I’d bet cash money she’ll also loudly do it _at Thanksgiving dinner_.) ---
**Author:** ![Eva\_Luna](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/e495f1/32.png) [@Eva\_Luna](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Eva_Luna)\ **Post date:** [November 14, 2016, 3:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/thanksgiving-post-election-hows-yours-going-to-go/771741/35 "2016-11-14T15:01:27Z")
> [@kunilou](#): > > My son and his girlfriend have invited all of us to his place for the holiday. It may be the only family gathering in the U.S. where everyone will be on the same political wavelength. > > Being a family gathering, though, we’ll probably find something else to fight about.😃 You are not alone in either of those 🙂 My gay neighbors, both of whom are from Indiana, are kind of dreading the holidays this year - all of their immediate family voted for Trump. I told them that I’m sure anyone who mattered would totally understand if they didn’t go home for the holidays, and they were more than welcome to come over for Christmas. ---
**Author:** ![2gigch1](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/2gigch1/32/3313_2.png) [@2gigch1](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/2gigch1)\ **Post date:** [November 14, 2016, 3:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/thanksgiving-post-election-hows-yours-going-to-go/771741/36 "2016-11-14T15:39:53Z")
I’ve been very fortunate that I was raised in an extended family that knows how to get along. If, and I mean IF a political comment is made it might elicit 30 seconds of discussion then it’s back to other topics. There may very well be differences of opinion but no one would dare let that interfere with family. That said the days of the extended family get together have ended as my parents generation, all still alive in their mid late 80’s, find travel difficult. So I’m having a smaller event with kids & friends, and that too shall be crass free. ---
**Author:** ![JoseB](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/joseb/32/1530_2.png) [@JoseB](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JoseB)\ **Post date:** [November 14, 2016, 9:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/thanksgiving-post-election-hows-yours-going-to-go/771741/37 "2016-11-14T21:49:39Z")
All this reminds me of a French editorial cartoon from 1898 that seems to me would be quite “à propos” for the situation being discussed in this thread 🙂 It was during the whole mess of the “Dreyfus Affair”. The scene, a big family dinner. Two panels, a “before” and an “after” 🙂 Check it out in this link. [http://www.thirdwave-websites.com/blog/dreyfus-affair.jpg](http://www.thirdwave-websites.com/blog/dreyfus-affair.jpg) ---
**Author:** ![WildBlueYonder](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/ce7236/32.png) [@WildBlueYonder](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/WildBlueYonder)\ **Post date:** [November 14, 2016, 11:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/thanksgiving-post-election-hows-yours-going-to-go/771741/38 "2016-11-14T23:25:57Z")
Going to my cousins for dinner, just the three of us and she didnt vote but she’s on my side. Trump! I’m not a racist by no/any means! I want to see the illegals out of here. Sure the US is made up with immigrants but they came LEGALLY! Why are both sides of the story EVER spoken or revealed?? We’re having spiral sliced ham and she’s cooking the rest but I am making desserts! ---
**Author:** ![BetsQ](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/fbc32d/32.png) [@BetsQ](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BetsQ)\ **Post date:** [November 16, 2016, 4:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/thanksgiving-post-election-hows-yours-going-to-go/771741/39 "2016-11-16T16:21:38Z")
One silver lining for me is that my Republican BIL is a vocal member of the never Trump corner of the party. We’ve never been grumpy about politics at the same time before, so that will be a potentially nice change. I think there will be some small town evangelical types there as well. I don’t even know what we’re going to talk about. ---
**Author:** ![kayaker](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kayaker/32/441_2.png) [@kayaker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kayaker)\ **Post date:** [November 16, 2016, 4:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/thanksgiving-post-election-hows-yours-going-to-go/771741/40 "2016-11-16T16:54:13Z")
We always do Thanksgiving with my gf’s very liberal family. Last year an elderly Aunt was talking about how costly her medications had become. I quipped, “Don’t worry, President Trump will take care of that”. Everyone cracked up. It was funny because it was _so_ not going to happen. I hope nobody remembers. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/thanksgiving-post-election-hows-yours-going-to-go/771741.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/thanksgiving-post-election-hows-yours-going-to-go/771741.md?page=3)