# The BJ Thread: give me some, uh, pointers **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [June 24, 2006, 12:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-bj-thread-give-me-some-uh-pointers/361931 "2006-06-24T00:18:28Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 5
**Author:** ![Poysyn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/f4b2a3/32.png) [@Poysyn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Poysyn)\ **Post date:** [July 2, 2006, 2:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-bj-thread-give-me-some-uh-pointers/361931/81 "2006-07-02T02:54:13Z")
> [@BiblioCat](#): > > Details, people, details! What do I do with the Altoid or Halls? I think I’d prefer an Altoid. I hate mentholated stuff. What is the affect on the Altoid-ee? I held the halls in my mouth while doing it. Lick it all over then pull it out and breathe on it gently. It supposedly feels pretty nifty. You can keep the halls in your cheek during. It’s a novelty trick. \*\*Enthusiasm is key. I once went to a seminar by Nina Hartley and she gave basically the same advice. \*\* ---
**Author:** ![Hostile\_Dialect](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/e495f1/32.png) [@Hostile\_Dialect](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hostile_Dialect)\ **Post date:** [July 2, 2006, 3:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-bj-thread-give-me-some-uh-pointers/361931/82 "2006-07-02T03:16:06Z")
> [@Mama Zappa](#): > > The giver chews up a few Altoids. While still enjoying the cool mouth tingle, pleasure your partner. Definitely works well when the recipient is male. I don’t know if it would be quite so successful for a female recipient Someone else is free to conduct _that_ experiment! I’ve heard it works fantastically, and that in fact it’s also a great idea to actually stick a mint (though not an Altoid as they’re too strong) in there, or leave it in your mouth and letting it dissolve naturally during the act rather than chewing it up first. ---
**Author:** ![Civil\_Guy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/d78d45/32.png) [@Civil\_Guy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Civil_Guy)\ **Post date:** [July 2, 2006, 4:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-bj-thread-give-me-some-uh-pointers/361931/83 "2006-07-02T04:19:48Z")
Right, a lot of it is the caring involved. The ex-GF loved to give blow jobs; as much as anything, she just loved my erection. And I loved her for that. One minor point: after the guy’s orgasm, things are a little messy. Still, the lady liked to lick up the mess. Problem is that at such a time, the head and underneath are especially sensitive. There are times when the ladies are especially sensitive, no? Probably a bit like that. That is, she got me to flinch a few times. But such a small price to pay. ---
**Author:** ![WhyNot](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/c77e96/32.png) [@WhyNot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/WhyNot)\ **Post date:** [July 2, 2006, 4:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-bj-thread-give-me-some-uh-pointers/361931/84 "2006-07-02T04:25:40Z")
> [@fetus](#): > > I’ve heard it works fantastically, and that in fact it’s also a great idea to actually stick a mint (though not an Altoid as they’re too strong) in there, or leave it in your mouth and letting it dissolve naturally during the act rather than chewing it up first. The same can be done with (small) ice cubes, to great effect. They’re what I use if I have dry mouth - they also refresh me! Trap it between his penis and your tongue and run it along his penis - but keep it moving so you don’t freeze the little fella! BIG! Big fella - that’s what I meant. :o I also got interesting results once from a mouth full of seltzer water… ---
**Author:** ![Glassy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/ea666f/32.png) [@Glassy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Glassy)\ **Post date:** [July 2, 2006, 3:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-bj-thread-give-me-some-uh-pointers/361931/85 "2006-07-02T15:55:58Z")
> [@Poysyn](#): > > Enthusiasm is key. I once went to a seminar by Nina Hartley and she gave basically the same advice. They teach seminars on this. I did not know that. ---
**Author:** ![Least\_Original\_User\_Name\_Ever](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/e480ec/32.png) [@Least\_Original\_User\_Name\_Ever](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Least_Original_User_Name_Ever)\ **Post date:** [July 2, 2006, 5:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-bj-thread-give-me-some-uh-pointers/361931/86 "2006-07-02T17:22:31Z")
Altoids are nice. A freshly brushed mouth can give a similar, but lesser, feeling. ---
**Author:** ![vetbridge](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/b5e925/32.png) [@vetbridge](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/vetbridge)\ **Post date:** [July 3, 2006, 12:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-bj-thread-give-me-some-uh-pointers/361931/87 "2006-07-03T12:58:58Z")
Apropos this thread, I was driving on route 30 near Jennerstown, PA and saw a sign that read **Trail Head Parking**. I told my gf, “Boy, when we were young, they never provided a parking lot for trail head.”. ---
**Author:** ![pokey](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/ebca7d/32.png) [@pokey](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pokey)\ **Post date:** [July 3, 2006, 6:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-bj-thread-give-me-some-uh-pointers/361931/88 "2006-07-03T18:02:26Z")
> [@Civil Guy](#): > > Right, a lot of it is the caring involved. The ex-GF loved to give blow jobs; as much as anything, she just loved my erection. And I loved her for that. > > One minor point: after the guy’s orgasm, things are a little messy. Still, the lady liked to lick up the mess. Problem is that at such a time, the head and underneath are especially sensitive. There are times when the ladies are especially sensitive, no? Probably a bit like that. > > That is, she got me to flinch a few times. But such a small price to pay. This is a topic I need advice on. What is it exactly that is supposed to go on and when? Is it like a clit? For me, if I just came that way, it should be no more rubbing but no instant abandonment either. Gentle pressure with no moving for about 15 seconds is ideal. Are dicks like that and are all people the same in that? I’m not really stupid but my ex boyfriend has confused me on this whole topic and I don’t remember. What I really need to know is step by step what is the comfortable chain of events from when it starts to cum to when you stop touching it. ---
**Author:** ![OneCentStamp](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/13edae/32.png) [@OneCentStamp](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/OneCentStamp)\ **Post date:** [July 3, 2006, 6:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-bj-thread-give-me-some-uh-pointers/361931/89 "2006-07-03T18:09:25Z")
> [@pokey](#): > > This is a topic I need advice on. What is it exactly that is supposed to go on and when? Is it like a clit? For me, if I just came that way, it should be no more rubbing but no instant abandonment either. Gentle pressure with no moving for about 15 seconds is ideal. Are dicks like that and are all people the same in that? I’m not really stupid but my ex boyfriend has confused me on this whole topic and I don’t remember. What I really need to know is step by step what is the comfortable chain of events from when it starts to cum to when you stop touching it. A few pointers, from my experience: - Once you realize the guy is starting to come, stop actively sucking/licking/stroking/whatever you were doing. Just hold on (with your mouth) and apply gentle pressure to the bottom of the penis with your tongue. If you continue to stroke, slow way down. The guy, if he’s anything like me, will finish perfectly just with his own involuntary movements. Noises that indicate you are happy that your man is climaxing are very welcome here as well. - Afterwards, don’t leave the scene of the crime entirely. The girls I’ve gone down on to orgasm liked me to avoid direct stimulation of their clit right after they came, but liked me to continue gently licking the vulva and opening of the vagina and even the very inner thighs. Guys are much the same (at least I am). Gently stroke or lick my shaft, caress or lick my balls, try the inner thighs, just avoid the head and the little membrane directly below it. We’re too sensitive right afterwards. Continue until soft. ---
**Author:** ![Indygrrl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/58f4c7/32.png) [@Indygrrl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Indygrrl)\ **Post date:** [July 3, 2006, 6:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-bj-thread-give-me-some-uh-pointers/361931/90 "2006-07-03T18:19:37Z")
I learned to do it from a book, “Sex Tips for Straight Women from a Gay Man.” Seriously, it was the best advice I’ve ever gotten and the results have been fan-fucking-tastic. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![pokey](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/ebca7d/32.png) [@pokey](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pokey)\ **Post date:** [July 3, 2006, 6:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-bj-thread-give-me-some-uh-pointers/361931/91 "2006-07-03T18:47:57Z")
> [@OneCentStamp](#): > > A few pointers, from my experience: > > - Once you realize the guy is starting to come, stop actively sucking/licking/stroking/whatever you were doing. Just hold on Okay! This was what I thought but I read some TMI thread on this board that led me to believe you shouldn’t stop moving around til it’s done. That was probably the swallowing thread. I always thought that by the time it started to cum it really didn’t matter if I stopped sucking it and pressed it up against my chin and lips so that it would cum mostly on my lips and nose and not go all into my mouth. Because sometimes I don’t feel like having it all go in my mouth or swallowing it. The thread made that out to be a CRIME. But my ex never complained, he said he liked to see it come out anyway and it felt good pressed up there. That blowjob thread made it sound like the crime of the century. Now I’m with someone new and I think the point might become moot anyway because I think if I try that on him he’s going to create a huge mess all over but I’m still not sure yet. Either way if it’s terrible I don’t want to do it. I’m not trying to be terrible. ---
**Author:** ![OneCentStamp](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/13edae/32.png) [@OneCentStamp](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/OneCentStamp)\ **Post date:** [July 3, 2006, 6:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-bj-thread-give-me-some-uh-pointers/361931/92 "2006-07-03T18:54:52Z")
> [@pokey](#): > > Now I’m with someone new and I think the point might become moot anyway because I think if I try that on him he’s going to create a huge mess all over but I’m still not sure yet. Either way if it’s terrible I don’t want to do it. I’m not trying to be terrible. You aren’t terrible. I’d let you practice on me. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![pulykamell](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/pulykamell/32/3166_2.png) [@pulykamell](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pulykamell)\ **Post date:** [July 3, 2006, 7:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-bj-thread-give-me-some-uh-pointers/361931/93 "2006-07-03T19:03:54Z")
> [@pokey](#): > > Okay! This was what I thought but I read some TMI thread on this board that led me to believe you shouldn’t stop moving around til it’s done. That was probably the swallowing thread. I always thought that by the time it started to cum it really didn’t matter if I stopped sucking it and pressed it up against my chin and lips so that it would cum mostly on my lips and nose and not go all into my mouth. Because sometimes I don’t feel like having it all go in my mouth or swallowing it. The thread made that out to be a CRIME. But my ex never complained, he said he liked to see it come out anyway and it felt good pressed up there. That blowjob thread made it sound like the crime of the century. > > Now I’m with someone new and I think the point might become moot anyway because I think if I try that on him he’s going to create a huge mess all over but I’m still not sure yet. Either way if it’s terrible I don’t want to do it. I’m not trying to be terrible. I think everybody’s just different. For me, the instant I’m about to come, you gotta completely stop moving. I don’t like any pressure whatsoever. Any movement and I flinch. A little lick while cleaning up is okay, but nothing involving the hands or sucking. I always thought I was a bit unusual in this regard, as in pretty much all the pornos I’ve seen,the woman still strokes the penis as if she’s milking it after he comes. I would be in pain if you tried doing that to me. ---
**Author:** ![corkboard](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/e9bcb4/32.png) [@corkboard](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/corkboard)\ **Post date:** [July 3, 2006, 7:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-bj-thread-give-me-some-uh-pointers/361931/94 "2006-07-03T19:42:08Z")
> [@anyrose](#): > > There’s something in the Bible about not wasting the seed - (ie not fertilizing an egg) - a lot of Jewish gals I know don’t do it. That’s interesting- I dated quite a few Jewish girls in my pre-marriage days, and can say without a doubt that they gave me the best head I ever had, excluding my wife, of course. It got to the point that when I met someone Jewish, I could guarantee she’d give me mind-blowing head, and I was usually right. Altoids- they definitely provide a stimulating sensation. If she chews a few and gets me nice and wet with her mouth, then blows gently on it, then sucks me back in- oh man. ---
**Author:** ![pokey](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/ebca7d/32.png) [@pokey](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pokey)\ **Post date:** [July 3, 2006, 8:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-bj-thread-give-me-some-uh-pointers/361931/95 "2006-07-03T20:43:32Z")
> [@pulykamell](#): > > I think everybody’s just different. DAMMIT! That makes me feel worse in a way but better in a way. It’s funny how sometimes people do talk as if everyone’s the same and there are rules. ---
**Author:** ![malkavia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/malkavia/32/5621_2.png) [@malkavia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/malkavia)\ **Post date:** [July 3, 2006, 9:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-bj-thread-give-me-some-uh-pointers/361931/96 "2006-07-03T21:27:32Z")
Two quick questions. Does anyone have any poprocks data to report on? Just curious. Also, someone recommended using ones breasts in place of hands if their partner’s penis is too large to bring off with one’s mouth. Can somebody please draw me a diagram of this? If I had a penny for everytime I’ve failed to execute this, I’d be able to buy myself a pack of chiclets by now. It seems like there’s always a knee or a leg or an arm or SOMETHING in the way, no matter how I try to position. I’m just sure I’m missing something here. ---
**Author:** ![OneCentStamp](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/13edae/32.png) [@OneCentStamp](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/OneCentStamp)\ **Post date:** [July 3, 2006, 9:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-bj-thread-give-me-some-uh-pointers/361931/97 "2006-07-03T21:31:16Z")
> [@malkavia](#): > > Two quick questions. > > Does anyone have any poprocks data to report on? Just curious. > > Also, someone recommended using ones breasts in place of hands if their partner’s penis is too large to bring off with one’s mouth. > > Can somebody please draw me a diagram of this? If I had a penny for everytime I’ve failed to execute this, I’d be able to buy myself a pack of chiclets by now. It seems like there’s always a knee or a leg or an arm or SOMETHING in the way, no matter how I try to position. I’m just sure I’m missing something here. I don’t know if I can draw you a diagram, but here’s the picture: - girl lies on her back, arms raised above her head - guy straddles her, places penis betwixt breasts - guy uses hands to squeeze breasts together for maximum contact/pressure - now that guy is in position, girl’s arms are free to hold guy’s legs/butt - grind away! your pearl necklace is in the mail. ---
**Author:** ![OneCentStamp](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/13edae/32.png) [@OneCentStamp](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/OneCentStamp)\ **Post date:** [July 3, 2006, 9:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-bj-thread-give-me-some-uh-pointers/361931/98 "2006-07-03T21:39:18Z")
Also, it works if the girl is on top and just moves down to where the dick is between the boobs. The guy can then use his hands to manipulate the boobs for optimum effect. If you were already doing oral, it’s very easy to get to this position. The guy then uses his own hip motion to drive the proceedings. ---
**Author:** ![malkavia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/malkavia/32/5621_2.png) [@malkavia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/malkavia)\ **Post date:** [July 3, 2006, 9:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-bj-thread-give-me-some-uh-pointers/361931/99 "2006-07-03T21:53:39Z")
> [@OneCentStamp](#): > > I don’t know if I can draw you a diagram, but here’s the picture: > > - girl lies on her back, arms raised above her head > - guy straddles her, places penis betwixt breasts Ohhhh. Maybe a more firm surface is needed, if someone’s straddling me on a bed, I kinda feel like I can’t breathe. _goes to check the mail_ ---
**Author:** ![OneCentStamp](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/13edae/32.png) [@OneCentStamp](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/OneCentStamp)\ **Post date:** [July 3, 2006, 9:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-bj-thread-give-me-some-uh-pointers/361931/100 "2006-07-03T21:58:31Z")
> [@malkavia](#): > > Ohhhh. Maybe a more firm surface is needed, if someone’s straddling me on a bed, I kinda feel like I can’t breathe. This has happened to me as well, if the bed is soft. Try pillows under the guy’s knees. > [@](#): > > _goes to check the mail_ I’ve got a male you can check… [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-bj-thread-give-me-some-uh-pointers/361931.md?page=4) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-bj-thread-give-me-some-uh-pointers/361931.md?page=6)