# the Christmas Card Rant (long, weak first effort) **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [December 31, 2005, 4:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-christmas-card-rant-long-weak-first-effort/337858 "2005-12-31T16:18:58Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 7\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Electrical\_Storm](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/ac8455/32.png) [@Electrical\_Storm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Electrical_Storm)\ **Post date:** [January 2, 2006, 7:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-christmas-card-rant-long-weak-first-effort/337858/21 "2006-01-02T19:23:03Z")
> [@Zoe](#): > > You didn’t do a thing wrong and have nothing to regret! Get rid of that recording; it will only serve to remind you of how much his words hurt. It’s good that you wrote it all down here instead of mailing it out – as tempting as it was. > > She probably pitched a bitch and he took it out on you or she _made_ him call. Either way, he’s a jerk. Be glad he is someone else’s problem. > > Next year’s Christmas greeting? > > Clear your mind. New Year. Refocus. Bad man go away. > > Peace. I second **Zoe** ’s post wholeheartedly. Sir Asshat is someone else’s burden now, and looks as though you dodged a bullet. Take **that** good fortune to the bank, deposit it, and draw on it as needed. 😃 I’d agree that you should delete the recording. He treated your gesture of friendship and goodwill like garbage and doesn’t deserve a further minute of your time. Even if his wife “made” him do it - that’s no excuse. It doesn’t speak well of him if she truly did coerce him into doing it against his will. Blech, that’s almost worse, I think. :rolleyes: I also agree that wiping the slate clean and removing him completely from your life is the way to go. Not that he had much presence in your life anyway; but he’s off the Christmas card list. (No Christmas card for you!) 😃 Don’t acknowledge his message or call to tell him anything, no matter how satisfying it may seem to ream him out with a good retort to his asshattery. Odds are he’s feeling like a jackass (we can hope, can’t we?) for what he did to you, so let that be his punishment. Guy’s got a life of punishment to look forward to, I’d wager. Should you bump into him around town, ignore his ass and let him enjoy the company of his wife. If he’s alone and approaches you, tell him the P.I. his wife sicced on him is just around the corner snapping photos as he speaks. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Left\_Hand\_of\_Dorkness](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/left_hand_of_dorkness/32/7156_2.png) [@Left\_Hand\_of\_Dorkness](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Left_Hand_of_Dorkness)\ **Post date:** [January 2, 2006, 7:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-christmas-card-rant-long-weak-first-effort/337858/22 "2006-01-02T19:44:33Z")
You keep mentioning that he’s churchgoing, as if that’s somehow relevant. Ever hear the story about the girl alone in her house at night, reassured by the dog licking her hand? I am so thankful for my wife, who is not an insane harridan. Over Christmas, she and I hung out with my ex-girlfriend and her husband, and had a delightful time. Over New Years, she and I went to a party with her ex-boyfriend and had a delightful time. Life is stressful enough without going psycho over imagined slights or fantasy stalkers. If you see him again, I think that rather than give him that prepared speech, you might try a sneer, slowly shaking head, and a “Dude, you’re fuckin **pitiful**.” Because he is. He’s not a nice guy. I don’t care how big his wife’s pickup truck is, and I don’t care who’s the boss in their relationship. If your boss tells you to do something awful, only a coward complies. And that’s what he did. Unless he fears for his life when he’s with her, he’s got no excuse. Daniel ---
**Author:** ![PunditLisa](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/4af34b/32.png) [@PunditLisa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/PunditLisa)\ **Post date:** [January 3, 2006, 3:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-christmas-card-rant-long-weak-first-effort/337858/23 "2006-01-03T03:03:20Z")
You say it was a platonic relationship, yet you say things like “dated” and “he broke up with me” with lends me to believe that there was some sort of sexual chemistry between the two of you. If this is the case, the new wife undobutedly picked up on it and feels threatened by you. Doesn’t give her justification to act like the Fisherman’s Wife nor him to act like the spineless Fisherman, yet there you have it. So take them both off your Hallmark list and have yourself a merry little holiday season. They don’t deserve your friendship. ---
**Author:** ![Maxxxie](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/f14d63/32.png) [@Maxxxie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Maxxxie)\ **Post date:** [January 3, 2006, 5:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-christmas-card-rant-long-weak-first-effort/337858/24 "2006-01-03T05:13:41Z")
> [@Left Hand of Dorkness](#): > > Ever hear the story about the girl alone in her house at night, reassured by the dog licking her hand? No, but I’d sure like to. Was she coated in peanut butter at the time? 😃 Max ---
**Author:** ![Left\_Hand\_of\_Dorkness](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/left_hand_of_dorkness/32/7156_2.png) [@Left\_Hand\_of\_Dorkness](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Left_Hand_of_Dorkness)\ **Post date:** [January 3, 2006, 5:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-christmas-card-rant-long-weak-first-effort/337858/25 "2006-01-03T05:17:48Z")
> [@Maxxxie](#): > > No, but I’d sure like to. Was she coated in peanut butter at the time? 😃 > > Max [not exactly](http://urbanlegendsonline.com/humanslick.html)! It’s kind of a dumb story, but I have this image of **bluekitten** reaching out her hand for a lick, reassuring herself that as long as this guy is churchgoing he can’t be all that bad. A couple days ago, she turned on the light. Daniel ---
**Author:** ![gigi](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/a587f6/32.png) [@gigi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gigi)\ **Post date:** [January 4, 2006, 8:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-christmas-card-rant-long-weak-first-effort/337858/26 "2006-01-04T20:23:55Z")
> [@Boscibo](#): > > I was engaged. We broke up but I remained in contact for about three years, sending him birthday and holiday cards. Then he met the woman he eventually married. She highly objected to him having any contact with me. I let him go, and feel it was for the best. It was hard, but whatevah. He made his choice, and while I truly wish him happiness, I doubt he has found it with her. Same here (not engaged, but long-time relationship and friendship). If he was stupid enough to marry a woman who came after him with a knife and smashed or tore up anything I had given him in the past, good luck to him. :eek: In that case, she was the one leaving messages for me calling me a slut and telling me to stay away from him. ---
**Author:** ![Man\_With\_a\_Cat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/cab0a1/32.png) [@Man\_With\_a\_Cat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Man_With_a_Cat)\ **Post date:** [January 4, 2006, 10:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-christmas-card-rant-long-weak-first-effort/337858/27 "2006-01-04T22:13:43Z")
This must be my day to see several-day-old threads and reply. Anyway, that sounds like a really nice card, and they sound like they deserve nothing in the world more than they do each other. And if you have room on your Christmas card list, handmade cards are the only cards of any kind that I usually keep, and I have a (now) famously non-jealous wife, so feel free next Christmas, ok? 😉 [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-christmas-card-rant-long-weak-first-effort/337858.md?page=1)