I think the difference between men and women is far more complex than just differences in strength, endurance, or reaction time.
Consider Pool and Billiards. Straight Pool has been played by both men and women for over a century. It’s a game that takes no strength whatsoever - just hand-eye coordination, judgement, and concentration. You’d think that if there was a sport where men and women were equal, this would be it.
But it’s not even close. I believe the best run a woman has ever put together in competition was 93. A match goes to 150, and it’s quite common for even college-level men to run 150 balls and out. In exhibition play, the men’s record is 562 balls, set by Willie Mosconi. The women’s record is 158.
Jean Balukas, perhaps the most dominant female player of her era, played in both the men’s and women’s U.S. Open. She won the woman’s open, but was knocked out in the second round in one men’s open albeit by one of the top-ranked players. She also tried the 9-ball circuit, and had some decent matches against some pretty good male players and once finished as high as 9th place in a major tournament. But no one thought she was a real threat to challenge the top-ranked players in any sort of consistent way.
The men aren’t even necessarily athletic - there are top pool players with beer guts, and one of the best men who ever played 9 ball, Nick Varner, is smaller than most women on the pool circuit and only weighs 120 lbs.
Snooker is similar - there is no strength element to the game, yet the women are just not competitive. Allison Fisher dominated Women’s snooker, and tried to make the jump to the men’s circuit. She was not remotely competitive at the top levels.
On the other hand, female pilots compete very well against men in aerobatics, a sport that requires physical strength, intense focus, precision, and a whole lot of courage. Patty Wagstaff routinely beat men and won the world aerobatic championships several times. In addition, female pilots excelled in WWII. America didn’t allow women to fly in combat, but they did a lot of ferry flying, which is very dangerous and very difficult, and they did it with a better overall safety record than the men.
In the Soviet Union, there were women pilots in combat flying fighter aircraft, and they seemed to do as well as or better than the men.
So as I said, our differences are complex. I don’t think you’ll find any bright lines or simple rules for determining who is better at what.