# The Damage Done **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [October 9, 2017, 1:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-damage-done/798380 "2017-10-09T13:03:46Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 10\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![AHunter3](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ahunter3/32/368_2.png) [@AHunter3](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AHunter3)\ **Post date:** [October 10, 2017, 10:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-damage-done/798380/21 "2017-10-10T22:35:01Z")
Thanks, **Curt C**! I’ll snag a copy. ---
**Author:** ![Allthegood](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/c68b51/32.png) [@Allthegood](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Allthegood)\ **Post date:** [October 11, 2017, 1:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-damage-done/798380/22 "2017-10-11T01:14:19Z")
I know AHunter3 very well, probably better than anyone else does, and I can confirm that he is happy, smart, charming, sweet, brilliant, thoughtful, and confident. He does not seem obsessed with his childhood, but he is very determined to get his story out there in the world so that others like him will not feel as though they are the only ones. I am familiar with Aspergers, and I do not think AHunter3 is on the spectrum. He is, however, an unusual person and a very original thinker, which can be both a blessing and a curse. He’s an interesting combination of emotionally sensitive and sometimes oblivious. As for the girlfriend situation, yes, we have all met each other and know about each other and we do not have a problem with AHunter3 being poly. We are poly too! And to me, it seems as though AHunter3 is happiest when he is not confined to a single relationship, for a variety of reasons. And he has actually managed to keep three relationships going for seven years now. ---
**Author:** ![Jennshark](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/8e8cbc/32.png) [@Jennshark](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jennshark)\ **Post date:** [October 11, 2017, 11:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-damage-done/798380/23 "2017-10-11T11:06:30Z")
> [@Allthegood](#): > > As for the girlfriend situation, yes, we have all met each other and know about each other and we do not have a problem with AHunter3 being poly. We are poly too! And to me, it seems as though AHunter3 is happiest when he is not confined to a single relationship, for a variety of reasons. And he has actually managed to keep three relationships going for seven years now. This sounds astoundingly . . . exhausting :eek: ---
**Author:** ![Pabitel](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/bbce88/32.png) [@Pabitel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Pabitel)\ **Post date:** [October 13, 2017, 2:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-damage-done/798380/24 "2017-10-13T14:19:41Z")
> [@AHunter3](#): > > I’d say I am sharing my experience and viewpoint, and seeking general feedback of whatever sort I can elicit. Ah, well then, I would suggest you talk less of how you are different from the rest of humanity and begin trying to examine how your are the same. ---
**Author:** ![AHunter3](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ahunter3/32/368_2.png) [@AHunter3](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AHunter3)\ **Post date:** [October 13, 2017, 2:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-damage-done/798380/25 "2017-10-13T14:35:16Z")
> [@Pabitel](#): > > Ah, well then, I would suggest you talk less of how you are different from the rest of humanity and begin trying to examine how your are the same. OK, I’ll bite… why would I want to do that? Either my narrative description reminds nearly everyone of their own experiences, in which case either I’m already saying the same things everyone else is saying (including the ongoing sense of Difference) or I’m saying something that isn’t being said by anyone else but obviously needed saying; or my narrative description does _not_ remind nearly everyone of their own experiences, in which case I’m telling people about a different experience they should become cognizant of. ---
**Author:** ![Darren\_Garrison](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/darren_garrison/32/92_2.png) [@Darren\_Garrison](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Darren_Garrison)\ **Post date:** [October 13, 2017, 3:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-damage-done/798380/26 "2017-10-13T15:29:20Z")
> [@AHunter3](#): > > Either my narrative description reminds nearly everyone of their own experiences, in which case either I’m already saying the same things everyone else is saying (including the ongoing sense of Difference) or I’m saying something that isn’t being said by anyone else but obviously needed saying; or my narrative description does _not_ remind nearly everyone of their own experiences, in which case I’m telling people about a different experience they should become cognizant of. You are under representing the number of choices. You give: 1.) Stuff everyone is already saying that does not need to be said. 2.) Stuff nobody is saying that obviously needs saying. but there is also option 3: Stuff nobody is saying that _doesn’t_ obviously “need” saying. You have to realize that chronicling the smallest details of every aspect of your life is the most fascinating subject in the world _for only you_. You might have something important and valuable to say, but you mist distill it out of the extraneous details if you don’t want to [sound like Grampa Simpson](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=C03feurAuXw). If you make it tl, people wr. ---
**Author:** ![AHunter3](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ahunter3/32/368_2.png) [@AHunter3](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AHunter3)\ **Post date:** [October 13, 2017, 3:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-damage-done/798380/27 "2017-10-13T15:46:26Z")
> [@Darren\_Garrison](#): > > chronicling the smallest details of every aspect of your life I come across to you as doing that? :dubious: ---
**Author:** ![Darren\_Garrison](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/darren_garrison/32/92_2.png) [@Darren\_Garrison](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Darren_Garrison)\ **Post date:** [October 13, 2017, 4:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-damage-done/798380/28 "2017-10-13T16:11:44Z")
> [@AHunter3](#): > > I come across to you as doing that? > > :dubious: Well, let’s just say that IMHO you could spend a little more time streamlining the entries. ---
**Author:** ![Telemark](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/telemark/32/372_2.png) [@Telemark](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Telemark)\ **Post date:** [October 13, 2017, 4:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-damage-done/798380/29 "2017-10-13T16:24:37Z")
> [@AHunter3](#): > > I come across to you as doing that? > > :dubious: Don’t know, I’ve never made it all the way through one of your posts. ---
**Author:** ![Lasciel](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/e79b87/32.png) [@Lasciel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lasciel)\ **Post date:** [October 13, 2017, 9:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-damage-done/798380/30 "2017-10-13T21:09:53Z")
> [@Jennshark](#): > > This sounds astoundingly . . . exhausting :eek: It’s ok, the idea of being concerned with policing the sexual activity of one’s (single, only, solo) lover sounds exhausting. I think some people are naturally poly and some are naturally mono. No big deal, just make sure you match up with partners with similar goals and expectations. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-damage-done/798380.md?page=1)