# The Definitive "DOES SIZE MATTER" thread and everything related. **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [May 11, 2011, 8:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-definitive-does-size-matter-thread-and-everything-related/581494 "2011-05-11T08:53:35Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Nzinga\_Seated](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/b5ac83/32.png) [@Nzinga\_Seated](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nzinga_Seated)\ **Post date:** [May 11, 2011, 8:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-definitive-does-size-matter-thread-and-everything-related/581494/21 "2011-05-11T20:20:39Z")
> [@olivesmarch4th](#): > > …The universal response seems to be, ‘‘it’s all in how he uses it.’’… Haha. Hahaaa. Ha. Ok. ETA: Sorry. I mean, you can have your opinion, and that’s cool but UNIVERSAL RESPONSE??? That’s laying it on a bit…thick. ---
**Author:** ![Spice\_Weasel](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/spice_weasel/32/5435_2.png) [@Spice\_Weasel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Spice_Weasel)\ **Post date:** [May 11, 2011, 8:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-definitive-does-size-matter-thread-and-everything-related/581494/22 "2011-05-11T20:32:34Z")
> [@Nzinga\_Seated](#): > > ETA: Sorry. I mean, you can have your opinion, and that’s cool but UNIVERSAL RESPONSE??? That’s laying it on a bit…thick. Nice choice of words. 😉 This is the whole truth. I have known and loved (if you knowwhatImean) a grand total of ONE penis in the course of my lifetime. I have no point of reference for making comparisons. I’m happy with my lover’s size. I really don’t want it to be any bigger than it is. I’ve never worried about penis size. I’ve heard a lot of gay men enthuse about penis size, but it’s not something that seems to come up a lot among women I know. I know from personal experience that the cervix thing hurts like hell, so if I had to make a generalization based on my incredibly limited experience, I would say I’d prefer them thick but not long. The rest is me talking out of my ass. ---
**Author:** ![Nzinga\_Seated](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/b5ac83/32.png) [@Nzinga\_Seated](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nzinga_Seated)\ **Post date:** [May 11, 2011, 8:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-definitive-does-size-matter-thread-and-everything-related/581494/23 "2011-05-11T20:48:43Z")
> [@olivesmarch4th](#): > > Nice choice of words. 😉 Thanks for noticing. [QUOTE=olivesmarch4th] I have known and loved (if you knowwhatImean) a grand total of ONE penis in the course of my lifetime… [/QUOTE] Aaaaand, I am going to bow out now with my apologies for even violating you with my sordid sluttery. ETA: Just joking with ya. Love ya, Olives. ---
**Author:** ![Quia\_Sic\_Dico](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/q/bbce88/32.png) [@Quia\_Sic\_Dico](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Quia_Sic_Dico)\ **Post date:** [May 11, 2011, 8:49pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-definitive-does-size-matter-thread-and-everything-related/581494/24 "2011-05-11T20:49:48Z")
> [@Nzinga\_Seated](#): > > The pussy stretches. It can stretch large enough for a baby to go through Not to put too fine a point on it, but the anus can’t. ---
**Author:** ![alice\_in\_wonderland](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/alice_in_wonderland/32/176_2.png) [@alice\_in\_wonderland](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/alice_in_wonderland)\ **Post date:** [May 11, 2011, 10:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-definitive-does-size-matter-thread-and-everything-related/581494/25 "2011-05-11T22:22:53Z")
Yes size matters, but not nearly as much as guys think it does. Too big is much worse than too small. A fella with a small unit can absolutely make up for it in the sack by having good oral and manual skills. However, it is possible to be _TOO_ small - I dated a guy who’s unit was about the size of my thumb. I wish I was kidding - every time we had sex I would lay there and think to myself ‘Self, there is NO way that you can put up with this.’ Seriously - I’m not particularly cavernous down there and I couldn’t even feel the poor guy. So - guys - if your penis is literally 2 inches long and 1 inch in circumference - well, I dunno. I’m sorry to hear that. ---
**Author:** ![heathen\_earthling](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/13edae/32.png) [@heathen\_earthling](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/heathen_earthling)\ **Post date:** [May 11, 2011, 10:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-definitive-does-size-matter-thread-and-everything-related/581494/26 "2011-05-11T22:41:45Z")
> [@Mr\_Orange](#): > > Does a person with a small dick really stand a chance, or are we coming up with excuses to make ourselves feel better; to cover up the idea that there may be true inequality we can never overcome? Are girls propagating this idea out of sheer pity? Like the way we tell fat chicks they are pretty? No, this is a bad analogy. Lots of men and women prefer to have sex with women who could be considered “fat” (to some degree, by some people, etc). I find it interesting that there are a bunch of Tumbr and DeviantArt blogs now that feature self-shot nudes or semi-nudes of attractive overweight young women who are allegedly posting them as part of some lofty body acceptance/female empowerment movement, rebelling against the corporate beauty myth and all that, and get positive feedback from other women for doing this (meanwhile, I’m sure countless other guys are also following these sites simply because they do think these women look good naked!). I can’t see an analogous “post a photo of your small dick to help your fellow man feel empowered” blog ever finding many contributors _or_ fans (but I haven’t been looking for one, so I guess I don’t know). I don’t know if it would be worse to be a man with a small dick, or a woman with obesity or minimal breasts or whatever. The man might not meet anyone who actually _prefers_ him the way he is, but people who don’t see him naked don’t even need to know about it. ---
**Author:** ![Chimera](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/8e8cbc/32.png) [@Chimera](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chimera)\ **Post date:** [May 11, 2011, 11:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-definitive-does-size-matter-thread-and-everything-related/581494/27 "2011-05-11T23:34:15Z")
A few months back I was channel surfing and happened across that horrible millionaire matchmaker program. This time the client was a wealthy woman. In the interview about what she wanted in a man, the very first words out of her mouth were; “He has to have a big penis” The matchmaker ripped into her right there for being so flipping shallow, and I turned the channel. ---
**Author:** ![Kobal2](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kobal2/32/20_2.png) [@Kobal2](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kobal2)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2011, 12:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-definitive-does-size-matter-thread-and-everything-related/581494/28 "2011-05-12T00:04:22Z")
> [@Quia\_Sic\_Dico](#): > > Not to put too fine a point on it, but the anus can’t. Are you familiar with the word “goatse”, by any chance ? 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Marconi\_N.Cheese](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/57b2e6/32.png) [@Marconi\_N.Cheese](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Marconi_N.Cheese)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2011, 12:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-definitive-does-size-matter-thread-and-everything-related/581494/29 "2011-05-12T00:43:03Z")
> [@Kobal2](#): > > Are you familiar with the word “goatse”, by any chance ? 😃 Sure, facial hair on a man’s chin. ---
**Author:** ![anya\_marie](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ebca7d/32.png) [@anya\_marie](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/anya_marie)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2011, 2:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-definitive-does-size-matter-thread-and-everything-related/581494/30 "2011-05-12T02:10:59Z")
From personal experience, oh hell no. A big penis does not automatically create awesome sex when the man doesn’t spend any time on foreplay, and it is foreplay that gives a woman time to accommodate a larger penis. ---
**Author:** ![minlokwat](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/minlokwat/32/2844_2.png) [@minlokwat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/minlokwat)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2011, 2:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-definitive-does-size-matter-thread-and-everything-related/581494/31 "2011-05-12T02:14:41Z")
I’ve heard many testimonials that would seem to indicate that size does \*not \*matter. All the same, I’ve never seen a four-inch dildo. From this, what is one to conclude? ---
**Author:** ![gaffa](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/e68b1a/32.png) [@gaffa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gaffa)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2011, 3:41am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-definitive-does-size-matter-thread-and-everything-related/581494/32 "2011-05-12T03:41:53Z")
> [@minlokwat](#): > > All the same, I’ve never seen a four-inch dildo. I have. They are generally called “pocket rockets” - the business parts of a vibrator fit comfortably in a 4" unit. And, since they have less mass to move, they can be more effective. ---
**Author:** ![Hello\_Again](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/85e7bf/32.png) [@Hello\_Again](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hello_Again)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2011, 2:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-definitive-does-size-matter-thread-and-everything-related/581494/33 "2011-05-12T14:25:31Z")
> [@minlokwat](#): > > I’ve heard many testimonials that would seem to indicate that size does \*not \*matter. > > All the same, I’ve never seen a four-inch dildo. > > From this, what is one to conclude? That you aren’t very experienced in the ways of dildoes? Try [babeland.com](http://babeland.com) ---
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2011, 3:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-definitive-does-size-matter-thread-and-everything-related/581494/34 "2011-05-12T15:57:05Z")
> [@Mr\_Orange](#): > > . . . come on, no one’s 2 is actually going to be someone else’s 10. It doesn’t work that way. The OP is filled with quite a few fallacies, but I only have time for this one. Yes, one person’s 2 (or even 0) can be another person’s 10. I would not be at all attracted to the world’s most beautiful woman, because I’m not attracted to women. There are people who are attracted to the morbidly obese. There are people who are attracted to those who have had amputations. And I wouldn’t be surprised if there were people attracted to burn victims . . . or Elephant Man. In fact, I happen to be attracted to men who are extremely thin, to the point of being anorexic . . . and my guess is that most people would rate them as a 0 or 1. ---
**Author:** ![Hazle\_Weatherfield](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/e9bcb4/32.png) [@Hazle\_Weatherfield](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hazle_Weatherfield)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2011, 5:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-definitive-does-size-matter-thread-and-everything-related/581494/35 "2011-05-12T17:05:59Z")
I definitely prefer a smaller penis. My boyfriend has a very large penis. At times, it is VERY painful, to the point where I end up in tears. (crying, not ripping…yikes!) We have to use nearly half a tube of lube to make it work and he has to be VERY gentle. He is large both in length and girth. Small is where it’s at. ---
**Author:** ![Stoid](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/stoid/32/272_2.png) [@Stoid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Stoid)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2011, 5:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-definitive-does-size-matter-thread-and-everything-related/581494/36 "2011-05-12T17:17:46Z")
> [@Mr\_Orange](#): > > And how much better can you really use your dick? What do you mean it’s how you use it. Your dick is not like a finger. It’s got one motion, in and out. You can go faster or slower. Wtf are girls trying to say, that they like to take on 3 inch jackhammer? Or maybe girls have a higher regard for profficient > dick slapping skills? I mean, how dynamic is a penis really? Are people with big dicks somehow less able to do things with their bigger dicks? So people with big dicks can’t use them? Of course size matters. > Does a person with a small dick really stand a chance, or are we coming up with excuses to make ourselves feel better; to cover up the idea that there may be true inequality we can never overcome? Are girls propagating this idea out of sheer pity? You certainly have a grim and simplistic view. No question that somewhere near average is best, of course, but as someone who has slept with a very large number of men I am here to say that the size of their penises had little to nothing to do with how good the sex was. The most intensely exciting and thrilling and overwhelmingly passionate sex I ever had in my life was with a man with a very small penis (just missed being micro). Worse, during our brief affair he was suffering from a quick trigger. But it was the hottest sex I’ve ever had in my life. But it is all about priorities, individuals, etc. So I will agree that a man with a small penis is certainly at a disadvantage that he will have to compensate for, but most people have inadequacies that they need to compensate for, it’s hardly insurmountable. ---
**Author:** ![Stoid](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/stoid/32/272_2.png) [@Stoid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Stoid)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2011, 5:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-definitive-does-size-matter-thread-and-everything-related/581494/37 "2011-05-12T17:30:12Z")
> [@heathen\_earthling](#): > > No, this is a bad analogy. Lots of men and women prefer to have sex with women who could be considered “fat” (to some degree, by some people, etc). I find it interesting that there are a bunch of Tumbr and DeviantArt blogs now that feature self-shot nudes or semi-nudes of attractive overweight young women who are allegedly posting them as part of some lofty body acceptance/female empowerment movement, rebelling against the corporate beauty myth and all that, and get positive feedback from other women for doing this (meanwhile, I’m sure countless other guys are also following these sites simply because they do think these women look good naked!). I can’t see an analogous “post a photo of your small dick to help your fellow man feel empowered” blog ever finding many contributors _or_ fans (but I haven’t been looking for one, so I guess I don’t know). > > I don’t know if it would be worse to be a man with a small dick, or a woman with obesity or minimal breasts or whatever. The man might not meet anyone who actually _prefers_ him the way he is, but people who don’t see him naked don’t even need to know about it. Lots of fat chicks ARE pretty. Even beautiful. I was a [pretty fat chick](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HxD1rBgCvbY). (Which partially explains how it is that I managed to get laid) Beauty is generally about the face. It used to drive me batty when people would talk about Monica Lewinsky as though she was unattractive. She was not. [She](http://www.mediabistro.com/fishbowldc/monica-lewinksys-drudge-anniversary_b28876) was a [VERY](http://blogtown.portlandmercury.com/files/2007/05/wi20010325_MonicaLewinsky_Vespa_161700.jpg) [pretty](http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_pEfVJ93Cwa8/TR1h8HfySQI/AAAAAAAAHx0/se6FGaKNVSs/s1600/Monica_lewinsky.jpg) [girl](http://www.mysticgames.com/famouspeople/pictures/MonicaLewinsky.jpg) who was varying degrees of chubby, but it never kept her from being pretty. ---
**Author:** ![Living\_Well\_Is\_Best\_Revenge](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/6bbea6/32.png) [@Living\_Well\_Is\_Best\_Revenge](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Living_Well_Is_Best_Revenge)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2011, 5:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-definitive-does-size-matter-thread-and-everything-related/581494/38 "2011-05-12T17:35:21Z")
> [@Stoid](#): > > You certainly have a grim and simplistic view. > > No question that somewhere near average is best, of course, but as someone who has slept with a very large number of men I am here to say that the size of their penises had little to nothing to do with how good the sex was. The most intensely exciting and thrilling and overwhelmingly passionate sex I ever had in my life was with a man with a very small penis (just missed being micro). Worse, during our brief affair he was suffering from a quick trigger. But it was the hottest sex I’ve ever had in my life. > > But it is all about priorities, individuals, etc. So I will agree that a man with a small penis is certainly at a disadvantage that he will have to compensate for, but most people have inadequacies that they need to compensate for, it’s hardly insurmountable. Premature ejaculation with a near micro penis doesn’t sound that great. ---
**Author:** ![Living\_Well\_Is\_Best\_Revenge](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/6bbea6/32.png) [@Living\_Well\_Is\_Best\_Revenge](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Living_Well_Is_Best_Revenge)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2011, 5:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-definitive-does-size-matter-thread-and-everything-related/581494/39 "2011-05-12T17:38:20Z")
> [@Stoid](#): > > Lots of fat chicks ARE pretty. Even beautiful. I was a [pretty fat chick](http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HxD1rBgCvbY). (Which partially explains how it is that I managed to get laid) Beauty is generally about the face. > > It used to drive me batty when people would talk about Monica Lewinsky as though she was unattractive. She was not. [She](http://www.mediabistro.com/fishbowldc/monica-lewinksys-drudge-anniversary_b28876) was a [VERY](http://blogtown.portlandmercury.com/files/2007/05/wi20010325_MonicaLewinsky_Vespa_161700.jpg) [pretty](http://4.bp.blogspot.com/_pEfVJ93Cwa8/TR1h8HfySQI/AAAAAAAAHx0/se6FGaKNVSs/s1600/Monica_lewinsky.jpg) [girl](http://www.mysticgames.com/famouspeople/pictures/MonicaLewinsky.jpg) who was varying degrees of chubby, but it never kept her from being pretty. That was a cool clip! You do have a pretty face. ---
**Author:** ![VinylTurnip](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/b2d939/32.png) [@VinylTurnip](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/VinylTurnip)\ **Post date:** [May 12, 2011, 5:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-definitive-does-size-matter-thread-and-everything-related/581494/40 "2011-05-12T17:50:14Z")
> [@Quia\_Sic\_Dico](#): > > > [@Nzinga](#): > > > > The pussy stretches. It can stretch large enough for a baby to go through > > Not to put too fine a point on it, but the anus can’t. That sounds like a dare! [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-definitive-does-size-matter-thread-and-everything-related/581494.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-definitive-does-size-matter-thread-and-everything-related/581494.md?page=3)