# The Good-Byes are Beginning **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [January 26, 2024, 5:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-good-byes-are-beginning/996693 "2024-01-26T17:41:04Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 6\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Die\_Capacitrix](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/die_capacitrix/32/9_2.png) [@Die\_Capacitrix](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Die_Capacitrix)\ **Post date:** [January 28, 2024, 6:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-good-byes-are-beginning/996693/21 "2024-01-28T18:11:31Z")
> [@TruePisces](#): > > Emotionally, I’m drained. Especially because it makes me feel like a fool to tell family, “He’s dying, say your good-byes. Oops. Never mind. He’s doing fine now.” I worry that people with think I’m the little girl crying wolf. Dads are important, so of course you’re worried. Don’t worry about what they think. You’re sharing the information that you were given. Good news about the movement, and the painfree dialysis. Hope the trend continues and the medical team is able to find a solution for his back. {{{RealFish}}} ---
**Author:** ![Spice\_Weasel](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/spice_weasel/32/5435_2.png) [@Spice\_Weasel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Spice_Weasel)\ **Post date:** [January 29, 2024, 12:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-good-byes-are-beginning/996693/22 "2024-01-29T00:10:11Z")
> [@TruePisces](#): > > Emotionally, I’m drained. Especially because it makes me feel like a fool to tell family, “He’s dying, say your good-byes. Oops. Never mind. He’s doing fine now.” I worry that people with think I’m the little girl crying wolf. It sounds exhausting. I don’t know that any right-thinking individual would judge you for sharing the information you have and doing the best in an incredibly difficult situation. Best of luck as you tackle the next steps. ---
**Author:** ![Baker](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/bb73d2/32.png) [@Baker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Baker)\ **Post date:** [January 29, 2024, 12:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-good-byes-are-beginning/996693/23 "2024-01-29T00:17:02Z")
Both of my parents are gone but in a way we were lucky. Dad died in an accident while still hale, and mom, while weaker, was not in the hospital and had lots of family to help. **True Pisces** , I am so sorry to hear of the long painful process you and your family and your dad are enduring. I can’t imagine what you are going through. I’m a faceless internet drone but I feel bad and wish I could do something. You say you feel lonely, please know we are thinking of you. ---
**Author:** ![thorny\_locust](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/thorny_locust/32/431_2.png) [@thorny\_locust](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/thorny_locust)\ **Post date:** [January 29, 2024, 2:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-good-byes-are-beginning/996693/24 "2024-01-29T02:32:56Z")
> [@TruePisces](#): > > As much as I’m glad that Dad is going to be ok, the hardest thing for me right now is the back and forth on whether I’ll be losing him or not. Over the last year, I’ve been on a Rollercoaster of losing him and having more time with him at least half a dozen times. Emotionally, I’m drained. Especially because it makes me feel like a fool to tell family, “He’s dying, say your good-byes. Oops. Never mind. He’s doing fine now.” That has got to be utterly exhausting. I hope that you can get some rest. And I hope your family’s not giving you a hard time; I don’t see how you could reasonably have done anything else. ---
**Author:** ![TruePisces](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/truepisces/32/13628_2.png) [@TruePisces](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TruePisces)\ **Post date:** [January 29, 2024, 3:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-good-byes-are-beginning/996693/25 "2024-01-29T03:25:39Z")
> [@thorny\_locust](#): > > And I hope your family’s not giving you a hard time; I don’t see how you could reasonably have done anything else. The only one being hard on me is me, thankfully. My sister is using it as a way Dad can’t get out of having her visit and Dad even said to me that he wasn’t upset. I just worry about the next time and, possibly, the time after that. Thank you, all, for being here for me. ---
**Author:** ![pjd](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/pjd/32/3009_2.png) [@pjd](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pjd)\ **Post date:** [January 29, 2024, 2:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-good-byes-are-beginning/996693/26 "2024-01-29T14:57:26Z")
We ain’t goin’ nowhere ! {{{}}} [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-good-byes-are-beginning/996693.md?page=1)