# The GOOD news is that I met a girl. **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [November 11, 2005, 10:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-good-news-is-that-i-met-a-girl/330560 "2005-11-11T10:29:52Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Johnny\_L.A](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/johnny_l.a/32/1084_2.png) [@Johnny\_L.A](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Johnny_L.A)\ **Post date:** [November 11, 2005, 10:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-good-news-is-that-i-met-a-girl/330560/1 "2005-11-11T10:29:52Z")
[NW Projections Film Festival](http://projectionsfilmfestival.com/) started tonight. The trailer for our film (which is still in production) was shown. After the trailers for the films that were selected for the festival (and the trailer for our film), people mingled. Eventually I saw a girl standing in the smoking area outside. She seemed interested in everybody, and we struck up a conversation. She’s really cute. Not tall, short brown hair, blue eyes, small breasts. She seemed interested in me, and she laughed at my jokes. After a half an hour or so she went inside to get coffee. I hung out with my mates – who almost immediately chided me for not following her. (She had the card, so she could call the studio to get ahold of me if she wanted to.) Since my friends were drunk they wouldn’t leave me alone until I went inside to talk to the girl. (I’m a bit shy, y’see. Gun-shy as well. :o ) I went in and got some coffee, and saw that she was chatting with another guy. Oh, well. The place was pretty empty, so a gang of us went to the dance floor in front of the stage. Oh, the antics of drunken actors! (FWIW, I’d only had one rum and one Arrogant Bastard Ale; so I wasn’t at all drunk.) Eventually the girl came down with Drunken Dave. We ended up dancing, she and I. Or she danced, and I attempted to. (I don’t really know how.) More chatting, and more hanging out. She played with my too-long hair and my soul patch. She talked with the gang, and Drunken Dave wandered off. (He kept coming back, only I could tell she wasn’t interested in him.) She talked to our Producer. Later she (the girl) said she (the Producer) says I’m a great guy. :o Well, we danced and laughed until Last Call. I looked at my watch, and she pulled my wrist over so she could look at the time. Since it was 01:05 the hands were superimposed. My watch has a 24-hour hand set to GMT, and it confused her. (She wasn’t drunk, but she’d had a couple; and it was dark.) She said I nust be complicated because I have a complicated watch. She said she was complicated too. I asked her how? She pulled me close and said (so the _bad_ new is…), ‘I don’t want to alarm you, but I’m a lesbian.’ :smack: We hung out for a little while longer, until they started urging people out of the club. The Producer gave her my phone number, and she gave the producer hers with instructions to give it to me. (I was just walking up.) So the Producer and the Director are all like, ‘Dude! You hooked up!’ I told them the bad news when we eventually got into the car. They said, ‘Do we really have to explaine it to you?’ I don’t see what there is to explain. The girl is a lesbian, and I’m a bloke. But they say she totally digs me, and that I have a chance. :dubious: Besides, I was in a relationship with a lesbian before, and I got hurt. They’re younger than I (he’s 29 and she’s 24), so maybe they think differently from me. We’re going to char some flesh on the BBQ soon. (Don’t know when. There’s a wedding to shoot Sunday, and we’re supposed to be making a film later in the week when we get some money.) The girl will be invited, but only as a friend and not as a potential girlfriend. Anyway, we got some good comments from people about the trailer. The guy who runs the Festival said some very complimentary things about it. ---
**Author:** ![Antonius\_Block](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/51bf81/32.png) [@Antonius\_Block](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Antonius_Block)\ **Post date:** [November 11, 2005, 11:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-good-news-is-that-i-met-a-girl/330560/2 "2005-11-11T11:38:50Z")
The worst-case scenario is that you’ve made an interesting new friend. Other possibilities are: [ol] [li]She’s actually bisexual, but wanted to sound you out regarding your acceptance of alternative sexuality, and she’s learned that when some men hear “bi” they think “she’s straight now, but with some same-sex experimentation _in the past_” (when her situation may be that she’s really **bisexual** ).[/li][li]Interesting lesbians can have interesting hetero female friends, some of whom may be single.[/li][li](Admittedly, this is just a common hetero male fantasy) She’s been a lesbian up until the night she met **Johnny L.A.** , but that’s all gonna change.[/li][/ol]Good luck! (That goes for the film, too!). ---
**Author:** ![Creative\_Munster](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/919ad9/32.png) [@Creative\_Munster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Creative_Munster)\ **Post date:** [November 11, 2005, 6:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-good-news-is-that-i-met-a-girl/330560/3 "2005-11-11T18:32:38Z")
I must be a masochist. I read your posts even though they make my stomach churn. Even a Brit doesn’t use as many Britishisms as you do. Is there anything at all you like about American culture, or do you wish you had been born in England? ---
**Author:** ![Kythereia](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/e8c25b/32.png) [@Kythereia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kythereia)\ **Post date:** [November 11, 2005, 6:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-good-news-is-that-i-met-a-girl/330560/4 "2005-11-11T18:35:16Z")
Bleeeeh. Sorry about that, mate. _hugs_ You’ll find the lady you’re looking for soon… ---
**Author:** ![Faruiza](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/ecd19e/32.png) [@Faruiza](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Faruiza)\ **Post date:** [November 11, 2005, 6:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-good-news-is-that-i-met-a-girl/330560/5 "2005-11-11T18:53:30Z")
> [@Creative\_Munster](#): > > I must be a masochist. I read your posts even though they make my stomach churn. Even a Brit doesn’t use as many Britishisms as you do. Is there anything at all you like about American culture, or do you wish you had been born in England? Way to get into the story and not be a pedantic pain in the ass. :rolleyes: ---
**Author:** ![Faruiza](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/ecd19e/32.png) [@Faruiza](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Faruiza)\ **Post date:** [November 11, 2005, 6:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-good-news-is-that-i-met-a-girl/330560/6 "2005-11-11T18:54:51Z")
And… Yay! May this be the beginning of a beautiful friendship, or at the very least, super entertaining. Also, may the masses dig your movie. ---
**Author:** ![Anaamika](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)\ **Post date:** [November 11, 2005, 6:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-good-news-is-that-i-met-a-girl/330560/7 "2005-11-11T18:55:32Z")
Oh, that was like a kick in \*my \* gut! Poor **Johnny** …and here I was so happy for you. ---
**Author:** ![Johnny\_L.A](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/johnny_l.a/32/1084_2.png) [@Johnny\_L.A](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Johnny_L.A)\ **Post date:** [November 11, 2005, 6:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-good-news-is-that-i-met-a-girl/330560/8 "2005-11-11T18:58:24Z")
> [@Creative\_Munster](#): > > I must be a masochist. I read your posts even though they make my stomach churn. Even a Brit doesn’t use as many Britishisms as you do. Is there anything at all you like about American culture, or do you wish you had been born in England? Well, I see ‘mates’ and ‘bloke’. Is that ‘full’? I talk how I talk. ---
**Author:** ![Johnny\_L.A](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/johnny_l.a/32/1084_2.png) [@Johnny\_L.A](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Johnny_L.A)\ **Post date:** [November 11, 2005, 7:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-good-news-is-that-i-met-a-girl/330560/9 "2005-11-11T19:00:57Z")
> [@Anaamika](#): > > Oh, that was like a kick in \*my \* gut! Poor **Johnny** …and here I was so happy for you. I should have known. (Actually, I suspected. So I slyly found out she has a daughter. Doesn’t mean she’s straight, buy it allayed my suspicions.) Seems that almost _every_ woman I’m attracted to is gay. ---
**Author:** ![Inigo\_Montoya](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/inigo_montoya/32/124_2.png) [@Inigo\_Montoya](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Inigo_Montoya)\ **Post date:** [November 11, 2005, 9:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-good-news-is-that-i-met-a-girl/330560/10 "2005-11-11T21:13:30Z")
Perhaps you are a lesbian trapped in a man’s body? It may explain your attraction to lesbians. ---
**Author:** ![photopat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/e95f7d/32.png) [@photopat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/photopat)\ **Post date:** [November 11, 2005, 9:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-good-news-is-that-i-met-a-girl/330560/11 "2005-11-11T21:41:49Z")
I too suggest you consider that she’s actually bi and was just being careful. Perhaps she’s had too many guys assume that bi _automatically_ equals potential three-way. And of course, just being friends wouldn’t be bad, right? ---
**Author:** ![eleanorigby](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/ee7513/32.png) [@eleanorigby](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/eleanorigby)\ **Post date:** [November 11, 2005, 10:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-good-news-is-that-i-met-a-girl/330560/12 "2005-11-11T22:14:40Z")
What Britishisms? (maybe I watch too much BBC America, but I don’t see it) Maybe if he said stuff like “what ho” or “jolly good” etc. Color me clueless. And maybe she will get interested in you at some point or maybe she has some great straight friends-anyway, isn’t it nice to have a new friend? And do you always note the bust size etc on any new woman and share that info? That also has me clueless. ---
**Author:** ![Inigo\_Montoya](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/inigo_montoya/32/124_2.png) [@Inigo\_Montoya](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Inigo_Montoya)\ **Post date:** [November 11, 2005, 10:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-good-news-is-that-i-met-a-girl/330560/13 "2005-11-11T22:22:19Z")
**eleanorigby** , ALL straight men note bust size on every new acquaintance. It may not even be with the idea of copping a grope, it’s just something we have to do. Mothers and most aunts are usually exempt. So it’s not at all surprising that bust size was inventoried. And a guy will only share that info if he’s interested in potentially hoarding said bust. (I didn’t get too British there, did I?) ---
**Author:** ![FordPrefect](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/e99b99/32.png) [@FordPrefect](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FordPrefect)\ **Post date:** [November 11, 2005, 10:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-good-news-is-that-i-met-a-girl/330560/14 "2005-11-11T22:48:29Z")
> [@Johnny L.A.](#): > > Well, I see ‘mates’ and ‘bloke’. Is that ‘full’? I talk how I talk. I think it was because you were typing in English… ---
**Author:** ![Johnny\_L.A](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/johnny_l.a/32/1084_2.png) [@Johnny\_L.A](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Johnny_L.A)\ **Post date:** [November 11, 2005, 11:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-good-news-is-that-i-met-a-girl/330560/15 "2005-11-11T23:22:10Z")
> [@eleanorigby](#): > > And do you always note the bust size etc on any new woman and share that info? Breasts are the second or third thing I notice. The description was meant to imply that her physical type is the kind I’m attracted to. ---
**Author:** ![Anastasaeon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/73ab20/32.png) [@Anastasaeon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anastasaeon)\ **Post date:** [November 11, 2005, 11:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-good-news-is-that-i-met-a-girl/330560/16 "2005-11-11T23:33:08Z")
Maybe your friends do know something about her you don’t know? Maybe she likes to tell men she’s interested in she’s a lesbian in hopes it will turn them on? Not something I’d do… however, I did work with a girl who, to get the attention of a guy she liked who worked with us, told him that she and I were lesbians. Joker that I am, I just played off of it, nothing raunchy, I’d just walk by her when she was near the guy she liked and say “Hey, babe.” Apparently it worked on him, because when I passed by, he looked back to her and said, “Ohh, God. I LOVE lesbians!” :eek: I mean, hey, I’m glad to help a girl get laid, but I’m not going any further than that! Anyway, whatever the case **Johnny** , it would be nice if you could maybe get a date out of it, or at least meet some of her friends… she sounds like she’s fun, fun people usually keep interesting friends around. 😉 Good luck no matter what happens… or doesn’t. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![eleanorigby](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/ee7513/32.png) [@eleanorigby](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/eleanorigby)\ **Post date:** [November 11, 2005, 11:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-good-news-is-that-i-met-a-girl/330560/17 "2005-11-11T23:33:29Z")
It just took me aback. But I might not be on the SDMB wave length today–I seem to be offending people tonoc. \ I just wish that maybe you didn’t–but that is fantasy world, not reality. I don’t look at a guy’s crotch upon introduction (and a fat lot of good it would do me, if I did). So, I was saying that I understand that you will look–I was hoping for more discretion. Never mind–I sound like I’m reprimanding you and I’m not. 🙂 I’ll shut up now. I’m sorry it didn’t work out–maybe she’ll want to “experiment” with you sometime. ---
**Author:** ![Anaamika](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/5f9b8f/32.png) [@Anaamika](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anaamika)\ **Post date:** [November 11, 2005, 11:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-good-news-is-that-i-met-a-girl/330560/18 "2005-11-11T23:38:50Z")
> [@eleanorigby](#): > > It just took me aback. But I might not be on the SDMB wave length today–I seem to be offending people tonoc. \ DAMN YOU AND YOUR POOR SPELLING! 😉 ---
**Author:** ![eleanorigby](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/ee7513/32.png) [@eleanorigby](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/eleanorigby)\ **Post date:** [November 11, 2005, 11:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-good-news-is-that-i-met-a-girl/330560/19 "2005-11-11T23:41:59Z")
Um… 😕 Whooooooooooooosh…right over my not so alert head. But I’m friendly. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Johnny\_L.A](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/johnny_l.a/32/1084_2.png) [@Johnny\_L.A](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Johnny_L.A)\ **Post date:** [November 12, 2005, 12:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-good-news-is-that-i-met-a-girl/330560/20 "2005-11-12T00:02:36Z")
> [@eleanorigby](#): > > I was hoping for more discretion. I’m a guy. 😃 Speaking of which… As I was talking to this woman the Director and The Actor were nearby. We started dissin’ each other. The woman said that she didn’t realise guys talked that way to each other. I asked, ‘Don’t women do that?’ She said, ‘No. We say, “Oh, your hair looks so _nice!_” and “Where did you get those shoes?”’ (Isn’t there a thread about women looking at guys’ shoes? When she said that, I became aware I was wearing my Vans with the skulls and bones on them.) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-good-news-is-that-i-met-a-girl/330560.md?page=2)