# The "I have never wanted to dance, not even a little bit" thread **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [May 6, 2010, 5:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-i-have-never-wanted-to-dance-not-even-a-little-bit-thread/538527 "2010-05-06T17:16:10Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 4\ **Page:** 6
**Author:** ![Digital\_Stimulus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/aeb1de/32.png) [@Digital\_Stimulus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Digital_Stimulus)\ **Post date:** [May 21, 2010, 5:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-i-have-never-wanted-to-dance-not-even-a-little-bit-thread/538527/101 "2010-05-21T17:35:25Z")
> [@Perciful](#): > > I go to dances sometimes and the wallflowers all stand around the room watching people dancing. If they could just ‘let go’ and be ‘in the moment’ they would have so much fun. Really – try, just _try_, to comprehend that some people _honestly don’t like dancing_, despite the fact that _you do_. It’s not a matter of _letting go_, nor is it a matter of _being in the moment_. For some people, it’s simply a matter of **not enjoying dancing**. It’s an example of the cliche: _different strokes for different folks_. It’s difficult for me to grasp why some people are so stubbornly dense about it…but then, given the _different strokes_ idea, I suppose it’s inevitable. Frustrating, but inevitable. ---
**Author:** ![MeanOldLady](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/meanoldlady/32/10737_2.png) [@MeanOldLady](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MeanOldLady)\ **Post date:** [May 21, 2010, 6:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-i-have-never-wanted-to-dance-not-even-a-little-bit-thread/538527/102 "2010-05-21T18:35:15Z")
The notion that people’s interests may differ from mine frightens me and makes me uncomfortable. ---
**Author:** ![Digital\_Stimulus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/aeb1de/32.png) [@Digital\_Stimulus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Digital_Stimulus)\ **Post date:** [May 21, 2010, 6:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-i-have-never-wanted-to-dance-not-even-a-little-bit-thread/538527/103 "2010-05-21T18:52:22Z")
> [@MeanOldLady](#): > > The notion that people’s interests may differ from mine frightens me and makes me uncomfortable. There, there. It’ll all be alright…here, let me buy you a glass of…what was it…gin, right? While I despise gin myself, I understand that it really does appeal to some people…and it’ll soothe your nerves. Gently now, it’ll all be alright… 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Frylock](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/ce7236/32.png) [@Frylock](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Frylock)\ **Post date:** [May 21, 2010, 7:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-i-have-never-wanted-to-dance-not-even-a-little-bit-thread/538527/104 "2010-05-21T19:23:11Z")
> [@Perciful](#): > > I go to dances sometimes and the wallflowers all stand around the room watching people dancing. If they could just ‘let go’ and be ‘in the moment’ they would have so much fun. Perciful, this is unfortunately getting obnoxious. Let me be very clear: When I “let go” and let myself be “in the moment,” what happens is, I am completely still. I do not move. That, for me, _is_ letting go and being in the moment. Moving around would _ruin_ it. > [@](#): > > I don’t care what other people think and to enjoy dancing you can’t worry about what others are thinking. As I said, this is getting obnoxious. This kind of comment has been addressed already. You’re implying that people who don’t like to dance are like that because they are worried about what others will think. This is _not true_. We just _don’t like to dance_. Are you getting this yet? We enjoy ourselves by means _other than dancing_. Does that make sense to you? > [@](#): > > For a while I thought I needed a drink to dance but I actually dance better sober. No more running into tables and stepping on peoples feet. > > I can go into my zone when dancing and it feels like love and light. I think God gave us dancing as a good thing. A form of expression or an art it brings happiness. It is a bit sexy too. I was joking before when I said your idea that wallflowers are afraid of what others will think is just as bad as if I were to assume dancers are too eager to make other people think about them. And I don’t assume that. But as much as you apparently like to go on and on about how much you _lurrrrve_ to dance, I start to wonder if it _is_ some kind of exhibitionism that motivates you after all. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-i-have-never-wanted-to-dance-not-even-a-little-bit-thread/538527.md?page=5)