Close our eyes, stick our fingers in our ears, and ignore the terror. More to the point:
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[li]Keep working until 65 or so, for starters. That gives us that much longer to build the current retirement savings. [/li][li]Invest a buck or two on the occasional Powerball ticket (hey, 2 bucks of fun imagining what we’d do, it’s worth it for the entertainment value). [/li][li]Keep our high life insurance policies in place as long as we can afford them (if we kicked off right now, it wouldn’t yield 10 million but would yield well over 1M. Best not to tell the kids that :D). [/li][li]Hope the parents don’t need much more assistance than they do now. If one or both required a nursing home, it would have to be a Medicaid home and I get the impression those are hellholes, but we simply Could Not Afford to pay for that care.[/li][/ul]
I’ve occasionally had a session with a retirement planner through one of the big brokerage houses. I always start off with “just tell me when I have to die”. Supposedly, ignoring parental expenses and a big nest egg for the kids, we’re OK - but only assuming we continue to work another 10ish years and the financial markets don’t go totally toes-up.
All the numbers I threw out there were basically WAGs and with very generous assumptions, and ignored taxes, inflation, growth of principal, reduction in outflow due to paid-off mortgage and so on - I wasn’t trying to come up with real-world numbers, just trying to illustrate why for some people, a 10M windfall wouldn’t necessarily be the easy “set for life, retire NOW” choice. That said, I was trying to be somewhat realistic on costs.
Assisted living for the kids: as noted, not needed - they’re physically capable of caring for themselves, just not developmentally able - as in, remembering to pay the bills, remembering to shower (blech). These are evolving skills - both are college age - but a trust fund we would set up should have some provision for a limited bit of oversight. The grandparents, if they needed a nursing home / assisted living: we know from a friend’s experience that a nice facility starts at a minimum of 5-6K a month per person (mother with Alzheimer’s). 2 parents = 12K a month. There’s 150K a year right there. Skilled nursing facilities might be even more costly - my friend’s mother is not bedridden.
Bottom line: If we had 10M in the bank right now, could we retire right away? Almost certainly even with our family constraints. But I’d want to sit down with a planner and figure it out before we did anything like quitting our jobs.