# The lamest reason you had for breaking up with or not dating someone? **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [May 23, 2005, 2:21am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-lamest-reason-you-had-for-breaking-up-with-or-not-dating-someone/305032 "2005-05-23T02:21:49Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 4
**Author:** ![fishbicycle](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/aeb1de/32.png) [@fishbicycle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/fishbicycle)\ **Post date:** [May 23, 2005, 6:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-lamest-reason-you-had-for-breaking-up-with-or-not-dating-someone/305032/61 "2005-05-23T18:43:13Z")
May I butt in here to say that I _like_ the look of a young woman in jeans and sneakers? Up to a certain age, then yeah, it starts to look like that “soccer mom” thing. But otherwise, I like it. A lot. Rowr. ---
**Author:** ![eleanorigby](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/ee7513/32.png) [@eleanorigby](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/eleanorigby)\ **Post date:** [May 23, 2005, 6:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-lamest-reason-you-had-for-breaking-up-with-or-not-dating-someone/305032/62 "2005-05-23T18:48:04Z")
Sadly, I was the dumpee. I was dumped for not liking Mexican food, for smoking (from a guy who used to bum my cigs when we were out clubbing) and for not putting out. (last one not lame). and I wear jeans and sneakers every day-I choose comfort over style to go to the grocery store etc. Now, if I am going out for coffee or downtown or a movie…that’s different. Aid for older people like me: Chuck Taylor’s=Converse HighTops (canvas). ---
**Author:** ![vetbridge](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/b5e925/32.png) [@vetbridge](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/vetbridge)\ **Post date:** [May 23, 2005, 6:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-lamest-reason-you-had-for-breaking-up-with-or-not-dating-someone/305032/63 "2005-05-23T18:54:46Z")
I have “dumped” women 3 times for what others might feel were silly reasons. 1. Found out she was married. (I was gonna tell you, honest) It sure explained her odd schedule and lack of a home phone number. 2. Chain smoker. 24/7. bleh. Hot in every other way, but cig breath first thing in the morning was horrible. 3. Asked if I would consider a 3 way. Me, her, and him. Not my style. ---
**Author:** ![Salem](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/8c91f0/32.png) [@Salem](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Salem)\ **Post date:** [May 23, 2005, 6:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-lamest-reason-you-had-for-breaking-up-with-or-not-dating-someone/305032/64 "2005-05-23T18:57:58Z")
> [@Lady of the Lake](#): > > I’m fond of a look like this on a man: > [this look](http://www.bananarepublic.com/browse/product/232/product_232859.htm?cs_catalog=BR%5FSummer2%5F3%5F2005&cs_category=100301) [hijack] Am I alone in getting a little light-headed in the rolled up sleeve look? [/hijack] ---
**Author:** ![Salem](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/8c91f0/32.png) [@Salem](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Salem)\ **Post date:** [May 23, 2005, 7:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-lamest-reason-you-had-for-breaking-up-with-or-not-dating-someone/305032/65 "2005-05-23T19:00:54Z")
> [@Salem](#): > > [hijack] Am I alone in getting a little light-headed\*\* in\*\* the rolled up sleeve look? [/hijack] That would be **by** that look. Sorry, it was the forearms, they got me all mixed up. ---
**Author:** ![kimera](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/f0a364/32.png) [@kimera](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kimera)\ **Post date:** [May 23, 2005, 8:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-lamest-reason-you-had-for-breaking-up-with-or-not-dating-someone/305032/66 "2005-05-23T20:37:52Z")
I’m pretty tolerant - it’s hard for me to find guys I like, so I’ve dated a lot of guys that had huge deal breakers for most women. However, I did break up with one guy because he kept trying to get me to dress differently than how I prefer. I used to be a huge tomboy and, although I enjoy expressing my girly side once in a while now, I still don’t wear a lot of stuff that’s girly. Heels are the primary example, I’ll wear them once in a while but I refuse to wear them everyday. It mostly just struck me as controlling behavior which is the ultimate turn off for me. ---
**Author:** ![Misnomer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/misnomer/32/14897_2.png) [@Misnomer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Misnomer)\ **Post date:** [May 23, 2005, 10:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-lamest-reason-you-had-for-breaking-up-with-or-not-dating-someone/305032/67 "2005-05-23T22:40:54Z")
Once, I opted out of a 4th date with a perfectly nice, attractive guy because he went to bed and got up early during the week, and liked to keep to the same schedule on weekends. Nothing wrong with that in principle, but I just couldn’t take always being home by 10pm on Friday/Saturday nights! That’s the lamest reason I can think of. All of the other breakups/refusals to date were based on good reasons … like the guy whose brother was a police sergeant (or something) in NJ, and flashed his bro’s business card when he got pulled over for speeding in VA … and the boyfriend who kept misplacing his penis in other women’s vaginas… 😃 Oh, and count me among the “who knew that jeans + sneakers were wrong??” folks: if I’m wearing jeans and a t-shirt or sweatshirt, there are either sneakers or Birkenstocks on my feet (but jeans + other tops = other footwear). No one has ever accused me of looking like a soccer mom. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![descamisado](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/e480ec/32.png) [@descamisado](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/descamisado)\ **Post date:** [May 23, 2005, 11:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-lamest-reason-you-had-for-breaking-up-with-or-not-dating-someone/305032/68 "2005-05-23T23:05:00Z")
> [@vetbridge](#): > > I have “dumped” women 3 times for what others might feel were silly reasons. > > 1. Asked if I would consider a 3 way. Me, . . ., and him. Not my style. Hell, I would dumped _your_ ass, I mean no 3-way. Oh, wait a minute – I’m gay, you’re not. Never mind! ---
**Author:** ![Electrical\_Storm](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/ac8455/32.png) [@Electrical\_Storm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Electrical_Storm)\ **Post date:** [May 23, 2005, 11:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-lamest-reason-you-had-for-breaking-up-with-or-not-dating-someone/305032/69 "2005-05-23T23:17:19Z")
He used the word “whatever” too much. I’ve used the word “whatever” myself. I use it mostly when I want to say, “enough already” or, “f\*\*k off” but need a more acceptable way to say it at the moment. But I use it sparingly. I dumped a guy because he overused the word “whatever”. His use of this word was so excessive it drove me batshit. After a month or so I actually started keeping count of how many times he said “whatever” in a conversation. By the end of one evening out (and a movie was involved - two full hours in which we hadn’t said a word!) I’d counted over fifty instances in which he’d inserted “whatever” into the conversation, or used it to end a sentence. It used to aggravate me to no end. I found myself focusing not really on what he was saying, but on whether he was going to say “whatever” again. I’d grit my teeth every time I heard it after about 4-5 weeks of dating. After about two months I couldn’t stand it anymore and I broke it off. ☹ He was a great guy, but it just drove me nuts. How’s that for lame? :rolleyes: ---
**Author:** ![Anne\_Neville](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/b9e5f3/32.png) [@Anne\_Neville](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Anne_Neville)\ **Post date:** [May 23, 2005, 11:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-lamest-reason-you-had-for-breaking-up-with-or-not-dating-someone/305032/70 "2005-05-23T23:19:10Z")
> [@vetbridge](#): > > I have “dumped” women 3 times for what others might feel were silly reasons. > > 1. Found out she was married. :eek: :eek: :eek: :eek: :eek: Who would consider that a silly reason? Was that a whoosh I just heard over my head? Please tell me it was a whoosh ---
**Author:** ![Queen\_Tonya](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/q/4491bb/32.png) [@Queen\_Tonya](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Queen_Tonya)\ **Post date:** [May 23, 2005, 11:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-lamest-reason-you-had-for-breaking-up-with-or-not-dating-someone/305032/71 "2005-05-23T23:33:25Z")
He dissed J-Lo, so I dumped him. Yep, pretty lame, although it was more of a “how can you be this intense about such a stupid topic” thing. [Lameness](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=273335) ---
**Author:** ![FairyChatMom](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/fairychatmom/32/21906_2.png) [@FairyChatMom](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FairyChatMom)\ **Post date:** [May 23, 2005, 11:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-lamest-reason-you-had-for-breaking-up-with-or-not-dating-someone/305032/72 "2005-05-23T23:38:16Z")
I had a guy dump me because of: [ol] [li]My taste in music[/li][li]I wouldn’t smoke dope with him[/li][li]I was going to college[/li][/ol] And, of all things, _he_ was at sea at the time. \* I\* got the Dear Jane letter… ---
**Author:** ![Kalhoun](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/3bc359/32.png) [@Kalhoun](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kalhoun)\ **Post date:** [May 24, 2005, 2:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-lamest-reason-you-had-for-breaking-up-with-or-not-dating-someone/305032/73 "2005-05-24T14:16:23Z")
> [@Harimad-sol](#): > > Well, I always knew I wasn’t in fashion. 😃 My wardrobe would probably give you folks fits. I do wear boots or regular shoes with jeans sometimes, but only on special occasions. If I’m just going to class or hanging out with friends, I wear sneakers. > > I am highly amused that jeans with sneakers is both a non-grown-up and a “soccer mom” look. I’m not offended, though, and I’ll shut up now. I think where this all changed is when jeans became something other than strictly “work” or “play” clothing. Of course, when you’re working…like hammering shingles on the roof or hanging drywall, you should wear the appropriate shoes for the job. Same with yardwork and volleyball games or walking through Millenium Park all day. But jeans are now considered casual evening wear, officewear, and anything other purpose in addition to “work” or “Play”. Thus, the appropriate shoes are needed. ---
**Author:** ![vetbridge](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/b5e925/32.png) [@vetbridge](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/vetbridge)\ **Post date:** [May 24, 2005, 2:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-lamest-reason-you-had-for-breaking-up-with-or-not-dating-someone/305032/74 "2005-05-24T14:43:25Z")
> [@Anne Neville](#): > > :eek: :eek: :eek: :eek: :eek: > > Who would consider that a silly reason? > > Was that a whoosh I just heard over my head? Please tell me it was a whoosh No whoosh. Maybe TMI, but I probably would have had a relationship with her despite her marital situation. It was her lying about it that freaked me out. ---
**Author:** ![bouv](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/bc8723/32.png) [@bouv](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bouv)\ **Post date:** [May 24, 2005, 2:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-lamest-reason-you-had-for-breaking-up-with-or-not-dating-someone/305032/75 "2005-05-24T14:50:55Z")
I dumped two different girls because both of them apparantly didn’t like my penis as much as some other guy’s. Yeah, I know, a totally lame reason. ---
**Author:** ![raz](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/9f8e36/32.png) [@raz](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/raz)\ **Post date:** [May 25, 2005, 7:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-lamest-reason-you-had-for-breaking-up-with-or-not-dating-someone/305032/76 "2005-05-25T19:52:28Z")
This is lame. Really, really lame. And I’m sorry for sharing it because of the lameness. I was kind-of seeing this guy for a couple weeks. Greatest guy ever, we had the same values and beliefs, both loved Subway and chinese food, and he was super-rich. Like, loaded to the max. He had a motorcycle and four vehicles, one of which was an Escalade and one of which was a brand-new Hummer. And he was only 24. Also we were in the same circle of friends which was cool. But his nose was kinda-sorta too big, and when I got real close to his face, like to kiss him, all I could notice was all the little pores on his nose and how visible they were. And I’d just be thinking, “Ick, he has giant pores.” And then we stopped talking, and I didn’t really mind because he had big pores anyway and I just couldn’t stop thinking about it. ---
**Author:** ![Muad\_Dib](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/35a633/32.png) [@Muad\_Dib](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Muad_Dib)\ **Post date:** [May 26, 2005, 9:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-lamest-reason-you-had-for-breaking-up-with-or-not-dating-someone/305032/77 "2005-05-26T09:20:48Z")
> [@Lady of the Lake](#): > > I once refused to date someone because his shirt was all rumpled and looked dirty. At work. I told him that I didn’t feel it would be appropriate to date someone from the office - but this was a lie as I was already casually dating someone from the office. > > The messy shirt at work made me wonder if he was into a lifestyle that wouldn’t mesh with mine. I felt bad about judging him on appearance and rejecting him for quit some time, especially when I learned he liked Civ2 a few months later, we would have had lots to talk about… Well if the man is playing Civ2 then there is good reason for unkempt laundrey. ---
**Author:** ![Rilchiam](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/2bfe46/32.png) [@Rilchiam](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rilchiam)\ **Post date:** [June 5, 2005, 11:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-lamest-reason-you-had-for-breaking-up-with-or-not-dating-someone/305032/78 "2005-06-05T11:36:50Z")
> [@QuickSilver](#): > > 1. Women who say “yes” on the first date. Then why do you ask on the first date? ---
**Author:** ![Nawth\_Chucka](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/c57346/32.png) [@Nawth\_Chucka](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nawth_Chucka)\ **Post date:** [June 5, 2005, 1:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-lamest-reason-you-had-for-breaking-up-with-or-not-dating-someone/305032/79 "2005-06-05T13:50:47Z")
> [@Askia](#): > > Besides their being materialistic, golddigging, husband-hunting type A personality types with sticks up their pilated asses and matching pink and green outfits? The fact that annoying sorority call \>\> Skeeeee-wheeeee! \<\< makes my inner eardrums bleed? > > Okay, I libelously exaggerate. But not by much. > > That said, older AKAs are shockingly cool. I’d probably like your Moms. It’s the ones still around breeding age I avoid. See, and I thought it was their sickening foamie pop can cozies that are made to look like little lime green and orange t-shirts. “Oh, how cute, your beverage has a wardrobe.” ---
**Author:** ![Nawth\_Chucka](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/c57346/32.png) [@Nawth\_Chucka](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nawth_Chucka)\ **Post date:** [June 5, 2005, 2:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-lamest-reason-you-had-for-breaking-up-with-or-not-dating-someone/305032/80 "2005-06-05T14:04:21Z")
> [@Rilchiam](#): > > Then why do you ask on the first date? I have to second that emotion - why do you pressure us by saying you’re not sure you want to go out w/ us again if we don’t ‘prove there’s chemistry’, then refuse to date us again because we did? 'Cause that happened to a friend of mine. :o To respond to the OP, I once refused a 2nd date because during a discussion of Monty Python, my date said, “Yeah, I think he’s great.” [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-lamest-reason-you-had-for-breaking-up-with-or-not-dating-someone/305032.md?page=3) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-lamest-reason-you-had-for-breaking-up-with-or-not-dating-someone/305032.md?page=5)