# The limits of racial tolerance -or- Would you want your daughter to marry one?

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**Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\
**Created:** [April 17, 2001, 9:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-limits-of-racial-tolerance-or-would-you-want-your-daughter-to-marry-one/62267 "2001-04-17T09:00:24Z")\
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**Author:** ![flodnak](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/838e76/32.png) [@flodnak](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/flodnak)\
**Post date:** [April 19, 2001, 9:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-limits-of-racial-tolerance-or-would-you-want-your-daughter-to-marry-one/62267/21 "2001-04-19T09:17:24Z")

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> \*Originally posted by Testy \*  
> **OTOH, we’re here because I make enough to afford a lot of things that I wouldn’t be able to in other circumstances.**

At the risk of being a buttinsky… there’s more than money involved in being able to “afford” a certain lifestyle. You are also paying for those things by living in a culture you’re not entirely comfortable with. The big question - and only you and your wife can answer this for your family - is whether the whole price is worth it. Not just the amount of money you’re spending, but the cultural differences you have to live with.

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**Author:** ![Testy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/c37758/32.png) [@Testy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Testy)\
**Post date:** [April 19, 2001, 1:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-limits-of-racial-tolerance-or-would-you-want-your-daughter-to-marry-one/62267/22 "2001-04-19T13:38:45Z")

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> \*Originally posted by flodnak \*  
> At the risk of being a buttinsky… there’s more than money involved in being able to “afford” a certain lifestyle. You are also paying for those things by living in a culture you’re not entirely comfortable with. The big question - and only you and your wife can answer this for your family - is whether the whole price is worth it. Not just the amount of money you’re spending, but the cultural differences you have to live with. \*\*

Not a buttinski, thank you. I did ask for comments, viewpoints, advice, whatever. You’re right of course, there is always a price to pay. Overall it isn’t too bad, just some fairly unique problems. We talk about this sort of thing occasionally but are generally too busy getting on with life to get philosophical about it. So, is it allowed to ask what a “flodnak” is? Just curious.

Thanks.

Testy.

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