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The Scithers one? I had picked up a bunch of them, and finally got around to reading them. They were awesome, and I don’t even like horror much.
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Please just admit that you’re only wearing that suit to try and look more attractive to women.
Yep, that’s the one!
Huh, it didn’t even occur to me the GQ in the OP’s name stood for or had any connection to “general questions”. I assumed he saw himself as a “Gentleman’s Quarterly Elite”, considering how many times that magazine has been invoked in this thread.
Anyway, I always figured if one had class, one dressed and behaved as the environment called for, to avoid making people around you uncomfortable. Thus, if wearing a suit is appropriate, fine. If wearing jeans and a t-shirt is appropriate, fine. If buying rounds of drinks is appropriate, fine. If not buying rounds of drinks is appropriate, fine. If one finds that that one’s attire or behaviour is generating a negative response, the classy thing to do is adapt or depart, not blame the discomfited locals.
In this particular case, the locals (well, many of them) like to mock pompous newcomers, so there’s no immediate pressure to adapt, but it’ll wear thin quickly and if the OP is thinking about staying on this board for any length of time, he should either settle down or become a lot more entertainingly wacky, like Starving Artist wacky.
This never happened.
First of all, yes. Daniel Craig wears jeans and a black t-shirt as Bond in “Quantum of Solace.” James Bond certainly doesn’t need any monkey suit to feel confident and can wear what he damn well pleases. Including, and perhaps especially, nearly nothing.
Still no word on whether a vagina disqualifies you from looking like GQ man in a suit! I’m waiting…
… oops, did I offend gramps by using the word vagina?
Agreed.
I was going to say Armenian. That’s how they dress around here.
Yes it did cause no one in the place knew me. They thought I was throwing my money around in their face. Making them feel uncomfortable. That is what I was told.
Also you know what? These people that think just because I dress nice, there is something wrong with that? I will dress how I want, and I will wear my expensive clothing. I will do it whenever I want. When people can’t afford to drink a beer , I will gladly order the most expensive drink in the place and then go out for a Steak Dinner. I am who I am and no one is gonna stop me. Its not my fault they can’t do what I do or dress the way I do.
Stay classy, 33.
According to Forbes Travel Guide there are only 25 five-star restaurants in all of America. NYC has all of six.
And none of them are steak places.
Yeah, that’s not gonna happen.
Is this that ask the pick up artist guy? He recommended leather jackets and gold chains, too. He was also quite sure strangers were impressed with his swagger.
Sounds almost like the local clientele preferred not to owe rounds (and, by implication, face time) to the insufferable fop they suddenly found in their midst. Because - and you can trust me on this - nobody is impressed that you could afford to buy a whole 12 beers.
Nothing wrong with that. Be your own bad self. Dress it up with all the gold chains you can fit around your neck. But the self-pity is a little misplaced when you started telling others that they’re wrong for dressing down.
Weren’t you blabbing about badly wanting to be the alpha male? Because I can tell you this much: Someone who’s comfortable with their status in the pack order the drink they want, not the one that the bartender made up to fleece those with more money than confidence.
I thought that sounded weird. Steak is nice and all, but high-flying luxury cuisine it ain’t.
Its the changes in peer pressure that has allowed for the changing norms. There is still a dress code, its just more diverse and frankly tougher to figure out than it used to be.
Until the mid to late 1990’s I was expected to wear a suit to work every day.
In fact it was customary to put on my jacket and button my top button if I was going to talk to a more senior attorney.
I was ABSOLUTELY expected to to wear a suit to any meetings where clients were going to be present.
Then in the mid 1990’s clients started showing up without jacket and tie then they started showing up in polo shirts and khakis. You could almost tell who the richest people were in the room by how badly they dressed. This was especially true during the dot-com boom.
At some point the bankers stopped wearing suits to these meetings (venture capitalists had long abandoned suits in favor of rolled up sleeves and comfortable footwear) and lawyers slowly followed suit.
Now you are expected to keep a suit in your closet at work for client meetings but these days I only put on a suit for foreign clients (who still expect their lawyers to look the part. You still shouldn’t wear jeans, sneakers, flip flops or sweats (I can’t believe we have to remind young lawyers of this), but jackets and ties are no longer expected.
I’m going to make some educated guesses about the OP:
He’s an MBA. Middle management. Not particularly good at his job, just sufficiently competent to avoid getting fired. He’s widely detested by his direct reports, likely because what advancement he’s had has been through taking credit for his underlings ideas. He’s never actually produced anything of value in his professional life. He can spend all day redesigning an org chart, and is convinced that he’s done something useful.
How do I know this? He described himself as an “alpha dog.” Bad news for you, OP: No one in history who has described themselves as an alpha dog has ever actually been an alpha dog. People don’t do what you say because they respect you, or fear you. They do what you say because there’s someone above you who they’re genuinely impressed or intimidated by, and that person has found it useful to loan you a little bit of his authority. You’re not an alpha dog. You’re just somebody’s bitch. All the fancy suits and tacky jewelry in the world isn’t going to hide that fact.
I have considered wearing a suit when I fly anything but Southwest these days, on the chance that it’s slightly more likely I’ll get a free upgrade to first class. Hey, it worked the last time I had to fly wearing a suit.
I once wore a suit on the Log Flume ride at Disneyland.
I think you missed on this one. I got him as a semi-professional drone who is all about his clothes and his “staff” is the clerical pool which he has some marginal leverage over.
Like you said, the self titled alpha dog comment was a give away to a the fact that he’s really a wannabe.