# The manly weepers - What films are OK for men to cry while watching? **URL:** \ **Category:** Cafe Society\ **Created:** [December 17, 2006, 6:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-manly-weepers-what-films-are-ok-for-men-to-cry-while-watching/384484 "2006-12-17T06:50:48Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 3
**Author:** ![Jake](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/f475e1/32.png) [@Jake](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jake)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2006, 7:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-manly-weepers-what-films-are-ok-for-men-to-cry-while-watching/384484/41 "2006-12-17T19:25:35Z")
[QUOTE=magellan01] Saving Private Ryan. The end of the movie when an aged Ryan is at the cemetary. [/QUOTE] Seconded. Such a powerful movie. I’m not sure if I could watch it a second time. ---
**Author:** ![The\_Scrivener](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/eada6e/32.png) [@The\_Scrivener](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Scrivener)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2006, 7:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-manly-weepers-what-films-are-ok-for-men-to-cry-while-watching/384484/42 "2006-12-17T19:37:56Z")
I once knew a guy who cried at **Awakenings** – the scene where DiNiro is dancing with the young woman, who eventually must walk away… and he’s watching her, crying and shaking, at the hospital window. That gets me, too. ☹ ---
**Author:** ![Talon\_Karrde](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/c5a1d2/32.png) [@Talon\_Karrde](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Talon_Karrde)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2006, 8:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-manly-weepers-what-films-are-ok-for-men-to-cry-while-watching/384484/43 "2006-12-17T20:00:29Z")
Casablanca definitely has a few scenes. I don’t think anyone will blame anyone for crying in Grave of the Fireflies. > [@Phantom Dennis](#): > > Of course I got teary-eyed watching Finding Nemo, so what do I know? Hey, me too. Well, the first time I watched it. ---
**Author:** ![RunSilent](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e0b2c6/32.png) [@RunSilent](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/RunSilent)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2006, 8:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-manly-weepers-what-films-are-ok-for-men-to-cry-while-watching/384484/44 "2006-12-17T20:02:18Z")
Bambi… the scene where his mother gets shot… and Bambi calls, “Mother… Mother.” ---
**Author:** ![Least\_Original\_User\_Name\_Ever](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/e480ec/32.png) [@Least\_Original\_User\_Name\_Ever](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Least_Original_User_Name_Ever)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2006, 8:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-manly-weepers-what-films-are-ok-for-men-to-cry-while-watching/384484/45 "2006-12-17T20:16:58Z")
[QUOTE=Auntbeast] I asked my husband. He’s a stereotypical big, dumb guy. Manly man, etc. His list: The Champ Bridges of Madison County (this one freaked me out a bit) Forrest Gump (when Forrest meets his son) Titanic Lord of the Rings (the whole bowing thing, although he admits more) Saving Private Ryan (As the old guy in the cemetary when asked if he had lived a good life) I’ll throw this tidbit in here. The fact that he admits that any of them had any emotional impact on him whatsoever is an amazing feat in itself. **Emotions are that which should be wadded up in a little ball and choked down**. [/QUOTE] Bolding mine. That’s right! Let’s just get rid of those…what do you call them again?..emotions! I think I cried at ET. That’s mostly because I wanted an extra terrestrial and I knew I couldn’t have one. I haven’t seen Brian’s Song, but I have seen Casablanca. I didn’t get the um…dust…in my eye whne that movie was on. Yeah. Dust. That’s what it was! It wouldn’t be so bad if you females wouldn’t notice and go “Awwwwwww!”. ---
**Author:** ![Loach](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/loach/32/350_2.png) [@Loach](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Loach)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2006, 8:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-manly-weepers-what-films-are-ok-for-men-to-cry-while-watching/384484/46 "2006-12-17T20:21:05Z")
[QUOTE=zamboniracer] I know that you’re looking for other movies besides these there, but I protest the use of the term “maybe” after Field of Dreams. That one gets me every time. [/QUOTE] I was going to say the same thing. My father died way too young and the scene at the end hits me hard. I did not see it coming the first time, I thought the movie was over. One time I saw it on regular TV and it pissed me off when they went to commerical just before he asked his dad to have a catch with him. ---
**Author:** ![levdrakon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/49beb7/32.png) [@levdrakon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/levdrakon)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2006, 8:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-manly-weepers-what-films-are-ok-for-men-to-cry-while-watching/384484/47 "2006-12-17T20:27:28Z")
[QUOTE=Priceguy] _Babe_. Yes, the one with the pig. I heard it mentioned as a movie that makes men cry, had a little laugh about the sheer ridiculousness of that notion, and then watched it. No more laughing. Tears, though. [/QUOTE] That one always gets me. Just say “that’ll do pig” and I’m done for awhile. ---
**Author:** ![Dunderman](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/ecb155/32.png) [@Dunderman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dunderman)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2006, 8:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-manly-weepers-what-films-are-ok-for-men-to-cry-while-watching/384484/48 "2006-12-17T20:34:36Z")
[QUOTE=levdrakon] Just say “that’ll do pig” and I’m done for awhile. [/QUOTE] Yup, that’s the line. Well, the whole sequence at the beginning with Babe’s mother, also messed me up. ---
**Author:** ![msmith537](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/d9b06d/32.png) [@msmith537](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/msmith537)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2006, 8:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-manly-weepers-what-films-are-ok-for-men-to-cry-while-watching/384484/49 "2006-12-17T20:44:08Z")
Saving Private Ryan Rudy Armageddon Black Hawk Down LOTR: Fellowship of the Rings Remember the Titans ---
**Author:** ![msmith537](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/d9b06d/32.png) [@msmith537](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/msmith537)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2006, 8:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-manly-weepers-what-films-are-ok-for-men-to-cry-while-watching/384484/50 "2006-12-17T20:46:27Z")
also Gladiator Braveheart Last of the Mohicans various Rocky movies prior to V ---
**Author:** ![brownie55](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/f14d63/32.png) [@brownie55](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/brownie55)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2006, 9:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-manly-weepers-what-films-are-ok-for-men-to-cry-while-watching/384484/51 "2006-12-17T21:30:27Z")
[QUOTE=msmith537] Saving Private Ryan Rudy **Armageddon** Black Hawk Down LOTR: Fellowship of the Rings Remember the Titans [/QUOTE] Thank Og I didn’t have to be the first to admit this. ---
**Author:** ![Least\_Original\_User\_Name\_Ever](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/e480ec/32.png) [@Least\_Original\_User\_Name\_Ever](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Least_Original_User_Name_Ever)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2006, 9:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-manly-weepers-what-films-are-ok-for-men-to-cry-while-watching/384484/52 "2006-12-17T21:34:53Z")
Last time I saw Armageddon, I was at a buddy’s house. All the girls were sobbing at the end and my buddy and I looked at each other, laughed and waved stupidly to each other. ---
**Author:** ![interface2x](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/c0e974/32.png) [@interface2x](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/interface2x)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2006, 11:28pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-manly-weepers-what-films-are-ok-for-men-to-cry-while-watching/384484/53 "2006-12-17T23:28:59Z")
[QUOTE=Talon Karrde] I don’t think anyone will blame anyone for crying in Grave of the Fireflies. [/QUOTE] Agreed - it’s the right of everyone everywhere to cry during this movie. ---
**Author:** ![SkeptiJess](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ea666f/32.png) [@SkeptiJess](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/SkeptiJess)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2006, 11:32pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-manly-weepers-what-films-are-ok-for-men-to-cry-while-watching/384484/54 "2006-12-17T23:32:22Z")
My brother cried at several points in _Kramer vs. Kramer_. He was 18 or so when it came out and none of his female friends or relatives held it against him. Recently my husband and I went to see _Flags of Our Fathers_ and I noticed tears on my husband’s face at the end. He may have cried at earlier points, too (I certainly did), but it was the last scene where I noticed him crying – the scene with the men just playing and grabassing in the surf and Bradley’s voiceover saying, “…if we wish to truly honor these men we should remember them the way they really were – the way my dad remembered them.” My son often cries a bit at movies, books, music videos… Certainly many of the themes represented in this thread would get to him. Father/ son stuff – check. War hero/ sacrifice stuff – check. Underdog stuff – check. No shame to him, or to anyone else in this thread, IMO. It is not ‘unmanly’ to weep at noble ideas. Quite the opposite. ---
**Author:** ![Captain\_Carrot](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/f0a364/32.png) [@Captain\_Carrot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Captain_Carrot)\ **Post date:** [December 17, 2006, 11:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-manly-weepers-what-films-are-ok-for-men-to-cry-while-watching/384484/55 "2006-12-17T23:43:19Z")
I absolutely second _Life is Beautiful_. Most of the others mentioned here I haven’t seen, though I’ll prolly see _Brokeback Mountain_ at some point. ---
**Author:** ![vibrotronica](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/a9a28c/32.png) [@vibrotronica](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/vibrotronica)\ **Post date:** [December 18, 2006, 12:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-manly-weepers-what-films-are-ok-for-men-to-cry-while-watching/384484/56 "2006-12-18T00:06:45Z")
_Hotel Rawanda_ ---
**Author:** ![Tangent](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tangent/32/3098_2.png) [@Tangent](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tangent)\ **Post date:** [December 18, 2006, 12:18am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-manly-weepers-what-films-are-ok-for-men-to-cry-while-watching/384484/57 "2006-12-18T00:18:45Z")
[QUOTE=Auntbeast] Forrest Gump (when Forrest meets his son) [/QUOTE] And he asks Jenny, “Is he smart? Or is he…” and he puts his hand to his chest. I’m tearing up just thinking about it. ---
**Author:** ![snailboy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/97f17d/32.png) [@snailboy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/snailboy)\ **Post date:** [December 18, 2006, 2:26am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-manly-weepers-what-films-are-ok-for-men-to-cry-while-watching/384484/58 "2006-12-18T02:26:30Z")
This is kind of outside the theme of the rest of the movies listed, but the only movie I remember making my eyes watery is _Final Fantasy: Advent Children_, based on the FF7 video game. At the end where Aeris’ spirit tells Cloud he’ll be okay and he says he will because he’s not alone, it chokes me up. There’s a reason i’ve never watched that movie with anyone else. ---
**Author:** ![Evil\_Captor](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/f17d59/32.png) [@Evil\_Captor](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Evil_Captor)\ **Post date:** [December 18, 2006, 2:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-manly-weepers-what-films-are-ok-for-men-to-cry-while-watching/384484/59 "2006-12-18T02:32:58Z")
Sorority Slammer Girls In Heat. The thought that such beautiful young women are so willing, and so eager, to do such wild and kinky things just makes me all verklemt every time I think about it. ---
**Author:** ![Moirai](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/96bed5/32.png) [@Moirai](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Moirai)\ **Post date:** [December 18, 2006, 3:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-manly-weepers-what-films-are-ok-for-men-to-cry-while-watching/384484/60 "2006-12-18T03:19:54Z")
The “have a catch” scene in _Field of Dreams_ doesn’t do nearly the damage (for me, anyway) that Burt Lancaster’s final scene does. The young Burt is standing there at the edge of that field, having just barely realized what he thought was his life-long dream of playing ball with the pros, and he sees the little girl choking. That damned shot of his feet, then his face as he comes to the realization that he about to step into his REAL life-long passion, and then steps across, aging 70 years in the process. I’m crying right now, goddammit… I’m watching that bastard again tonight, I just decided. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-manly-weepers-what-films-are-ok-for-men-to-cry-while-watching/384484.md?page=2) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-manly-weepers-what-films-are-ok-for-men-to-cry-while-watching/384484.md?page=4)