# The miserable adventures of SDMB's catsix **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [April 21, 2004, 3:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-miserable-adventures-of-sdmbs-catsix/241227 "2004-04-21T15:20:12Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 4
**Author:** ![catsix](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/e19b73/32.png) [@catsix](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/catsix)\ **Post date:** [April 21, 2004, 7:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-miserable-adventures-of-sdmbs-catsix/241227/61 "2004-04-21T19:42:59Z")
> [@](#): > > **jarbabyj** said: > WELL BUST OUT THE FUCKING KEG. It took about seven pages of two different threads, but we finally got you to fucking admit that not EVERYONE BEHAVES IN THE WAY YOUR FUCKING CO-WORKERS BEHAVE. I was unaware that when I said ‘where I work’, that was **jarbabyj** code for ‘everywhere’. Then again, if you wish to gloat now, proceed. ---
**Author:** ![Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e8c25b/32.png) [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Really_Not_All_That_Bright)\ **Post date:** [April 21, 2004, 7:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-miserable-adventures-of-sdmbs-catsix/241227/62 "2004-04-21T19:42:59Z")
**catsix** , let me begin by saying I’ve always kinda liked you. Apparently there are a bunch of people who don’t, and I get the impression that there’s a good point in there you probably ought to have caught… let them see the good. I’m a real asshole in GD and here, you know. I can be as dismissive and generally unpleasant as pretty much anyone out there. That… well, it just isn’t fun, though. So, I keep myself somewhat balanced by spending a lot more time in MPSIMS and IMHO, where I can be goofy, trite, warm and fuzzy, and occasionally even _funny_. I figure on balance I’m at least about even with the vast majority of other posters, because I like to think I say just as many nice things as unpleasant things. On the other hand, I imagine people who don’t spend any time in MPSIMS think I’m exclusively a dick, and that’s okay. Anyway, what I’m trying to say is that by all means dish out what people seem to think is your unpleasant side… but let the nice side you say nobody sees out too. All bitching and no giggling makes **catsix** unpopular, or something. ---
**Author:** ![vix](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/a88e4f/32.png) [@vix](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/vix)\ **Post date:** [April 21, 2004, 7:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-miserable-adventures-of-sdmbs-catsix/241227/63 "2004-04-21T19:45:02Z")
> [@catsix](#): > > Or if they tell you they’re staying home because the kid had a snow-day from school and the announcements on the radio for school closings don’t include that school, it’s pretty obvious that they’re lying. Are you saying that you actually know which schools all your coworkers’ kids attend, and that you listen to all the school closing announcements just to make sure those schools are closed? Wow. ---
**Author:** ![tiny\_ham](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/a183cd/32.png) [@tiny\_ham](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tiny_ham)\ **Post date:** [April 21, 2004, 7:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-miserable-adventures-of-sdmbs-catsix/241227/64 "2004-04-21T19:48:30Z")
> [@catsix](#): > > And where did this come from? Are you denying that you did this about a year or so ago? Tell me you’re denying it. > [@](#): > > Are you calling yourself a bitch here? > > If so, I wonder why it is that you seem to think that’s a bad thing as it relates to me. Being bitchy is something I don’t try and regularly display. Being bitchy is something I’m trying to change via medication, therapy, and discussion with friends and family. Being bitchy, you see, isn’t a good way to go through life. But no, I’m not calling myself A BITCH, I’m feeling BITCHY at this particular time. Everyone’s entitled to it once in a while, even on the boards. Unfortunately for you…it’s all you EVER are, from my point of view. ---
**Author:** ![catsix](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/e19b73/32.png) [@catsix](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/catsix)\ **Post date:** [April 21, 2004, 7:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-miserable-adventures-of-sdmbs-catsix/241227/65 "2004-04-21T19:51:57Z")
> [@](#): > > **Really Not All That Bright** said: > That… well, it just isn’t fun, though. So, I keep myself somewhat balanced by spending a lot more time in MPSIMS and IMHO, where I can be goofy, trite, warm and fuzzy, and occasionally even funny. (Wow your name takes some finger effort to type dude. 😉 ) I’ve visited those forums and I just didn’t really find I had much to say there. My sense of humor being the extremely dry sarcastic type with the over-the-top fake anger (Yes everyone, it really is my sense of humor. ) just didn’t seem to have an avenue there. It comes out in things like [Computer Poo](http://www.mirthless.org/stories/computerpoo.html) or in my heavily George Carlin and Bill Hicks influenced blog where I ‘rant’ about stupidity and all kinds of other things. I have found in the sixteen years (Damn, it’s been a long time.) that I’ve been online a couple of things: I really like parentheses and it’s very hard to put across my thoughts and feelings, humorous or otherwise, in text. So I just figured there’d be people who saw it, thought ‘asshole’ and bitched at me and ‘oh well’ as the case may be. ---
**Author:** ![tiny\_ham](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/a183cd/32.png) [@tiny\_ham](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tiny_ham)\ **Post date:** [April 21, 2004, 7:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-miserable-adventures-of-sdmbs-catsix/241227/66 "2004-04-21T19:52:20Z")
> [@catsix](#): > > I was unaware that when I said ‘where I work’, that was **jarbabyj** code for ‘everywhere’. > > Then again, if you wish to gloat now, proceed. It’s hard to keep up with you trying to cover your ass. Over in the “maternity leave” thread, for five pages, several different people have been trying to tell you that the people YOU WORK WITH are assholes who take advantage of you and your supervisors. Your near constant response to these points is to: 1. ignore them completely 2. assert that folks are the same everywhere. It would really bring a tear to my eye to hear you admit that you were wrong over there and hear you say that you ARE working in a unique situation where people take advantage of your Quakerlike Work Ethic while they go out lounging on the beach with their kids. ---
**Author:** ![jlzania](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/67e7ee/32.png) [@jlzania](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jlzania)\ **Post date:** [April 21, 2004, 7:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-miserable-adventures-of-sdmbs-catsix/241227/67 "2004-04-21T19:53:40Z")
> [@](#): > > ## **catsix** Conversational writing is a facet of the English language that I have never had much luck with, or well, conversational speaking in general. > > ## It’s a rather large catch-22 on the ‘warm funny caring side of catsix.’ I like people to know it exists, but grew up in an enviornment where it was highly discouraged to show anything to anyone that could be considered a weakness. > > About my friend, thank you. He is a very important person in my life and watching him suffer knowing I cannot fix it like I can fix a broken piece of electronics is hard to deal with. Aha! This explains a lot to me especially your last statement. I grew up with and around engineers and, for them, life was very much black and white with no shaded areas. Plus, nothing I found is more frustrating than something they cannot fix with their hands. When my mother was dying, my father simply could not accept that neither his money nor his ‘know-how’ could stop the cancer from destroying her. Once again, I may be being presumptious but I don’t think you’d continue to post at the SDMB if you didn’t care a little bit about the other posters here and their perceptions. So maybe, just maybe, without actually faking a persona or sucking up, you could let us see the other **catsix** -the compassionate funny caring one. ---
**Author:** ![Greathouse](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/greathouse/32/2992_2.png) [@Greathouse](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Greathouse)\ **Post date:** [April 21, 2004, 7:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-miserable-adventures-of-sdmbs-catsix/241227/68 "2004-04-21T19:59:44Z")
> [@Left Hand of Dorkness](#): > > HOwever, I think that, although **catsix** richly deserves pitting, many of the comments here are personal, petty, and vituperative; I therefore ain’t gonna join in here. Indeed, she’s showing more class in this thread than the OP at this point. > > Daniel Amen. ---
**Author:** ![gobear](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/8dc957/32.png) [@gobear](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gobear)\ **Post date:** [April 21, 2004, 7:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-miserable-adventures-of-sdmbs-catsix/241227/69 "2004-04-21T19:59:54Z")
On behalf of the male Dopers, we’d appreciate it if you ladies would cut the sharing of feelings and get down to the oil wrestling in bikins, please. ---
**Author:** ![Sauron](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ce7236/32.png) [@Sauron](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sauron)\ **Post date:** [April 21, 2004, 8:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-miserable-adventures-of-sdmbs-catsix/241227/70 "2004-04-21T20:01:27Z")
> [@catsix](#): > > Or if they tell you they’re staying home because the kid had a snow-day from school and the announcements on the radio for school closings don’t include that school, it’s pretty obvious that they’re lying. I have no dog in this fight, no horse in this race, and no more metaphors in this keyboard, but since I have the opportunity to dispel a bit of ignorance, I’m a-gonna take it. To hell with my reputation as a ne’er-do-well gadabout who only posts semi-humorous and self-deprecatory threads – I’m a-dispellin’! Many (if not all) schools have “weather days” or “snow days” built into their calendar. That way, if it’s necessary to close the school due to weather for a brief period of time, the school’s curriculum isn’t adversely affected. If, however, the weather cooperates throughout the year and doesn’t force a closure, then these “weather days” are given to the students and teachers as a mini-vacation – usually one or two days around a weekend a couple of times in the spring. Nice for the kids and teachers, but this practice can play havoc with a parent’s work schedule. However, it’s not unusual for a parent to take a day off due to a school’s “snow day” – even if it’s 80 degrees outside. That’s just when the school scheduled the “extra” day. ---
**Author:** ![catsix](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/e19b73/32.png) [@catsix](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/catsix)\ **Post date:** [April 21, 2004, 8:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-miserable-adventures-of-sdmbs-catsix/241227/71 "2004-04-21T20:02:13Z")
> [@](#): > > **vix** said: > Are you saying that you actually know which schools all your coworkers’ kids attend, and that you listen to all the school closing announcements just to make sure those schools are closed? Wow. I work in an area that has a handful (say four or five) school districts. I also work in a college. When it is snowy out, I watch the morning tv or listen to the morning radio to see if the college where I work is closed. I also tend to notice stuff like ‘Hey the school where my mom works is closed too.’ or ‘Wow, Bill lives in Blahblah District and they’ve gotta trudge through all this snow today too.’ > [@](#): > > **jarbabyj** said: > Are you denying that you did this about a year or so ago? Tell me you’re denying it. I’m impressed that you pay so much attention to me that you can pull out shit I said a year or more ago just to throw a cheap shot at me now. Yeah, I don’t like looking in mirrors. Two reasons for that are that I’d like to lose weight and don’t like to peep at my flab constantly and because I didn’t want to be over-interested in my clothes/makeup/hair/ or whatever. I got a mirror in the bathroom, don’t see why I need more of 'em. > [@](#): > > Unfortunately for you…it’s all you EVER are, from my point of view. Key part of that is from your point of view. I post non-bitchy stuff in GD pretty damn often, and in a lot of fact-based rants here where people bitch about their computers. Have even offered to help people fix their computers just cause I like fixing computers. > [@](#): > > Over in the “maternity leave” thread, for five pages, several different people have been trying to tell you that the people YOU WORK WITH are assholes who take advantage of you and your supervisors. What they tried to tell me was that it wasn’t just the ones who have kids but that I’m only biased against the ones who have kids. And they also tried to say that the only person I should blame for the situation is the boss, not the people who abuse the lenient ‘you’ve got kids’ policy. How long you going to hang onto this disagreement? Will you bring it up in five years if I say something else you don’t like? ---
**Author:** ![tiny\_ham](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/a183cd/32.png) [@tiny\_ham](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tiny_ham)\ **Post date:** [April 21, 2004, 8:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-miserable-adventures-of-sdmbs-catsix/241227/72 "2004-04-21T20:10:13Z")
> [@catsix](#): > > I’m impressed that you pay so much attention to me that you can pull out shit I said a year or more ago just to throw a cheap shot at me now. How could I forget? You snapped at and insulted every single person who tried to help you when you were going through this phase. WE ALL TRIED TO HELP YOU and you insisted we were trying to send you to a ‘head butcher’. Remember? That was so nice of you. It wasn’t a cheap shot…it’s a fact. You claim you’re happy with yourself. YOU ARE NOT. When you realize that, things will begin to change. It was only when I realized I didn’t like being around myself that I started making progress (in weight loss as well) > [@](#): > > How long you going to hang onto this disagreement? Will you bring it up in five years if I say something else you don’t like? What, did you think I’d have the thread closed as soon as you started whining? Please. Hopefully in five years I’ll be too busy taking care of a new family to give even an ounce of breath to your bullshit. I know, ewww, families. and **Lefthand of Dorkness** , give me a break ok. I tried your way, the ‘be nice to everyone no matter what way’. It got me nowhere. And your self righteous patronizing tone doesn’t help either. If something upsets me AND my friends, AND several people on this board and elsewhere, I have just as much a right to bring it up as anyone else. ---
**Author:** ![tiny\_ham](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/a183cd/32.png) [@tiny\_ham](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tiny_ham)\ **Post date:** [April 21, 2004, 8:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-miserable-adventures-of-sdmbs-catsix/241227/73 "2004-04-21T20:13:03Z")
> [@gobear](#): > > On behalf of the male Dopers, we’d appreciate it if you ladies would cut the sharing of feelings and get down to the oil wrestling in bikins, please. sorry gobear, i only perform for girly gays 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e8c25b/32.png) [@Really\_Not\_All\_That\_Bright](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Really_Not_All_That_Bright)\ **Post date:** [April 21, 2004, 8:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-miserable-adventures-of-sdmbs-catsix/241227/74 "2004-04-21T20:24:58Z")
> [@jarbabyj](#): > > sorry gobear, i only perform for girly gays 😉 We’re prepared to make that sacrifice 😉 > [@catsix](#): > > (Wow your name takes some finger effort to type dude. ) > > I’ve visited those forums and I just didn’t really find I had much to say there. My sense of humor being the extremely dry sarcastic type with the over-the-top fake anger (Yes everyone, it really is my sense of humor. ) just didn’t seem to have an avenue there. Copy/paste is your friend 😉 If you didn’t _find_ an avenue, make one. Besides, a sense of humor is predicated on the jokes you hear. The more goofy/cheesy/1920’s Death Ray-type humor you read, the more you’ll appreciate it. Eventually you might even become a Carrot Top fan. _shudder_ He’s gay, you know. ---
**Author:** ![jlzania](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/67e7ee/32.png) [@jlzania](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jlzania)\ **Post date:** [April 21, 2004, 8:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-miserable-adventures-of-sdmbs-catsix/241227/75 "2004-04-21T20:26:36Z")
> [@](#): > > **jarbabyj** > **Lefthand of Dorkness** , give me a break ok. I tried your way, the ‘be nice to everyone no matter what way’. It got me nowhere. And your self righteous patronizing tone doesn’t help either. If something upsets me AND my friends, AND several people on this board and elsewhere, I have just as much a right to bring it up as anyone else. Righto. And if all you want to do is back **catsix** into a corner so that you continue to yell at her, please persist. Bear firmly in mind however, that even a normally docile animal, when left with no recourse, will lash out in defense. And we all know that **catsix** is far from docile. If you’d like her to examine her behavior and perhaps even make an effort to modify it, you might want to ease off a little. ---
**Author:** ![tiny\_ham](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/a183cd/32.png) [@tiny\_ham](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tiny_ham)\ **Post date:** [April 21, 2004, 8:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-miserable-adventures-of-sdmbs-catsix/241227/76 "2004-04-21T20:33:11Z")
I don’t get why it’s acceptable for her to lash out but it’s abominable when I do. Once again, I have to try and be the nice one. ---
**Author:** ![Guinastasia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guinastasia/32/5751_2.png) [@Guinastasia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Guinastasia)\ **Post date:** [April 21, 2004, 8:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-miserable-adventures-of-sdmbs-catsix/241227/77 "2004-04-21T20:39:25Z")
**catsix** , I’ve met you once, I’ve talked to you here, and I don’t hate you. However, perhaps, without meaning to, you DO come off as condescending and dismissive of other people’s experience. I once started a Pit thread about my boss giving me shit about having to call in sick when I was having a severely painful menstrual period. In such thread, you went on and on about how women should just suck it up, and c’mon, it’s never that bad! People who call off are wimps, you’ve been to work feverish and puking and blah blah blah. Basically, you gave us the message that because YOU don’t suffer, then any of us who claim that we DO are lying, wimpy and manipulative girly girls. Maybe you didn’t intend to do so. But that’s how it came across. In **Velma** ’s thread on maternity leave you said: > [@](#): > > I don’t think three months of leave is ‘medically necessary’. > > I’m talking about what is actually necessary time to be off, which ends when the doctor says you’re medically fit enough to work again. How do you KNOW how much time off is “medically necessary” post-birth? Are you a doctor? > [@](#): > > Really? I’ve never met these doctors who think six weeks off is medically necessary. Usually it’s just that day care won’t take a kid younger than six weeks, which is not my problem. Maybe you didn’t MEAN that “oh, they don’t really need six weeks off, they’re just lying to get time off!”, but that’s how it comes across. You’re right, we dont’ really know you. However, that’s true of anyone on the board. All we have to judge here is your behavior on the boards. That’s what we’re judging. It’s that way with every poster. ---
**Author:** ![Syntropy](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/65b543/32.png) [@Syntropy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Syntropy)\ **Post date:** [April 21, 2004, 8:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-miserable-adventures-of-sdmbs-catsix/241227/78 "2004-04-21T20:45:41Z")
Nah, at this point, I’d say it’s more a case of DNFTT as opposed to being the “nice one.” What else can be said of someone who, when asked why they continue to come back for abuse, says “It’s slow at work today…” **jarbabyj** , I’ve read quite a bit of what you post, and usually it’s well thought out and intelligent. This person is having way too much fun baiting you. Don’t waste your hate on her. ---
**Author:** ![jlzania](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/67e7ee/32.png) [@jlzania](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jlzania)\ **Post date:** [April 21, 2004, 8:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-miserable-adventures-of-sdmbs-catsix/241227/79 "2004-04-21T20:50:58Z")
> [@](#): > > **jarbabyj** I- don’t get why it’s acceptable for her to lash out but it’s abominable when I do. It’s not acceptable for her to lash out but IMHO, although your OP was legitimate, the thread’s now degenerating into a pile on and that never gets us anywhere. > [@](#): > > Once again, I have to try and be the nice one. No-you **are** one of the nice ones as evidenced by other posts you’ve made. You’re funny too but that’s beside the point. I think you’ve sucessfully made your case. All I’m saying is perhaps we could give **catsix** another chance. However, I don’t have the same history with her that you have so I may once again be talking out of my rear. You decide. ---
**Author:** ![tiny\_ham](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/a183cd/32.png) [@tiny\_ham](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tiny_ham)\ **Post date:** [April 21, 2004, 8:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-miserable-adventures-of-sdmbs-catsix/241227/80 "2004-04-21T20:56:30Z")
All I know is, today’s adventures on the boards and off have left me tired. I will be napping this afternoon, possibly WHILE DRIVING, so Chicagoans…watch out. Catsix, just as I was forced to do when I was pitted back to back by about five people in one week…think about what people have said. I beg you. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-miserable-adventures-of-sdmbs-catsix/241227.md?page=3) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-miserable-adventures-of-sdmbs-catsix/241227.md?page=5)