# The one that got away

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**Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\
**Created:** [October 11, 2001, 8:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-one-that-got-away/86875 "2001-10-11T20:09:51Z")\
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**Author:** ![ThunderBunny](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/73ab20/32.png) [@ThunderBunny](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ThunderBunny)\
**Post date:** [October 13, 2001, 2:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-one-that-got-away/86875/21 "2001-10-13T14:01:17Z")

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She asked me out first, to a ROTC function. We had known each other through church functions before, and I thought she was attractive, so I jumped at the chance.

This woman had _character_. She wasn’t afraid to try new things, had a wit that was amazing, and was in great physical condition. We started spending more time together, and I was amazed.

Then one day, she gave me the warning. In short, she said she wouldn’t make a good lover because she was recently raped, and had understandably had difficulties being intimate.

I thought I was doing the best thing for her by backing off and letting her go. Now, I see that it was the wrong response. I especially cringe when I think of how she might have interpreted it.

I tried to get in touch with her again, but she’s long gone. I swore since then to never again let go of something so wonderful.

Bitter sweet memories…

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