# The Ongoing Online Dating Advice Thread **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [May 27, 2010, 6:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-ongoing-online-dating-advice-thread/540978 "2010-05-27T18:50:45Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 100
**Author:** ![Invisible\_Chimp](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/f05b48/32.png) [@Invisible\_Chimp](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Invisible_Chimp)\ **Post date:** [July 25, 2011, 3:55am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-ongoing-online-dating-advice-thread/540978/1982 "2011-07-25T03:55:52Z")
> [@Mauvaise](#): > > 100 Miles?! :eek: That’s quite a radius. And here I’ve been lamenting that I can’t shrink it smaller than 25 miles! TIL a hack to supposedly shrink your search on OkC to smaller than 25 miles. After doing a normal search of 25 miles, look at the URL and change filter 3 where it says 25 to 10 or whatever you want and press enter/return (don’t press the search button again!) Viola! ---
**Author:** ![Joey\_P](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/919ad9/32.png) [@Joey\_P](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Joey_P)\ **Post date:** [July 25, 2011, 11:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-ongoing-online-dating-advice-thread/540978/1983 "2011-07-25T11:39:55Z")
> [@Invisible\_Chimp](#): > > TIL TIL what TIL means. ---
**Author:** ![EvilTOJ](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/ee59a6/32.png) [@EvilTOJ](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/EvilTOJ)\ **Post date:** [July 25, 2011, 1:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-ongoing-online-dating-advice-thread/540978/1984 "2011-07-25T13:06:26Z")
And for everyone else who doesn’t read reddit, it means Today I Learned. Has anyone else had luck on other dating websites? I’m kinda burned out on OKCupid, Craigslist is like shooting guns on LSD, and I’m too cheap for [match.com](http://match.com) when I couldn’t even find anyone suitable in my area. I guess I can try my luck on plentyoffish again. ---
**Author:** ![rebeccasrevenge](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/3ec8ea/32.png) [@rebeccasrevenge](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/rebeccasrevenge)\ **Post date:** [July 25, 2011, 2:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-ongoing-online-dating-advice-thread/540978/1985 "2011-07-25T14:12:27Z")
Sorry guy but you seem to be a little slow on the up take!I don’t know if it’s the blatant rejection that your “dream girl” has obviously been trying to hit you over the head with a sledge hammer with and you feel like you’re being challenged.Face it she’s never going to go out with you.Just email her and say “have a nice day”.Futue Te Et ipsum caballum! ---
**Author:** ![Mauvaise](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mauvaise/32/11084_2.png) [@Mauvaise](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mauvaise)\ **Post date:** [July 25, 2011, 2:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-ongoing-online-dating-advice-thread/540978/1986 "2011-07-25T14:13:42Z")
> [@Invisible\_Chimp](#): > > TIL a hack to supposedly shrink your search on OkC to smaller than 25 miles. After doing a normal search of 25 miles, look at the URL and change filter 3 where it says 25 to 10 or whatever you want and press enter/return (don’t press the search button again!) Viola! I will have to try that! Thank you. ---
**Author:** ![Sicks\_Ate](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/258eb7/32.png) [@Sicks\_Ate](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sicks_Ate)\ **Post date:** [July 25, 2011, 2:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-ongoing-online-dating-advice-thread/540978/1987 "2011-07-25T14:22:55Z")
> [@EvilTOJ](#): > > …Craigslist is like shooting guns on LSD… Holy crap! I’m so there!! ---
**Author:** ![Shot\_From\_Guns](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ccd318/32.png) [@Shot\_From\_Guns](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shot_From_Guns)\ **Post date:** [July 25, 2011, 3:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-ongoing-online-dating-advice-thread/540978/1988 "2011-07-25T15:11:34Z")
> [@Joey\_P](#): > > but I have Match just because it give me ‘access’ to that many more people _Chika-wow-chika-wow-wow_. > [@EvilTOJ](#): > > Craigslist is like shooting guns on LSD, brb making craigslist account ---
**Author:** ![Joey\_P](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/919ad9/32.png) [@Joey\_P](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Joey_P)\ **Post date:** [July 25, 2011, 3:24pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-ongoing-online-dating-advice-thread/540978/1989 "2011-07-25T15:24:27Z")
> [@Shot\_From\_Guns](#): > > _Chika-wow-chika-wow-wow_. > > brb making craigslist account And coming it at post #1988 we have what might be Shot From Guns’ shortest post EVAR! Seriously though. I saw your handle pop up as the most recent post and I was all prepared to read your thoughts from the entire weekend worth of posts and I got a few words and some porn music. Are you feeling ok? In the mean time I shall continue to ‘not work, but pretend to work’ while I wait to hear more. NM, missed the whole ‘brb’ thing. ---
**Author:** ![Invisible\_Chimp](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/f05b48/32.png) [@Invisible\_Chimp](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Invisible_Chimp)\ **Post date:** [July 25, 2011, 3:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-ongoing-online-dating-advice-thread/540978/1990 "2011-07-25T15:43:24Z")
She has deleted her account now, but one of my top matches used to mention that her OkC account was basically a copypasta of her FetLife account and she checked her FetLife account more. Anybody have any success with FetLife? I’ve heard it’s more like a kinky Facebook than a kinky OkC. ---
**Author:** ![Joey\_P](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/919ad9/32.png) [@Joey\_P](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Joey_P)\ **Post date:** [July 25, 2011, 4:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-ongoing-online-dating-advice-thread/540978/1991 "2011-07-25T16:36:05Z")
> [@Invisible\_Chimp](#): > > She has deleted her account now, but one of my top matches used to mention that her OkC account was basically a copypasta of her FetLife account and she checked her FetLife account more. Anybody have any success with FetLife? I’ve heard it’s more like a kinky Facebook than a kinky OkC. Never heard of it, but I just threw my browser into private mode and checked out the home page. It’s not a bit more kinky then facebook or OKC. It’s a social networking site for the BDSM fetish community". Go over there and hit refresh a few times to see the pictures. I think you’ll see what they’re aiming at. ---
**Author:** ![Shot\_From\_Guns](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/ccd318/32.png) [@Shot\_From\_Guns](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shot_From_Guns)\ **Post date:** [July 25, 2011, 4:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-ongoing-online-dating-advice-thread/540978/1992 "2011-07-25T16:38:22Z")
> [@Joey\_P](#): > > Are you feeling ok? Actually, I just found out that an old family friend died a few hours ago, so not so much. ☹ There wasn’t just that much that I felt the need to respond to, other than our lovely new friend who wants to tell you guys that you’re all clueless jerks, or something. > [@Invisible\_Chimp](#): > > Anybody have any success with FetLife? I’ve never even heard of it, if that tells you anything. I mean, I’m not as informed about trendy webbernets things as I used to be, but I’m not totally out of the loop. So what that says about the exposure for your target market… ---
**Author:** ![elmwood](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/elmwood/32/3060_2.png) [@elmwood](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/elmwood)\ **Post date:** [July 25, 2011, 5:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-ongoing-online-dating-advice-thread/540978/1993 "2011-07-25T17:01:57Z")
> [@Sicks\_Ate](#): > > Just looked out of curiousity, to see what size pools we’re fishing in. Metro populations: > > Milwaukee - 1.7 million > Kansas City - 2.1 million > Phoenix - 4 million. Lucky! And my new home is under 100,000. That makes it quite challenging; on both [Match.com](http://Match.com) and OkCupid, there might be 10 decent active WSM profiles in that sweet spot outside of AARP, Chris Hansen, kountry/redneck/“too young to be a grandmother” or “more than a few extra pounds” territory. I’m reluctant to go below 35 for fear of appearing like a middle-aged letch, or above 49 or 50, a point where most women really start to look much older than me. There’s a _lot_ of women writing to me from more distant cities; a 60 minute drive or more. I wonder why they aren’t finding men in their far more populated towns. I also got contacted by a hardcore furry; all of her profile photos showed her in full-blown cat regalia at anthrocons. No. I draw the line at yiffing. ---
**Author:** ![Joey\_P](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/919ad9/32.png) [@Joey\_P](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Joey_P)\ **Post date:** [July 25, 2011, 5:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-ongoing-online-dating-advice-thread/540978/1994 "2011-07-25T17:17:26Z")
> [@Shot\_From\_Guns](#): > > Actually, I just found out that an old family friend died a few hours ago, so not so much. ☹ There wasn’t just that much that I felt the need to respond to, other than our lovely new friend who wants to tell you guys that you’re all clueless jerks, or something. A)Well that sucks, was it Amy Winehouse? B)Which one, we had two of them in the last few days? ---
**Author:** ![elmwood](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/elmwood/32/3060_2.png) [@elmwood](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/elmwood)\ **Post date:** [July 25, 2011, 5:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-ongoing-online-dating-advice-thread/540978/1995 "2011-07-25T17:18:30Z")
Also, FWIW, I met the woman I had my last LTR with through Match. Generally, my ideal match: - Female. - 35-49. - College-educated. (Not too hard to find in this town.) - Thin/athletic/average/maybe a little “soft” but not a “few extra pounds” build. - Not too religious, nor too woo/new-agey. (_Very_ common here.) - Vegan/vegetarian is okay, but not militant. (Again, _very_ common here. I’ve had two _professional_ vegans contact me. Yes, they had full-time jobs in vegan advocacy of some sort.) - Two children max, and not a grandmother. - Not “kountry”. ---
**Author:** ![Mauvaise](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mauvaise/32/11084_2.png) [@Mauvaise](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mauvaise)\ **Post date:** [July 25, 2011, 5:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-ongoing-online-dating-advice-thread/540978/1996 "2011-07-25T17:27:01Z")
> [@Joey\_P](#): > > B)Which one, we had two of them in the last few days? I think she was referring to post #1985. The join date is awfully suspicious. :dubious: ---
**Author:** ![Sicks\_Ate](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/258eb7/32.png) [@Sicks\_Ate](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sicks_Ate)\ **Post date:** [July 25, 2011, 5:29pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-ongoing-online-dating-advice-thread/540978/1997 "2011-07-25T17:29:23Z")
> [@Joey\_P](#): > > A)Well that sucks, was it Amy Winehouse? > B)Which one, we had two of them in the last few days? Ahaha! No, no, no. ---
**Author:** ![Joey\_P](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/919ad9/32.png) [@Joey\_P](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Joey_P)\ **Post date:** [July 25, 2011, 5:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-ongoing-online-dating-advice-thread/540978/1998 "2011-07-25T17:31:39Z")
> [@Mauvaise](#): > > I think she was referring to post #1985. The join date is awfully suspicious. :dubious: I saw that one this morning, she’s got some other odd posts, but at least one ‘legit’ one. I think she’s probably just along the same lines of Seamus that doesn’t realize you can’t join a message board, try and ask a serious question in one place, but be a jackass in another place on the same board and think no one will notice. ---
**Author:** ![Robot\_Arm](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/robot_arm/32/18280_2.png) [@Robot\_Arm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Robot_Arm)\ **Post date:** [July 25, 2011, 6:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-ongoing-online-dating-advice-thread/540978/1999 "2011-07-25T18:34:35Z")
> [@Mauvaise](#): > > I think she was referring to post #1985. The join date is awfully suspicious. :dubious: Yeah, but it’s not every day you get cussed out in Latin. ---
**Author:** ![Mauvaise](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mauvaise/32/11084_2.png) [@Mauvaise](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mauvaise)\ **Post date:** [July 25, 2011, 6:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-ongoing-online-dating-advice-thread/540978/2000 "2011-07-25T18:37:38Z")
> [@Robot\_Arm](#): > > Yeah, but it’s not every day you get cussed out in Latin. This is the Straight Dope, you know. I’d guess odds are in your favor for that happening on a pretty frequent basis. ---
**Author:** ![Joey\_P](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/919ad9/32.png) [@Joey\_P](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Joey_P)\ **Post date:** [July 25, 2011, 6:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-ongoing-online-dating-advice-thread/540978/2001 "2011-07-25T18:44:54Z")
> [@Robot\_Arm](#): > > Yeah, but it’s not every day you get cussed out in Latin. That’s Latin? Google translate says Latin to English is “Future thee and him-horse” If I do Detect Language to English it thinks it’s Italian and spits out the same phrase. Nevermind, just stuck into (regular) google…got it. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-ongoing-online-dating-advice-thread/540978.md?page=99) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-ongoing-online-dating-advice-thread/540978.md?page=101)