# The Ongoing Online Dating Advice Thread **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [May 27, 2010, 6:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-ongoing-online-dating-advice-thread/540978 "2010-05-27T18:50:45Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 5
**Author:** ![Ostrya](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/35a633/32.png) [@Ostrya](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ostrya)\ **Post date:** [May 31, 2010, 7:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-ongoing-online-dating-advice-thread/540978/81 "2010-05-31T07:43:52Z")
> [@Aesiron](#): > > Was that in reply to me or just a general statement? I know mine is a little lengthy, but I think I strike an okay balance. I’m obviously biased, though. Just general statement and adding to what I thought **pricciar** was saying. ---
**Author:** ![Misnomer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/misnomer/32/14897_2.png) [@Misnomer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Misnomer)\ **Post date:** [May 31, 2010, 1:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-ongoing-online-dating-advice-thread/540978/82 "2010-05-31T13:02:52Z")
Here’s [me](http://www.okcupid.com/profile/Misnomer921). [QUOTE=elmwood] they justified it by saying that no men would write or respond if they were in the “few extra pounds” category [/QUOTE] [QUOTE=the lone cashew] it’s amazing how many say “average” when they mean “a few extra pounds”. What is the point of this? [/QUOTE] Very few men include “a few extra pounds”/“overweight” in their search criteria, therefore those of us who are honest wind up not being seen much. I can understand why someone else would just say “average” and let her pictures speak for herself, but I’d never do it: I figure that the men who filter out “overweight” do so for a reason. That said, claiming to be “average” _and_ having misleading pictures would be completely indefensible. [QUOTE=Aesiron] to say that anyone notices something besides what I have listed there is pretty disingenuous, and I would feel like I’m misrepresenting myself if I put my sparkling personality, rapier wit, or other similar non-answers that a lot of people seem to put there. [/QUOTE] You can always just leave it blank. I think it’s a stupid question, so I didn’t answer it. I didn’t answer the “things I can’t live without” question, either, also because I think it’s stupid. [QUOTE=Robot Arm] Since we’re sharing, [http://www.okcupid.com/profile/RobotArm2](http://www.okcupid.com/profile/RobotArm2) [/QUOTE] Howcome you left the “kids” thing blank? I get why people will sometimes leave the “job” or “income” (or “religion,” etc.) categories blank, but when someone leaves “kids” blank it’s always a red flag to me. Why wouldn’t you want people to know how you feel about kids? [QUOTE=AClockworkMelon] Here’s mine. [/QUOTE] Same question, but about the “education” thing. Makes me think you didn’t finish high school, or something. ---
**Author:** ![AClockworkMelon](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aclockworkmelon/32/10803_2.png) [@AClockworkMelon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AClockworkMelon)\ **Post date:** [May 31, 2010, 1:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-ongoing-online-dating-advice-thread/540978/83 "2010-05-31T13:15:53Z")
> [@Misnomer](#): > > Very few men include “a few extra pounds”/“overweight” in their search criteria, therefore those of us who are honest wind up not being seen much. I can understand why someone else would just say “average” and let her pictures speak for herself, but I’d never do it: I figure that the men who filter out “overweight” do so for a reason. That said, claiming to be “average” _and_ having misleading pictures would be completely indefensible. The female equivalent of this that I see on what seems like every other profile is the tendency for very overweight women to select “curvy” for that question. > [@Misnomer](#): > > Same question, but about the “education” thing. Makes me think you didn’t finish high school, or something. I tend to over-think my profile. I left “income” blank to sort of blunt my being unemployed. I’m hoping that women who would otherwise see “unemployed” and pass on might give my profile a second thought. But then, I thought to myself, “It would be really weird if everything else on my profile was filled out except for that so I’ll just blank out some of these other things…” and there went education, drinking, drugs and smoking. 😛 ---
**Author:** ![Mauvaise](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mauvaise/32/11084_2.png) [@Mauvaise](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mauvaise)\ **Post date:** [May 31, 2010, 1:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-ongoing-online-dating-advice-thread/540978/84 "2010-05-31T13:20:56Z")
You all are much better at this profile thing than I am. But, in my defense, I do have my OkCupid “looking for” section checked for friends and activity partners. I think I need to hire a ghost writer for my life. 😉 [http://www.okcupid.com/profile/Mauvaise6](http://www.okcupid.com/profile/Mauvaise6) ---
**Author:** ![Misnomer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/misnomer/32/14897_2.png) [@Misnomer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Misnomer)\ **Post date:** [May 31, 2010, 1:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-ongoing-online-dating-advice-thread/540978/85 "2010-05-31T13:37:44Z")
[QUOTE=AClockworkMelon] The female equivalent of this that I see on what seems like every other profile is the tendency for very overweight women to select “curvy” for that question. [/QUOTE] The “female equivalent” of what? I was talking about females! 🙂 And picking “curvy” is just the same as picking “average”: they’re probably not deluding themselves so much as trying to make sure they wind up in _any_ search results. > [@](#): > > I thought to myself, “It would be really weird if everything else on my profile was filled out except for that so I’ll just blank out some of these other things…” and there went education, drinking, drugs and smoking. 😛 Ok, I guess I get that. But I see those sidebar items as pieces of simple factual information, and when someone leaves any of them blank I assume the worst. Even “income” has a “rather not say” option, instead of just leaving it blank. Those blanks make me think you’re a high school dropout who drinks a lot and smokes both cigarettes and pot. And since I already know you’re unemployed (from your profile admission), the blanks would make me think those things even more. Not that those are necessarily bad things – those assumptions might be true, and might make someone else _more_ inclined to write to you – but when you leave them up to the reader’s imagination you take your chances. Know what I mean? You might be ok with that, it’s just the only thing I saw that would make me not write to you (if I liked everything else). [QUOTE=Mauvaise] [http://www.okcupid.com/profile/Mauvaise6](http://www.okcupid.com/profile/Mauvaise6) [/QUOTE] I’m not a guy, but FWIW I like your profile! I laughed out loud at the “I have an addiction to parenthetical asides and ellipses” bit: I’ve included similar statements in various verions of my own profile (though I usually call it a “problem”). 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![AClockworkMelon](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aclockworkmelon/32/10803_2.png) [@AClockworkMelon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AClockworkMelon)\ **Post date:** [May 31, 2010, 1:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-ongoing-online-dating-advice-thread/540978/86 "2010-05-31T13:40:01Z")
> [@Mauvaise](#): > > I … have my OkCupid “looking for” section checked for friends and activity partners. Curious about this because I see it quite a bit. Do you put that because you’re genuinely looking for friends and activity partners or because you’re hoping to find friends and activity partners who become romantic interests? ---
**Author:** ![BigT](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bigt/32/12044_2.png) [@BigT](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BigT)\ **Post date:** [May 31, 2010, 1:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-ongoing-online-dating-advice-thread/540978/87 "2010-05-31T13:52:15Z")
> [@Robot\_Arm](#): > > I know; I was just trying to join in the snark. > > Maybe I just have a contrarian streak, but when I see something that has become so stylistically routine and by-the-numbers, I like to turn it on its ear. I once had a profile that said I was “equally comfortable in a bee-keepers suit or clown shoes.” That reminds me of an old profile I had. I was trying to be sarcastically funny all the time back then. Oddly enough, I actually got a few emails out of it, despite being so over the top. **About Me:** I’m a 50 year old divorced male who’s been married four times and has 5 kids. And if you believe that, you might want to come back when you’ve picked up a sense of humor. Actually, this online thing is a last resort. Maybe I can find a girl on here who isn’t so boring. I mean, why does it seem like every hot girl thinks that her beauty is enough, and refuses to develop a personality? **About You:** I’m looking for a borderline psychotic drug addict with self-esteem issues. preferably someone who has no sense of self or moral center. at the very least, i want someone who is ‘confused’ about what they want from life and really just needs a while to ‘sort things out.’ my dream is that i can find someone who will develop an irrational attachment to me, call me all of the time, (filling my entire Caller ID log with their number in under an hour is especially attractive), and declare their undying love for me on our third date. ---
**Author:** ![Mauvaise](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mauvaise/32/11084_2.png) [@Mauvaise](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mauvaise)\ **Post date:** [May 31, 2010, 1:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-ongoing-online-dating-advice-thread/540978/88 "2010-05-31T13:53:18Z")
> [@AClockworkMelon](#): > > Curious about this because I see it quite a bit. Do you put that because you’re genuinely looking for friends and activity partners or because you’re hoping to find friends and activity partners who become romantic interests? For me, it’s because I’m truly hoping to find new friends (locally), or perhaps someone or two I can play tennis with on a regular basis. At least from OkCupid. In the past, I haven’t had the best experience with the kind of men I’d “meet” through this site (I don’t care of you’re poly or not - if you’re in a relationship, I’m not interested; what is up with that?). I wouldn’t be opposed to meeting someone through this site, but I don’t want to advertise my availability. If that makes sense? ---
**Author:** ![AClockworkMelon](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aclockworkmelon/32/10803_2.png) [@AClockworkMelon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AClockworkMelon)\ **Post date:** [May 31, 2010, 1:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-ongoing-online-dating-advice-thread/540978/89 "2010-05-31T13:55:35Z")
> [@Mauvaise](#): > > For me, it’s because I’m truly hoping to find new friends (locally), or perhaps someone or two I can play tennis with on a regular basis. At least from OkCupid. In the past, I haven’t had the best experience with the kind of men I’d “meet” through this site (I don’t care of you’re poly or not - if you’re in a relationship, I’m not interested; what is up with that?). > > I wouldn’t be opposed to meeting someone through this site, but I don’t want to advertise my availability. If that makes sense? I guess. 😛 > [@BigT](#): > > That reminds me of an old profile I had. I was trying to be sarcastically funny all the time back then. Oddly enough, I actually got a few emails out of it, despite being so over the top. > > **About Me:** I’m a 50 year old divorced male who’s been married four times and has 5 kids. And if you believe that, you might want to come back when you’ve picked up a sense of humor. Actually, this online thing is a last resort. Maybe I can find a girl on here who isn’t so boring. I mean, why does it seem like every hot girl thinks that her beauty is enough, and refuses to develop a personality? > > **About You:** I’m looking for a borderline psychotic drug addict with self-esteem issues. preferably someone who has no sense of self or moral center. at the very least, i want someone who is ‘confused’ about what they want from life and really just needs a while to ‘sort things out.’ my dream is that i can find someone who will develop an irrational attachment to me, call me all of the time, (filling my entire Caller ID log with their number in under an hour is especially attractive), and declare their undying love for me on our third date. You must be one gorgeous man. ---
**Author:** ![melodyharmonius](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/melodyharmonius/32/21310_2.png) [@melodyharmonius](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/melodyharmonius)\ **Post date:** [May 31, 2010, 3:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-ongoing-online-dating-advice-thread/540978/90 "2010-05-31T15:23:03Z")
> [@Joey\_P](#): > > What are your thoughts on putting things in your profile that you don’t like? For example at one point my profile mentioned that I don’t travel. Hey, if you like traveling that’s good, but seeing the world just isn’t a priority for me. I think there are ways to put stuff like that in your profile that is honest, but still positive. Instead of “don’t like to travel” - put something - “I really love spending time at home or around town. Love discovering what the local life has to offer. Not a big traveller myself - but don’t mind hearing about the travels other people take.” You’re still getting the point across - but you are making it clear that it’s cool if they like to travel - just you won’t be going with them. ---
**Author:** ![melodyharmonius](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/melodyharmonius/32/21310_2.png) [@melodyharmonius](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/melodyharmonius)\ **Post date:** [May 31, 2010, 3:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-ongoing-online-dating-advice-thread/540978/91 "2010-05-31T15:54:55Z")
> [@Joey\_P](#): > > Alright, here’s another question. > If I send someone an email, they look at my profile, but don’t respond (but it’s fair to say that read the email), is it bad form to send another email a few weeks later? There are a number of reasons why you mght consider sending someone a second email, but I would assume that your chances of a response the second time around are even less than the first. Not that I’m discouraging you to try, just cautioning you not to be more hopeful that “the second time’s the charm.” Sometimes, I think you could respond to a profile with just a specific question - just an ice breaker. Not this long paragraph about why you are interested. I’ve had some good luck with questions like: “I see you’ve read a lot of Tom Clancy novels. I was thinking about checking his books out - can you recommend a good one to start with?” By leaving it at that - you can sometimes get their attention more because it’s a less intimidating interaction than most they might be getting. And then you can at least start a tacit friendship and go from there. Just a thought. * * * As for body types and descriptors: Hear me now. I’m fat. (I’m also fabulous - so whatever.) When I would fill out profiles, I would put curvy and I would pick overweight - whatever was the most honest. And I would put in my profile that I was fat & fabu or fluffy & fabu and then move on. And I would have realistic pictures in my profiles, although the most flattering realistic pics I could find. Being defiantly honest about my body type has never prevented me from meeting & dating nice guys. So ladies and men, if you think posting old pics or no pics or selecting a more flattering body type will somehow find you better matches - CUT THE CRAP. It’s not just about what size you are, it’s about accepting your size, embracing it, and being honest about it. Seriously, the honesty is just as important as anything else. It’s not about finding more matches, it’s about finding the _right_ match. Someone who loves you as you are. Forget about the quantity, go for the quality. That being said - guys - stop harping on a girl’s weight. I hear you guys mentioning this over and over and over again ad nauseum. No wonder girls are afraid to be honest about it - y’all can be pretty cruel. Just like some of you want a girl to look beyond the fact that you are unemployed, or going bald, or have bad teeth or growing hair out of your ears or other places. We are all flawed. Let’s not constantly be focusing on what we think is wrong with other people, or ourselves, but what connections we can have and what good things about each other are worth sharing. * * * I’m loving all that you have been saying. I think this thread is going to be great and I’d love to see it keep on going. Thanks to everyone for participating in this thread! ---
**Author:** ![AClockworkMelon](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aclockworkmelon/32/10803_2.png) [@AClockworkMelon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AClockworkMelon)\ **Post date:** [May 31, 2010, 4:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-ongoing-online-dating-advice-thread/540978/92 "2010-05-31T16:10:49Z")
> [@melodyharmonius](#): > > That being said - guys - stop harping on a girl’s weight. I hear you guys mentioning this over and over and over again ad nauseum. No wonder girls are afraid to be honest about it - y’all can be pretty cruel. Just like some of you want a girl to look beyond the fact that you are unemployed I’ve read maybe 75% of the posts in this thread but I haven’t seen any guys do what you’re describing. In fact, I posted what I did in response to someone who was talking about how common it was for _men_ to lie about their weight. ---
**Author:** ![Khaki\_Campbell](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/9de053/32.png) [@Khaki\_Campbell](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Khaki_Campbell)\ **Post date:** [May 31, 2010, 5:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-ongoing-online-dating-advice-thread/540978/93 "2010-05-31T17:33:59Z")
> [@melodyharmonius](#): > > That being said - guys - stop harping on a girl’s weight. I hear you guys mentioning this over and over and over again ad nauseum. No wonder girls are afraid to be honest about it - y’all can be pretty cruel. And, conversely, gals, stop harping on a man’s height. Anyway. It’s like pissing in a violin. When a man put restrictions on a woman’s weight, he’s a disgusting weightist chauvinistic pig. When a woman puts restrictions on a man’s height, she’s a \*sistah who’s empowering herself \*!!11!1!!1 ---
**Author:** ![Misnomer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/misnomer/32/14897_2.png) [@Misnomer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Misnomer)\ **Post date:** [May 31, 2010, 5:59pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-ongoing-online-dating-advice-thread/540978/94 "2010-05-31T17:59:55Z")
[QUOTE=Mauvaise] In the past, I haven’t had the best experience with the kind of men I’d “meet” through this site (I don’t care of you’re poly or not - if you’re in a relationship, I’m not interested; what is up with that?). [/QUOTE] I don’t understand your complaint. Poly guys were contacting you, and it bothered you because they were supposed to know that you aren’t interested in poly guys? I didn’t do a literary critique of your profile, but I don’t remember seeing anything that said “no poly guys.” [QUOTE=Melodyharmonious] So ladies and men, if you think posting old pics or no pics or selecting a more flattering body type will somehow find you better matches - CUT THE CRAP. [/QUOTE] You’re preaching to the choir. No one in this thread has done those things: we’re all complaining about the people who do. [QUOTE=AClockworkMelon] I’ve read maybe 75% of the posts in this thread but I haven’t seen any guys do what you’re describing. In fact, I posted what I did in response to someone who was talking about how common it was for men to lie about their weight. [/QUOTE] In fact, you didn’t. You were responding to me, who was talking about how men filter out profiles where the woman identifies as “a few extra pounds” or “overweight.” This is the second time I’ve corrected your misunderstanding of that post, btw. Your 75% is showing. [QUOTE=Khaki Campbell] And, conversely, gals, stop harping on a man’s height. [/QUOTE] Sometimes I’m really glad that I’m 5’3 . . . it’s difficult to find men who aren’t at least my height. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![AClockworkMelon](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/aclockworkmelon/32/10803_2.png) [@AClockworkMelon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/AClockworkMelon)\ **Post date:** [May 31, 2010, 6:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-ongoing-online-dating-advice-thread/540978/95 "2010-05-31T18:04:15Z")
> [@Misnomer](#): > > In fact, you didn’t. You were responding to me, who was talking about how men filter out profiles where the woman identifies as “a few extra pounds” or “overweight.” Oops. You’re correct. > [@Misnomer](#): > > This is the second time I’ve corrected your misunderstanding of that post, btw. Your 75% is showing. When I read this my first reaction was “what the fuck is she talking about?” Then I saw this: > [@Misnomer](#): > > The “female equivalent” of what? I was talking about females! What? It’s 11:03 in the morning and I haven’t slept yet. :o ---
**Author:** ![Misnomer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/misnomer/32/14897_2.png) [@Misnomer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Misnomer)\ **Post date:** [May 31, 2010, 6:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-ongoing-online-dating-advice-thread/540978/96 "2010-05-31T18:06:38Z")
> [@AClockworkMelon](#): > > What? It’s 11:03 in the morning and I haven’t slept yet. :o Well it’s 2:06pm here. Catch up, Sparky. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![Alice\_The\_Goon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ed8c4c/32.png) [@Alice\_The\_Goon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Alice_The_Goon)\ **Post date:** [May 31, 2010, 6:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-ongoing-online-dating-advice-thread/540978/97 "2010-05-31T18:14:17Z")
> [@BigT](#): > > That reminds me of an old profile I had. I was trying to be sarcastically funny all the time back then. Oddly enough, I actually got a few emails out of it, despite being so over the top. > > **About Me:** I’m a 50 year old divorced male who’s been married four times and has 5 kids. And if you believe that, you might want to come back when you’ve picked up a sense of humor. Actually, this online thing is a last resort. Maybe I can find a girl on here who isn’t so boring. I mean, why does it seem like every hot girl thinks that her beauty is enough, and refuses to develop a personality? > > **About You:** I’m looking for a borderline psychotic drug addict with self-esteem issues. preferably someone who has no sense of self or moral center. at the very least, i want someone who is ‘confused’ about what they want from life and really just needs a while to ‘sort things out.’ my dream is that i can find someone who will develop an irrational attachment to me, call me all of the time, (filling my entire Caller ID log with their number in under an hour is especially attractive), and declare their undying love for me on our third date. I wouldn’t even read this profile all the way through. What is it with people that insult the reader straight off? Very off-putting. I got a response to my profile the other day that said that he (the writer) has found people that work in the medical field to be callous, egotistical, and mean, and if I wasn’t like that I should write him back. Excuse me? Am I supposed to send you my personality resume, or perhaps some phone numbers of some character references? I wouldn’t go out with this guy for anything after a message like that! As for body types, when the average American woman wears a size 16,\* fat\* is average. Hell, that makes me\* thin\* at a size 9, but I call myself average. ---
**Author:** ![Joey\_P](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/919ad9/32.png) [@Joey\_P](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Joey_P)\ **Post date:** [May 31, 2010, 6:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-ongoing-online-dating-advice-thread/540978/98 "2010-05-31T18:15:34Z")
Here’s mine [http://www.okcupid.com/profile/Joey31415](http://www.okcupid.com/profile/Joey31415) [Match.com](http://Match.com) is were I spend quite a bit more time and when I change something over there I cut and paste it over here. Just looking through it a little while ago I realized I had one paragraph in there twice and some other things out of order. I cleaned up some of that, but it still isn’t all that polished. If anyone would like to take a look at my Match profile, it’s a bit more up to date. ---
**Author:** ![Mauvaise](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mauvaise/32/11084_2.png) [@Mauvaise](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mauvaise)\ **Post date:** [May 31, 2010, 7:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-ongoing-online-dating-advice-thread/540978/99 "2010-05-31T19:02:08Z")
> [@Alice\_The\_Goon](#): > > I wouldn’t even read this profile all the way through. What is it with people that insult the reader straight off? Very off-putting. Really? I read it as pure sarcasm - if I came across a profile like that I would laugh. Why do you think he’s seriously insulting someone? > [@Misnomer](#): > > I don’t understand your complaint. Poly guys were contacting you, and it bothered you because they were supposed to know that you aren’t interested in poly guys? I didn’t do a literary critique of your profile, but I don’t remember seeing anything that said “no poly guys.” Well, I guess that’s my problem with OkCupid - there is no way to “uncheck” the poly box. I think it would be counter-productive (in trying to create a upbeat/friendly profile that would make someone want to contact you) to include a laundry list of “What I don’t want.” I know I get turned off if I’m reading a guy’s profile and there’s this long list of “If you’re X don’t contact me” - it screams BITTER. And while I’m cynical, I like to think I’m not bitter. But that is why I don’t open my profile up to dating on OkCupid; it’s not right for me. If all I’m looking for are friends and people to do things with, then your relationship status is meaningless to me. ---
**Author:** ![Alice\_The\_Goon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ed8c4c/32.png) [@Alice\_The\_Goon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Alice_The_Goon)\ **Post date:** [May 31, 2010, 7:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-ongoing-online-dating-advice-thread/540978/100 "2010-05-31T19:04:02Z")
> [@Mauvaise](#): > > Really? I read it as pure sarcasm - if I came across a profile like that I would laugh. Why do you think he’s seriously insulting someone? It could be just me, but that’s okay, because the person reading the profile and responding or not responding to it is also… just me, as far as I’m concerned. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-ongoing-online-dating-advice-thread/540978.md?page=4) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-ongoing-online-dating-advice-thread/540978.md?page=6)