# The Other Shoe is dead. **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [September 5, 2013, 2:41am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-other-shoe-is-dead/668047 "2013-09-05T02:41:36Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 19\ **Page:** 16
**Author:** ![Spice\_Weasel](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/spice_weasel/32/5435_2.png) [@Spice\_Weasel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Spice_Weasel)\ **Post date:** [September 11, 2013, 9:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-other-shoe-is-dead/668047/301 "2013-09-11T21:27:32Z")
Just breathless. Oh, how I wish I could be there to support you right now. You and your husband have always been such an inspiration to me and this is shocking and unfair. I’m sorry, I’m not very good at articulating grief. I just hope you find some comfort here. We all hurt for you. ---
**Author:** ![Nawth\_Chucka](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/c57346/32.png) [@Nawth\_Chucka](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nawth_Chucka)\ **Post date:** [September 11, 2013, 10:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-other-shoe-is-dead/668047/302 "2013-09-11T22:19:15Z")
I know this evening could be very frustrating and I’m wishing you peace and patience. Flights were prohibitively expensive or I’d be there to stand beside you as need be, though I hope more than anything there is only love and support from everyone who loves John and respects his memory. ---
**Author:** ![NeverKnownNormal](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/bc79bd/32.png) [@NeverKnownNormal](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/NeverKnownNormal)\ **Post date:** [September 11, 2013, 11:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-other-shoe-is-dead/668047/303 "2013-09-11T23:06:41Z")
Delurked just today. I read along in the earlier threads, hoped things were going to continue improving. My condolences on your loss. ---
**Author:** ![eulalia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/eulalia/32/457_2.png) [@eulalia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/eulalia)\ **Post date:** [September 12, 2013, 7:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-other-shoe-is-dead/668047/304 "2013-09-12T19:08:55Z")
I’m so sad for you. ---
**Author:** ![purplehorseshoe](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/purplehorseshoe/32/2996_2.png) [@purplehorseshoe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/purplehorseshoe)\ **Post date:** [September 12, 2013, 8:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-other-shoe-is-dead/668047/305 "2013-09-12T20:36:37Z")
General memorial is this Sunday. Did I post that here? Should I make a separate thread? This Sunday at 6 pm. By White rock lake. At the Filter Buillding. Please help me get the word out … ---
**Author:** ![Nawth\_Chucka](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/c57346/32.png) [@Nawth\_Chucka](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nawth_Chucka)\ **Post date:** [September 12, 2013, 10:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-other-shoe-is-dead/668047/306 "2013-09-12T22:00:54Z")
> [@purplehorseshoe](#): > > General memorial is this Sunday. Did I post that here? Should I make a separate thread? > > This Sunday at 6 pm. By White rock lake. At the Filter Buillding. Please help me get the word out … I’ll make another thread for you, if you like. I know where you’re talking about. ---
**Author:** ![Nawth\_Chucka](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/c57346/32.png) [@Nawth\_Chucka](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nawth_Chucka)\ **Post date:** [September 12, 2013, 10:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-other-shoe-is-dead/668047/307 "2013-09-12T22:09:18Z")
> [@Nawth\_Chucka](#): > > [I made another thread for you](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?t=702132), if you like. I know where you’re talking about. I hope this is helpful. ---
**Author:** ![eclectic\_wench](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/ac91a4/32.png) [@eclectic\_wench](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/eclectic_wench)\ **Post date:** [September 12, 2013, 10:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-other-shoe-is-dead/668047/308 "2013-09-12T22:39:12Z")
I’m so, so sorry for your loss. It’s obvious from your posts that Johnny was, at least for the part of his life he spent with you, very deeply loved. You’re in my thoughts. ---
**Author:** ![purplehorseshoe](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/purplehorseshoe/32/2996_2.png) [@purplehorseshoe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/purplehorseshoe)\ **Post date:** [September 12, 2013, 11:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-other-shoe-is-dead/668047/309 "2013-09-12T23:37:03Z")
> [@Nawth\_Chucka](#): > > I hope this is helpful. Oh, goodness. Thank you kindly, that’s very helpful. ---
**Author:** ![Nawth\_Chucka](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/c57346/32.png) [@Nawth\_Chucka](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nawth_Chucka)\ **Post date:** [September 12, 2013, 11:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-other-shoe-is-dead/668047/310 "2013-09-12T23:48:18Z")
> [@purplehorseshoe](#): > > Oh, goodness. Thank you kindly, that’s very helpful. You’re welcome, it’s the least I could do. If you asked, I’m sure a Mod would change the title of this to redirect people. I hope you’re able to shut off all communication devices for the next few days. ---
**Author:** ![slumtrimpet](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/b5e925/32.png) [@slumtrimpet](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/slumtrimpet)\ **Post date:** [September 13, 2013, 12:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-other-shoe-is-dead/668047/311 "2013-09-13T00:57:33Z")
Just found this thread and am still crying. So very, very sorry to read it **purplehorseshoe**. And please, if there’s anything you need in the weeks and months to come, just say so. ---
**Author:** ![Quartz](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/quartz/32/267_2.png) [@Quartz](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Quartz)\ **Post date:** [September 13, 2013, 9:41am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-other-shoe-is-dead/668047/312 "2013-09-13T09:41:54Z")
> [@purplehorseshoe](#): > > I kissed him good-bye when I left for work, and came home to find him dead on the couch. (( **purplehorseshoe** )) ---
**Author:** ![purplehorseshoe](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/purplehorseshoe/32/2996_2.png) [@purplehorseshoe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/purplehorseshoe)\ **Post date:** [September 13, 2013, 7:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-other-shoe-is-dead/668047/313 "2013-09-13T19:20:22Z")
Wow. It’s definitely is going to be the super-little things: I went to change the sheets and found the last of the fitted sheets that (he) had folded. All nice and neat, with even corners and edges. I almost put it right back - I can’t fold those things for shit and, apparently, can’t be arsed to learn. I bought a couple of those tiny sample sizes of the new gelato being put out by Haagen Dazs, but since we had other ice cream we felt like we “should” eat first, he never got to try it. Man, I don’t know if I’ll be able to bring myself to eat them now. ---
**Author:** ![Tom\_Tildrum](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/e95f7d/32.png) [@Tom\_Tildrum](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tom_Tildrum)\ **Post date:** [September 13, 2013, 8:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-other-shoe-is-dead/668047/314 "2013-09-13T20:39:09Z")
It’s always the little things. Take it slow, and don’t feel like anything’s too small to grieve over. ---
**Author:** ![carnut](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/carnut/32/3531_2.png) [@carnut](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/carnut)\ **Post date:** [September 13, 2013, 9:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-other-shoe-is-dead/668047/315 "2013-09-13T21:25:22Z")
Eat them both right now and tell him about the flavor. ---
**Author:** ![Ruby](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/13edae/32.png) [@Ruby](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ruby)\ **Post date:** [September 14, 2013, 3:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-other-shoe-is-dead/668047/316 "2013-09-14T03:14:07Z")
Oh honey, I’m so sorry to hear this news. I just returned to the Dope after an extended absence and wondered how you and Johnny were doing. This completely and totally sucks. Remember that we’re here for you. Take gentle care of yourself. ☹ ---
**Author:** ![carnut](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/carnut/32/3531_2.png) [@carnut](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/carnut)\ **Post date:** [September 25, 2013, 3:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-other-shoe-is-dead/668047/317 "2013-09-25T03:42:15Z")
Purple, just want you to know that I am still thinking about you and caring about your health, your memories, and the hard road you are on. ---
**Author:** ![Obnoxious\_Hood\_Ornament](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/3be4f8/32.png) [@Obnoxious\_Hood\_Ornament](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Obnoxious_Hood_Ornament)\ **Post date:** [September 25, 2013, 12:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-other-shoe-is-dead/668047/318 "2013-09-25T12:41:23Z")
> [@](#): > > I kissed him good-bye when I left for work, and came home to find him dead on the couch. That happened to me with my wife. I take some solace in my final interaction with her being loving, and genuine. I wasn’t running on autopilot that morning. I remember those words; I remember that kiss. As I’ve said to others in the past, you’ve joined a club whose membership dues are higher than most. ---
**Author:** ![Flicker](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/ccd318/32.png) [@Flicker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Flicker)\ **Post date:** [September 28, 2013, 12:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-other-shoe-is-dead/668047/319 "2013-09-28T00:35:56Z")
Well, you don’t know me from a hole in the ground since I only registered yesterday and this is my first post - but I read through this thread and wanted to offer my condolences and understanding (I had the same thing happen with my spouse) - and also to offer the following link. It’s called How To Survive The Loss of a Love, it’s not a book but many pages of daily guidance and helpful affirmations to help you get through this time of loss and grieving. It’s about surviving the loss of any love, through any manner, not only through the death of a loved one. It’s a good read. [http://www.buildfreedom.com/content/books/survive/](http://www.buildfreedom.com/content/books/survive/) His spirit soars. Peace be unto you. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-other-shoe-is-dead/668047.md?page=15)