Kidney stones for serious misery.
My first one was in 1999, I believe. I’d been having really startling nasty pain every morning for about 45 minutes. I didn’t feel quite as bad if I was lying down, but there wasn’t really anything I could do to make myself feel better.
The doctor at the student health center told me “Oh. It’s muscle pain, because you’re overweight.”
"But Doctor, I’ve had muscle pain. I was in track and cross country when I was in high school. I know I’m overweight, but I’m not THAT – "
“You need to talk to a dietician and do these stretching exercises. Lose the weight and you won’t have problems.”
I grumbled and groused and reminded myself we called that place the student death center for a REASON…
About a week and a half later I was sitting around outside with my friends when I started to have that horrible feeling again. I walked the six blocks or so to the center, and by the time I got there I was beginning to cry. I called my father, who took about 45 minutes to get there from work. The only part of the health center that was open was the sports medicine area, and it was two hours before they even gave me somewhere to lie down, let alone pain relievers. From my description, they figured I probably had a kidney stone.
Add to this a merry case of food poisoning I’d contracted after a breakfast at a convention. The pain was bad enough to make me puke and the food poisoning had given me diarrhea. The bathroom had been cleaned about five minutes before I went in there so naturally the floor was still wet. Let’s just say that when I knelt over the commode to empty the contents of my stomach I emptied more than I was expecting… I have never before and never since (and hopefully never in the future) been so mortified and miserable. The pain pills they gave me kicked in after about an hour (that’s three or four hours of me screaming in total) and I passed the stone two days later.
I passed a few more stones after that, but mostly they weren’t quite as painful – enough that I’d miss work, but it would always get me in trouble with my boss. I’ve lost more than one job to kidney stones, including one I actually loved (or at least at a company I loved). I’d started toughing it out since the doctors really couldn’t do much, but then I started having a great deal of abdominal pain and vomiting for maybe one or two days every two to four weeks. I thought it couldn’t be kidney stones because I never PASSED a stone and they usually just hurt, they didn’t tend to make me throw up.
Lost my job. Temped for a while, but it’s hard to keep temp assignments when you’re constantly out sick. Out of desperation I went to a doctor I couldn’t afford and got an MRI (I think?) of my abdomen where they discovered one stone about the size of a golf ball and another one in the other kidney “only about half that size!”
Kidney stones are worse than ear infections, even. Even really bad ones. Ear infections are happening right in your skull and they’re the same kind of constant pain, but the kidneys are still worse. I’ll writhe around in bed crying quietly and whimpering – but not sobbing or talking because that just makes the pain worse.
I used to think I was such a wuss for calling out of work for a stomachache. I belong to an organization that my old HR-person also belongs to; whenever we have events I consider going up to her and updating her on what exactly got me fired.
I still call them an 8. I have no fear of childbirth.