# The passing of another Doper - danceswithcats **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [August 19, 2009, 7:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-passing-of-another-doper-danceswithcats/506983 "2009-08-19T19:15:59Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Johnny\_L.A](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/johnny_l.a/32/1084_2.png) [@Johnny\_L.A](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Johnny_L.A)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2009, 7:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-passing-of-another-doper-danceswithcats/506983/21 "2009-08-19T19:34:55Z")
> [@Tahssa](#): > > Wow, that sucks. ☹ I enjoyed his posts. > [@Larry\_Borgia](#): > > That’s awful. He seemed like a good guy. He was a good poster. I had no idea he had these problems. > [@Dung\_Beetle](#): > > I always thought that was such a witty user name, and a nice poster too.\*\*. > [@Struan](#): > > Bloody hell, that’s awful news. My thoughts have already been posted. ☹ ---
**Author:** ![lieu](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/c2a13f/32.png) [@lieu](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lieu)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2009, 7:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-passing-of-another-doper-danceswithcats/506983/22 "2009-08-19T19:36:49Z")
Well, damn. Firstly, I’m really sorry for what you’re going through now, **BiblioCat**. The pain of losing a personal, close friend far exceeds that of an anonymous person on a board, despite how much we may have enjoyed his posts. My sincere sympathies to his daughter, all his firehouse and other friends and relatives and you. It’s really regrettable to hear anyone so well thought of found themselves in such a dark place of despair. ---
**Author:** ![Meros](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/8797f3/32.png) [@Meros](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Meros)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2009, 7:38pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-passing-of-another-doper-danceswithcats/506983/23 "2009-08-19T19:38:05Z")
RIP Paul. We never did finish touring that bar’s tap ☹ ---
**Author:** ![BiblioCat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/ed8c4c/32.png) [@BiblioCat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BiblioCat)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2009, 7:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-passing-of-another-doper-danceswithcats/506983/24 "2009-08-19T19:40:34Z")
[This](http://i130.photobucket.com/albums/p241/Betsey38/Miscellaneous/P4140016-1-1.jpg) is one of my favorite pictures of the two of us. He looks so happy. I had always kept it on my desk, where I could always see it. When he broke things off with me, I kept it out for a while, and then put it away. I just got it out again. I just wish I could have done more to help him. When he broke up with me in June, I knew there was was more going on, but he refused all contact. From talking with his friend who informed of the news, it sounds like there were indications he’d been planning on doing this for some time. I know there was probably nothing I could do, but I can’t help but think what if… ? We lived about an hour away from each other. I should have gotten in my car and just driven up there. ---
**Author:** ![Dread\_Pirate\_Jimbo](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/dread_pirate_jimbo/32/3897_2.png) [@Dread\_Pirate\_Jimbo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dread_Pirate_Jimbo)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2009, 7:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-passing-of-another-doper-danceswithcats/506983/25 "2009-08-19T19:42:16Z")
I barely knew him, but everything I had seen and heard about him was good. Very sad news. ☹ ---
**Author:** ![Scuba\_Ben](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/278dde/32.png) [@Scuba\_Ben](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Scuba_Ben)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2009, 7:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-passing-of-another-doper-danceswithcats/506983/26 "2009-08-19T19:44:51Z")
> [@Meros](#): > > RIP Paul. We never did finish touring that bar’s tap ☹ I owed him a drink, too. He did a backup inspection when I bought my condo. Among other things, he recommended that I replace the smoke detector with a smoke and CO detector. This past April, the CO alarm alerted me to a small CO problem with my stove, before it became a large CO problem. I was so looking forward to giving him a drink at the next alcohol-tolerant MAD DopeFest. Baruch Dayan Emet (Blessed be the Faithful Judge). danceswithcats, you will be missed. :(:(☹ ---
**Author:** ![Rebo](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/rebo/32/13005_2.png) [@Rebo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rebo)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2009, 7:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-passing-of-another-doper-danceswithcats/506983/27 "2009-08-19T19:45:16Z")
I’m so sorry, **BiblioCat**. It’s got to be so hard. ---
**Author:** ![tdn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/94ad74/32.png) [@tdn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/tdn)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2009, 7:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-passing-of-another-doper-danceswithcats/506983/28 "2009-08-19T19:48:15Z")
Oh, I am so so sorry. I was just thinking about him the other day. ---
**Author:** ![Scuba\_Ben](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/278dde/32.png) [@Scuba\_Ben](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Scuba_Ben)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2009, 7:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-passing-of-another-doper-danceswithcats/506983/29 "2009-08-19T19:50:57Z")
I missed the edit window. So added by way of post: I think I was at the DopeFest where Biblio and Danceswithcats became close. I think I even brought the Kahlua that facilitated matters. Labor Day weekend, would anybody be interested in a memorial service? As per my interpretation of Jewish practice, a depressive episode does not count as a suicide for religious purposes. ---
**Author:** ![Maastricht](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/a88e57/32.png) [@Maastricht](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Maastricht)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2009, 7:51pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-passing-of-another-doper-danceswithcats/506983/30 "2009-08-19T19:51:12Z")
Oh, that is so sad and such a shame. He seemed such a good guy. I’m sending good thoughts to you, **Bibliocat** , and to his daughter and family. Depression is such an insidious disease and its most insidious trait is to make one cut off the things that could have helped to get out. ---
**Author:** ![jayjay](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jayjay/32/6765_2.png) [@jayjay](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/jayjay)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2009, 7:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-passing-of-another-doper-danceswithcats/506983/31 "2009-08-19T19:52:04Z")
I’m in shock as well. I had no idea he had problems that bad. I almost always enjoyed his posts. He was one of the best of “the opposition” around here, and I respected him for that, even when I disagreed with him. He facilitated (through organizing the Gettydopes with **MsRobyn** ) many good times. I’m going to miss him. And you’re in my thoughts as well, **Bibliocat**. As is his daughter. I’m so sorry. ---
**Author:** ![Carl\_Corey](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/8e8cbc/32.png) [@Carl\_Corey](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Carl_Corey)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2009, 7:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-passing-of-another-doper-danceswithcats/506983/32 "2009-08-19T19:53:36Z")
**Bibliocat** , I am so sorry. ---
**Author:** ![Khadaji](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/9e8a1a/32.png) [@Khadaji](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Khadaji)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2009, 7:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-passing-of-another-doper-danceswithcats/506983/33 "2009-08-19T19:58:36Z")
That is sad news. Sending prayers and supporting thoughts out to his family. ---
**Author:** ![What\_Exit](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/what_exit/32/10652_2.png) [@What\_Exit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/What_Exit)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2009, 8:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-passing-of-another-doper-danceswithcats/506983/34 "2009-08-19T20:02:17Z")
> [@BiblioCat](#): > > [This](http://i130.photobucket.com/albums/p241/Betsey38/Miscellaneous/P4140016-1-1.jpg) is one of my favorite pictures of the two of us. He looks so happy. I had always kept it on my desk, where I could always see it. > When he broke things off with me, I kept it out for a while, and then put it away. I just got it out again. > > I just wish I could have done more to help him. When he broke up with me in June, I knew there was was more going on, but he refused all contact. From talking with his friend who informed of the news, it sounds like there were indications he’d been planning on doing this for some time. I know there was probably nothing I could do, but I can’t help but think what if… ? > We lived about an hour away from each other. I should have gotten in my car and just driven up there. That is a good picture **Biblio** , don’t beat yourself up over this. It is not your fault and won’t do you or him any good with _what ifs_. Treat yourself to something that will make you feel a little better and remember the good times. ---
**Author:** ![Mahaloth](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mahaloth/32/1079_2.png) [@Mahaloth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mahaloth)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2009, 8:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-passing-of-another-doper-danceswithcats/506983/35 "2009-08-19T20:02:26Z")
I have no words. I’m sorry for your loss. ---
**Author:** ![Spatial\_Rift\_47](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/a8b319/32.png) [@Spatial\_Rift\_47](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Spatial_Rift_47)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2009, 8:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-passing-of-another-doper-danceswithcats/506983/36 "2009-08-19T20:04:58Z")
You have my condolences, **BiblioCat** , as does his family. ---
**Author:** ![Idle\_Thoughts](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/838e76/32.png) [@Idle\_Thoughts](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Idle_Thoughts)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2009, 8:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-passing-of-another-doper-danceswithcats/506983/37 "2009-08-19T20:06:40Z")
My deep condolences. I, too, was a big fan of his posts and topics. RIP, I hope. ---
**Author:** ![Promethea](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/f9ae1b/32.png) [@Promethea](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Promethea)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2009, 8:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-passing-of-another-doper-danceswithcats/506983/38 "2009-08-19T20:09:02Z")
I 'm so sorry for your loss, BiblioCat - he sounds like a wonderful man. Please do not blame yourself, you were there for him and that’s all any of us can be. Oh,I apologise, everything written in such circumstances risks looking inadequate -I just am so terribly sorry. ---
**Author:** ![Airman\_Doors\_USAF](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/e36b37/32.png) [@Airman\_Doors\_USAF](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Airman_Doors_USAF)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2009, 8:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-passing-of-another-doper-danceswithcats/506983/39 "2009-08-19T20:09:41Z")
Oh sweet Jesus. I don’t know what to say, and Robin will be crushed (as am I). Goodbye, Paul. ---
**Author:** ![silenus](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/silenus/32/166_2.png) [@silenus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/silenus)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2009, 8:09pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-passing-of-another-doper-danceswithcats/506983/40 "2009-08-19T20:09:41Z")
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