# The passing of another Doper - danceswithcats **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [August 19, 2009, 7:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-passing-of-another-doper-danceswithcats/506983 "2009-08-19T19:15:59Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 4
**Author:** ![Biggirl](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/biggirl/32/3294_2.png) [@Biggirl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Biggirl)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2009, 9:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-passing-of-another-doper-danceswithcats/506983/61 "2009-08-19T21:10:52Z")
Aw **dances**. This is just terrible. Every time I saw him he was full of vigor, fun and fight. I cannot imagine what was going on inside. Be at peace, friend. ---
**Author:** ![Geobabe](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/geobabe/32/3908_2.png) [@Geobabe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Geobabe)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2009, 9:13pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-passing-of-another-doper-danceswithcats/506983/62 "2009-08-19T21:13:13Z")
Holy crap. I’m so sorry to hear this. ☹ ---
**Author:** ![Kolga](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/e56c9b/32.png) [@Kolga](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kolga)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2009, 9:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-passing-of-another-doper-danceswithcats/506983/63 "2009-08-19T21:17:36Z")
I’m so very sorry to hear this. My thoughts are with you and with his family. ---
**Author:** ![Guinastasia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guinastasia/32/5751_2.png) [@Guinastasia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Guinastasia)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2009, 9:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-passing-of-another-doper-danceswithcats/506983/64 "2009-08-19T21:18:25Z")
Oh my god. I met him once years ago, at a Dopaween. He seemed like such a cool, fun guy to hang out with, and I always enjoyed posting with him here, even if I disagreed. ☹ My condolences to his loved ones. ---
**Author:** ![Poysyn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/f4b2a3/32.png) [@Poysyn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Poysyn)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2009, 9:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-passing-of-another-doper-danceswithcats/506983/65 "2009-08-19T21:18:44Z")
I am sorry to hear this - I enjoyed his posts and smiled at his username. My thoughts are with you, this is terrible. ---
**Author:** ![NinetyWt](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/cc9497/32.png) [@NinetyWt](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/NinetyWt)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2009, 9:20pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-passing-of-another-doper-danceswithcats/506983/66 "2009-08-19T21:20:38Z")
Oh no. I’m so sorry to hear this. Please don’t be hard on yourself **Bibliocat**. That photo of the two of you is the one I thought of when I saw this thread. Such a wonderful portrait. Go in peace, Paul. ---
**Author:** ![GingerOfTheNorth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/cdc98d/32.png) [@GingerOfTheNorth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GingerOfTheNorth)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2009, 9:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-passing-of-another-doper-danceswithcats/506983/67 "2009-08-19T21:21:40Z")
> [@pseudotriton\_ruber\_ruber](#): > > That might have been my one PA Dopefest as well. That’s certainly where I met him, and met you, **Ben**. He was a good guy, affable and engaging. It was a Dope-The-Halls at our house. Goodbye, Uncle Paul. We will miss you very much. ---
**Author:** ![gardentraveler](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/gardentraveler/32/3576_2.png) [@gardentraveler](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/gardentraveler)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2009, 9:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-passing-of-another-doper-danceswithcats/506983/68 "2009-08-19T21:25:10Z")
I’m so sad to read this news, **BiblioCat**. His was one of the first Doper names that I noticed. I interacted with him a few times in Doperball games too. Seemed like a clever and cool person. Hugs for you and for Paul’s family. GT ---
**Author:** ![Helen\_s\_Eidolon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/8edcca/32.png) [@Helen\_s\_Eidolon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Helen_s_Eidolon)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2009, 9:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-passing-of-another-doper-danceswithcats/506983/69 "2009-08-19T21:30:50Z")
Oh my goodness. I’m so sorry, BiblioCat. Like everyone else who met him, I can say he was a lot of fun and will be missed. ---
**Author:** ![Kizarvexius](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/da6949/32.png) [@Kizarvexius](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kizarvexius)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2009, 9:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-passing-of-another-doper-danceswithcats/506983/70 "2009-08-19T21:36:29Z")
_Requiscat in pace_, **dwc**. May your soul find peace. And my very deepest sympathies to you, **BiblioCat**. I cannot begin to imagine what you are going through, but I hope that time and tide will heal the wounds. ---
**Author:** ![Shodan](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/9f8e36/32.png) [@Shodan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shodan)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2009, 9:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-passing-of-another-doper-danceswithcats/506983/71 "2009-08-19T21:39:38Z")
My condolences. ---
**Author:** ![picker](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/picker/32/13969_2.png) [@picker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/picker)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2009, 9:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-passing-of-another-doper-danceswithcats/506983/72 "2009-08-19T21:43:08Z")
I’m very sorry for your loss, and that of his loved ones not on the boards here. I always enjoyed his posts. Rest easy, Paul. ---
**Author:** ![Captain\_Carrot](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/f0a364/32.png) [@Captain\_Carrot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Captain_Carrot)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2009, 9:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-passing-of-another-doper-danceswithcats/506983/73 "2009-08-19T21:48:38Z")
Oh, man. That’s terrible. ---
**Author:** ![Duckster](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/duckster/32/1244_2.png) [@Duckster](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Duckster)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2009, 9:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-passing-of-another-doper-danceswithcats/506983/74 "2009-08-19T21:52:54Z")
**danceswithcats**. Just another pseudo name on an anonymous message board on the interwebs. Never met him. Never knew him. Participated in a few threads where he posted. Probably exchanged a few comments back and forth with him, too. So why am I like so many other posters here, shocked, sad and offering support to **BiblioCat** , another who is just another pseudo name … ? Cuz we’re family. It doesn’t take blood to be a member. It doesn’t take proximity to be a member. We’re still family. Rest in peace, my friend. ---
**Author:** ![moi](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/c2a13f/32.png) [@moi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/moi)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2009, 9:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-passing-of-another-doper-danceswithcats/506983/75 "2009-08-19T21:53:51Z")
Heartbreaking news. I just got a phone call about this and wanted to hope it was all wrong. I’m sorry for your loss, Bibliocat. I got nothin’ else; I’m stripped of all eloquence here. RIP Paul. ---
**Author:** ![Ann\_Onimous](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/ea5d25/32.png) [@Ann\_Onimous](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ann_Onimous)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2009, 9:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-passing-of-another-doper-danceswithcats/506983/76 "2009-08-19T21:56:32Z")
Damn. I’m sad to hear this. **BiblioCat** , you and his family and friends are in our thoughts and prayers. Damn. ---
**Author:** ![Jaade](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/dfb087/32.png) [@Jaade](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Jaade)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2009, 9:58pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-passing-of-another-doper-danceswithcats/506983/77 "2009-08-19T21:58:45Z")
> [@What\_Exit](#): > > That is a good picture **Biblio** , don’t beat yourself up over this. It is not your fault and won’t do you or him any good with _what ifs_. Treat yourself to something that will make you feel a little better and remember the good times. I second this. What if’s will serve no positive purpose in your grieving process. I’m so sorry for you, his family and others that knew him. Heartbreaking event. ~hugs **Bibliocat** ~ ---
**Author:** ![Cosmopolitan](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/94ad74/32.png) [@Cosmopolitan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cosmopolitan)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2009, 10:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-passing-of-another-doper-danceswithcats/506983/78 "2009-08-19T22:01:24Z")
> [@BiblioCat](#): > > I know there was probably nothing I could do, but I can’t help but think what if… ? > We lived about an hour away from each other. I should have gotten in my car and just driven up there. Please try to avoid doing this to yourself… The facts are that his brain chemistry was so, so off and that he refused help. These are horrible facts, but are not your fault. We can’t watch over even the most depressed people all the time, despite our best efforts. You tried to be there for him, and that was a great thing. I didn’t know him - only his posts - but I doubt he’d want you to torture yourself. I’m sure you helped him the best you knew how. I wish you and his family and friends comfort. ---
**Author:** ![av8rmike](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/edb3f5/32.png) [@av8rmike](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/av8rmike)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2009, 10:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-passing-of-another-doper-danceswithcats/506983/79 "2009-08-19T22:31:49Z")
I’m so so sorry to hear this. Paul was such a great guy at all those Dopefests, it’s hard to believe he had these inner demons. I hope his daughter is OK. ---
**Author:** ![Capt.Ridley\_s\_Shooting\_Party](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/cc9497/32.png) [@Capt.Ridley\_s\_Shooting\_Party](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Capt.Ridley_s_Shooting_Party)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2009, 10:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-passing-of-another-doper-danceswithcats/506983/80 "2009-08-19T22:34:24Z")
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