# The passing of another Doper - danceswithcats **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [August 19, 2009, 7:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-passing-of-another-doper-danceswithcats/506983 "2009-08-19T19:15:59Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 5
**Author:** ![BlueKangaroo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/3d9bf3/32.png) [@BlueKangaroo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BlueKangaroo)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2009, 10:42pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-passing-of-another-doper-danceswithcats/506983/81 "2009-08-19T22:42:56Z")
Beyond that I’m deeply saddened to hear this, and extending my condolences to you, **Bibliocat** , and to his family, I do not know what to say. Horrible news. I keep thinking back to my first Gettysdope, and how I met him there so many years ago. Fuck. That’s really all. ---
**Author:** ![F.U.Shakespeare](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/aca169/32.png) [@F.U.Shakespeare](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/F.U.Shakespeare)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2009, 10:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-passing-of-another-doper-danceswithcats/506983/82 "2009-08-19T22:44:47Z")
I enjoyed his posts and meeting him at the Dopefests. I am going to miss him. My sympathies to you, **Biblio** - my thoughts are with you. ---
**Author:** ![Scuba\_Ben](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/278dde/32.png) [@Scuba\_Ben](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Scuba_Ben)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2009, 10:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-passing-of-another-doper-danceswithcats/506983/83 "2009-08-19T22:46:01Z")
> [@Scuba\_Ben](#): > > I think I was at the DopeFest where Biblio and Danceswithcats became close. I think I even brought the Kahlua that facilitated matters. > [@pseudotriton\_ruber\_ruber](#): > > That might have been my one PA Dopefest as well. That’s certainly where I met him, and met you, **Ben**. He was a good guy, affable and engaging. > [@GingerOfTheNorth](#): > > It was a Dope-The-Halls at our house. If I remember correctly, you’re both right. I think Danceswithcats and Biblio met at the GettysDope that pseudotriton ruber ruber attended, and they became close at a Dope-the-Halls. Memorial planning will take place on the MADopers email list; I’ll post here once a plan is set. ---
**Author:** ![psycat90](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/7ea924/32.png) [@psycat90](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/psycat90)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2009, 11:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-passing-of-another-doper-danceswithcats/506983/84 "2009-08-19T23:10:12Z")
How terribly sad. You and his family and friends are in my thoughts. ---
**Author:** ![psychobunny](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/54ee81/32.png) [@psychobunny](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/psychobunny)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2009, 11:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-passing-of-another-doper-danceswithcats/506983/85 "2009-08-19T23:17:15Z")
I only met him once, at the Ladew gardens trip, but I remember him as sweet and funny. My condolences to you, to his family, and to his kitties. ---
**Author:** ![Telperien](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/65b543/32.png) [@Telperien](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Telperien)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2009, 11:22pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-passing-of-another-doper-danceswithcats/506983/86 "2009-08-19T23:22:55Z")
My condolences to **BiblioCat** and his family. ---
**Author:** ![Boggette](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/858c86/32.png) [@Boggette](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Boggette)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2009, 11:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-passing-of-another-doper-danceswithcats/506983/87 "2009-08-19T23:40:03Z")
_sob_ I’m here for you, too, if you need me! ---
**Author:** ![MsRobyn](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/90ced4/32.png) [@MsRobyn](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/MsRobyn)\ **Post date:** [August 19, 2009, 11:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-passing-of-another-doper-danceswithcats/506983/88 "2009-08-19T23:48:15Z")
Airman was right. I am crushed. Weirddave was kind enough to call me this evening to let me know. Paul was one of my closest friends, not just on the SDMB, but in real life. We talked or chatted somewhat regularly, and when we did, it was for quite a while. Even though we were opposites politically, we never let that get in the way of our friendship. He will definitely be missed. ---
**Author:** ![WolfpackJeep](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/wolfpackjeep/32/2921_2.png) [@WolfpackJeep](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/WolfpackJeep)\ **Post date:** [August 20, 2009, 12:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-passing-of-another-doper-danceswithcats/506983/89 "2009-08-20T00:02:18Z")
So sad! ☹ Take care, **BiblioCat**. We’ll all be thinking about you. ---
**Author:** ![Wendell\_Wagner](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/8491ac/32.png) [@Wendell\_Wagner](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Wendell_Wagner)\ **Post date:** [August 20, 2009, 12:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-passing-of-another-doper-danceswithcats/506983/90 "2009-08-20T00:08:42Z")
I saw him many times at Dopefests. He always seemed like the life of the party to me. I guess I have no ability to diagnose depression. My condolences to all of his family and friends. Scuba Ben, yes, let’s have a get-together over Labor Day Weekend in his memory. ---
**Author:** ![OpalCat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/8edcca/32.png) [@OpalCat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/OpalCat)\ **Post date:** [August 20, 2009, 12:27am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-passing-of-another-doper-danceswithcats/506983/91 "2009-08-20T00:27:27Z")
Via Facebook, my husband just directed me here… I don’t know what to say. Paul was someone I deeply respected and cared about. He took in not one but TWO of my cats when I could no longer care for them (due to fighting and spraying in relation to other cats in the house). He was relentlessly kind and helpful to anyone I ever knew of. I’ve been to his house, I’ve been to get-togethers with him… I cared about him a lot and considered him one of my closer online friends. In fact, I had been frustrated that he never responded to my emailed inquiries for a street address (which I used to have but had lost) to send him an invitation to my wedding in May. I am very distraught and saddened by this news. My heart goes out to Bibliocat, whom I know he cared DEEPLY for and can only assume that his abrupt “resignation” from that relationship was to spare her the grief of what he knew he was planning to do. I can’t express my sadness that he chose to do what he did, though I can understand it, having been there myself. All I can do is wish the very best for him in the “whatever comes next” and to offer my sincere condolences to those who also knew him. RIP, Paul. I wish you had realized how awesome a dude you were. ---
**Author:** ![Glazer](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/a88e57/32.png) [@Glazer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Glazer)\ **Post date:** [August 20, 2009, 12:37am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-passing-of-another-doper-danceswithcats/506983/92 "2009-08-20T00:37:20Z")
I’m so sad. My thoughts are with you BiblioCat. Peace brother, rest well. You are missed. ---
**Author:** ![Rasa](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/rasa/32/3578_2.png) [@Rasa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rasa)\ **Post date:** [August 20, 2009, 12:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-passing-of-another-doper-danceswithcats/506983/93 "2009-08-20T00:48:03Z")
Oh, I’m so sorry to hear this. **BiblioCat** , strength and peace to you, and all of his loved ones. I echo the others who say please, please don’t second-guess yourself with the “if onlys”. ---
**Author:** ![Taters](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/taters/32/2845_2.png) [@Taters](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Taters)\ **Post date:** [August 20, 2009, 12:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-passing-of-another-doper-danceswithcats/506983/94 "2009-08-20T00:51:27Z")
I’m so very sorry to read this. I hope you find peace and strength in the memories of the good times, **Bibliocat.** ---
**Author:** ![fisha](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/da6949/32.png) [@fisha](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/fisha)\ **Post date:** [August 20, 2009, 1:03am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-passing-of-another-doper-danceswithcats/506983/95 "2009-08-20T01:03:12Z")
**danceswithcats** knew his shit when it came to construction. Peace. ---
**Author:** ![Elenfair](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/cc9497/32.png) [@Elenfair](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Elenfair)\ **Post date:** [August 20, 2009, 1:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-passing-of-another-doper-danceswithcats/506983/96 "2009-08-20T01:17:15Z")
BiblioCat, much love to you from the nofair household. I’m so sorry to hear this news. Paul was a good guy and he’ll be deeply missed. ---
**Author:** ![Happy\_Lendervedder](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/happy_lendervedder/32/8488_2.png) [@Happy\_Lendervedder](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Happy_Lendervedder)\ **Post date:** [August 20, 2009, 1:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-passing-of-another-doper-danceswithcats/506983/97 "2009-08-20T01:23:38Z")
Such sad news. ☹ ---
**Author:** ![Man\_With\_a\_Cat](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/cab0a1/32.png) [@Man\_With\_a\_Cat](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Man_With_a_Cat)\ **Post date:** [August 20, 2009, 1:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-passing-of-another-doper-danceswithcats/506983/98 "2009-08-20T01:43:47Z")
Wow. Shocking and heartbreaking. My condolences to everyone who knew him better than I did. ---
**Author:** ![Gleena](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/b3f665/32.png) [@Gleena](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gleena)\ **Post date:** [August 20, 2009, 1:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-passing-of-another-doper-danceswithcats/506983/99 "2009-08-20T01:56:59Z")
This is just awful. I always noticed his posts, and I’m so sad for everybody who loved him. ---
**Author:** ![carnivorousplant](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/carnivorousplant/32/3563_2.png) [@carnivorousplant](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/carnivorousplant)\ **Post date:** [August 20, 2009, 2:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-passing-of-another-doper-danceswithcats/506983/100 "2009-08-20T02:04:47Z")
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