# The Perfect Girl **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [August 9, 2000, 7:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-perfect-girl/28683 "2000-08-09T07:06:38Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 11\ **Page:** 4
**Author:** ![\_Amber-Skye](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/_/49beb7/32.png) [@\_Amber-Skye](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/_Amber-Skye)\ **Post date:** [November 17, 2000, 1:41am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-perfect-girl/28683/61 "2000-11-17T01:41:56Z")
Honestly everyone, The “Perfect Girl” is one who is true to herself and others:) > [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by dpr \* > \*\*Following some interest in [The Perfect Guy](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?threadid=33788) I thought I’d share this as well. > > I had made a tongue-in-cheek list of the perfect woman (which I’m yet to post in the other thread and may not do so now) but it got to me thinking about a serious list for what would qualify as my soulmate. This is what my rushed brainstorm came up with: > > 1. Have a natural smile that embodies enthusiasm. > > 2. Have eyes that dance with her smile and twinkle with mischief without it > > 3. Be conscious of health without becoming obsessed by it > > 4. Have a good sense of humour > > 5. Not worry about what the neighbours/relatives will think > > 6. Be affectionate > > 7. Not play games when she wants something (whether it’s physical, material or emotional) > > 8. Love snuggling > > 9. Be intelligent. She doesn’t have to be able to debate Schroedinger’s Cat but it’d be nice if she knew what it was. > > 10. Be spontaneous > > 11. Be unafraid to explore her own sexuality (preferably with my company) > > 12. Enjoy time together but be comfortable when we’re apart. > > 13. Be honest > > 14. Be trusting > > 15. Understand that sometimes I don’t want to talk about it. I just need a hug. > > 16. Appreciate the difference between sex and making love and recognising that we need both > > 17. Catch me off guard with occasional surprises > > 18. Enjoy both giving and receiving massages > > 19. Appreciate my hobbies as I’d appreciate hers > > 20. Not get upset when I want to watch the big game. In fact she’d have munchies ready so I wouldn’t miss anything in getting up. > > 21. Love lying in bed listening to the rain > > 22. Enjoy dancing in the rain (heck and singing too) > > 23. Be independent but preferring the interdependence of the relationship > > 24. Be unafraid to speak her mind but without making it an emotional slanging match > > 25. Willing to try new things > > 26. Feel comfortable with silences (ie understand they don’t have to be filled when in each other’s company) > > 27. Not analyse every word or nuance > > 28. Be secure in herself or at least attempt to be > > 29. Have a cute nickname for me (and not use it in front of my mates) > > 30. Have an occasional wicked streak > > 31. Never ever ask if I think she’s fat > > 32. In fact never ever ask questions she doesn’t really want the answer to or wants one answer only > > 33. Not generalise about the genders and what the perfect man is/would do unless she was making fun > > 34. Love cuddles and hugs > > 35. Let me open the door for her and treat her like a princess > > 36. Talk with me not at me > > 37. Never assumes she is automatically right or that her idea is better > > 38. Be open minded and fair > > 39. Be willing to do things she didn’t overly enjoy and not to be too happy when I agree to not to do them because she doesn’t. > > 40. Be capable of withstanding all the affection I’d shower upon her > > 41. Be supportive when I’m a bit down or when things are tough > > 42. Always be true to herself > > Comments anyone? > \*\* ---
**Author:** ![Nymysys](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/f6c823/32.png) [@Nymysys](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nymysys)\ **Post date:** [November 17, 2000, 3:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-perfect-girl/28683/62 "2000-11-17T03:24:37Z")
_sigh_ Guess I’ll just have to wait a couple of days to find out more about dpr. I’ll be over here in the corner when you get done moving. Here’s good karma thoughts that your move isn’t horrific, babe! ---
**Author:** ![quasar](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/q/48db29/32.png) [@quasar](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/quasar)\ **Post date:** [November 17, 2000, 6:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-perfect-girl/28683/63 "2000-11-17T06:02:51Z")
We delved into romantic idealizations of a soulmate in the [Interesting questions](http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showthread.php?postid=828156#post828156) thread. Borrowing from one of my posts from that thread, this is the way I conceptualize my soulmate, i.e., the perfect girl, the woman of my dreams, the one who completes me: \*"First and foremost, she must display a beautiful smile. To me a smile is a window into the soul, it manifests a girl’s true feelings and echoes her innermost secrets. A sweet, heart-warming smile enchants me, captivates me as if it were a magical spell of passion. Accompanying that sky-brightening smile should be the sweetness and cuteness that such an enchanting, natural facial expression reflects. When she speaks, the magical tone of her voice shall be forever impregnated in my soul and resonate through eternity in my heart. When she looks at me I would melt at the glimpse of such a fascinating stare; the privilege of being graced by her attention summoning me to eternal and incommensurable love and devotion. A most would have to be a good sense of humor, an ability to laugh at herself, to not care about what other people think, to enjoy the most idiotic jokes, to disregard conventionalisms, to be free, natural, true to herself. I find it that humor allows you to abstract from the reality of day to day existence and enter the realm of fantasy, of the imaginary. By laughing, stress disappears and good nature surfaces, the burden of your worries dissipates in the mysterious domains of infinity, peace and spiritual satisfaction replacing them and filling your heart with joy. A zest for life, an appreciation for all the beautiful things we encounter in this beautiful oasis in space we call home, an enjoyment of nature, a curiosity towards unraveling the mysteries of our existence; they all should be comprised within the spectra of qualities displayed by the person to whom I lend my heart to: my soulmate. Completing her idealized conceptualization would be external beauty, not necessarily in the form of a gorgeous, voluptuous blonde, but manifested through a sweet, innocent-looking girl. But of course that is just my excessively idealistic, over-romanticized fantasy. A nice way to summarize the above mentioned conceptualization of a soulmate would be this: Katie Holmes, Natalie Portman or Drew Barrymore. Now, why didn’t I think about that before? "\* Unfortunately, as of right now, I have not found her. Hope that such an idealistic conceptualization materializes soon and transforms the solitude residing in my heart into an unbridled display of passion and eternal love. ## Off to sleep now; maybe the love that evades me in the real world will manifest itself through the magical, yet elusive, land of dreams where fantasies are fulfilled and joy reigns supreme. :rolleyes: **Yoda** or **Yogurt**? A dilemma for the ages. ---
**Author:** ![dpr](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/8797f3/32.png) [@dpr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dpr)\ **Post date:** [November 20, 2000, 11:10pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-perfect-girl/28683/64 "2000-11-20T23:10:49Z")
Hey Nym, The move wasn’t too horrific - a few hiccups as is normal but on the whole relatively painless. Now comes the unpacking which could take a few days or a few months… About me? I’m 30 yo, love smiles, honesty and broccoli. I’ll try nearly anything once and am often found neck deep in trouble or mischief. Any other questions? ---
**Author:** ![Medea\_s\_Child](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/8baadc/32.png) [@Medea\_s\_Child](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Medea_s_Child)\ **Post date:** [November 21, 2000, 12:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-perfect-girl/28683/65 "2000-11-21T00:11:12Z")
What have you tried that you don’t regret, but aren’t willing to do again? ---
**Author:** ![dpr](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/8797f3/32.png) [@dpr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dpr)\ **Post date:** [December 15, 2000, 6:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-perfect-girl/28683/66 "2000-12-15T06:56:58Z")
I regret very little of what I’ve done. After all that’s what defines me as I am now. But a few indescretions with the law as a youngster (minor but against what I belive in) and falling in love with an engaged woman. Not that you can always control who you fall in love with… ---
**Author:** ![Caldazar](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/8e8cbc/32.png) [@Caldazar](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Caldazar)\ **Post date:** [December 15, 2000, 7:07am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-perfect-girl/28683/67 "2000-12-15T07:07:53Z")
… would (a) respect and care for herself (b) respect and care for others. ---
**Author:** ![Nymysys](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/f6c823/32.png) [@Nymysys](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nymysys)\ **Post date:** [December 15, 2000, 11:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-perfect-girl/28683/68 "2000-12-15T23:07:21Z")
Damn, way to bump the thread again, dpr. Now I’m fondly remembering the first time I persued you. Who knew it would become an ongoing task? 😃 ---
**Author:** ![maidenunicorn41](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/e5b9ba/32.png) [@maidenunicorn41](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/maidenunicorn41)\ **Post date:** [December 16, 2000, 1:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-perfect-girl/28683/69 "2000-12-16T01:19:47Z")
Hey , I think I am all of the above mentioned things, plus I can cook like Martha Stewart. So, how come no one wants me? ☹ ---
**Author:** ![dpr](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/8797f3/32.png) [@dpr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/dpr)\ **Post date:** [June 9, 2001, 1:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-perfect-girl/28683/70 "2001-06-09T13:34:42Z")
Well in response to the current thread entitled “What you love most about your gf” I thought I’d bump my perfect girl and point out that my fiance meets the criteria. Then I noticed this (posted in November last year): > [@](#): > > \*Originally posted by Nymysys \* > \*\*Damn, way to bump the thread again, dpr. Now I’m fondly remembering the first time I persued you. Who knew it would become an ongoing task? 😃 \*\* Who knew indeed hon? Spoken with the accuracy of Cassandra, but with a happier ending. ---
**Author:** ![Weird\_AL\_Einstein](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/w/c67d28/32.png) [@Weird\_AL\_Einstein](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Weird_AL_Einstein)\ **Post date:** [June 10, 2001, 6:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-perfect-girl/28683/71 "2001-06-10T06:42:54Z")
Thanks to **dpr** for bumping this thread so a newbie like me can get in on it. I am not one to make an exhaustive list-I suspect I will meet the girl of my dreams first and then retrofit my list to her to a large extent-however: The three b’s-brains, beauty, and bisexuality 🙂 * * * “The Bible says, `The truth shall make you free.’ But let’s not forget it was Spiro Agnew who said that a good lie will keep you out of jail in the first place.” -A. Whitney Brown [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-perfect-girl/28683.md?page=3)