# The person you lost your virginity with: Where are they? **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [December 24, 2019, 5:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-person-you-lost-your-virginity-with-where-are-they/845330 "2019-12-24T05:39:19Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Happy\_Lendervedder](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/happy_lendervedder/32/8488_2.png) [@Happy\_Lendervedder](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Happy_Lendervedder)\ **Post date:** [December 24, 2019, 5:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-person-you-lost-your-virginity-with-where-are-they/845330/1 "2019-12-24T05:39:19Z")
I’m not looking for salacious content, no sexy time stories. Just this simple question: Where’s the person you lost your virginity with now (if’n you know)? The woman I lost mine with is living in AZ, married with a kid. We’re not Facebook friends, but enough of my Facebook friends are friends with her, so I’ve clicked to see how she’s doing. I’m happy for her, but also very, very happy not to be with her. ---
**Author:** ![snfaulkner](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/snfaulkner/32/433_2.png) [@snfaulkner](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/snfaulkner)\ **Post date:** [December 24, 2019, 5:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-person-you-lost-your-virginity-with-where-are-they/845330/2 "2019-12-24T05:40:32Z")
I do not care. Apparently she’s tried to contact my mom fairly recently, but she’s avoiding her too. ---
**Author:** ![Lancia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lancia/32/17174_2.png) [@Lancia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lancia)\ **Post date:** [December 24, 2019, 5:40am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-person-you-lost-your-virginity-with-where-are-they/845330/3 "2019-12-24T05:40:57Z")
I married her. 19 years later, we’re still together. ---
**Author:** ![Defensive\_Indifference](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/defensive_indifference/32/6502_2.png) [@Defensive\_Indifference](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Defensive_Indifference)\ **Post date:** [December 24, 2019, 5:41am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-person-you-lost-your-virginity-with-where-are-they/845330/4 "2019-12-24T05:41:38Z")
She’s sleeping upstairs at the moment. ---
**Author:** ![kambuckta](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/53a042/32.png) [@kambuckta](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kambuckta)\ **Post date:** [December 24, 2019, 5:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-person-you-lost-your-virginity-with-where-are-they/845330/5 "2019-12-24T05:42:53Z")
Pretty sure mine would be dead by now, and his mortal remains inside the gastrointestinal tract of a worm. ---
**Author:** ![Beckdawrek](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/beckdawrek/32/3647_2.png) [@Beckdawrek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Beckdawrek)\ **Post date:** [December 24, 2019, 5:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-person-you-lost-your-virginity-with-where-are-they/845330/6 "2019-12-24T05:51:29Z")
Snoring in my bed. ---
**Author:** ![Gatopescado](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/gatopescado/32/5711_2.png) [@Gatopescado](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Gatopescado)\ **Post date:** [December 24, 2019, 5:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-person-you-lost-your-virginity-with-where-are-they/845330/7 "2019-12-24T05:52:36Z")
Last I heard, she was in Barcelona, her daughter in Vegas and the twins are back in Tokyo. ---
**Author:** ![harmonicamoon](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/65b543/32.png) [@harmonicamoon](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/harmonicamoon)\ **Post date:** [December 24, 2019, 5:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-person-you-lost-your-virginity-with-where-are-they/845330/8 "2019-12-24T05:56:42Z")
After 50 years, we are still in touch. But, I love hearing the stories up stream. LTR’s make me tear up. Congratulations! ---
**Author:** ![nelliebly](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/nelliebly/32/5422_2.png) [@nelliebly](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/nelliebly)\ **Post date:** [December 24, 2019, 6:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-person-you-lost-your-virginity-with-where-are-they/845330/9 "2019-12-24T06:00:37Z")
Last I heard, a successful artist living on the east coast. ---
**Author:** ![mixdenny](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mixdenny/32/2962_2.png) [@mixdenny](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/mixdenny)\ **Post date:** [December 24, 2019, 6:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-person-you-lost-your-virginity-with-where-are-they/845330/10 "2019-12-24T06:04:01Z")
My first wife passed away about two years ago. Dennis ---
**Author:** ![kenobi\_65](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kenobi_65/32/13178_2.png) [@kenobi\_65](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kenobi_65)\ **Post date:** [December 24, 2019, 6:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-person-you-lost-your-virginity-with-where-are-they/845330/11 "2019-12-24T06:05:28Z")
She’s living in Utah, apparently fairly happily married to husband #4. I hadn’t spoken with her for well over a decade, but then we got back in touch on Facebook a couple of years ago, though we really haven’t spoken much on FB, either. We dated after she divorced husband #2; at the time, I was 18, and she was 32. Yeah, not my wisest moment, but it seemed like a reasonable thing to do at the time. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Loach](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/loach/32/350_2.png) [@Loach](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Loach)\ **Post date:** [December 24, 2019, 6:15am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-person-you-lost-your-virginity-with-where-are-they/845330/12 "2019-12-24T06:15:06Z")
She’s outside of Baltimore. We reconnected briefly through social media a few years ago. Still friends on Facebook but she doesn’t post much. I haven’t seen her in person in 30 years. ---
**Author:** ![Joey\_P](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/j/919ad9/32.png) [@Joey\_P](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Joey_P)\ **Post date:** [December 24, 2019, 6:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-person-you-lost-your-virginity-with-where-are-they/845330/13 "2019-12-24T06:36:12Z")
Married, (she) cheated, left me for him and now living about 2 blocks away… ---
**Author:** ![VOW](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/vow/32/3043_2.png) [@VOW](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/VOW)\ **Post date:** [December 24, 2019, 6:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-person-you-lost-your-virginity-with-where-are-they/845330/14 "2019-12-24T06:50:02Z")
I’ll be sleeping next to him in a few. His body is always so WARM, and I’m freezing half the time, so I getascloseasthis. He even lets me put my cold toes under him so they can thaw out. Forty-five and a half years married. ~VOW ---
**Author:** ![Nava](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/da6949/32.png) [@Nava](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Nava)\ **Post date:** [December 24, 2019, 7:10am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-person-you-lost-your-virginity-with-where-are-they/845330/15 "2019-12-24T07:10:33Z")
I don’t know and I don’t think I’m really supposed to care. ---
**Author:** ![Bullitt](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bullitt/32/5725_2.png) [@Bullitt](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bullitt)\ **Post date:** [December 24, 2019, 7:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-person-you-lost-your-virginity-with-where-are-they/845330/16 "2019-12-24T07:33:50Z")
She lives 2,400 miles to the east of me. MAN, that was so long ago. ---
**Author:** ![Die\_Capacitrix](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/die_capacitrix/32/9_2.png) [@Die\_Capacitrix](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Die_Capacitrix)\ **Post date:** [December 24, 2019, 8:32am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-person-you-lost-your-virginity-with-where-are-they/845330/17 "2019-12-24T08:32:45Z")
Sitting at the other end of the couch. ---
**Author:** ![GuanoLad](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guanolad/32/42_2.png) [@GuanoLad](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/GuanoLad)\ **Post date:** [December 24, 2019, 8:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-person-you-lost-your-virginity-with-where-are-they/845330/18 "2019-12-24T08:39:36Z")
Don’t know, don’t care, can’t remember her name. ---
**Author:** ![CairoCarol](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cairocarol/32/3825_2.png) [@CairoCarol](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/CairoCarol)\ **Post date:** [December 24, 2019, 8:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-person-you-lost-your-virginity-with-where-are-they/845330/19 "2019-12-24T08:47:32Z")
He’s a professor of anthropology at a university in the southwest, married for decades to a woman who seems pretty cool, with three grown kids doing interesting things. He seems like a nice guy. He looked me up a few years ago, we had a few friendly emails and I think he would have welcomed more conversation, but I didn’t have the energy for it. I’m happy he turned out well. ---
**Author:** ![Cazzle](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cazzle/32/75_2.png) [@Cazzle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cazzle)\ **Post date:** [December 24, 2019, 9:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-person-you-lost-your-virginity-with-where-are-they/845330/20 "2019-12-24T09:42:59Z")
Married to a lovely girl who also went to high school with us, has three beautiful children, still lives in our hometown. I’m friends with his wife on social media, and we all caught up for dinner about two years ago when another old high school friend was in town. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-person-you-lost-your-virginity-with-where-are-they/845330.md?page=2)