# The person you lost your virginity with: Where are they? **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [December 24, 2019, 5:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-person-you-lost-your-virginity-with-where-are-they/845330 "2019-12-24T05:39:19Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![TokyoBayer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tokyobayer/32/13989_2.png) [@TokyoBayer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TokyoBayer)\ **Post date:** [December 24, 2019, 9:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-person-you-lost-your-virginity-with-where-are-they/845330/21 "2019-12-24T09:56:54Z")
Who knows? Somewhere in Japan. ---
**Author:** ![pool](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/pool/32/4152_2.png) [@pool](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pool)\ **Post date:** [December 24, 2019, 10:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-person-you-lost-your-virginity-with-where-are-they/845330/22 "2019-12-24T10:56:00Z")
I’m frankly surprised at the number of people who married said person, I doubt that happens much these days. The woman who took mine, was married with a kid when she took it! Not that I resisted too much. I have no idea where she lives, probably still in the same state though. I’m young enough and have been here long enough that I actually started a thread here about it when it happened. ---
**Author:** ![DorkVader](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/73ab20/32.png) [@DorkVader](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/DorkVader)\ **Post date:** [December 24, 2019, 10:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-person-you-lost-your-virginity-with-where-are-they/845330/23 "2019-12-24T10:58:10Z")
Don’t know, and mostly don’t care. Last I knew, she was living next door to my parents a couple of counties over after aheming me and absconding with my unborn child(well she told me I got her caught anyway). That was about 30ish years ago. I wonder about her and the child from time to time. Apparently she never told my parents even though they knew her and were quite neighborly with each other ---
**Author:** ![FinsToTheLeft](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/finstotheleft/32/2930_2.png) [@FinsToTheLeft](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/FinsToTheLeft)\ **Post date:** [December 24, 2019, 11:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-person-you-lost-your-virginity-with-where-are-they/845330/24 "2019-12-24T11:20:18Z")
I last saw mine about three weeks ago. She married someone we both knew from when we were together, although he was married to someone else back then. My whole family has met both of them as we have been patronizing his store the entire time I have known him and she manages the store. ---
**Author:** ![Telemark](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/telemark/32/372_2.png) [@Telemark](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Telemark)\ **Post date:** [December 24, 2019, 11:30am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-person-you-lost-your-virginity-with-where-are-they/845330/25 "2019-12-24T11:30:10Z")
She lives one town over, still my best friend. My wife and I get together with her and her significant other regularly; we hike, ski, and bike together frequently. ---
**Author:** ![Baker](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/bb73d2/32.png) [@Baker](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Baker)\ **Post date:** [December 24, 2019, 11:54am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-person-you-lost-your-virginity-with-where-are-they/845330/26 "2019-12-24T11:54:34Z")
Mine is my ex-husband, on our wedding night. I have no idea where he is now, we didn’t have kids, no reason to maintain contact. ---
**Author:** ![Alpha\_Twit](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/alpha_twit/32/265_2.png) [@Alpha\_Twit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Alpha_Twit)\ **Post date:** [December 24, 2019, 12:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-person-you-lost-your-virginity-with-where-are-they/845330/27 "2019-12-24T12:47:55Z")
Dead To the best of my knowledge, there is no connection between to the two relevant events. ---
**Author:** ![panache45](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/panache45/32/64_2.png) [@panache45](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/panache45)\ **Post date:** [December 24, 2019, 12:48pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-person-you-lost-your-virginity-with-where-are-they/845330/28 "2019-12-24T12:48:20Z")
Damn, that was 56 years ago. After searching for him online, I found a memorial by his sister. He died of AIDS in 1989. ---
**Author:** ![RealityChuck](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/realitychuck/32/195_2.png) [@RealityChuck](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/RealityChuck)\ **Post date:** [December 24, 2019, 12:52pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-person-you-lost-your-virginity-with-where-are-they/845330/29 "2019-12-24T12:52:36Z")
No idea. We broke up soon after and we both went off to college. I wouldn’t know how to begin to look for her. ---
**Author:** ![Bullitt](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bullitt/32/5725_2.png) [@Bullitt](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bullitt)\ **Post date:** [December 24, 2019, 1:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-person-you-lost-your-virginity-with-where-are-they/845330/30 "2019-12-24T13:18:30Z")
> [@pool](#): > > I’m frankly surprised at the number of people who married said person, I doubt that happens much these days. My wife (“Version 2.0” for me; I am her first husband) lost hers to me on our wedding night. We’re still married, 17+ years later. I am her first husband, her first boyfriend, her first love. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![BrotherCadfael](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/977dab/32.png) [@BrotherCadfael](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BrotherCadfael)\ **Post date:** [December 24, 2019, 2:02pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-person-you-lost-your-virginity-with-where-are-they/845330/31 "2019-12-24T14:02:55Z")
She works for another state government department. We run into each other from time to time and are reasonably cordial. ---
**Author:** ![P-man](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/p-man/32/3606_2.png) [@P-man](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/P-man)\ **Post date:** [December 24, 2019, 2:26pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-person-you-lost-your-virginity-with-where-are-they/845330/32 "2019-12-24T14:26:22Z")
It just happens that I saw her dad’s obituary recently, and she’s still in the area where I grew up. I don’t know if she’s still married, but I think she’s been married at least a couple of times. We were a horrible match, but I hope she’s doing well. ---
**Author:** ![JKellyMap](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/jkellymap/32/15880_2.png) [@JKellyMap](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/JKellyMap)\ **Post date:** [December 24, 2019, 2:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-person-you-lost-your-virginity-with-where-are-they/845330/33 "2019-12-24T14:44:08Z")
Happily married to someone…of her gender, not mine. All good! ---
**Author:** ![Defensive\_Indifference](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/defensive_indifference/32/6502_2.png) [@Defensive\_Indifference](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Defensive_Indifference)\ **Post date:** [December 24, 2019, 3:04pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-person-you-lost-your-virginity-with-where-are-they/845330/34 "2019-12-24T15:04:03Z")
I’m also surprised by the number of folks still with their first after many years (16 years for us). ---
**Author:** ![Pabitel](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/p/bbce88/32.png) [@Pabitel](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Pabitel)\ **Post date:** [December 24, 2019, 3:14pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-person-you-lost-your-virginity-with-where-are-they/845330/35 "2019-12-24T15:14:35Z")
Well, right now she’s at home, but tonight she will be in bed next to me. ---
**Author:** ![rsat3acr](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/a3d4f5/32.png) [@rsat3acr](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/rsat3acr)\ **Post date:** [December 24, 2019, 3:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-person-you-lost-your-virginity-with-where-are-they/845330/36 "2019-12-24T15:17:34Z")
She just went to Chic-fil-a for breakfast. Together just over 43 years now. ---
**Author:** ![Isamu](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/7c8e57/32.png) [@Isamu](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Isamu)\ **Post date:** [December 24, 2019, 3:21pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-person-you-lost-your-virginity-with-where-are-they/845330/37 "2019-12-24T15:21:08Z")
In Australia, married to an ex-football player, with several kids. ---
**Author:** ![Bijou\_Drains](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bijou_drains/32/2814_2.png) [@Bijou\_Drains](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bijou_Drains)\ **Post date:** [December 24, 2019, 3:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-person-you-lost-your-virginity-with-where-are-they/845330/38 "2019-12-24T15:30:10Z")
I’m in the US, pretty sure she is in Australia which is where she is from. She was here for grad school. ---
**Author:** ![Crafter\_Man](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/crafter_man/32/458_2.png) [@Crafter\_Man](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Crafter_Man)\ **Post date:** [December 24, 2019, 3:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-person-you-lost-your-virginity-with-where-are-they/845330/39 "2019-12-24T15:33:39Z")
Dead. Discovered she died a few years ago via a google search. I last saw her around 10 years ago. Had lunch with her. It was obvious she had major drug problems. ---
**Author:** ![eenerms](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/cdc98d/32.png) [@eenerms](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/eenerms)\ **Post date:** [December 24, 2019, 3:50pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-person-you-lost-your-virginity-with-where-are-they/845330/40 "2019-12-24T15:50:29Z")
Think he’s living in Minnesota. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-person-you-lost-your-virginity-with-where-are-they/845330.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-person-you-lost-your-virginity-with-where-are-they/845330.md?page=3)