# The person you lost your virginity with: Where are they? **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [December 24, 2019, 5:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-person-you-lost-your-virginity-with-where-are-they/845330 "2019-12-24T05:39:19Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 4
**Author:** ![kopek](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kopek/32/337_2.png) [@kopek](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/kopek)\ **Post date:** [December 24, 2019, 10:55pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-person-you-lost-your-virginity-with-where-are-they/845330/61 "2019-12-24T22:55:16Z")
No idea. Last I knew (1979 or so) she was married and we just never crossed paths after that. After dating a bit we just never kept in touch so even back then it was basically same-place-same-time. ---
**Author:** ![Slow\_Moving\_Vehicle](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/slow_moving_vehicle/32/291_2.png) [@Slow\_Moving\_Vehicle](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Slow_Moving_Vehicle)\ **Post date:** [December 24, 2019, 11:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-person-you-lost-your-virginity-with-where-are-they/845330/62 "2019-12-24T23:11:12Z")
She died in a car wreck about a year after the night in question. However, one of her post-me boyfriends (now openly gay and married), has been my closest friend for thirty years. So I think fondly of her, as the occasion of meeting my dearest friend. ---
**Author:** ![Spiderman](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/spiderman/32/230_2.png) [@Spiderman](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Spiderman)\ **Post date:** [December 25, 2019, 1:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-person-you-lost-your-virginity-with-where-are-they/845330/63 "2019-12-25T01:36:31Z")
Don’t know, & Google-fu won’t help me unless it can remind me of her name. ---
**Author:** ![LH75](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lh75/32/4438_2.png) [@LH75](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/LH75)\ **Post date:** [December 25, 2019, 1:50am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-person-you-lost-your-virginity-with-where-are-they/845330/64 "2019-12-25T01:50:43Z")
I saw her at Costco a while back. She was shopping with her husband. We made eye contact and she made it clear that she knew who I was but her eyes pleaded with me to just walk on by. I hadn’t seen her in many years but our non verbal communication was still working. a while later I ran onto one of her friends. She told me that her husband was a real jerk and was very jealous. Not your basic Dan Fogleberg moment… ---
**Author:** ![Oredigger77](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/oredigger77/32/3181_2.png) [@Oredigger77](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Oredigger77)\ **Post date:** [December 25, 2019, 4:08am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-person-you-lost-your-virginity-with-where-are-they/845330/65 "2019-12-25T04:08:02Z")
Heck, I don’t even remember her name. Seriously. ---
**Author:** ![HMS\_Irruncible](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/hms_irruncible/32/7394_2.png) [@HMS\_Irruncible](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/HMS_Irruncible)\ **Post date:** [December 25, 2019, 4:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-person-you-lost-your-virginity-with-where-are-they/845330/66 "2019-12-25T04:14:27Z")
We lost touch 30 years ago, and now she runs a locally famous cosmetic surgery practice (adorned with her very unique name) literally not a block from my office building. I wouldn’t mind saying hi, but it’s been a long time and the coincidence is beyond weird. ---
**Author:** ![mjmlabs](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/mjmlabs/32/69_2.png) [@mjmlabs](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/mjmlabs)\ **Post date:** [December 25, 2019, 4:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-person-you-lost-your-virginity-with-where-are-they/845330/67 "2019-12-25T04:16:02Z")
Had no idea where she was literally the next day. Don’t think I ever knew her surname. Friend of a friend of a friend. ---
**Author:** ![digs](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/digs/32/14889_2.png) [@digs](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/digs)\ **Post date:** [December 25, 2019, 4:33am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-person-you-lost-your-virginity-with-where-are-they/845330/68 "2019-12-25T04:33:40Z")
> [@Happy\_Lendervedder](#): > > The person you lost your virginity with: Where are they? Mine’s about ten feet from me, cutting up a baguette for Christmas Eve Fondue. Now, if you want to talk _"wish_ I’d lost my virginity with…" Damn, I wish I had a wild story about lesbian hang gliders strafing eco-terrorists. But actually, it’s kind of poignant. I found out that the woman I would’ve married if I hadn’t met my wife died of cancer years ago. None of her friends or family (who I was close to back then) reached out and told me. ---
**Author:** ![Kamino\_Neko](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/kamino_neko/32/34_2.png) [@Kamino\_Neko](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kamino_Neko)\ **Post date:** [December 25, 2019, 4:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-person-you-lost-your-virginity-with-where-are-they/845330/69 "2019-12-25T04:58:04Z")
Last I spoke to her, she was in school for forensic science. That was long enough ago that she’s probably doing that, now. ---
**Author:** ![Dag\_Otto](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/439d5e/32.png) [@Dag\_Otto](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dag_Otto)\ **Post date:** [December 25, 2019, 5:24am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-person-you-lost-your-virginity-with-where-are-they/845330/70 "2019-12-25T05:24:37Z")
Charleston, South Carolina. She always had good taste. ---
**Author:** ![Rocketeer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/rocketeer/32/4437_2.png) [@Rocketeer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rocketeer)\ **Post date:** [December 25, 2019, 5:52am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-person-you-lost-your-virginity-with-where-are-they/845330/71 "2019-12-25T05:52:50Z")
I’ve lost touch with her, but I think she’s running a stable maybe 30 miles from here. ---
**Author:** ![Ashtura](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ashtura/32/2963_2.png) [@Ashtura](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ashtura)\ **Post date:** [December 25, 2019, 7:02am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-person-you-lost-your-virginity-with-where-are-they/845330/72 "2019-12-25T07:02:58Z")
Right next to me. Been married to her for 25 years. ---
**Author:** ![actualliberalnotoneofthose](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/e79b87/32.png) [@actualliberalnotoneofthose](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/actualliberalnotoneofthose)\ **Post date:** [December 25, 2019, 7:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-person-you-lost-your-virginity-with-where-are-they/845330/73 "2019-12-25T07:59:11Z")
She married a rich dude, which is what she wanted. She is not any kind of social media friend or anything with anyone I know, though we worked together and had mutual friends during the 4-5 years we were in touch. Her unique name helped me find her online, even with her married name. I can’t tell if she has any kids. We almost had a kid and she talked about how much she wanted them and might adopt. She was a few years older than me, and honestly I still haven’t really “found myself” even though I’m grown with kids and a neverending failed marriage. She married a guy about 12 years older than me and our names (both not very common) start with the same 2 letters/syllable. I’m pretty sure he comes from generational wealth. ---
**Author:** ![pkbites](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/pkbites/32/204_2.png) [@pkbites](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/pkbites)\ **Post date:** [December 25, 2019, 8:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-person-you-lost-your-virginity-with-where-are-they/845330/74 "2019-12-25T08:09:11Z")
No clue. She was a tad older so she graduated high school and moved on with her life before I did. On rare occasion I try to find her online. But the last I saw her was 1977 so who knows what her last name is now. Her maiden name, both first and last, was extremely common, so finding her that was is a no go. She was a transplant student, from Georgia, only spending her senior year here, so she didn’t make any real strong friendships. Nobody that even remembers her has any clue what happened to her. I’ll probably never know and honestly, don’t care. ---
**Author:** ![snowthx](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/snowthx/32/10660_2.png) [@snowthx](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/snowthx)\ **Post date:** [December 25, 2019, 12:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-person-you-lost-your-virginity-with-where-are-they/845330/75 "2019-12-25T12:43:04Z")
Been married to her 25 years, but we did our “exchange” right after high school. ---
**Author:** ![Czarcasm](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/czarcasm/32/4050_2.png) [@Czarcasm](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Czarcasm)\ **Post date:** [December 25, 2019, 1:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-person-you-lost-your-virginity-with-where-are-they/845330/76 "2019-12-25T13:01:02Z")
Fresh out of USAF training school, orgy in Hollywood around the corner from the U.S.O.-I don’t know who they were but I wish them all the best. ---
**Author:** ![VinylTurnip](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/v/b2d939/32.png) [@VinylTurnip](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/VinylTurnip)\ **Post date:** [December 25, 2019, 2:12pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-person-you-lost-your-virginity-with-where-are-they/845330/77 "2019-12-25T14:12:16Z")
Last I checked, she was making breakfast for her loving husband and three adorable children. At least I think so. She keeps her blinds closed and my night vision binoculars tend to fog up in heavy rain. ---
**Author:** ![Arcite](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/67e7ee/32.png) [@Arcite](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Arcite)\ **Post date:** [December 25, 2019, 4:03pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-person-you-lost-your-virginity-with-where-are-they/845330/78 "2019-12-25T16:03:42Z")
I too am surprised by the number of people who are still with their first, but it’s a pleasant surprise. I think it’s nice. > [@kenobi\_65](#): > > She’s living in Utah, apparently fairly happily married to husband #4. I hadn’t spoken with her for well over a decade, but then we got back in touch on Facebook a couple of years ago, though we really haven’t spoken much on FB, either. > > We dated after she divorced husband #2; at the time, I was 18, and she was 32. Yeah, not my wisest moment, but it seemed like a reasonable thing to do at the time. 😃 Interesting, I too lost mine to a then-recent divorcée. In my case, she was actually younger than I (I was a _very_ late bloomer.) Presumably her recent divorce was one reason she was hot to trot with me, but she dropped hints about wanting to have a family, and actually broke it off with me when I wasn’t taking things as seriously as she wanted. She had confessed to me that she had cheated on her husband, and no way I was going to get serious with someone with a recent track record of cheating. Per social media, she moved to Brooklyn, NY several years ago, and has been in an LTR with the same guy for years, but they have never married nor had children. ---
**Author:** ![Edward\_The\_Head](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/ce73a5/32.png) [@Edward\_The\_Head](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Edward_The_Head)\ **Post date:** [December 25, 2019, 4:34pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-person-you-lost-your-virginity-with-where-are-they/845330/79 "2019-12-25T16:34:17Z")
I have an idea of where she’s at. She’s got an unusual name name so not too hard to actually find things about, but she doesn’t have any social media that I know of, she wouldn’t want something like that any way. I’ve not seen her since my mother died 15 years ago. I am friends with her sister on Facebook, but she never posts anything. ---
**Author:** ![Shodan](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/9f8e36/32.png) [@Shodan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shodan)\ **Post date:** [December 25, 2019, 5:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-person-you-lost-your-virginity-with-where-are-they/845330/80 "2019-12-25T17:23:24Z")
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