HOMEBREW, you don’t have the right to dictate the morality of anyone other than yourself. Not the Boy Scouts, not the Salvation Army, not the KKK, not your neighbors, nobody. That’s one of the things that’s pretty great about living here.
Surely you know there are people – and, yes, people who collect together in actual organizations – who really, truly, deep-down believe that homosexuality is wrong – either the orientation or the activity, or both. You may disagree (if fact, I assume you do) and the fact that they hold these beliefs may gravel your ass (in fact, I assume that it does), but unless you have some knowledge of nefarious pretextual motivation for espousing beliefs they don’t actually hold, I think you must admit that they really, truly believe that. Homosexuality = morally wrong. The End. This belief, by the way, is not an exclusively Christian one, for all that fundie Christians take the heat for it around here. It is also a belief held with equal, if not greater, vociferousness by fundie Jews and fundie Muslims.
So if you are an organization that is morally opposed to homosexuality generally or the commission of homosexual acts specifically, it seems to me that not discriminating in the giving of your services is probably the best that you can do. You can’t hire people you believe are morally compromised, and no one should be able to make you do so (provided you are a private organization). But you should still extend your services to all, without passing judgment on them, because extending your services to all of the public is what you do.
And that’s where the argument ends for me, so long as we’re not talking about public money, and it seems like the Salvation Army feels so strongly about the issue that it will forego the public money rather than change its policy. IMO, it has the right to do what it wants under those circumstances – just as the Boy Scouts do, just as the Citadel would have (if it had chosen to give up public funding), just as every private citizen does.
Now, to you as a gay person who can’t get partner-benefits, or to someone else as a Jew who can’t get a job with this Christian organization, those requirements – that you meet their moral standards, that you belong to their faith – may seem unreasonable. To me, they are making choices they have every right to make, and while they may not be the choices I would make, those “bad” decisions do not erase the enormous amount of good work the organization does for the public in need – without regard to race, religion, or sexual orientation.
Those two things may be “morally the same” to you, but they’re not to me.
And you may consider this a drive-by posting, since I’m out of town for the next three days and won’t have a chance to respond again.