Hey, can I join? My kids are a little older than most of the ones you guys are talking about, but I might have some helpful stuff to contribute. I have three girls, ages 17, 13 and 4. Yeah, I know, I know. For years after girl number 2, we both said, well, two kids is enough. We don’t need more than that. Then, when girl number two was almost 7 years old, hubby said, “well, we could try one more time for a boy, couldn’t we?” So, I ended up having another baby at 38 years of age. Eight years between my second and third. There are blessings and drawbacks to these kinds of age differences. My oldest has a host of mental and emotional problems, including but not limited to, bipolar disorder, borderline personality disorder, suicidal tendencies, alcoholism and drug addiction. She’s currently attending the alternative high school here in town. My 13-year-old is a gem, beautiful, smart and geeky. My 4-year-old is a joy. Smart and funny. I call her “monkey girl” because she climbs so much! She’s a study in contradictions. She’s a tomboy who loves skirts that “twirl”. She’ll start preschool tomorrow. She has a speech-delay problem, as did my middle daughter.
So, my take on a couple of things. Sleeping: I did CIO. One important thing if you’re going to do this: use a timer! When your baby is crying, two minutes seems like at least 15! If you decide not to do this, don’t feel guilty. Like most other things in life, everyone has to find their own way. Don’t worry too much about any one thing you do being a mistake. You’ll make thousands of mistakes before your kid is grown. You can drive yourself nuts worrying about every little thing!
lorene, I absolutely understand your concerns! When I was pregant with my second one, my SIL told me “two kids are more than twice as hard as one”. Turns out she was right. Also turns out, I handled it. Everyone talks about sibling rivalry, and all that stuff. Well, all that stuff exists, and if anyone wants it, I have some advice. But something that very few people talk about is how wonderful it is to see sibling interact in a positive way with each other. When they are loving and/or caring towards one another, it’s very rewarding.
fessie, I think this thread is a great idea!