# The Stripper, the Bachelor Party, and the Wedding that Wasn't **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [March 10, 2009, 8:16pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-stripper-the-bachelor-party-and-the-wedding-that-wasnt/489001 "2009-03-10T20:16:41Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 2
**Author:** ![Cat\_Fight](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/90ced4/32.png) [@Cat\_Fight](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Fight)\ **Post date:** [March 10, 2009, 10:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-stripper-the-bachelor-party-and-the-wedding-that-wasnt/489001/21 "2009-03-10T22:05:41Z")
> [@Bumbershoot](#): > > I agree; I lost a lot of respect for him after that. Money in labia – cool. Tattling – not cool. Duly noted. ---
**Author:** ![Freudian\_Slit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/5daacb/32.png) [@Freudian\_Slit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Freudian_Slit)\ **Post date:** [March 10, 2009, 10:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-stripper-the-bachelor-party-and-the-wedding-that-wasnt/489001/22 "2009-03-10T22:07:10Z")
> [@iamthewalrus\_3](#): > > My understanding is that neither wanted the other to _participate_ in the stripping events, but the bachelor thought that there should _be_ strippers. This doesn’t seem hypocritical to me. If I were getting married, I’d be uncomfortable participating in the sorts of things described in the OP, or having my fiancee participate, but I do think that strippers are, while not required, a standard bachelor party fixture. Okay, well that makes sense. I can appreciate that distinction. **Tristan** –replace the Halo with Scrabble, and I’m so at your next bachelor party. ---
**Author:** ![G0sp3l](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/g/c68b51/32.png) [@G0sp3l](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/G0sp3l)\ **Post date:** [March 10, 2009, 10:11pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-stripper-the-bachelor-party-and-the-wedding-that-wasnt/489001/23 "2009-03-10T22:11:58Z")
> [@Tristan](#): > > At the last bacherlor party I went to, we got drunk and played HALO. > > That’s all. > > No stripper, no emergency run to the a friends house, no stripper with a dildo, no other topless girls, no having to break into a drunk girls house to get her into her bed. > > Nope, none of that. Just played HALO. You poor bastard. The last bachelor party I went to I got drunk, had my underwear ripped from my body by a stripper, vomited, fell in a ditch, destroyed a shower and promised never to get drunk again. Again. It wasn’t my bachelor party. ---
**Author:** ![Harriet\_the\_Spry](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/e56c9b/32.png) [@Harriet\_the\_Spry](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Harriet_the_Spry)\ **Post date:** [March 10, 2009, 11:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-stripper-the-bachelor-party-and-the-wedding-that-wasnt/489001/24 "2009-03-10T23:05:58Z")
Will everyone think I’m strange if I confine all of my cash transactions to $1 bills and coins from now on :eek:. Where’s the barf smiley? ---
**Author:** ![Bumbershoot](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/bumbershoot/32/3428_2.png) [@Bumbershoot](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Bumbershoot)\ **Post date:** [March 10, 2009, 11:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-stripper-the-bachelor-party-and-the-wedding-that-wasnt/489001/25 "2009-03-10T23:06:25Z")
> [@Cat\_Fight](#): > > Money in labia – cool. Tattling – not cool. Duly noted. By George, I think she’s got it! Or “he’s got it”, as the case may be. ---
**Author:** ![Lemur866](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/lemur866/32/434_2.png) [@Lemur866](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lemur866)\ **Post date:** [March 10, 2009, 11:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-stripper-the-bachelor-party-and-the-wedding-that-wasnt/489001/26 "2009-03-10T23:27:10Z")
> [@Tristan](#): > > At the last bacherlor party I went to, we got drunk and played HALO. > > That’s all. > > No stripper, no emergency run to the a friends house, no stripper with a dildo, no other topless girls, no having to break into a drunk girls house to get her into her bed. > > Nope, none of that. Just played HALO. Jeez, and we played Risk because we didn’t have enough systems at the groom’s house for everyone to play Counterstrike. ---
**Author:** ![New\_Beginning](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/90db22/32.png) [@New\_Beginning](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/New_Beginning)\ **Post date:** [March 10, 2009, 11:30pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-stripper-the-bachelor-party-and-the-wedding-that-wasnt/489001/27 "2009-03-10T23:30:41Z")
> [@Hello\_Again](#): > > At any rate, the non-single guys were all assholes since none of them apparently had any kind of understanding with their SOs as to what would transpire. Give me a break. Have you ever seen…say…any movie ever made involving a bachelor party? It sound like there was no contact (or ‘incidental’ contact), and there was a naked girl doing funky stuff to tease guys. That’s pretty much the definition of a bachelor party. Am I missing something? That said, strippers don’t do it for me, and the gripping of the dollars–while impressive–sounds pretty nasty and I would have stayed out of it. (For what it’s worth, I’m going to be having my own bachelor party in less than 3 months and no strippers will be involved.) ---
**Author:** ![Hello\_Again](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/85e7bf/32.png) [@Hello\_Again](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Hello_Again)\ **Post date:** [March 10, 2009, 11:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-stripper-the-bachelor-party-and-the-wedding-that-wasnt/489001/28 "2009-03-10T23:44:55Z")
> [@New\_Beginning](#): > > Give me a break. Have you ever seen…say…any movie ever made involving a bachelor party? It sound like there was no contact (or ‘incidental’ contact), and there was a naked girl doing funky stuff to tease guys. That’s pretty much the definition of a bachelor party. Am I missing something? A strip club, some boobs in the face, a clothed lapdance? Not every woman may agree they’re okay, but they are certainly “typical” bachelor party activities. Pressing your bare vagina to a man’s face while he lays down, and extricating your tip with said orifice, is a little over the line for me. To say it was "incidental contact " under the circumstances is rules lawyering. You would be totally cool with it if your wife/gf laid down on the floor while a totally naked man used his cock to remove money from her mouth? Hey, whatever works for you. What happened clearly did not work for this particular couple. ---
**Author:** ![Digital\_Stimulus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/aeb1de/32.png) [@Digital\_Stimulus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Digital_Stimulus)\ **Post date:** [March 10, 2009, 11:45pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-stripper-the-bachelor-party-and-the-wedding-that-wasnt/489001/29 "2009-03-10T23:45:15Z")
> [@Tristan](#): > > Nope, none of that. Just played HALO. Based on the OP’s tale, no matter what actually happens at a bachelor party, the above is the correct answer. Well done, sir. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![taxi78cab](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/e47c2d/32.png) [@taxi78cab](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/taxi78cab)\ **Post date:** [March 10, 2009, 11:47pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-stripper-the-bachelor-party-and-the-wedding-that-wasnt/489001/30 "2009-03-10T23:47:48Z")
> [@New\_Beginning](#): > > Give me a break. Have you ever seen…say…any movie ever made involving a bachelor party? It sound like there was no contact (or ‘incidental’ contact), and there was a naked girl doing funky stuff to tease guys. That’s pretty much the definition of a bachelor party. Am I missing something? I think most of us assume (I’m a woman and have never seen a stripper, but this is my assumption from movies/tv shows that I’ve seen.) that there’s no contact or even near contact. That’s the point that crosses the line for many couples. ---
**Author:** ![New\_Beginning](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/n/90db22/32.png) [@New\_Beginning](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/New_Beginning)\ **Post date:** [March 11, 2009, 12:05am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-stripper-the-bachelor-party-and-the-wedding-that-wasnt/489001/31 "2009-03-11T00:05:32Z")
> [@Hello\_Again](#): > > You would be totally cool with it if your wife/gf laid down on the floor while a totally naked man used his cock to remove money from her mouth? Using his penis to grip the bill? Actually I’d like to see that, sounds even more impressive than the lady stripper! ---
**Author:** ![hajario](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/hajario/32/171_2.png) [@hajario](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/hajario)\ **Post date:** [March 11, 2009, 12:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-stripper-the-bachelor-party-and-the-wedding-that-wasnt/489001/32 "2009-03-11T00:11:45Z")
I’ve only been to one bachelor party that had strippers. When word got out that there was going to be strippers, all of the SOs threw a shit fit except for my wife, the bride to be and one other wife. They were livid and there was no fucking way, they said, that any of that was going to happen. Then the Other Wife said that she was going to have a Bridal Party at her house and have a male stripper attend. With one exception, all of the pissed off SOs were totally cool with this new situation. So both parties were on. There was a mutual don’t ask, don’t tell rule in effect. My party was more tame than the one described in the OP but stuff did occur. My wife and I ignored the DADT rule but we were smart enough not to tell anyone else. ---
**Author:** ![Dangerosa](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/d/22d042/32.png) [@Dangerosa](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Dangerosa)\ **Post date:** [March 11, 2009, 1:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-stripper-the-bachelor-party-and-the-wedding-that-wasnt/489001/33 "2009-03-11T01:20:42Z")
> [@taxi78cab](#): > > I think most of us assume (I’m a woman and have never seen a stripper, but this is my assumption from movies/tv shows that I’ve seen.) that there’s no contact or even near contact. That’s the point that crosses the line for many couples. Being a woman who has seen strippers, and has had a few acquaintances that have stripped for a living, I’m under no illusion regarding contact. And I think I’d have tipped her a 20 to see that trick. That sounds like its $20 worth of muscle control. ---
**Author:** ![Harriet\_the\_Spry](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/h/e56c9b/32.png) [@Harriet\_the\_Spry](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Harriet_the_Spry)\ **Post date:** [March 11, 2009, 1:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-stripper-the-bachelor-party-and-the-wedding-that-wasnt/489001/34 "2009-03-11T01:29:40Z")
> [@Dangerosa](#): > > And I think I’d have tipped her a 20 to see that trick. That sounds like its $20 worth of muscle control. Not really. It sounds like it’s about a nickel’s worth of damp. I feel sorry for her bank teller. ---
**Author:** ![Mr.Excellent](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/f19dbf/32.png) [@Mr.Excellent](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Mr.Excellent)\ **Post date:** [March 11, 2009, 1:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-stripper-the-bachelor-party-and-the-wedding-that-wasnt/489001/35 "2009-03-11T01:53:36Z")
> [@Harriet\_the\_Spry](#): > > Not really. It sounds like it’s about a nickel’s worth of damp. I feel sorry for her bank teller. Fortunately for the teller, most banks let you make deposits via ATM these days. _Opens wallet, looks at $20 bill thoughtfully_ You know, between the coke, strippers, and origami, I’m beginning to think our currency has a lot more fun than we do. That scarcely seems fair. ---
**Author:** ![Only\_Mostly\_Dead](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/f19dbf/32.png) [@Only\_Mostly\_Dead](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Only_Mostly_Dead)\ **Post date:** [March 11, 2009, 1:57am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-stripper-the-bachelor-party-and-the-wedding-that-wasnt/489001/36 "2009-03-11T01:57:27Z")
> [@New\_Beginning](#): > > Using his penis to grip the bill? Actually I’d like to see that, sounds even more impressive than the lady stripper! Even as a straight guy, I’d be interested to see a prehensile penis. And my bachelor’s party was just a bunch of guys getting together for dinner, then getting shit-faced at a well-stocked beer bar, telling dirty stories. I wasn’t interested in having anything nastier than that. ---
**Author:** ![Only\_Mostly\_Dead](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/f19dbf/32.png) [@Only\_Mostly\_Dead](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Only_Mostly_Dead)\ **Post date:** [March 11, 2009, 2:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-stripper-the-bachelor-party-and-the-wedding-that-wasnt/489001/37 "2009-03-11T02:04:59Z")
oops, wrong thread. ---
**Author:** ![ryan](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/a8b319/32.png) [@ryan](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ryan)\ **Post date:** [March 11, 2009, 3:41am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-stripper-the-bachelor-party-and-the-wedding-that-wasnt/489001/38 "2009-03-11T03:41:35Z")
As a rule, I don’t go to bachelor parties. I don’t want to have to worry about keeping other peoples secrets, especially if they do things that I, personally, would find morally or ethically reprehensible. Such as some of the debauchery that’s gone on at some friends bachelor parties. Just seems a bad idea, giving a room full of guys “blackmail” material that could damage or even end your relationship with your SO. All it takes is one jerk with a hidden agenda… ---
**Author:** ![aaslatten](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/f14d63/32.png) [@aaslatten](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/aaslatten)\ **Post date:** [March 11, 2009, 3:42am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-stripper-the-bachelor-party-and-the-wedding-that-wasnt/489001/39 "2009-03-11T03:42:11Z")
> [@Chase\_Ransom](#): > > Man card definitely revoked. The end result is very suspicious - sounds like an intentional plot to kill the wedding from the get-go. Any man with half a brain knows that if he releases that kind of confidential info into the wild, it will make the rounds soon enough to the unfortunate ears of the wives/SO’s. So this guy is either brainless, or had a secret agenda. > . I’m going to have to agree with the people who suspect a secret agenda. I wouldn’t be surprised if the best man not only had designs on the bride but actually had something going on with her, and they just cooked this up as a way to blame it all on the hapless groom. ---
**Author:** ![madmonk28](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/madmonk28/32/20811_2.png) [@madmonk28](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/madmonk28)\ **Post date:** [March 11, 2009, 4:19am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-stripper-the-bachelor-party-and-the-wedding-that-wasnt/489001/40 "2009-03-11T04:19:49Z")
> [@ryan](#): > > As a rule, I don’t go to bachelor parties. I don’t want to have to worry about keeping other peoples secrets, especially if they do things that I, personally, would find morally or ethically reprehensible. Such as some of the debauchery that’s gone on at some friends bachelor parties. > > Just seems a bad idea, giving a room full of guys “blackmail” material that could damage or even end your relationship with your SO. All it takes is one jerk with a hidden agenda… I agree, bachelor parties are just gross and I’m convinced half the guys participating don’t enjoy it, but are pretending to from peer pressure. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-stripper-the-bachelor-party-and-the-wedding-that-wasnt/489001.md?page=1) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-stripper-the-bachelor-party-and-the-wedding-that-wasnt/489001.md?page=3)