# The thing you hate most that people say **URL:** \ **Category:** Thread Games\ **Created:** [June 18, 2015, 11:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-thing-you-hate-most-that-people-say/722905 "2015-06-18T23:35:42Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![Absene\_Myth](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/absene_myth/32/7322_2.png) [@Absene\_Myth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Absene_Myth)\ **Post date:** [June 18, 2015, 11:35pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-thing-you-hate-most-that-people-say/722905/1 "2015-06-18T23:35:42Z")
Let’s make a list of the worst off-putting things that people can say to ruin a beautiful friendship. One by one–the worst first. Please copy so that we can see them in all their terror. 1. I know you’re busy now. ---
**Author:** ![Absene\_Myth](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/absene_myth/32/7322_2.png) [@Absene\_Myth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Absene_Myth)\ **Post date:** [June 19, 2015, 3:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-thing-you-hate-most-that-people-say/722905/2 "2015-06-19T03:25:13Z")
]Let’s make a list of the worst off-putting things that people can say to ruin a beautiful friendship. One by one–the worst first. Please copy so that we can see them in all their terror. 1. I know you’re busy now. 2. Don’t want to hurt your feelings ---
**Author:** ![Chefguy](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/chefguy/32/138_2.png) [@Chefguy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chefguy)\ **Post date:** [June 19, 2015, 4:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-thing-you-hate-most-that-people-say/722905/3 "2015-06-19T04:25:09Z")
1. I know you’re busy now. 2. Don’t want to hurt your feelings 3. I’ll be perfectly honest with you: no, you won’t. ---
**Author:** ![swampspruce](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/swampspruce/32/261_2.png) [@swampspruce](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/swampspruce)\ **Post date:** [June 19, 2015, 9:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-thing-you-hate-most-that-people-say/722905/4 "2015-06-19T21:17:11Z")
1. I know you’re busy now. 2. Don’t want to hurt your feelings 3. I’ll be perfectly honest with you: no, you won’t. 4. I didn’t mean for it to happen ---
**Author:** ![Absene\_Myth](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/absene_myth/32/7322_2.png) [@Absene\_Myth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Absene_Myth)\ **Post date:** [June 20, 2015, 12:12am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-thing-you-hate-most-that-people-say/722905/5 "2015-06-20T00:12:01Z")
1. I know you’re busy now. 2. Don’t want to hurt your feelings 3. I’ll be perfectly honest with you: no, you won’t. 4. I didn’t mean for it to happen. 5. It’s no big deal. ---
**Author:** ![Fear\_Itself](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/fear_itself/32/19637_2.png) [@Fear\_Itself](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Fear_Itself)\ **Post date:** [June 20, 2015, 12:30am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-thing-you-hate-most-that-people-say/722905/6 "2015-06-20T00:30:36Z")
1. I know you’re busy now. 2. Don’t want to hurt your feelings 3. I’ll be perfectly honest with you: no, you won’t. 4. I didn’t mean for it to happen. 5. It’s no big deal. 6. We need to talk… ---
**Author:** ![Absene\_Myth](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/absene_myth/32/7322_2.png) [@Absene\_Myth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Absene_Myth)\ **Post date:** [June 20, 2015, 2:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-thing-you-hate-most-that-people-say/722905/7 "2015-06-20T02:35:06Z")
1. I know you’re busy now. 2. Don’t want to hurt your feelings 3. I’ll be perfectly honest with you: no, you won’t. 4. I didn’t mean for it to happen. 5. It’s no big deal. 6. We need to talk… 7. Try to see things another way. ---
**Author:** ![Chefguy](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/chefguy/32/138_2.png) [@Chefguy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chefguy)\ **Post date:** [June 20, 2015, 7:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-thing-you-hate-most-that-people-say/722905/8 "2015-06-20T19:40:32Z")
1. I know you’re busy now. 2. Don’t want to hurt your feelings 3. I’ll be perfectly honest with you: no, you won’t. 4. I didn’t mean for it to happen. 5. It’s no big deal. 6. We need to talk… 7. Try to see things another way. 8. Have you tried reaching out to (him/her/them)? Only to choke the shit out of him. ---
**Author:** ![Absene\_Myth](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/absene_myth/32/7322_2.png) [@Absene\_Myth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Absene_Myth)\ **Post date:** [June 20, 2015, 8:37pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-thing-you-hate-most-that-people-say/722905/9 "2015-06-20T20:37:25Z")
1. I know you’re busy now. 2. Don’t want to hurt your feelings 3. I’ll be perfectly honest with you: no, you won’t. 4. I didn’t mean for it to happen. 5. It’s no big deal. 6. We need to talk… 7. Try to see things another way. 8. Have you tried reaching out to (him/her/them)? Only to choke the shit out of him. 9. Let’s keep in touch. ---
**Author:** ![elbows](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/e/b3f665/32.png) [@elbows](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/elbows)\ **Post date:** [June 20, 2015, 9:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-thing-you-hate-most-that-people-say/722905/10 "2015-06-20T21:07:17Z")
> [@](#): > > 1. I know you’re busy now. > 2. Don’t want to hurt your feelings > 3. I’ll be perfectly honest with you: no, you won’t. > 4. I didn’t mean for it to happen. > 5. It’s no big deal. > 6. We need to talk… > 7. Try to see things another way. > 8. Have you tried reaching out to (him/her/them)? Only to choke the shit out of him. > 9. Let’s keep in touch. 1. I don’t mean to interrupt, but…I’m gonna! ---
**Author:** ![burpo\_the\_wonder\_mutt](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/burpo_the_wonder_mutt/32/365_2.png) [@burpo\_the\_wonder\_mutt](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/burpo_the_wonder_mutt)\ **Post date:** [June 20, 2015, 9:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-thing-you-hate-most-that-people-say/722905/11 "2015-06-20T21:17:17Z")
1. I know you’re busy now. 2. Don’t want to hurt your feelings 3. I’ll be perfectly honest with you: no, you won’t. 4. I didn’t mean for it to happen. 5. It’s no big deal. 6. We need to talk… 7. Try to see things another way. 8. Have you tried reaching out to (him/her/them)? Only to choke the shit out of him. 9. Let’s keep in touch. 10. I don’t mean to interrupt, but…I’m gonna! 11. It’s not you, it’s me. (It’s you) ---
**Author:** ![Chefguy](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/chefguy/32/138_2.png) [@Chefguy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Chefguy)\ **Post date:** [June 20, 2015, 10:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-thing-you-hate-most-that-people-say/722905/12 "2015-06-20T22:05:46Z")
1. I know you’re busy now. 2. Don’t want to hurt your feelings 3. I’ll be perfectly honest with you: no, you won’t. 4. I didn’t mean for it to happen. 5. It’s no big deal. 6. We need to talk… 7. Try to see things another way. 8. Have you tried reaching out to (him/her/them)? Only to choke the shit out of him. 9. Let’s keep in touch. 10. I don’t mean to interrupt, but…I’m gonna! 11. It’s not you, it’s me. (It’s you) 12. Can I offer you some constructive criticism? ---
**Author:** ![burpo\_the\_wonder\_mutt](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/burpo_the_wonder_mutt/32/365_2.png) [@burpo\_the\_wonder\_mutt](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/burpo_the_wonder_mutt)\ **Post date:** [June 21, 2015, 1:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-thing-you-hate-most-that-people-say/722905/13 "2015-06-21T01:38:51Z")
1. I know you’re busy now. 2. Don’t want to hurt your feelings 3. I’ll be perfectly honest with you: no, you won’t. 4. I didn’t mean for it to happen. 5. It’s no big deal. 6. We need to talk… 7. Try to see things another way. 8. Have you tried reaching out to (him/her/them)? Only to choke the shit out of him. 9. Let’s keep in touch. 10. I don’t mean to interrupt, but…I’m gonna! 11. It’s not you, it’s me. (It’s you) 12. Can I offer you some constructive criticism? 13. Can I ask you a question? (You just DID!) 14. You know what YOU need? ---
**Author:** ![Absene\_Myth](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/absene_myth/32/7322_2.png) [@Absene\_Myth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Absene_Myth)\ **Post date:** [June 21, 2015, 1:46am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-thing-you-hate-most-that-people-say/722905/14 "2015-06-21T01:46:19Z")
1. I know you’re busy now. 2. Don’t want to hurt your feelings 3. I’ll be perfectly honest with you: no, you won’t. 4. I didn’t mean for it to happen. 5. It’s no big deal. 6. We need to talk… 7. Try to see things another way. 8. Have you tried reaching out to (him/her/them)? Only to choke the shit out of him. 9. Let’s keep in touch. 10. I don’t mean to interrupt, but…I’m gonna! 11. It’s not you, it’s me. (It’s you) 12. Can I offer you some constructive criticism? 13. Can I ask you a question? (You just DID!) 14. You know what YOU need? 15. I’ll keep it in mind. ---
**Author:** ![Sefton](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/5daacb/32.png) [@Sefton](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sefton)\ **Post date:** [June 21, 2015, 2:23am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-thing-you-hate-most-that-people-say/722905/15 "2015-06-21T02:23:44Z")
1. I know you’re busy now. 2. Don’t want to hurt your feelings 3. I’ll be perfectly honest with you: no, you won’t. 4. I didn’t mean for it to happen. 5. It’s no big deal. 6. We need to talk… 7. Try to see things another way. 8. Have you tried reaching out to (him/her/them)? Only to choke the shit out of him. 9. Let’s keep in touch. 10. I don’t mean to interrupt, but…I’m gonna! 11. It’s not you, it’s me. (It’s you) 12. Can I offer you some constructive criticism? 13. Can I ask you a question? (You just DID!) 14. You know what YOU need? 15. I’ll keep it in mind. 16. It is what it is. ---
**Author:** ![Rick\_Kitchen](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/rick_kitchen/32/522_2.png) [@Rick\_Kitchen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rick_Kitchen)\ **Post date:** [June 21, 2015, 2:39am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-thing-you-hate-most-that-people-say/722905/16 "2015-06-21T02:39:34Z")
1. I know you’re busy now. 2. Don’t want to hurt your feelings 3. I’ll be perfectly honest with you: no, you won’t. 4. I didn’t mean for it to happen. 5. It’s no big deal. 6. We need to talk… 7. Try to see things another way. 8. Have you tried reaching out to (him/her/them)? Only to choke the shit out of him. 9. Let’s keep in touch. 10. I don’t mean to interrupt, but…I’m gonna! 11. It’s not you, it’s me. (It’s you) 12. Can I offer you some constructive criticism? 13. Can I ask you a question? (You just DID!) 14. You know what YOU need? 15. I’ll keep it in mind. 16. It is what it is. 17. It’s not you, it’s me. ---
**Author:** ![Rick\_Kitchen](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/rick_kitchen/32/522_2.png) [@Rick\_Kitchen](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Rick_Kitchen)\ **Post date:** [June 21, 2015, 3:06am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-thing-you-hate-most-that-people-say/722905/17 "2015-06-21T03:06:19Z")
Oh, damn, somebody beat me to that. Grrr. ---
**Author:** ![Absene\_Myth](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/absene_myth/32/7322_2.png) [@Absene\_Myth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Absene_Myth)\ **Post date:** [June 22, 2015, 1:30am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-thing-you-hate-most-that-people-say/722905/18 "2015-06-22T01:30:22Z")
1. I know you’re busy now. 2. Don’t want to hurt your feelings 3. I’ll be perfectly honest with you: no, you won’t. 4. I didn’t mean for it to happen. 5. It’s no big deal. 6. We need to talk… 7. Try to see things another way. 8. Have you tried reaching out to (him/her/them)? Only to choke the shit out of him. 9. Let’s keep in touch. 10. I don’t mean to interrupt, but…I’m gonna! 11. It’s not you, it’s me. (It’s you) 12. Can I offer you some constructive criticism? 13. Can I ask you a question? (You just DID!) 14. You know what YOU need? 15. I’ll keep it in mind. 16. It is what it is. 17. It’s not you, it’s me. 18. You’ve got a way with words. ---
**Author:** ![Defensive\_Indifference](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/defensive_indifference/32/6502_2.png) [@Defensive\_Indifference](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Defensive_Indifference)\ **Post date:** [June 22, 2015, 3:00am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-thing-you-hate-most-that-people-say/722905/19 "2015-06-22T03:00:02Z")
1. I know you’re busy now. 2. Don’t want to hurt your feelings 3. I’ll be perfectly honest with you: no, you won’t. 4. I didn’t mean for it to happen. 5. It’s no big deal. 6. We need to talk… 7. Try to see things another way. 8. Have you tried reaching out to (him/her/them)? Only to choke the shit out of him. 9. Let’s keep in touch. 10. I don’t mean to interrupt, but…I’m gonna! 11. It’s not you, it’s me. (It’s you) 12. Can I offer you some constructive criticism? 13. Can I ask you a question? (You just DID!) 14. You know what YOU need? 15. I’ll keep it in mind. 16. It is what it is. 17. It’s not you, it’s me. 18. You’ve got a way with words. 19. Been there, done that. (How about being punched in the mouth? Been there? Done that?!) ---
**Author:** ![Merejane](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/a6a055/32.png) [@Merejane](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Merejane)\ **Post date:** [June 22, 2015, 3:14am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-thing-you-hate-most-that-people-say/722905/20 "2015-06-22T03:14:40Z")
1. I know you’re busy now. 2. Don’t want to hurt your feelings 3. I’ll be perfectly honest with you: no, you won’t. 4. I didn’t mean for it to happen. 5. It’s no big deal. 6. We need to talk… 7. Try to see things another way. 8. Have you tried reaching out to (him/her/them)? Only to choke the shit out of him. 9. Let’s keep in touch. 10. I don’t mean to interrupt, but…I’m gonna! 11. It’s not you, it’s me. (It’s you) 12. Can I offer you some constructive criticism? 13. Can I ask you a question? (You just DID!) 14. You know what YOU need? 15. I’ll keep it in mind. 16. It is what it is. 17. It’s not you, it’s me. 18. You’ve got a way with words. 19. Been there, done that. (How about being punched in the mouth? Been there? Done that?!) 20. No offense, but . . . [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/the-thing-you-hate-most-that-people-say/722905.md?page=2)