# There was something different in my letterbox...advice please. **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [November 19, 2004, 10:04am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/there-was-something-different-in-my-letterbox-advice-please/275636 "2004-11-19T10:04:52Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 4
**Author:** ![TellMeI\_mNotCrazy](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tellmei_mnotcrazy/32/3419_2.png) [@TellMeI\_mNotCrazy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TellMeI_mNotCrazy)\ **Post date:** [November 21, 2004, 1:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/there-was-something-different-in-my-letterbox-advice-please/275636/61 "2004-11-21T13:57:34Z")
That’s excellent **ck** , now we’ll be on pins and needles waiting to find out how it goes!! ---
**Author:** ![Tiggrkitty](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tiggrkitty/32/17966_2.png) [@Tiggrkitty](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tiggrkitty)\ **Post date:** [November 21, 2004, 2:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/there-was-something-different-in-my-letterbox-advice-please/275636/62 "2004-11-21T14:33:22Z")
> [@calm kiwi](#): > > Long and the short is we are meeting for coffee on Tuesday (NOT at my place…thank you safety police). > > Thank you for all the advice. This is all a bit surreal really. 🙂 Yay! You will have to give us an update no later than Wednesday, because I am sure everyone will want to know how it went. Yes, there is something to be said about shy, nice guys. I met my husband 8 years ago. He was and still is, an introvert, but he is the nicest man I have ever met. It took a lot for him to ask me out considering I am 15 years older than he is. We have been married for 5 years now and still manage to laugh at least a dozen times a day. I hope you are just as lucky 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Shirley\_Ujest](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/45deac/32.png) [@Shirley\_Ujest](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shirley_Ujest)\ **Post date:** [November 21, 2004, 3:23pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/there-was-something-different-in-my-letterbox-advice-please/275636/63 "2004-11-21T15:23:02Z")
YAY! **CalmKiwi has balls.** 🙂 Leaving nervous rambling babbling messages on answering machines is just one of technologies ways of reminding us we are far from perfection. I will keep an eye on the NZ on line papers to see if there are any massacres or axe murders in coffee shops on Tuesday. 🙂 If I see you there, I’ll send the syrup . Good luck and try not to overthink it all. ---
**Author:** ![Tranquilis](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tranquilis/32/3639_2.png) [@Tranquilis](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tranquilis)\ **Post date:** [November 21, 2004, 4:06pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/there-was-something-different-in-my-letterbox-advice-please/275636/64 "2004-11-21T16:06:52Z")
😃 🆒 😃 ---
**Author:** ![calm\_kiwi](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/9fc348/32.png) [@calm\_kiwi](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/calm_kiwi)\ **Post date:** [November 21, 2004, 7:57pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/there-was-something-different-in-my-letterbox-advice-please/275636/65 "2004-11-21T19:57:47Z")
> [@Shirley Ujest](#): > > YAY! **CalmKiwi has balls.** 🙂 > Leaving nervous rambling babbling messages on answering machines is just one of technologies ways of reminding us we are far from perfection. Balls of steel I tell ya! My imperfection is perfection. 😃 ---
**Author:** ![InvidiousCourgette](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/i/e47c2d/32.png) [@InvidiousCourgette](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/InvidiousCourgette)\ **Post date:** [November 21, 2004, 8:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/there-was-something-different-in-my-letterbox-advice-please/275636/66 "2004-11-21T20:19:43Z")
Dang. I am late to the thread. If I had got here earlier I would have said NO, NO, NO, do not call him. At all. Period. Ah well, it is too late now. I would have offered you that advice because I have read a few of your posts and seen your picture and come to the conlusion that you are HOT. It would never work between us though, because, forgetting all my other faults, you are on the other side of the world. 😉 So I hope you have a fun date! ---
**Author:** ![Shirley\_Ujest](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/45deac/32.png) [@Shirley\_Ujest](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shirley_Ujest)\ **Post date:** [November 23, 2004, 3:05pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/there-was-something-different-in-my-letterbox-advice-please/275636/67 "2004-11-23T15:05:21Z")
:::bump:::: ---
**Author:** ![Frank](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/f/3d9bf3/32.png) [@Frank](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Frank)\ **Post date:** [November 23, 2004, 3:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/there-was-something-different-in-my-letterbox-advice-please/275636/68 "2004-11-23T15:56:34Z")
It’s Wednesday in New Zealand by now, isn’t it? ---
**Author:** ![ShibbOleth](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/848f3c/32.png) [@ShibbOleth](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ShibbOleth)\ **Post date:** [November 23, 2004, 4:01pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/there-was-something-different-in-my-letterbox-advice-please/275636/69 "2004-11-23T16:01:44Z")
> [@calm kiwi](#): > > Balls of steel I tell ya! > > My imperfection is perfection. 😃 Poor guy. I’m betting balls is not at all what he’s expecting. :: cues music for _The Crying Game_… :: ---
**Author:** ![Martha\_Medea](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/43a26b/32.png) [@Martha\_Medea](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Martha_Medea)\ **Post date:** [November 23, 2004, 4:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/there-was-something-different-in-my-letterbox-advice-please/275636/70 "2004-11-23T16:08:24Z")
> [@This Year's Model](#): > > It’s Wednesday in New Zealand by now, isn’t it? [Still early in the morning though](http://www.timeanddate.com/worldclock/city.html?n=22). ---
**Author:** ![Clothahump](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/51bf81/32.png) [@Clothahump](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Clothahump)\ **Post date:** [November 23, 2004, 4:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/there-was-something-different-in-my-letterbox-advice-please/275636/71 "2004-11-23T16:19:37Z")
Call him from a pay phone and arrange to meet him in a very public place with lots of people around. Then if things go well, you can decide whether to share home phone number, address, etc. ---
**Author:** ![TellMeI\_mNotCrazy](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tellmei_mnotcrazy/32/3419_2.png) [@TellMeI\_mNotCrazy](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TellMeI_mNotCrazy)\ **Post date:** [November 23, 2004, 4:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/there-was-something-different-in-my-letterbox-advice-please/275636/72 "2004-11-23T16:27:27Z")
> [@Clothahump](#): > > Call him from a pay phone and arrange to meet him in a very public place with lots of people around. > > Then if things go well, you can decide whether to share home phone number, address, etc. :dubious: Good advice, if not very timely 😉 (I’m thinking you missed page two of the thread) ---
**Author:** ![little\_bit](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/258eb7/32.png) [@little\_bit](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/little_bit)\ **Post date:** [November 23, 2004, 4:53pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/there-was-something-different-in-my-letterbox-advice-please/275636/73 "2004-11-23T16:53:40Z")
For some reason this brought to mind a “Foamy” cartoon. You can find it [HERE.](http://www.illwillpress.com/vault.html) Click on the “SECRET ADMIRER” cartoon. Beware of some foul language in the above posted animation, it is probably not work safe (two click rule). :eek: ---
**Author:** ![Scissorjack](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/c67d28/32.png) [@Scissorjack](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Scissorjack)\ **Post date:** [November 23, 2004, 8:54pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/there-was-something-different-in-my-letterbox-advice-please/275636/74 "2004-11-23T20:54:11Z")
> [@Martha](#): > > [Still early in the morning though](http://www.timeanddate.com/worldclock/city.html?n=22). Yeah, **calm kiwi** will be busy doing her hair, fixing her makeup, and deciding what to wear - that’s her day gone. ---
**Author:** ![Siege](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/dbc845/32.png) [@Siege](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Siege)\ **Post date:** [November 24, 2004, 10:43am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/there-was-something-different-in-my-letterbox-advice-please/275636/75 "2004-11-24T10:43:16Z")
Hmmm. It’s Wednesday morning here in the States and still no word. So . . . .? How’d it go? The Teeming Millions await your answer! 😃 CJ ---
**Author:** ![Tiggrkitty](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/tiggrkitty/32/17966_2.png) [@Tiggrkitty](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Tiggrkitty)\ **Post date:** [November 24, 2004, 1:25pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/there-was-something-different-in-my-letterbox-advice-please/275636/76 "2004-11-24T13:25:52Z")
> [@Siege](#): > > Hmmm. It’s Wednesday morning here in the States and still no word. > > So . . . .? > > How’d it go? > > The Teeming Millions await your answer! 😃 > > CJ Or at least a small percentage of us. Okay missy, spill it. How did the meeting go? We are dying here!!! ---
**Author:** ![Scribble](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/scribble/32/3317_2.png) [@Scribble](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Scribble)\ **Post date:** [November 24, 2004, 2:08pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/there-was-something-different-in-my-letterbox-advice-please/275636/77 "2004-11-24T14:08:27Z")
Come on, woman! Tell us how it went, already! Some of us are here waiting on pins and needles! ---
**Author:** ![Shirley\_Ujest](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/45deac/32.png) [@Shirley\_Ujest](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Shirley_Ujest)\ **Post date:** [November 24, 2004, 2:36pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/there-was-something-different-in-my-letterbox-advice-please/275636/78 "2004-11-24T14:36:03Z")
::::pulling up a chair::::::::::: Details…every single minute detail we _crave_. Shirley Living vicariously through other Dopers since 1999 ---
**Author:** ![ratatoskK](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/ratatoskk/32/2987_2.png) [@ratatoskK](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ratatoskK)\ **Post date:** [November 24, 2004, 2:40pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/there-was-something-different-in-my-letterbox-advice-please/275636/79 "2004-11-24T14:40:13Z")
Maybe she was axe-murdered last night. (Just joking!!!) ---
**Author:** ![Kalhoun](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/k/3bc359/32.png) [@Kalhoun](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Kalhoun)\ **Post date:** [November 24, 2004, 2:44pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/there-was-something-different-in-my-letterbox-advice-please/275636/80 "2004-11-24T14:44:47Z")
> [@fetus](#): > > As a bloke, I’d say give him a chance. I agree with **continuity eror** that you should meet him in public (perhaps a mall food court?) and keep a close eye on anything you plan to consume. His letter sounds sweet, although perhaps you should beware someone who hasn’t developed that much in the way of social graces. Still, most likely he’s just an ordinary dude who’s been in a few bad relationships. After some back and forth on e-mail, I’d give him a chance, but as everyone else said, public place, and I’d bring a friend. He won’t be offended. Any smart woman would make sure she was safe. [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/there-was-something-different-in-my-letterbox-advice-please/275636.md?page=3) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/there-was-something-different-in-my-letterbox-advice-please/275636.md?page=5)