# Things a wife won't do? **URL:** \ **Category:** In My Humble Opinion\ **Created:** [June 7, 1999, 8:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/things-a-wife-wont-do/1393 "1999-06-07T20:17:00Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![system](https://global.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/original/2X/e/e489c3b7d8fce19c4b355dd4fc3f88cc39c34b87.png) [@system](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/system)\ **Post date:** [June 7, 1999, 8:17pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/things-a-wife-wont-do/1393/1 "1999-06-07T20:17:00Z")
Here’s the scenario. You find a woman that you like who is willing to fulfull every sexual fantasy. Obviously you are pleased that she is willing to do these things with you, whatever they may be, but do you secretly loose respect for her every time she complies? What I mean is, is there something about a girl, that will do “X” that makes her not marraige material? The question is kind of complicated so I hope that this explains the point I’m trying to make. Please ask for more details if needed and I’ll do my best to make myself understood. ---
**Author:** ![system](https://global.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/original/2X/e/e489c3b7d8fce19c4b355dd4fc3f88cc39c34b87.png) [@system](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/system)\ **Post date:** [June 7, 1999, 8:27pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/things-a-wife-wont-do/1393/2 "1999-06-07T20:27:00Z")
Hmm, let me thinkNO. ---
**Author:** ![system](https://global.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/original/2X/e/e489c3b7d8fce19c4b355dd4fc3f88cc39c34b87.png) [@system](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/system)\ **Post date:** [June 7, 1999, 8:33pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/things-a-wife-wont-do/1393/3 "1999-06-07T20:33:00Z")
I hope not. I’d kind of like to get married some day. Please tell me I don’t have to give up—well, let’s not get specific. Maybe this would be a good way to aviod a man’s loosing respect for his mate: She should hold out for 3 or 4 months into the relationship so that he is thuroughly convinced that she is ‘marraige material’. Then she can show him what she’s really made of. What do you think, guys? * * * “I think it would be a great idea” Mohandas Ghandi’s answer when asked what he thought of Western civilization ---
**Author:** ![system](https://global.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/original/2X/e/e489c3b7d8fce19c4b355dd4fc3f88cc39c34b87.png) [@system](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/system)\ **Post date:** [June 7, 1999, 8:43pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/things-a-wife-wont-do/1393/4 "1999-06-07T20:43:00Z")
Why in the world would you marry a man from which you have to conceal your true personality? Being through one marriage already, my advise is to be exactly who you are around a prospective mate, because sooner or later it’s going to come out. If it comes out five years and a couple of kids after you’re married, you better hope your mate likes the “true you” as well as he or she liked the act you put on to catch them. Anyone out there, male or female, who willingly engages in an activity then thinks less of the other person for doing it is a bloody hypocrite. You don’t want to marry them. Trust me. ---
**Author:** ![system](https://global.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/original/2X/e/e489c3b7d8fce19c4b355dd4fc3f88cc39c34b87.png) [@system](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/system)\ **Post date:** [June 7, 1999, 9:00pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/things-a-wife-wont-do/1393/5 "1999-06-07T21:00:00Z")
[[Obviously you are pleased that she is willing to do these things with you, whatever they may be, but do you secretly loose respect for her every time she complies?]] I think that most people arrive at their first sexual experiences with an inner voice that tells them they are being “dirty” when they do and enjoy things they believe their parents or someone else might be shocked about. However, if they fail to come to grips with this and grow up, choosing instead to project the “dirtiness” onto their partner, they aren’t ready to be married anyway. ---
**Author:** ![system](https://global.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/original/2X/e/e489c3b7d8fce19c4b355dd4fc3f88cc39c34b87.png) [@system](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/system)\ **Post date:** [June 7, 1999, 9:31pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/things-a-wife-wont-do/1393/6 "1999-06-07T21:31:00Z")
Good god no. I definitely want my parter to be just as twisted as I. Much more fun that way. ---
**Author:** ![system](https://global.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/original/2X/e/e489c3b7d8fce19c4b355dd4fc3f88cc39c34b87.png) [@system](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/system)\ **Post date:** [June 7, 1999, 9:56pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/things-a-wife-wont-do/1393/7 "1999-06-07T21:56:00Z")
Science has finally figured out it is a certain food that lowers a woman’s sex drive by 75%. It’s Wedding Cake ---
**Author:** ![system](https://global.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/original/2X/e/e489c3b7d8fce19c4b355dd4fc3f88cc39c34b87.png) [@system](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/system)\ **Post date:** [June 7, 1999, 10:18pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/things-a-wife-wont-do/1393/8 "1999-06-07T22:18:00Z")
Oh wait, I thought of something: if she bangs my best friend, she’s not marriage material. ---
**Author:** ![system](https://global.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/original/2X/e/e489c3b7d8fce19c4b355dd4fc3f88cc39c34b87.png) [@system](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/system)\ **Post date:** [June 8, 1999, 12:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/things-a-wife-wont-do/1393/9 "1999-06-08T00:01:00Z")
## "Oh wait, I thought of something: if she bangs my best friend, she’s not marriage material. —RTA ## I’ll go along with that. I think that the only thing I couldn’t handle would be cheating. Tried swapping, it’s not for me. Otherwise, I respect and enjoy an experienced partner, as long as she’s also fun to hang around with. Peace, mangeorge Work like you don’t need the money… Love like you’ve never been hurt… Dance like nobody’s watching! Source??? ---
**Author:** ![system](https://global.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/original/2X/e/e489c3b7d8fce19c4b355dd4fc3f88cc39c34b87.png) [@system](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/system)\ **Post date:** [June 8, 1999, 1:28am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/things-a-wife-wont-do/1393/10 "1999-06-08T01:28:00Z")
Makes me remember the movie, “Analyze This.” The psychiatrist and DeNiro: psy, “You have a girlfriend?” DeNiro, “Yes.” psy, “But you’re married.” DeNiro, “Yes.” psy, “You have problems with you’re marriage?” DeNiro, “No.” psy, “Then why do you have a girlfriend?” DeNiro, “Are you kidding me! My wife kisses my children with that mouth!” * * * ¾È ³ç, ÁÖ µ¿ ÀÏ ---
**Author:** ![system](https://global.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/original/2X/e/e489c3b7d8fce19c4b355dd4fc3f88cc39c34b87.png) [@system](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/system)\ **Post date:** [June 8, 1999, 1:48am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/things-a-wife-wont-do/1393/11 "1999-06-08T01:48:00Z")
Let me get this straight: YOU come up with some deviant act, your girlfriend agrees to it, and you think SHE’S unrespectable?!?! Is this a form of passive-agressive behavior or what? ## “Do this” “Okay” “HAH! You’re a slut for doing that!” “On the edge of sleep, I awoke to a sun so bright…” ---
**Author:** ![system](https://global.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/original/2X/e/e489c3b7d8fce19c4b355dd4fc3f88cc39c34b87.png) [@system](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/system)\ **Post date:** [June 8, 1999, 1:53am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/things-a-wife-wont-do/1393/12 "1999-06-08T01:53:00Z")
Sounds like a Modonna/Whore complex. And it’s spelled lose, not loose, TM. Unless that’s a play on words. ---
**Author:** ![system](https://global.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/original/2X/e/e489c3b7d8fce19c4b355dd4fc3f88cc39c34b87.png) [@system](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/system)\ **Post date:** [June 8, 1999, 2:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/things-a-wife-wont-do/1393/13 "1999-06-08T02:35:00Z")
[[fantasy. Obviously you are pleased that she is willing to do these things with you, whatever they may be, but do you secretly loose respect for her every time she complies? What I mean is, is there something about a girl, that will do “X” that makes her not marraige material?]] I’d say that spelling automatically disqualifies you as marriage material. ---
**Author:** ![system](https://global.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/original/2X/e/e489c3b7d8fce19c4b355dd4fc3f88cc39c34b87.png) [@system](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/system)\ **Post date:** [June 8, 1999, 2:47am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/things-a-wife-wont-do/1393/14 "1999-06-08T02:47:00Z")
Make that MAdonna. Typo got out before I could correct myself! ---
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Material? You are looking for couch upholstery, not a wife. Where on earth do these losers come from? Material??? Go get a blow-up doll, asshole. ---
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If ever that I would feel less about a woman because she did something I asked her to do, I wouldn’t ask her to do it in the first place. duh. ---
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This is akin to Groucho Marx’s remark, “I wouldn’t belong to a club that would have me for a member.” In fairness, the OP didn’t say HE felt this way, just asked if WE did. * * * Live a Lush Life Da Chef ---
**Author:** ![system](https://global.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/original/2X/e/e489c3b7d8fce19c4b355dd4fc3f88cc39c34b87.png) [@system](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/system)\ **Post date:** [June 8, 1999, 4:46pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/things-a-wife-wont-do/1393/18 "1999-06-08T16:46:00Z")
Hello everyone, I already KNOW that if he suggested we do something, he SHOULD be ok with me agreeing to do it. I KNOW that I shouldn’t feel ashamed of anything I do or just don’t do it. What I was looking for is a sneak peak into the male mind. I have heard just about every line and lie a man can tell to a woman, I just wanted to know, what you GUYS really thought when you found a woman who is TRULY as sexually free and expressive as you CLAIM you want them to be. Many men will gawk and say things about what they would do if they had a porn star, stripper, etc… for a girlfriend, but if your average girlfriend can fuck like a porn star, does it secretly, deep down inside turn them off, set off an alarm, give them pause, make them wonder? Not that I am going to change my behavior, I’m pretty happy that I can please my man. I enjoy having wild passionate sex. I LIKE that I can be a school girl, or a stripper, or a dominatrix (if I choose to take on an alternate persona) when I have sex. I am pretty confident about who I am, and just wanted to see how other people felt. I’m so sorry if anyone was offended by the question. I didn’t see how anyone could be. ---
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Trying to thnk of a reasonable response to this question, all I could come up with was: No. NO. HELL NO! It’s absolutely ridiculous to think that some mutually pleasurable activity, enjoyed by both partners, could somehow lessen one partner’s respect for the other. I mean, come on Monty2: think of it the other way around. This theoretical woman you describe–should she lose respect for you and decide you’re not marriage material? God, if anything, you should have more respect for her–and a helluva a lot of gratitutde. ---
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If your boyfriend loses respect for you because of an act you two do together (an act in which he is presumably a willing participant and of which he is possibly the instigator), he is a hypocritical jerk and you’re better off without him. * * * President of the Vernon Dent fan club. [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/things-a-wife-wont-do/1393.md?page=2)