# Things I find rude and will make me look down on you **URL:** \ **Category:** Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share\ **Created:** [January 11, 2013, 12:15pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/things-i-find-rude-and-will-make-me-look-down-on-you/646849 "2013-01-11T12:15:26Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 20\ **Page:** 10
**Author:** ![Sevencl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/d9b06d/32.png) [@Sevencl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sevencl)\ **Post date:** [January 15, 2013, 12:58am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/things-i-find-rude-and-will-make-me-look-down-on-you/646849/181 "2013-01-15T00:58:03Z")
> [@SciFiSam](#): > > I’m thinking of the tube and London buses, hardly places with tables. Nobody has ever spilt food on me and they’d have to actually go out of their way to do so. It’s not like people are eating a three course meal including soup. Hasn’t happened to me either, but it could, and I don’t appreciate having to worry about it because someone can’t wait to not be squashed in with a bunch of strangers to eat. ---
**Author:** ![lorene](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/65b543/32.png) [@lorene](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/lorene)\ **Post date:** [January 15, 2013, 1:36am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/things-i-find-rude-and-will-make-me-look-down-on-you/646849/182 "2013-01-15T01:36:59Z")
> [@Leaper](#): > > Just to ask, isn’t it also rude to take up valuable floor space where someone could be standing for a bag? Yes. And in fact, it seems that, according to this thread, we should all stop doing everything and anything immediately because someone is going to get offended. > [@Sevencl](#): > > Hasn’t happened to me either, but it could, and I don’t appreciate having to worry about it because someone can’t wait to not be squashed in with a bunch of strangers to eat. A lot of things _could_ happen. Someone could projectile vomit on you. A bird could poop on you when you leave the station. Or, actually, _in_ the station, as happened to me once. How much time you spend getting worked up about these things is up to you. ---
**Author:** ![Sevencl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/d9b06d/32.png) [@Sevencl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sevencl)\ **Post date:** [January 15, 2013, 1:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/things-i-find-rude-and-will-make-me-look-down-on-you/646849/183 "2013-01-15T01:49:15Z")
> [@lorene](#): > > A lot of things _could_ happen. Someone could projectile vomit on you. A bird could poop on you when you leave the station. Or, actually, _in_ the station, as happened to me once. Well, I’d probably say it’s rude to go on public transport when you’re feeling ill too. I mean, if it’s some spontaneous thing you had no way of predicting, fine, but knowingly cramming yourself in a tin tube with a bunch of other people when you’re sick is incredibly selfish. Stay home. As for a bird, well, I live in terror of that, but I can’t expect birds to practice common courtesy. ---
**Author:** ![Cat\_Whisperer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cat_whisperer/32/4839_2.png) [@Cat\_Whisperer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Whisperer)\ **Post date:** [January 15, 2013, 1:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/things-i-find-rude-and-will-make-me-look-down-on-you/646849/184 "2013-01-15T01:49:16Z")
> [@lorene](#): > > Yes. And in fact, it seems that, according to this thread, we should all stop doing everything and anything immediately because someone is going to get offended.\ That would probably be best. 🙂 ---
**Author:** ![Acsenray](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/acsenray/32/4519_2.png) [@Acsenray](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Acsenray)\ **Post date:** [January 15, 2013, 1:51am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/things-i-find-rude-and-will-make-me-look-down-on-you/646849/185 "2013-01-15T01:51:56Z")
> [@Sevencl](#): > > Well, I’d probably say it’s rude to go on public transport when you’re feeling ill too. I mean, if it’s some spontaneous thing you had no way of predicting, fine, but knowingly cramming yourself in a tin tube with a bunch of other people when you’re sick is incredibly selfish. Stay home. As for a bird, well, I live in terror of that, but I can’t expect birds to practice common courtesy. A lot of people don’t get sick days or they have to use them to take care of their families. A lot of what people do—like eating at odd times or in odd places—are because that’s the best they can manage. ---
**Author:** ![BMalion](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/e274bd/32.png) [@BMalion](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/BMalion)\ **Post date:** [January 15, 2013, 1:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/things-i-find-rude-and-will-make-me-look-down-on-you/646849/186 "2013-01-15T01:56:44Z")
When some asks me to remove my shoes, I ask them for slippers. No slippers, no removal. When people ask me if they should remove their shoes in my house, I say “No need, but please remove your trousers.” 😃 ---
**Author:** ![Ambivalid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a5b964/32.png) [@Ambivalid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ambivalid)\ **Post date:** [January 15, 2013, 2:01am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/things-i-find-rude-and-will-make-me-look-down-on-you/646849/187 "2013-01-15T02:01:48Z")
> [@BMalion](#): > > When people ask me if they should remove their shoes in my house, I say “No need, but please remove your trousers.” Ha! When I get asked that question I say “Well I can’t take my wheels off so don’t worry about your shoes”. ---
**Author:** ![Sevencl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/d9b06d/32.png) [@Sevencl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sevencl)\ **Post date:** [January 15, 2013, 2:09am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/things-i-find-rude-and-will-make-me-look-down-on-you/646849/188 "2013-01-15T02:09:44Z")
> [@Acsenray](#): > > A lot of people don’t get sick days or they have to use them to take care of their families. A lot of what people do—like eating at odd times or in odd places—are because that’s the best they can manage. For some things there just isn’t an acceptable excuse. No paid sick days? Nor might the guy on the bus who catches what you’ve got have any. And your colleagues probably don’t get any more paid sick days than you do, so why take it there? As for eating on the bus, it really isn’t the best anyone can manage. If someone’s finding themselves with no time to eat except while jammed in between some total strangers, they could get up earlier. ---
**Author:** ![Sevencl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/d9b06d/32.png) [@Sevencl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sevencl)\ **Post date:** [January 15, 2013, 2:11am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/things-i-find-rude-and-will-make-me-look-down-on-you/646849/189 "2013-01-15T02:11:48Z")
> [@Ambivalid](#): > > Ha! When I get asked that question I say “Well I can’t take my wheels off so don’t worry about your shoes”. Makes me wonder - you mentioned wheeling through some nasty stuff in an earlier post, do you have any way to get rid of that before you go rolling around your floor? ---
**Author:** ![ReticulatingSplines](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/r/e274bd/32.png) [@ReticulatingSplines](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ReticulatingSplines)\ **Post date:** [January 15, 2013, 2:16am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/things-i-find-rude-and-will-make-me-look-down-on-you/646849/190 "2013-01-15T02:16:21Z")
> [@Leaper](#): > > Just to ask, isn’t it also rude to take up valuable floor space where someone could be standing for a bag? No, two people can straddle one bag. It’s when it’s on your back that it takes up the most space. ---
**Author:** ![Crawlspace](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/c/d6d6ee/32.png) [@Crawlspace](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Crawlspace)\ **Post date:** [January 15, 2013, 2:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/things-i-find-rude-and-will-make-me-look-down-on-you/646849/191 "2013-01-15T02:20:01Z")
> [@Leaper](#): > > Just to ask, isn’t it also rude to take up valuable floor space where someone could be standing for a bag? This would be relevant if people were shaped more like cylinders than "V"s. When I get on the subway I take my bag off and put it between my feet, which are then approximately shoulder width apart. Though it takes up more floor space, it’s floor space that would have gone unused. ---
**Author:** ![Ambivalid](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/a/a5b964/32.png) [@Ambivalid](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Ambivalid)\ **Post date:** [January 15, 2013, 2:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/things-i-find-rude-and-will-make-me-look-down-on-you/646849/192 "2013-01-15T02:20:18Z")
> [@Sevencl](#): > > Makes me wonder - you mentioned wheeling through some nasty stuff in an earlier post, do you have any way to get rid of that before you go rolling around your floor? I keep wet wipes with me (wet wipes are _so_ useful) for such situations as well as a hose in my garage for particularly nasty instances. ---
**Author:** ![bengangmo](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/b/50afbb/32.png) [@bengangmo](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/bengangmo)\ **Post date:** [January 15, 2013, 2:20am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/things-i-find-rude-and-will-make-me-look-down-on-you/646849/193 "2013-01-15T02:20:54Z")
> [@Skald\_the\_Rhymer](#): > > but then somehow manages to FORGET HER SHOES when she leaves. C’mon **Skald** , there’s gotta be a story there, and I wanna hear it! (is it anything like forgetting a pair of panties? :p) ---
**Author:** ![Simple\_Linctus](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/9f8e36/32.png) [@Simple\_Linctus](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Simple_Linctus)\ **Post date:** [January 15, 2013, 2:25am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/things-i-find-rude-and-will-make-me-look-down-on-you/646849/194 "2013-01-15T02:25:49Z")
> [@Shakes](#): > > Because I’m 6’, 215lbs. Using the regular one feels like a coffin. My feeling might be different if at 42 I could count the number of times on more than one hand that I’ve actually seen a handicap person using those stalls. > > The odds are pretty damn slim that a HC person is going to need it at the same time I do. And even then, the odds are even slimmer that his condition involves him not being able to hold it like everyone else does. > > I’ll take my chances. What a ridiculous thing to say, you’re not at all a freakishly big person (unless you are made of baloons). Maybe if you were 6 foot 8 rather than 6 foot you would have something to wine about, simmilarly if you were 350lbs rather than 215. Also, your “suffering” from being constrained in a thing where this is loads of space for someone like me who is by the way morbidly obese and 6 foot is nothing like someone handicapped who **might have to shit themselves or even die if they are diabetic.** You are silly. ---
**Author:** ![moejoe](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/9de053/32.png) [@moejoe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/moejoe)\ **Post date:** [January 15, 2013, 2:34am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/things-i-find-rude-and-will-make-me-look-down-on-you/646849/195 "2013-01-15T02:34:48Z")
> [@Crawlspace](#): > > This would be relevant if people were shaped more like cylinders than "V"s. When I get on the subway I take my bag off and put it between my feet, which are then approximately shoulder width apart. Though it takes up more floor space, it’s floor space that would have gone unused. I’m not putting my bag on the floor of the bus, no way. I don’t wear a back pack but I do carry a bag every day and I don’t want all that bus floor goop all over it. When I’m wearing the bag I take up about as much space as someone who weighs maybe 20 lbs more than I do (which is true of about half the people on the bus) and so that’s how much space I take up on the bus - as much as me and my bag take up. I can get behind a lot of these suggestions for a modern life of good manners, but I’m drawing the line here. My bag stays with me. ---
**Author:** ![Sevencl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/s/d9b06d/32.png) [@Sevencl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Sevencl)\ **Post date:** [January 15, 2013, 2:38am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/things-i-find-rude-and-will-make-me-look-down-on-you/646849/196 "2013-01-15T02:38:21Z")
> [@moejoe](#): > > I’m not putting my bag on the floor of the bus, no way. I don’t wear a back pack but I do carry a bag every day and I don’t want all that bus floor goop all over it. When I’m wearing the bag I take up about as much space as someone who weighs maybe 20 lbs more than I do (which is true of about half the people on the bus) and so that’s how much space I take up on the bus - as much as me and my bag take up. I just sit it in my lap. ---
**Author:** ![moejoe](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/9de053/32.png) [@moejoe](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/moejoe)\ **Post date:** [January 15, 2013, 2:45am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/things-i-find-rude-and-will-make-me-look-down-on-you/646849/197 "2013-01-15T02:45:35Z")
> [@Sevencl](#): > > I just sit it in my lap. Sure, but I think here we’re talking about if you don’t have a seat so you’re standing. In that case the bag stays with the girl. ---
**Author:** ![Acsenray](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/acsenray/32/4519_2.png) [@Acsenray](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Acsenray)\ **Post date:** [January 15, 2013, 2:49am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/things-i-find-rude-and-will-make-me-look-down-on-you/646849/198 "2013-01-15T02:49:55Z")
> [@Sevencl](#): > > For some things there just isn’t an acceptable excuse. No paid sick days? Nor might the guy on the bus who catches what you’ve got have any. And your colleagues probably don’t get any more paid sick days than you do, so why take it there? And so? They should just lose their jobs when they get sick? Fail to pay the bills? Not be able to feed their families? Get evicted? Before you start making decisions for other people, perhaps you should try to ensure that there are government-mandated labor protections, like mandatory paid sick leave, and other things. > [@](#): > > As for eating on the bus, it really isn’t the best anyone can manage. If someone’s finding themselves with no time to eat except while jammed in between some total strangers, they could get up earlier. You have no idea what other people can or cannot manage. People who ride the bus around here are generally doing shit work for little pay. They have to make long commutes between housing they can afford and jobs they can get. Life is more expensive and time-consuming for them than they are for affluent people. What do you know about how much sleep they can manage? Do you know that insufficient sleep is a leading cause of cognitive failures, weight gain, heart ailments, mood problems, etc.? ---
**Author:** ![Guinastasia](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/guinastasia/32/5751_2.png) [@Guinastasia](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Guinastasia)\ **Post date:** [January 15, 2013, 2:56am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/things-i-find-rude-and-will-make-me-look-down-on-you/646849/199 "2013-01-15T02:56:08Z")
Am I the only one who doesn’t like handicapped stalls? The toilets are always higher up, that kind of freaks me out. > [@Ambivalid](#): > > I couldn’t agree more. It’s disgusting to step in another person’s bodily fluids; and for me, “stepping in it” means “rolling in it” and that more than likely also means getting it all over my hands. Revolting, to say the least. Ew. There was this guy in my neighborhood who used to hock up lung butter all over the street – and he was really loud about it too. You could practically hear him even if the window as closed. It was absolutely disgusting. ---
**Author:** ![Acsenray](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/acsenray/32/4519_2.png) [@Acsenray](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Acsenray)\ **Post date:** [January 15, 2013, 2:59am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/things-i-find-rude-and-will-make-me-look-down-on-you/646849/200 "2013-01-15T02:59:05Z")
> [@gallows\_fodder](#): > > Also, people who spit in public. Fuck those people, they are beyond vile. > [@Ambivalid](#): > > I couldn’t agree more. It’s disgusting to step in another person’s bodily fluids; and for me, “stepping in it” means “rolling in it” and that more than likely also means getting it all over my hands. Revolting, to say the least. I couldn’t agree more. Even if I don’t have wheels I might step on them, which means tracking disgusting horks wherever I go. And what about people who spit in grassy areas or sports fields? People sit, lie down, roll around there. Fucking disgusting. That’s one reason I do my best to avoid all grass and never eat outdoors. Once I was leaving a pharmacy and some disgusting moron hocked a loogie _across the fucking entryway_ nearly hitting me. What the fucking hell? Fucking moron! [Previous page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/things-i-find-rude-and-will-make-me-look-down-on-you/646849.md?page=9) [Next page](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/things-i-find-rude-and-will-make-me-look-down-on-you/646849.md?page=11)