# Things I need to whine about. **URL:** \ **Category:** The BBQ Pit\ **Created:** [July 17, 2002, 11:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/things-i-need-to-whine-about/119387 "2002-07-17T11:17:27Z")\ **Posts on this page:** 6\ **Page:** 1
**Author:** ![QueenAl](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/q/d26b3c/32.png) [@QueenAl](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/QueenAl)\ **Post date:** [July 17, 2002, 11:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/things-i-need-to-whine-about/119387/1 "2002-07-17T11:17:27Z")
Sometimes you just need to whine, before these things build up into true resentment. It doesn’t mean I think any of these things are _important_, but they are pissing me off. My ‘friend’ who turns anything I do or say into something negative. Or, if I do actually say anything negative (like I’m really worried about my money situation), I must be overstating things, and it really is not that bad (it is). It’s got to the point where I have to pretend every single thing is absolutely perfect and wonderful, or I get a lecture. Goddamn scheduling conflicts. This Friday I was organising a theatre night, then someone else in our group announced a party on the same night. I had to reschedule the theatre night. I was looking forward to the party, but now can’t go to that either, as it turns out I have to be at a family party the same night. My daughter’s school is also on strike today, so I couldn’t make my kickboxing and kai chi classes. I realise that none of these people have scheduled things specifically to inconvenience me, which is why this is a whine, not a justifiable complaint. The way everyone says that my having a child won’t make any difference to most of the women out there, but can I get a girlfriend? Noooo. And there’s nothing else obviously ‘wrong’ with me, in terms of looks or intelligence or social skills. Most women just don’t want a girlfriend with a kid. Why not be honest about it? Money, the lack of it. I’ve been trying to get a ‘proper job,’ and just can’t find one that fits around childcare (not in this area, anyway). I have a big overdraft and I can’t find any way to reduce it, and it’s not for want of trying. I regularly have to choose between food and electricity, and I really don’t need to lose any more weight. I also cycle immense distances to save train fares - today it will be fifty miles to Central London and back. Then of course I get hungry, and can’t afford any more food. But it’s the only way to get out and not go mad(der). Myself. Yes, I want to whine about myself. I am far too lazy and absent-minded. And I whine too much. 😉 ---
**Author:** ![TroubleAgain](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/e480ec/32.png) [@TroubleAgain](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/TroubleAgain)\ **Post date:** [July 17, 2002, 4:19pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/things-i-need-to-whine-about/119387/2 "2002-07-17T16:19:06Z")
Gosh, QueenAl, I’m sorry things seem so rough right now. I hope they look up soon. I know how you feel about the money thing, though! ---
**Author:** ![The\_Devil\_s\_Grandmother](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/t/74df32/32.png) [@The\_Devil\_s\_Grandmother](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/The_Devil_s_Grandmother)\ **Post date:** [July 17, 2002, 4:41pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/things-i-need-to-whine-about/119387/3 "2002-07-17T16:41:46Z")
Can you just not hang around with that friend for a while? Trying to be happy all the time is very draining. It’s worse than having to look busy. I hope things get better for you and your daughter. ---
**Author:** ![ouisey](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/9fc29f/32.png) [@ouisey](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ouisey)\ **Post date:** [July 18, 2002, 12:13am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/things-i-need-to-whine-about/119387/4 "2002-07-18T00:13:13Z")
Keep on slogging, QueenAl. I’ve been there and done that. I’ll be your sd gf, if you like. Then maybe Hastur won’t call me a “breeder”. ---
**Author:** ![ouisey](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/o/9fc29f/32.png) [@ouisey](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/ouisey)\ **Post date:** [July 18, 2002, 12:17am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/things-i-need-to-whine-about/119387/5 "2002-07-18T00:17:20Z")
What I meant to say, is that things can get reallly really tough sometimes, but for some reason, if you keep on working at it, it gets better. I often feel like the things that happen to me are out of my control, but somehow, if I grit my teeth and bear it, it’ll turn good again. ---
**Author:** ![Cat\_Whisperer](https://sea3.discourse-cdn.com/straightdope/user_avatar/boards.straightdope.com/cat_whisperer/32/4839_2.png) [@Cat\_Whisperer](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Cat_Whisperer)\ **Post date:** [July 18, 2002, 2:29am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/things-i-need-to-whine-about/119387/6 "2002-07-18T02:29:29Z")
I posted this in another thread just a little while ago, and it fits in with what **ouisey** is saying; nothing stays good forever, and nothing stays bad, either. It’s just life.