# Things MEN do to make themselves attractive to WOMEN that don't make them attractive to women

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**Created:** [October 10, 2012, 3:35am UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/things-men-do-to-make-themselves-attractive-to-women-that-dont-make-them-attractive-to-women/637279 "2012-10-10T03:35:36Z")\
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**Author:** ![Lynn\_Bodoni](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/l/e47c2d/32.png) [@Lynn\_Bodoni](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Lynn_Bodoni)\
**Post date:** [November 23, 2012, 5:07pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/things-men-do-to-make-themselves-attractive-to-women-that-dont-make-them-attractive-to-women/637279/202 "2012-11-23T17:07:30Z")

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> [@Mgalindo13](#):
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> As someone who supported and lived with his mother for almost five years before she passed from cancer, I can attest that most woman think the way you do. There is no logical/reasonable explanation for a why a grown man would live with his mother that doesn’t involve him being a deadbeat.
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> I was lucky enough to meet a wonderful woman who didn’t and eventually came to live with us and helped me care for her.
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> I am even luckier now to call her my wife.

Oh, I’d say that your wife is pretty lucky, too.

Generally speaking, grown adults who live with their parents, after a certain time period, are deadbeats. But that’s generally speaking. Your mother actually DID need someone, and if you hadn’t stepped up, she probably would have had to hire someone.

But I have to admit, when I learn that someone is living with his/her parents after the age of 25 or so, my first thought is “deadbeat loser”, until I hear of special circumstances. It’s a very real prejudice, but I’m willing to change my mind if I learn that the person is dealing with health issues, or is just getting over a divorce, etc.

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**Author:** ![Modern\_Master](https://avatars.discourse-cdn.com/v4/letter/m/f475e1/32.png) [@Modern\_Master](https://boards.straightdope.com/u/Modern_Master)\
**Post date:** [November 23, 2012, 5:39pm UTC](https://boards.straightdope.com/t/things-men-do-to-make-themselves-attractive-to-women-that-dont-make-them-attractive-to-women/637279/203 "2012-11-23T17:39:04Z")

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This thread makes me glad that I’m in a happy, committed relationship.

Seeing all the comments here made me realize why I hated the dating game.

Bottom line: No one has a clue.

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