(bolding mine)I’m in the same boat. I do not like seafood. I’m 47 years old. I’ve tried it many many times. I will cook it for my Wife (though the smell puts me off). I will taste a piece of that I have cooked up for my Wife to see if the seasoning is right (she loves my grilled salmon). Partly to try to figure out what people like in the taste of the meat itself.
Nope, not for me. The lemon/butter/dill is nice though.
I get tired of people telling me that I will LOVE their special recipe.
I could eat it if I was starving, but I would not enjoy it.
I’m baffled that people where unflattering clothing. Wear jeans and a T-shirt if you like. But at least pick out clothes that fit and don’t have wild garish patterns to them.
Sir/madam, please take that phone out of your ear & pay attention to your kids. When I point out their misbehavior (mildly speaking) to you, you ignore me. When I approach them directly, they behave (yeah, I see your death-glare. Like it matters)
Customers who let your kids eat foods or put on attire that they like & that you have no plans to pay for, please be apprised that you’ve been caught on tape. When you go the cash register & pay w/debit card or Bridge Card (food stamps in MI), we know who you are.
Finally, Amber inTreasury, LOLCATS & ICHC makes many of us laugh. I’ve cats, & I’ve had dogs, so I also like ICHD. What makes you laugh, Amber?
Oh, I don’t think (mostly) that it’s so much defense as it’s trying to help explain the possible other side of the coin. That’s the reason I read threads like these in the first place; they usually clue me in to a behavior I’d never thought of before and then all of a sudden, something that might’ve raised my blood pressure, now doesn’t hardly get a notice.
Sometimes they mean a lot more to people than just superficially. I can only speak for myself, but the tattooed quote I have on my wrist is the very last thing I have from my brother, written the night before he died. I’m glad to be able to look at it every day.
To answer the OP: What I don’t get are 1) folks that are unable to even conceive the other side of a story / situation. I can understand not caring, but not even barely groking the fundamentals of why? Not so much. Hell, there’s a lot about religion that makes me scratch my head, but if I really try hard, I can typically see where they are coming from. And 2) those who lambast others for something when they are guilty of it (or worse) themselves. This usually happens all the while ignoring their own culpability. Bizarre that.
I just retired but I always dressed up for work. It didn’t make me feel any different about myself but it made me feel more professional. I wasn’t very comfortable leading a meeting of guys in nice suits in dressed-down clothes because it felt like it put me at a disadvantage. That said, I can’t understand when every article of clothing that someone wears has to be overpriced designer stuff when they can’t really afford it. I wasn’t above buying some pretty expensive clothes but I was just as likely to match them with a pair of Payless shoes. I don’t get the whole idea of labels being a status symbol that someone would give up necessities for.
I’m a Project Manager, if I’m going into the office for the day and I don’t have any customer facing or high management level meetings I will wear my typical jeans and a black long sleeved top. If I’m meeting customers or high level management (for a meeting of that sort, not just bumping into them in the corridors) then I will dress up smart, normally a suit with said long, black sleeved top underneath instead of a shirt/tie.
Thankfully in Denmark, unless you are a sales person, pretty much everyone dresses reasonably casually around the office. They don’t see the point of suffering a shirt and tie all the time. The difference I’ve noticed over the years in Denmark is that if you tell Danes they can dress down they don’t go to extremes, if you tell Brits the same you’ll find people coming in in ripped jeans and t-shirts.
Funnily enough, if I go to a meeting and someone arrives fully decked out in designer gear my first though it going to be “what’s he/she hiding?” and I find that this attitude is relatively common here. If someone is trying so hard to impress visually, there could well be something in their knowledge that’s lacking.
I always used the rule of thumb that no one should notice what I was wearing either for being too dressed up or down or too revealing. I wanted them to pay attention to what I was saying, not how I looked.
I know two of these. A family friend, and my sister. Both of them would miss their own funeral.
Hold on a second = 10-15 minutes
Wait a minute = 1/2 hour minimum
I’ll be there in 10 minutes = 1 hour
Both of them will get mad if you cancel, especially if it’s because of them being late.
Agreed, dress appropriately to the situation, and I would rather judge a person on how good they are at their job rather than whether they are dressed like a Gucci model.
Although one of the sales guys did mention to me that as a project managers I do get a bit of a pass anyway since everyone thinks we are a little odd for doing the job we do
Nitpick alert! Most doctors will not tie a woman’s tubes until it is proven medically necessary, or they have had like, 3 children IIRC. My wife wanted her tubes tied after our firstborn, the doctor refused.
That makes sense. I guess I’m just in front of people at work most of the time, so I have a different perspective. I never know when I’ll be plopped in front of senior management to discuss a product or service they’d like me to develop, so it’s usually worth it for me to dress up. I mean, I don’t wear a suit everyday, but never jeans, always heels with a nice top, hair done, makeup on. Plus, my aforementioned upbringing makes me feel weird if people see me dressed down. Not that I wear skirts and heels while I’m running errands or anything, but I generally don’t leave the house without showering unless I’m going for a run.
When I was living in South America in the 90’s, it was pretty similar with the girls. The guys weren’t really expected to dress a certain way, but most women (women I knew anyway, myself included) didn’t go out of the house without a face full of war paint and nice clothes. I was an archaeologist and student at the time and the only time I wore jeans without some sort of heels and a nice top was when I was on a dig site or the gym. I have to admit, though, it was heaven to be on a dig for just that reason - even crouched in a 1 yard x 1 yard pit for eight hours, covered in dust and grime wearing my boots was preferable to standing in an archaeology lab trying to photograph lithics while simultaneously hanging out a window (better light) and balancing on heels.
I had myself childproofed with a grand total of zero known offspring and all I had to do was listen to the doctor tell me “you know this is irreversible, right?” and sign a form to that effect.
EDIT: FWIW, I have the external bits, so I didn’t have my “tubes tied,” I had the analogous structures severed and cauterized.
Ugh! I have friends who do this. Once they invited me to lunch, I waited an hour and a half for them in an industrial park (read: concrete everywhere, no shade), in the middle of summer, and when they finally arrived I told them to just drop me off at home because I had to go to uni (I wasn’t being passive-aggressive, I really needed to go!) and they had the nerve to get annoyed.
Another time I arranged to see a play with two of the above mentioned friends, they told me to arrive an hour early, but when I got there they were nowhere to be seen, so I called them. Oh sorry, they said, we’ll be there in half an hour. They actually showed up half an hour after that, just as the show was beginning. And they were eating ice cream. They’d stopped to get ice cream on the way. :smack: You might be thinking “why the hell are you still friends with these losers”, but they’re good friends, honest! I just no longer expect them to show up on time for anything… or at all, for that matter.
I guess I’m kind of the opposite. I appreciate both toilets and beds, but don’t understand why an occasional break from them is a disaster, particularly when the reward is views of a sunset in the mountains, or sleeping by a remote waterfall with spectacular stars overhead.
I’m lucky, it’s a bit different here. None of my peers or management team are even based in the same country. I do have parts of my project teams based here but they are used to the same informal dress code so it’s not an issue. 90% of the project management I do is virtual, which entails it’s own problems but thankfully does negate the dress code issue a fair bit.
I even play with it a little since our internal policy is that if you are attending an office in another country you stick with your in-country dress code. If I’m going over to the UK I wear the same as I would in DK, even if the UK office dress code is a bit smarter. I’m constantly thankful that our management focuses much more on doing your work well than chasing us over dress codes. As far as visiting customers goes, I modulate my dress code based on the customer. If they are more casual I will dress to that, if they are smarter I will dress to that too.
Another vote for workaholics - I just don’t get it either. I enjoy my work but I work to live. I don’t exist purely for the benefit of my employer. People who are self-employed are exceptions to this but I really don’t understand why anyone would be happy to spend their whole lives slaving for someone else’s gain and don’t have any other interests in life.
On that note, I also don’t understand people who never switch off their work mobile phones when it’s out of hours and they’re not on call (or senior management who are paid to be a little bit more ‘available’). One person I know was complaining about being woken up by calls coming in from another timezone at 4am and regularly getting calls on Sundays or late in the evening. There are always thoughtless people who won’t stop to think about whether it’s appropriate to be calling you right now - switch. your. phone. off.
And further to this - I also don’t understand those thoughtless people who aren’t aware of timezones or think about whether a person is actually on duty before they call them. It’s just bad manners and inconsiderate.
That’s funny - I was a project manager too but like overlyverbose I never knew when I’d be sent off to deal with a vendor or executive. I was the only one there that had to dress that way and I was happy if the programmers just wore clean clothes that didn’t smell bad. Flipflops and Hawaiian shirts were the norm in the summer but programmers are almost expected to be weird so no one cared.
Reading on the john
Plagiarizing
Littering
Smoking
Drinking to excess
Driving all over the place every day, unnecessarily, and then complaining about being tired all the time
